Social Media Ikupha Anzanu

Zamkati

• Pali kuthekera kocheza, ngakhale pa intaneti
• Pali zotsatira pamphamvu zanu mukamapereka ndemanga
• Onse okonda ndipo palibe sewero lomwe limatha kupanga m'badwo wosungulumwa
• Ma media media ndi dziko latsopano, ndipo likufunikirabe malamulo

Mukungofunikira kukhala ndi abwenzi 150. Ndiye… nanga bwanji malo ochezera?

Palibe amene ali mlendo pakulowerera kwambiri mu Facebook kalulu dzenje. Mukudziwa zochitikazo. Za ine, ndi Lachiwiri usiku ndipo ndikupumula pabedi, ndikungoyenda "pang'ono pang'ono," patatha theka la ola, sindikuyandikira kupumula. Ndiyankhapo pazomwe mnzanga wina analemba kenako Facebook ikufotokoza zakusankha kucheza ndi anzanga omwe ndimaphunzira nawo kale, koma m'malo mochita izi, ndikungoyang'ana mbiri yawo ndikuphunzira za zaka zingapo zapitazi za moyo wawo… kufikira nditawona nkhani yomwe yanditumiza gawo lofufuza ndi gawo lomwe limasiya ubongo wanga pa hyperdrive.

M'mawa mwake, ndimadzuka ndili wotopa.

Mwinanso kuwala kwa buluu komwe kumawunikira nkhope zathu tikamadutsa m'ma feed ndi anzathu ndi komwe kumayambitsa kusokoneza tulo tathu. Kusasunthika kumatha kufotokozera kukwiya komanso kukwiya komwe munthu ali nako. Kapenanso zitha kukhala zina.

Mwinamwake, pamene tikudziuza tokha kuti tili pa intaneti kuti tikhalebe olumikizidwa, tikudziwitsa mosazindikira mphamvu zathu zothandizana ndi anthu. Kodi tingatani ngati chilichonse chomwe tikufuna, mtima, ndi yankho lomwe timapereka kwa winawake pa intaneti akutichotsera mphamvu zathu pazocheza pa intaneti?

Pali kuthekera kocheza, ngakhale pa intaneti

Ngakhale maubongo athu amatha kusiyanitsa kucheza pa intaneti komanso kucheza ndi anthu, sizokayikitsa kuti tapanga zochulukirapo - kapena magulu osiyana - a mphamvu zongogwiritsa ntchito media. Pali malire okhudza kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe tikulumikizana nawo komanso omwe tili ndi mphamvu. Izi zimatanthauzanso kuti maola omwe timakhala tikucheza ndi anthu osawadziwa pa intaneti amatichotsera mphamvu zomwe tili nazo zosamalira anthu omwe timawadziwa kunja kwa intaneti.

"Zikuwoneka kuti titha kukhala ndi abwenzi pafupifupi 150, kuphatikiza abale," akutero R.I.M. Dunbar, PhD, pulofesa mu department of Experimental Psychology ku University of Oxford. Amauza a Healthline kuti "malire awa akhazikitsidwa ndi kukula kwa ubongo wathu."

Malinga ndi Dunbar, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazovuta ziwiri zomwe zimatsimikizira kuti tili ndi abwenzi angati. Dunbar ndi ofufuza ena adakhazikitsa izi pofufuza zaubongo, poona kuti kuchuluka kwa abwenzi omwe tili nawo, pa intaneti, ndiwofanana ndi kukula kwa neocortex yathu, gawo laubongo lomwe limayang'anira maubale.

Chovuta chachiwiri ndi nthawi.

Malinga ndi chidziwitso kuchokera ku GlobalWebIndex, anthu amakhala akuwononga maola opitilira awiri patsiku pazanema komanso kutumizirana mameseji ku 2017. Izi ndi theka la ola kuposa 2012, ndipo zikuyenera kuwonjezeka pakapita nthawi.

Dunbar akuti: "Nthawi yomwe mumayikira pachibwenzi imatsimikizira kulimba kwa ubalewo." Koma kafukufuku waposachedwa wa Dunbar akuwonetsa kuti ngakhale malo ochezera a pa TV amatilola "kudutsa padenga la magalasi" kuti tisunge maubwenzi akunja komanso kukhala ndi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, sichitha mphamvu zathu zachilengedwe zokhalira anzathu.

Nthawi zambiri, mkati mwa malire 150 tili ndimagulu amkati kapena zigawo zomwe zimafuna kulumikizana pafupipafupi kuti tisunge ubwenzi. Kaya ndiko kutenga khofi, kapena kungokhala ndi zokambirana zakumbuyo ndi kumbuyo. Ganizirani za anzanu komanso anzanu angati omwe mumawakonda kwambiri kuposa ena. Dunbar amaliza kuti bwalo lililonse limafuna kudzipereka komanso kulumikizana mosiyanasiyana.

Akuti tikufunika kulumikizana "kamodzi pamlungu pazoyambira zisanu, kamodzi pamwezi kwa mabwenzi 15 apamtima, komanso kamodzi pachaka pagulu lalikulu la '150 abwenzi okha. '”Kupatula kukhala abale ndi abale, omwe amafunikira kulumikizana pafupipafupi kuti azilumikizana.

Ndiye chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati muli ndi bwenzi kapena wotsatira wamkulu kuposa 150 mumawebusayiti anu ochezera? Dunbar akuti ndi nambala yopanda tanthauzo. "Tikudzipusitsa," akufotokoza. "Mutha kulembetsa anthu ambiri momwe mungafunire, koma izi sizimapanga abwenzi. Zomwe tikuchita ndikulembetsa anthu omwe tingawaganize kuti ndi omwe tidziwana nawo kunja kwa intaneti. ”

Dunbar akuti, monga timachitira pamaso ndi nkhope, timapereka zochuluka pazomwe timachita pazanema kwa anthu 15 omwe tili pafupi nawo, pafupifupi 40% ya chidwi chathu chimapita kwa mabesties athu asanu ndi 60% kwa athu 15. Izi zikugwirizana chimodzi mwazinthu zakale kwambiri zokomera malo ochezera a pa Intaneti: Sizingakulitse kuchuluka kwa mabwenzi enieni, koma nsanja izi zitha kutithandiza kusungabe ndi kulimbitsa maubwenzi athu ofunikira. "Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amapereka njira yothandiza kwambiri yosungitsa maubwenzi akale, chifukwa chake sitiyenera kugogoda," akutero Dunbar.

Chimodzi mwazinthu zapa media media ndikumatha kuchita nawo zochitika zazikulu za anthu omwe sindikhala pafupi. Nditha kukhala wowonera chilichonse kuyambira nthawi zamtengo wapatali mpaka chakudya chamadzulo, nthawi zonse ndikamachita zochitika zanga za tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma pamodzi ndi chisangalalo, chakudya changa chimadzazidwa ndi mitu yankhani komanso ndemanga zotentha kuchokera kuzolumikizana zanga ndi alendo - ndizosapeweka.

Pali zotsatira pamphamvu zanu mukamapereka ndemanga

Kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu kulumikizana kwambiri ndi anthu omwe simukuwadziwa kumatha kuwononga chuma chanu. Zisankho zitatha, ndidawona malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ngati mwayi wolowerera ndale. Ndidapanga zomwe ndimayembekeza kuti ndizolemba ndale zolemekeza ufulu wa amayi komanso kusintha kwanyengo. Zinabwerera m'mbuyo munthu wina atandilankhula ndi mauthenga achinsinsi, ndikupangitsa adrenaline yanga kukwera. Ndimayenera kufunsa mayendedwe anga otsatira.

Kodi kuyankha kuli koyenera kwa ine komanso anzanga?

2017 yakhala, yopanda kukayika, chimodzi mwazaka zoyipa kwambiri pazokambirana pa intaneti, ndikusintha zokambirana za URL kukhala zotsatira za IRL (m'moyo weniweni). Kuchokera pamtsutso wamakhalidwe, andale, kapena wamakhalidwe abwino mpaka kuulula kwa #metoo, nthawi zambiri timakwiya kapena timakakamizidwa kuti tibowolere. Makamaka nkhope ndi mawu odziwika bwino atalumikizana ndi mbali inayo. Koma tinawononga chiyani kwa ife eni - komanso kwa ena?

"Anthu atha kukakamizidwa kuti afotokoze zokwiya zawo pa intaneti chifukwa amalandila zabwino akachita izi," akutero a M.J. Crockett, katswiri wamaubongo. Pogwira ntchito yake, amafufuza momwe anthu amafotokozera pawailesi yakanema komanso ngati kumvera chisoni kapena chifundo chawo ndizosiyana pa intaneti kuposa momwe amachitira. Wokonda kapena ndemanga imodzi atha kutsimikiziridwa kuti atsimikizire malingaliro, koma amathanso kusewera ndi matalala ndikusokoneza maubale anu akunja.

Gulu lofufuza la Facebook lidafunsanso funso lofananalo: Kodi malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi abwino kapena oyipa kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino? Yankho lawo linali loti kuwononga nthawi kunali koyipa, koma kulumikizana bwino kunali kwabwino. "Kungofalitsa zosintha momwe analili sikunali kokwanira; anthu amayenera kulumikizana m'maso ndi anzawo mu netiweki yawo, "a David Ginsberg ndi a Moira Burke, ofufuza pa Facebook, anena kuchokera kuchipinda chawo chofalitsa nkhani. Amanena kuti "kugawana mauthenga, zolemba, ndi ndemanga ndi abwenzi apamtima ndikukumbukira zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu - kumalumikizidwa ndikuwongolera thanzi."

Koma chimachitika ndi chiyani pamene kulumikizana kotereku kumavunda? Ngakhale simukuyanjana ndi wina pamkangano, kuyanjana - osachepera - kungasinthe malingaliro anu ndi iwo.

M'nkhani ya Vanity Fair yonena za kutha kwa nthawi yapa social media, Nick Bilton adalemba kuti: "Zaka zapitazo, wamkulu wina pa Facebook adandiuza kuti chifukwa chachikulu chomwe anthu amathandizirana ndichoti sagwirizana pankhani. Bwanayo anaseka monyodola kuti, 'Ndani akudziwa, ngati izi zipitilira, mwina tidzakhala ndi anthu oti azingokhala ndi anzawo ochepa pa Facebook.' ”Posachedwa, wamkulu wakale wa Facebook, a Chamanth Palihapitiya adalemba mutu kuti," Ndikuganiza apanga zida zomwe zikuwononga momwe anthu amagwirira ntchito… [Zolinga zapa TV] zikuwononga maziko amomwe anthu amakhalira pakati pawo. ”

"Pali umboni wina wosonyeza kuti anthu amakhala okonzeka kulanga anzawo akamagwiritsa ntchito makina apakompyuta kuposa momwe amathandizira poyankhulana maso ndi maso," a Crockett akutiuza. Kuwonetsa kukwiya kwamakhalidwe atha kutsegulanso mayankho olakwika pobwezera, komanso kuchokera kwa anthu omwe sangakhale achisoni pamalingaliro osiyanasiyana. Pokhudzana ndi zokambirana zanu, mungafune kusinthitsa kulumikizana kwapaintaneti kuti kuzikhala pa intaneti. Crocket akuti "palinso kafukufuku wosonyeza kuti kumva mawu a anthu ena kumatithandizira kuthana ndi kusakhazikika pamikangano yandale."

Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi zandale komanso mayendedwe ochezera ndipo apeza lingaliro lokwanira kuti apitilize pazanema, landirani upangiri wa a Celeste Headlee. Zaka zake zofunsa mafunso pazokambirana za tsiku ndi tsiku za Georgia Public Radio "Pa Lingaliro Lachiwiri" zidamupangitsa kuti alembe "Tifunika Kulankhula: Momwe Tingalankhulire Zofunika" ndikumupatsa nkhani ya TED, Njira 10 Zokhalira ndi Kukambirana Bwino.

"Ganizani musanatumize," akutero a Headlee. "Musanayankhe pazanema, werengani zolemba zoyambirira kawiri kuti mutsimikizire kuti mukumvetsetsa. Kenako fufuzani pang'ono pamutuwu. Zonsezi zimatenga nthawi, motero zimakuchepetserani, komanso zimapangitsa malingaliro anu kukhala oyenera. ”

Autumn Collier, wogwira ntchito zachitetezo ku Atlanta yemwe amathandizira odwala omwe ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo, akuvomereza. Zolemba zandale zimafunikira mphamvu zambiri osabweza ndalama zochepa, akutero. "Zitha kumveka zolimba panthawiyi, koma kenako mumakopeka ndi 'Kodi adayankha?' Ndikukambirana zokambirana kumbuyo ndi kumbuyo. Kungakhale kwanzeru kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvuzi poyambitsa kapena kulembera kalata andale akumaloko. ”

Ndipo nthawi zina, zingakhale bwino kungonyalanyaza zokambiranazo. Kudziwa nthawi yoti muchokere pa intaneti ndikofunikira kwa thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe ndikusungabe mabwenzi mtsogolo.

Onse okonda ndipo palibe sewero lomwe limatha kupanga m'badwo wosungulumwa

Pankhani yolumikizana ndi anzanu, ndikofunikanso kudziwa nthawi yoyanjananso maso ndi maso. Ngakhale Dunbar yatamanda maubwino azama TV, palinso kafukufuku wochulukirapo wokhudzana ndi zovuta zomwe zimadza chifukwa chazomwe zimachitika, monga kukhumudwa kowonjezeka, nkhawa, komanso kusungulumwa. Zomverera izi zimatha chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa anthu omwe mumawatsata ndikuchita nawo, abwenzi kapena ayi.

"Zolinga zamalonda zimadzitcha kuti zikuwonjezera kulumikizana kwathu, koma kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti anthu omwe amathera nthawi yochulukirapo pazosangalatsa amakhala osungulumwa, osachepera," akutero a Jean Twenge, wolemba "iGen: Why Today's Super-Connected Kids Akukula Pang'ono Opanduka, Oleza Mtima, Osasangalala Kwambiri - Ndipo Sanakonzekere Kukhala Achikulire. ” Nkhani yake ya The Atlantic, "Kodi Mafoni Athu Awononga M'badwo?" idapanga mafunde koyambirira kwa chaka chino ndikupangitsa zaka zikwizikwi zambiri komanso pambuyo pa zaka zikwizikwi, kuti achite zomwe zitha kupondereza anthu: Kuwonetsa kukwiya kwamakhalidwe.

Koma kafukufuku wa Twenge alibe maziko. Afufuza momwe kugwiritsa ntchito makanema ochezera pa intaneti kumakhudza achinyamata, ndikupeza kuti mbadwo watsopano kwambiri ukuwononga nthawi yocheperako ndi anzawo komanso nthawi yambiri yolumikizana pa intaneti. Izi zikugwirizana ndi zomwe achinyamata adapeza ndikukhumudwa komanso kusungulumwa.

Koma ngakhale kuti palibe limodzi la maphunzirowa lomwe limatsimikizira kuti pali zovuta, pamakhala kumva wamba. Kumverera kumeneko kunapangidwa ngati FOMO, mantha akusowa. Koma sikuti kumangokhala kwa m'badwo umodzi. Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yapa media media kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zake kwa akulu akulu, ngakhale okalamba.

FOMO imatha kukhala njira yoyerekeza poyerekeza komanso kusachita kanthu. Choyipa chachikulu, chingakupangitseni kukhala ndi "maubale" anu pazanema.M'malo mosangalala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi anzanu, ena odziwika, kapena abale, mukuwonera nkhani ndi Zithunzi za ena awo abwenzi ndi abale. M'malo mochita zosangalatsa zomwe zimakusangalatsani, mumayang'ana ena akuchita zosangalatsa zomwe timafuna tikadatha. Ntchito iyi "yocheza" pazanema imatha kubweretsa kunyalanyaza abwenzi m'magulu onse.

Mukukumbukira kuphunzira kwa Dunbar? Ngati tilephera kucheza ndi anthu omwe timawakonda pafupipafupi, "ubale umachepa mosalekeza komanso moyenera," akutero. "Pakangotha ​​miyezi ingapo osawona munthu, adzakhala atatsikira kudzanso lotsatira."

Ma media media ndi dziko latsopano, ndipo likufunikirabe malamulo

Star Trek imatsegula mosangalala gawo lililonse motere: "Danga: Malire omaliza." Ndipo ngakhale ambiri amaganiza kuti ngati mlalang'amba ndi nyenyezi kupitirira apo, amathanso kutanthauza intaneti. World Lonse Web ili ndi yosungirako yopanda malire ndipo, monga chilengedwe chonse, ilibe malire kapena malire. Koma ngakhale malirewo sangakhalepo pa intaneti - mphamvu zathu, matupi athu, ndi malingaliro athu amatha kupitilirabe.

Monga momwe Larissa Pham adanenera motsimikiza pa tweet: "AM uyu wothandizira wanga adandikumbutsa kuti ndibwino kupita kunja kwa bc sitinapangidwe kuti tikwaniritse zowawa za anthu pamlingo uwu, ndipo tsopano ndikudutsa pa 2 u" - tweet iyi yakwanitsa 115,423 amakonda ndi ma retweets 40,755.

Dziko lapansi ndi lowopsa pakadali pano, makamaka mukakhala pa intaneti. M'malo mongowerenga mutu umodzi pakamphindi kamodzi, chakudya chambiri chimayang'ana chidwi chathu ndi nkhani zokwanira, chilichonse kuyambira zivomezi mpaka agalu abwino kumaakaunti anu. Zambiri mwa izi zidalembedwanso kuti zizitipangitsa kutengeka mtima ndikupitiliza kudina ndikupukusa. Koma palibe chifukwa chokhala mbali yake nthawi zonse.

"Dziwani kuti kulumikizana nthawi zonse pafoni yanu komanso pazankhani sizabwino pamaumoyo anu," akutero a Headlee. "Chitani ndi momwe mungachitire maswiti kapena tiziwisi taku French: Musakonde." Ma social media ndi lupanga lakuthwa konsekonse.

Kukhala pa smartphone yanu kumatha mphamvu zomwe zikanakhala kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito zochitika zenizeni ndi anzanu kapena abale anu. Zolinga zamankhwala siimalengezedwe kopewa kunyong'onyeka, nkhawa, kapena kusungulumwa. Kumapeto kwa tsikuli, anthu omwe mumawakonda kwambiri ali.

Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti maubwenzi abwino ndiofunikira pa thanzi lanu. Makamaka, kukhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima kumalumikizana ndi magwiridwe antchito, makamaka tikamakula. Kafukufuku waposachedwa wazaka zopitilira 270,000 adapeza kuti zovuta zaubwenzi zimaneneratu za matenda ena ambiri. Chifukwa chake musasunge anzanu kutalika, otsekedwa mufoni yanu ndi ma DM.

Dunbar akuti: "Anzathu amapezeka kuti atipatse mapewa oti tizilirira nawo zinthu zikagwa," akutero. "Ngakhale munthu atakhala wachifundo bwanji pa Facebook kapena pa Skype, pamapeto pake kukhala ndi phewa lenileni kulira zomwe zimapangitsa kusiyana kwathu kuti tithe kupirira."

A Jennifer Chesak ndi mkonzi wolemba mabuku pawokha ku Nashville komanso wophunzitsa kulemba. Amakhalanso woyenda maulendo, kulimbitsa thupi, komanso wolemba zaumoyo pazolemba zingapo zamayiko. Anapeza Master of Science mu utolankhani kuchokera ku Northwestern's Medill ndipo akugwira ntchito yolemba zopeka zoyambirira, zomwe zidakhazikitsidwa ku North Dakota kwawo.