Nkhani Yaimodzi Ya Mkazi Uyu Ya Usiku Umodzi Idzakusiyani Muli Olimbikitsidwa

Zamkati

• Chisankho chosintha moyo
• Matenda osintha moyo
• Liwu labwino lodziwitsa anthu za HIV

Ndinakumana ndi loya wa HIV Kamaria Laffrey mu 2012 pomwe ndimagwira ntchito yophunzitsa achinyamata za kugonana. Laffrey adalankhula pamwambo womwe tonse tidapitako, pomwe adalankhula za moyo wake zomwe zidamupangitsa kuti adziwe ngati ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV.

Ndinachita chidwi ndi kulimba mtima kwake kuti awulule za kachilombo ka HIV komanso mavuto omwe adakumana nawo pakakhala kachilomboka - nkhani yomwe anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV amaopa kuiuza. Iyi ndi nkhani ya Laffrey momwe adatengera kachilombo ka HIV komanso momwe zidasinthira moyo wake.

Chisankho chosintha moyo

Ngakhale malingaliro azakugonana asintha kwambiri mzaka makumi angapo zapitazi, pali ziyembekezo zambiri, zokhumudwitsa, komanso malingaliro omwe amagwirizana ndi kugonana, makamaka zikafika pakakhala usiku umodzi. Kwa azimayi ambiri, zotsatira zakugona usiku umodzi nthawi zina zimatha kudziona ngati wolakwa, kuchita manyazi, komanso manyazi.

Koma kwa Laffrey, kuyimilira usiku umodzi kudasintha kwambiri pamoyo wake kuposa momwe akumvera. Zinamukhudza kosatha.

Pazaka zake zakukoleji, Laffrey amakumbukira kuti anali ndi abwenzi osiririka, koma nthawi zonse ankadzimva kukhala wopanda pake. Usiku wina, mnzake yemwe amagona naye atachoka kukacheza ndi mnyamata, Laffrey adaganiza kuti nayenso akhale osangalala.

Anali mnyamata yemwe adakumana naye kuphwando sabata yatha. Wokondwa ndi mayitanidwe ake, Laffrey sanafune zambiri kuti adzigulitse. Patatha ola limodzi, anali panja kumudikirira kuti amutenge.

"Ndikukumbukira nditaima panja kumudikirira… Ndidazindikira galimoto yonyamula pizza panjira ndi nyali zake ... galimotoyo idakhala pamenepo ndikukhala pamenepo," akukumbukira. "Nzeru zachilendozi zidandigwera ndipo ndidadziwa kuti ndili ndi nthawi yoti ndibwerere kuchipinda changa nkuyiwala zonse. Komanso, ndinali ndi mfundo yotsimikizira. Anali iye [amene anali m'galimoto ya pizza] ndipo ndinapita. ”

Usiku womwewo, Laffrey ndi mnzake watsopano phwando-adalumphira, akumapita nyumba zosiyanasiyana kukacheza ndikumwa. Usiku utacheka, adabwerera kumalo ake ndipo, monga mwambi umanenedwa, chinthu chimodzi chidatsogoza china.

Mpaka pano, nkhani ya Laffrey siyachilendo. Sitiyenera kudabwa chifukwa chosowa kondomu ndipo kumwa ndi zomwe zimachitika pakati pa achinyamata aku koleji. Pogwiritsa ntchito kondomu komanso kumwa kwambiri pakati pa ophunzira aku koleji, 64 peresenti ya omwe akutenga nawo mbali akuti sagwiritsa ntchito kondomu nthawi yogonana. Kafukufukuyu adaphatikizanso zakumwa zoledzeretsa pakupanga zisankho.

Matenda osintha moyo

Koma kubwerera ku Laffrey: Patatha zaka ziwiri atakhala usiku umodzi, adakumana ndi mnyamata wamkulu ndipo adayamba kukondana. Anali ndi mwana naye. Moyo unali wabwino.

Kenako, patangopita masiku ochepa kuchokera pamene adabereka, adotolo adamuyitanitsa kuofesi. Anamukhazika pansi ndikuulula kuti ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV. Ndi chizolowezi cha madotolo kupatsa amayi oyembekezera mayeso a matenda opatsirana pogonana (STDs). Koma Laffrey sanayembekezere kupeza zotsatirazi. Kupatula apo, amangogonana mosadziteteza ndi anthu awiri m'moyo wake: bambo yemwe adakumana naye zaka ziwiri zapitazo ku koleji komanso bambo wa mwana wake.

“Ndinkamva ngati ndalephera pamoyo wanga, ndimwalira, ndipo palibe kubwerera,” akukumbukira motero Kamaria. “Ndinkadera nkhawa za mwana wanga wamkazi, palibe amene amandikonda, osakwatiwa, komanso maloto anga onse amakhala opanda pake. Mu nthawi imeneyo ku ofesi ya dokotala, ndinali nditayamba kukonzekera maliro anga. Kaya ndikutenga kachilombo ka HIV kapena kudzipha, sindinkafuna kuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa makolo anga kapena kusokonezedwa. "

Abambo a mwana wake adayesedwa kuti alibe HIV. Ndipamene Laffrey adakumana ndi kuzindikira kodabwitsa kuti kuyimilira kwake kwa usiku umodzi ndiye komwe kudachokera. Mnyamata yemwe anali mgalimoto ya pizza anali atamusiya ali ndi chisoni chachikulu kuposa momwe angaganizire.

"Anthu amafunsa momwe ndikudziwira kuti anali iye: Chifukwa anali munthu yekhayo amene ndakhala naye - wopanda chitetezo - kupatula abambo a mwana wanga. Ndikudziwa kuti bambo a mwana wanga adayesedwa ndipo alibe. Alinso ndi ana ena kuyambira mwana wanga ali ndi akazi ena ndipo onse alibe.

Liwu labwino lodziwitsa anthu za HIV

Ngakhale nkhani ya Laffrey ndi imodzi mwazambiri, mfundo yake ndi yamphamvu kwambiri. lipoti kuti ku United States kokha, kuli anthu 1.1 miliyoni omwe ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV, ndipo munthu m'modzi mwa anthu 7 sakudziwa kuti ali nawo.

Ngakhale mayiwo ali ndi kachilombo ka HIV. Pambuyo poyesedwa kangapo ka HIV ndikuwunika bwino, zidatsimikizika kuti mwana wa Laffrey alibe kachilombo ka HIV. Lero, Laffrey akugwira ntchito yophunzitsa kudzidalira mwa mwana wake wamkazi, zomwe akuti zimathandiza kwambiri pakugonana. "Ndikugogomezera momwe ayenera kudzikonda yekha osayembekezera kuti aliyense amusonyeza momwe angakondere," akutero.

Asanakumane ndi HIV pamasom'pamaso, Laffrey sanaganizire zambiri za matenda opatsirana pogonana. Mwanjira imeneyi, mwina ali ngati ambiri a ife. "Chodandaula changa chokha ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana ndisanapezeke chinali bola ngati sindimamva chilichonse ndiye kuti ndiyenera kukhala bwino. Ndidadziwa kuti pali zina zomwe sizikhala ndi zisonyezo, koma ndimaganiza kuti ndi anthu 'onyansa' okhawo, "akutero.

Laffrey tsopano ndiwoteteza kuti adziwe za HIV ndipo amafotokoza nkhani yake pamapulatifomu ambiri. Akupita patsogolo ndi moyo wake. Ngakhale sakukhalanso ndi bambo wa mwana wake, wakwatiwa ndi munthu yemwe ndi bambo wabwino komanso mwamuna wodzipereka. Akupitiliza kunena nkhani yake ndikuyembekeza kupulumutsa kudzidalira kwa amayi - nthawi zina ngakhale moyo wawo.

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