Namwino Wachisilamu Amasintha Maganizo, Mwana Mmodzi Nthawi imodzi

Zamkati

• Kuseka mu chipinda choperekera
• Kusintha malingaliro amomwe "Muslim" amatanthauza
• Kukhala mayi wachisilamu ku America
• Amayi osiyanasiyana, malingaliro osiyanasiyana
• Kupanga kulumikizana

Kuyambira ali mwana, Malak Kikhia adachita chidwi ndi mimba. “Nthawi zonse pamene amayi anga kapena abwenzi ake anali ndi pakati, nthawi zonse ndinkayika dzanja kapena khutu m'mimba mwawo, ndikumamvetsera ndikumvetsera kuti mwanayo amenye. Ndipo ndidafunsa mafunso ambiri, ”akutero.

Pokhala mwana wamkazi wamkulu mwa anayi, adatenganso gawo la mlongo wamkulu pomuthandiza amayi ake kusamalira azichemwali ake. “Nthawi zonse ndimakonda ana. Ndidali ndi chida chosamalira okalamba m'ma 1980, ndi stethoscope, syringe, ndi Band- Aids, ndipo ndimasewera ndi zidole ndi azilongo anga, "akutero. “Ndinkadziwa ndili ndi zaka 13 kuti ndikufuna kukhala mlangizi woperekera pobereka ndi pobereka.”

Zinali maloto omwe anakwaniritsidwa. Tsopano namwino wothandiza anthu kubereka ndi wobereka ku Georgia, Malak wathandiza kubereka ana oposa 200 ndikuwerengera. "Ndizowona zomwe akunena: Ngati mupeza ntchito yomwe mumakonda, simuyenera kugwira ntchito tsiku limodzi m'moyo wanu," akutero.

Kuseka mu chipinda choperekera

Malak ndi mbadwo woyamba waku Libyan-American. Makolo ake adasamukira ku Benghazi ngati ophunzira ku 1973 kupita ku University of Santa Barbara. Munthawi imeneyi, anali ndi ana awo awiri oyamba - kuphatikiza Malak - banja lisanapite ku Columbia, Missouri kukaphunzira ku University of Missouri. Malak adakhala nthawi yayitali ali mwana. Atakwatirana mu 1995, adasamukira ku Georgia.

Akugwira ntchito Kumwera, ambiri mwa odwala omwe amawawona si achiarabu kapena achisilamu. Ngakhale amavala chipewa panthawi yobereka, baji ya wantchito wake monyadira akuwonetsa chithunzi cha iye atavala hijab.

"Sindimabisala kuti ndine Msilamu," akutero. "M'malo mwake, ndimakonda kuwauza odwala anga kuti adziwe kuti mayi woseketsa uyu ndi Msilamu." Amatha kutenganso tsitsi lake lofiirira pansi pa kapu yake.

Ndipo Malak akuti wakhala ndi zokumana nazo zabwino mazana ndi mabanja. Iye anati: "Ndimayesetsa kuchepetsa zinthu ndi kuwapangitsa amayi kukhala opanda nkhawa." "Ndikawona kuti mayi akuchita mantha, nditha kunena kuti," Ndiye chikuchitika ndi chiyani apa? Kodi mwatupa kapena mwadzaza kapena mwadzimbidwa? ’Amaseka ndipo zimasweka.”

Malak akuti amalandira mauthenga ambiri pa Facebook kuchokera kwa odwala omwe akumuthokoza chifukwa chopanga mwayi wawo wobadwira kukhala wabwino. "Nditabereka mwana wanga wa 100, ndidalandira chilolezo kuchokera kubanja kuti ndikatumize chithunzi cha iye ndi ine pa malo ochezera, ndipo zidayamba kuwoneka bwino," akukumbukira. "Odwala anga akale atawona chithunzichi, adayamba kunena za kuchuluka kwa ana awo! Zinandigwetsa m'maso. ”

Kusintha malingaliro amomwe "Muslim" amatanthauza

Ngakhale anali wolimba mtima, Malak adavomereza kuti adachitidwapo tsankho pantchitoyo, mwachindunji kapena m'njira zina. Chochitika chomveka kwambiri chidabwera kumene kuchokera ku sukulu ya unamwino, pomwe anali kugwira ntchito ku dialysis.

Anali m'dera lakumidzi ku Georgia komwe sikunali kosiyanasiyana, ndipo adavala hijab pantchito. Amakumbukira amuna angapo akunena kuti safuna kuti Aarabu aziwasamalira.

"Njonda ina idawonetsa kuti sanafune kuti ndizimusamalira chifukwa ndine wachiarabu komanso Msilamu. Anati amadziona ngati wosatetezeka ndipo anandiuza, 'Simungadziwe.' ”

Malak adalumikizana ndi anzawo kuti awonetsetse kuti akusamalidwa bwino nthawi iliyonse yomwe amakhala pamalowo, koma manejala ake atazindikira kuti samusamalira, adakumana ndi Malak.

"Anandiyang'ana m'maso ndikufa ndipo anandiuza kuti:" Ndiwe namwino wabwino. Ndimakukhulupirirani. Ndipo munalumbirira ku sukulu ya unamwino kuti mudzasamalira odwala onse zivute zitani. Ndakubweza. '”

Kuyambira pamenepo, Malak akuyamba kusamalira mwamunayo. "Adadandaula poyamba, koma ndimamuuza kuti anali ine kapena kudikirira kwanthawi yayitali kuti namwino wina azipezeka."

"Amachita mantha ndikudzikuza," akumwetulira. Koma adakhalabe waluso ndipo adakwaniritsa malingaliro ake mpaka china chake chosayembekezeka chidachitika. "Pambuyo pake, ndinakhala namwino wokondedwa kwambiri ndipo amangopempha kuti ndimusamalire."

Pomwe ubale wawo udayamba, mwamunayo adapepesa kwa Malak, ndikumufotokozera kuti adanenedwa zabodza. "Ndamuuza kuti ndikumvetsetsa ndipo ntchito yanga ndikuwonetsa aku America mbali yabwino ya Asilamu aku America."

Kukhala mayi wachisilamu ku America

Malak sikuti ndi namwino wongothandiza amayi atsopano kubweretsa ana awo padziko lapansi. Iyenso ndi mayi, ali ndi ana atatu aamuna ndi aakazi awiri. Onsewo ndi nzika zaku America zonga iye, ndipo onse akuleredwa achisilamu.

Ana ake amapasa ali kusekondale, ndipo ana ake aakazi ali ndi zaka 15 ndi 12, pomwe mwana wawo wamwamuna woyamba ku koleji komanso Army National Guard.

"Ankafuna kulowa nawo ali ndi zaka 17. Ndinadabwa. Sindikumvetsa gulu lankhondo ndipo zomwe ndimaganiza zinali kuti akupita kunkhondo, ”akukumbukira. "Koma ndi bambo wamphamvu komanso wonyada mdziko lino monga ine. Ndimanyadira kwambiri. ”

Pomwe Malak amalera ana ake aakazi ndi mfundo zachisilamu, amawathandizanso kuti azikhala omasuka kukambirana nkhani zachikazi komanso zachiwerewere. “Kuyambira ali achichepere, adaphunzitsidwa mawu akuti nyini. Ndine namwino wantchito yobereka, ndiponsotu ine! ”

Amawakondanso kuti apange zisankho zawo, monga kuvala hijab kapena ayi. "Monga azimayi, tili ndi ufulu wolamulira zomwe zimachitika ndi matupi athu." Akuwonjezera kuti, "Sindikupangitsa atsikana kuvala hijab. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikudzipereka, chifukwa akaganiza kuti avale, ndichinthu chomwe ayenera kudzipereka kuti avale. Ndikulakalaka atadikira kuti apange chisankho mpaka atakula. "

Amayi osiyanasiyana, malingaliro osiyanasiyana

Sikuti Malak akugwira ntchito yosintha malingaliro ndi malingaliro monga namwino komanso mayi, amathandizanso kuthana ndi magawano azikhalidwe m'njira zina. Monga mayi wachisilamu wogwira ntchito yathanzi la amayi, ali ndiudindo wapadera, nthawi zina amathandizira azimayi ena achisilamu kuyenda njira zatsopano pankhani yazaumoyo.

“Pachikhalidwe chathu, nkhani zachikazi, monga kusamba kwanu ndi nthawi yoyembekezera, zimawonedwa ngati zachinsinsi ndipo sizoyenera kukambidwa ndi abambo. Amayi ena amafikira mpaka posalankhula za izi ndi amuna awo, ”akutero, pokumbukira imodzi mwazinthu zingapo pomwe adayitanidwako kukafunsira za njira yoberekera mayi wolankhula Chiarabu yemwe akukumana ndi zovuta. "Iwo anali ndi womasulira wamwamuna yemwe amalankhula naye pafoni, kumuuza kuti atulutse mwanayo, koma samayankha.

"Ndimamvetsetsa kukayikira kwake," akutero. “Anachita manyazi kuti bambo azimuuza za mimba yake. Chifukwa chake ndidalowa pankhope pake ndikumuuza kuti ayenera kukankhira mwanayu panja, apo ayi amwalira. Anamvetsetsa ndipo anayamba kumukankhira kunja bwinobwino. ”

Patatha miyezi itatu, apongozi ake omwewo omwe anali ndi pakati adabwera mchipatala kufunsa Malak. “Adali ndi ntchito yonyenga koma kenako adabwerako, ndipo ndidamupatsa mwana wake. Ndi malumikizidwe ngati awa omwe amapindulitsa. "

Kupanga kulumikizana

Kaya akubweretsa ana obadwa kumene padziko lapansi, kuphunzitsa ana awo aakazi momwe angakhalire omasuka m'matupi mwawo, kapena kusintha malingaliro a wodwala nthawi imodzi, Malak akudziwa bwino zovuta - komanso kuthekera kwakukulu - kokhala namwino wachisilamu ku America .

"Kunja, ndine mayi wachisilamu wovala hijab ... ndimayenda m'malo opezeka anthu ambiri, ndipo ndimangokhala chete anthu onse akundiyang'ana," akutero.

Kumbali inayi, monga namwino wantchito ndi yobereka, Malak akuchita ntchito yake yamaloto komanso kulumikizana ndi anthu munthawi yosangalala kwambiri. Ndipo ndi munthawi zomwe amachita chinthu chofunikira - amamanga milatho.