Kodi Ndingatani Kuti Ndisamade Nkhawa Zokhudza Ntchito Loweruka ndi Lamlungu?

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• Q: Lamlungu lililonse, ndimayamba kukhala ndi mantha komanso nkhawa zakubwerera kuntchito tsiku lotsatira. Kodi ndingatani kuti ndipumule ndikusangalala kumapeto kwa sabata yanga?

Sizachilendo kukhumudwa kumapeto kwa sabata, koma nkhawa yakuntchito imatha kuchepa chifukwa chokhala bwino.

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Q: Lamlungu lililonse, ndimayamba kukhala ndi mantha komanso nkhawa zakubwerera kuntchito tsiku lotsatira. Kodi ndingatani kuti ndipumule ndikusangalala kumapeto kwa sabata yanga?

Nthawi zina, ambiri aife timakhala ndi vuto la "Sunday Blues" - {textend} mantha amomwe amadza Loweruka madzulo kapena Lamlungu m'mawa.

Ngakhale sizachilendo kukhumudwa kumapeto kwa sabata, nkhawa yokhudzana ndi ntchito imatha kuchepa ndi thanzi lanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kufufuza ngati nkhawa ingakhale yomwe imayambitsa mavuto anu.

Mwachitsanzo, kodi pali china chake pantchito yanu chomwe simukuchikonda? Kapena mwina mukuda nkhawa za msonkhano womwe ukubwera ndi abwana anu, kapena mukuvutika kuwona diso ndi diso ndi mnzanu wakuntchito?

Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale, kuphunzira kukhalabe munthawi ino kungathandize kuchepetsa nkhawa.

Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndi kuphunzira luso la kusinkhasinkha mwalingaliro. Kulingalira kumatanthauza "kukhala ndi kuzindikira kwakanthawi kwa malingaliro athu, malingaliro athu, ndi matupi athu," ndipo ofufuza ambiri apeza kuti kupuma mozama, kusinkhasinkha m'mimba kungatipangitse kukhazikika, komwe kumathandiza kupewa zinthu monga nkhawa ndi nkhawa kuti zisasokoneze tsiku lathu.

Kuti muyambe kuchita zinthu mosamala, lingalirani kutsitsa pulogalamu yosinkhasinkha, monga Calm, kapena yang'anani kanema waifupi wosinkhasinkha pa YouTube. Kenako yesani kupatula mphindi 5 mpaka 10 tsiku lililonse kuti muzichita zinthu zazing'ono.

Mukamayeseza, samalani ndi malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro aliwonse omwe angabuke, kenako nkubweranso kupuma kwanu, ndikugwiritsa ntchito ngati njira yoti ikuthandizireni munthawiyo.

Kuphatikiza pa kulingalira, zolimbitsa thupi zitha kukhalanso zodetsa nkhawa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi ntchito, dzifunseni kuti: “Kodi kudandaula za tsogolo kudzandithandiza bwanji pakadali pano?” kapena "Kodi ndili ndi umboni wotani wosonyeza kuti nkhawa yanga ndi yoona?"

Kuti mumve zambiri, yesetsani kubwerera ndikufunsa kuti: "Kodi nkhawa yanga izikhala yotani mwezi umodzi kuchokera pano?"

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