Mmene Kusuliza Kumawonongera Thanzi Lanu ndi Chuma Chanu

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Mutha kuganiza kuti mukungosintha zinthu zenizeni, koma kafukufuku watsopano akuwonetsa kuti malingaliro okayikira akhoza kuwononga moyo wanu. Osuliza amapanga ndalama zochepa kuposa anzawo omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo, malinga ndi kafukufuku waposachedwa wofalitsidwa ndi American Psychological Association. Ndipo sitikulankhula za Nancys zosintha zopanda pake zomwe zimapanga $ 300 zochepa pachaka (zili ngati nsonga zitatu za Lulu!). (Chongani Malangizo awa Opulumutsa Ndalama Kuti Mupeze Fiscally Fit.)

Alisa Bash, katswiri wa zamaganizo ku Beverly Hills, CA anati: "Koma kuwonongeka kwenikweni kuli mu ubale wawo ndi anthu ena. Chifukwa chakuti sadalira kwambiri, sagwira ntchito bwino ndi ena. Ndipo pamene wina akupereka mphamvu zoipa, nthawi zonse amadandaula, anthu safuna kukhala nawo. . "

Sizingokhala malipiro anu komanso magulu azomwe mungavutike nazo. Kudandaula nthawi zonse kumatha kuyika thanzi lanu pachiwopsezo. Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wochokera ku yunivesite ya Minnesota anagwirizanitsa kusuliza ndi chiopsezo chachikulu cha matenda a sitiroko ndi matenda a mtima, pamene kafukufuku wa ku Sweden anapeza kuti osuliza amatha kukhala ndi dementia. ( Werengani nkhani yakuti “Chifukwa Chake Ndili ndi Mayeso a Alzheimer.” ) Ofufuza m’mafukufuku onse awiriwa ananena kuti kutengeka maganizo kungachititse kuti munthu azivutika maganizo kwambiri, azidzipatula, komanso ‘alephere’—zifukwa zonse zoyambitsa matenda.

Zonsezi zimakhala zovuta kuzilingalira kwa anthu omwe amadzimva kuti amangokhalira kukayikira mwachilengedwe. Koma musanataye mtima, Bash akuti kukayikira ndimakhalidwe anu angathe kusintha-ndipo sizovuta monga momwe mukuganizira. Chinsinsi chake ndi Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), masewera olimbitsa thupi omwe amakuthandizani kukonzanso zolakwika ngati zabwino. "Mukamayembekezera zoipitsitsa, mudzazipeza, chifukwa ndi zomwe mukuyang'ana," Bash akufotokoza. "Koma zinthu zoyipa zimachitikira aliyense. Ndi momwe mumaonera zinthu zomwe zidzatsimikizire chisangalalo chanu."

Gawo loyamba pakuchepetsa kusasamala ndikuzindikira kuti ndi malingaliro angati olakwika omwe muli nawo, akutero. "Muyenera kuyimitsa kuzungulirako kusanayambe pozindikira kuti malingalirowa samakusangalatsani." (Yesani izi Njira 22 Zothandizira Moyo Wanu Mphindi 2 Kapena Zocheperapo.)

Yambani ndi kulemba maganizo alionse oipa. Mwachitsanzo, "Galimoto ija inandigwetsera dala!

Kenako, funsani umboni wa lingaliro limenelo. "Nthawi zambiri palibe umboni weniweni wa zikhulupiriro zanu zolakwika ndipo mukuzigwiritsa ntchito ngati njira yodzitetezera," akufotokoza Bash. Yang'anani umboni wosonyeza kuti dalaivala akudziwa kuti mudalipo ndipo adakupoperani mwadala, ndi umboni wakuti nthawi zonse mumathamangitsidwa pamene galimoto ikuyendetsa zinthu zomwe zimamveka zopusa mukazinena mokweza.

Kenako, funsani zikhulupiriro zanu kumbuyo kwa kusuliza. Kodi mumakhulupiriradi izi zonse anthu amangogwedezeka kapena zoipa nthawi zonse zichitike kwa inu? Lembani zitsanzo zotsutsa za nthawi zomwe anthu adakuchitirani zabwino kapena anachita zabwino mosayembekezereka.

Pomaliza, bwerani ndi mawu abwino atsopano. Mwachitsanzo, "Izi zimanunkha kuti ndidathamangitsidwa ndi galimoto ija. Mwina sanandione. Koma Hei, tsopano ndili ndi chifukwa chogulira malaya atsopano!" Lembani malingaliro abwino pafupi pomwepo ndi cholakwika. Ndipo inde, ndikofunikira kuti mulembe zonsezi, Bash akuwonjezera. "Kulumikizana pakati pa cholembera, dzanja, ndi ubongo kudzakulitsa zikhulupiriro zanu zatsopano pamlingo wozama, wosazindikira," akutero Bash. (Onani Njira 10 Zokuthandizani Kuti Muzichita Bwino.)

Kuphatikiza pa kugwiritsa ntchito CBT kusinthanso malingaliro anu, Bash akuti kusinkhasinkha kotsogozedwa, yoga, ndikusunga magazini yoyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku zonsezi zingakuthandizeni kuchoka pamatsenga ozizira mwala kuti mukhale ndi chiyembekezo munthawi yomweyo. "Kwa anthu omwe akufunadi kusintha malingaliro awo, zitha kuchitika mwachangu kwambiri. Ndawona kusintha kwakukulu m'masiku 40 okha," akuwonjezera.

"Dziko likhoza kukhala malo owopsa kwambiri. Zinthu zambiri zimamverera kuti simungathe kuzilamulira, ndipo kukayikira ndi njira imodzi yobweretsera kumverera kwa mphamvu," Bash akutero. "Koma izi zitha kumaliza kuti mantha anu oyipa akwaniritsidwe." M'malo mwake, akuti kudziwona ngati wopanga nawo moyo wanu, pozindikira kuti muli ndi mphamvu zotani ndikuyang'ana njira zosinthira bwino. "Simungaletse zinthu zoyipa kuti zisakuchitikireni, koma mutha kuwongolera momwe mumaganizira za izi. Malingaliro anu amapanga chenicheni chanu-moyo wachimwemwe umayamba ndikukhala wosangalala."

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