Malangizo 6 Othandizira Kusamalira Zochitika Zam'banja Ngati Mukukhala Ndi Nyamakazi

Zamkati

• Sinthanani kuchitira ena
• Gawani zinthu moyenera
• Funsani thandizo
• Pangani zinthu mosavuta pa inu nokha
• Sichikhala changwiro
• Funsani winawake kuti adzayendere limodzi
• Kutenga

Pafupifupi zaka 2 zapitazo, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tidagula nyumba. Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe timakonda zokhudzana ndi nyumba yathu, koma chinthu chimodzi chachikulu ndichokhala ndi malo ochitira zochitika pabanja. Tidakhala ndi Hanukkah chaka chatha komanso Thanksgiving chaka chino. Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri, komanso ndi ntchito yambiri.

Popeza ndili ndi nyamakazi (RA), ndikudziwa kuti sindiyenera kuchita khama kwambiri kapena ndikumva kuwawa. Kumvetsetsa ndikulemekeza malire anu ndipo ndi gawo lofunikira pakusamalira matenda aakulu.

Nawa maupangiri asanu ndi limodzi opanga kuchititsa kuchititsa chidwi ndikosavuta mukakhala ndi RA.

Sinthanani kuchitira ena

Sinthanitsani ndi okondedwa anu kuchititsa tchuthi. Simuyenera kuchita tchuthi chilichonse. Musamve chisoni ngati muyenera kukhala m'modzi. Ngakhale ndizosangalatsa, mwina mudzamva mpumulo nthawi yanu isanakwane.

Gawani zinthu moyenera

Lembani mndandanda wazinthu zomwe muyenera kuchita pamwambowu. Yesetsani kumaliza zonse zomwe zili pamndandanda wanu tsiku lalikulu lisanafike. Ngati pali zinthu zomwe mukufuna kuti mutenge, dutsani malo ena kwa masiku angapo kuti mudzipatse nthawi yopuma. Komanso, yesetsani kukonzekera zakudya zilizonse zomwe mungakwanitse pasadakhale.

Sungani mphamvu zanu. Tsiku la mwina lidzakhala ntchito yambiri kuposa momwe mumaganizira.

Funsani thandizo

Ngakhale mutakhala alendo, ndibwino kuti mupemphe thandizo. Auzeni alendo anu kuti abweretse mchere kapena mbale yotsatira.

Ndikoyesa kuyesa kuchita zonse, koma mukakhala ndi RA, kudziwa nthawi yopempha thandizo ndi gawo lofunikira pakuwongolera zizindikilo zanu ndikupewa zowawa zilizonse.

Pangani zinthu mosavuta pa inu nokha

Ine ndi amuna anga tikalandira tchuthi m'nyumba mwathu, timagwiritsa ntchito mbale zotayidwa ndi zinthu zasiliva, osati mbale zapamwamba.

Tili ndi chotsukira mbale, koma kutsuka mbale ndikuziyikamo ndi ntchito yambiri. Nthawi zina, ndimangokhala wopanda mphamvu yochitira.

Sichikhala changwiro

Ndine wangwiro. Nthawi zina ndimadutsa pansi ndikukolopa m'nyumba, kukonza chakudya, kapena kukonza zokongoletsera. Koma ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri ndikukondwerera ndi alendo anu.

Funsani winawake kuti adzayendere limodzi

Ndikayamba kuda nkhawa momwe ndimafunira zinthu, mwamuna wanga amandithandiza kuti ndiziwona ndikufunsa momwe ndikuchitira komanso ngati ndikufuna thandizo. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mutha kupeza izi zothandiza, pezani wina kuti akhale munthu wanu.

Kutenga

Kusungira sikuli kwa aliyense. Ngati mwakuthupi simungathe kuchita kapena sichinthu chomwe mumakonda, musachite!

Ndili wokondwa kuti ndimatha kupatsa banja langa mwayi wokumbukira tchuthi. Koma sizovuta, ndipo ndimakonda kulipirira masiku angapo pambuyo pake ndimamva kupweteka kwa RA.

Leslie Rott Welsbacher anapezeka ndi matenda a lupus ndi nyamakazi mu 2008 ali ndi zaka 22, mchaka chake choyamba chomaliza maphunziro kusukulu. Atapezeka, Leslie anapitiliza kupeza PhD mu Sociology kuchokera ku Yunivesite ya Michigan ndi digiri yaukadaulo yothandizira zaumoyo kuchokera ku Sarah Lawrence College. Amalemba blog Yoyandikira Kwandekha, komwe amafotokozera zomwe adakumana nazo polimbana ndi matenda angapo, mosabisa komanso nthabwala. Ndiwotetezera wodwala wokhala ku Michigan.