Momwe Mungakhalire Munthu: Kuyankhula ndi Anthu Omwe Ali Transgender kapena Nonbinary

Zamkati

• Jenda yawo siyoyitanitsa kwanu
• Kodi jenda ndi chiyani, mulimonse?
• Ganizirani matchulidwe anu ndikupewa kusokonekera
• Lemekezani kuti ndi ndani ndipo musapewe kuphedwa
• Khalani oyenera ndikubwezeretsanso chidwi chanu
• Zindikirani za kuphatikiza amuna kapena akazi
• Ganizirani kawiri za mawu anu
• Zolakwitsa ndi gawo lokhala munthu, koma kusintha ndi gawo labwino kwambiri lokhalanso munthu
• Zosayenera
  
• Chitani
  

Jenda yawo siyoyitanitsa kwanu

Kodi chilankhulo chimafunika kuvomerezana mogwirizana zisanachitike? Nanga bwanji zazing'onoting'ono zomwe zimafooketsa anthu mosazindikira, makamaka anthu opitilira muyeso ndi osachita kubina?

Kunyalanyaza zomwe ena akudzizindikiritsa monga momwe kungakhalire kungasokoneze ndipo nthawi zina kumakhala kopweteka. Kugwiritsa ntchito molakwa matchulidwe kumawoneka ngati kosalakwa, komanso kumayika kukhumudwa kwa wokamba nkhani ndikofunika kwa mnzake. Mwanjira ina, ndi mtundu wina watsankho komanso wovulaza kutenga matchulidwe amunthu powayang'ana.

Kunena za anthu omwe ali ndi mawu kapena mawu omwe sagwirizana nawo - monga "ndi gawo chabe" - ndi mphamvu yowononga yomwe imangotanthauza kukayika, zongopeka, kapena sewero.

Kulongosola wina ngati "munthu wakale" kapena "munthu wobadwa" ndikutsitsa. Mukamaumirira kugwiritsa ntchito dzina lomwe munthu sakugwiritsanso ntchito, zimayimira zokonda zanu ndipo zitha kukhala zamwano, ngati zichitike mwadala.

M'nkhani ya Conscious Style Guide, Steve Bien-Aimé alengeza, "Kugwiritsa ntchito zilankhulo siziyenera kupondereza ena omwe ndi osiyana." Ndiye bwanji osagwiritsa ntchito mawu omwe ali ndi mphamvu kutsimikizira, kuvomereza, ndikuphatikiza?

Kuno ku Healthline, sitinagwirizane zambiri. Zida zathu zamphamvu kwambiri pagulu lazosindikiza ndi mawu athu. Timayeza mawu azomwe tili mosamala, kusanthula zinthu zomwe zitha kupweteketsa, kupatula, kapena kusokoneza zina zomwe anthu akukumana nazo. Ndi chifukwa chake timagwiritsa ntchito "iwo" m'malo mwa "iye kapena iye" komanso chifukwa chake timasiyanitsa pakati pa jenda ndi kugonana.

Kodi jenda ndi chiyani, mulimonse?

Jenda ndi kugonana ndizinthu zosiyana. Kugonana ndi mawu omwe amatanthauza biology ya munthu, kuphatikiza ma chromosomes, mahomoni, ndi ziwalo (ndipo mukayang'anitsitsa, zimawonekeratu kuti kugonana sikobiriwiri, mwina).

Jenda (kapena kudziwika kuti ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi) ndi mkhalidwe wokhala mwamuna, mkazi, onse, kapena onse. Jenda imaphatikizaponso maudindo ndi ziyembekezo zomwe anthu amapatsa munthu aliyense kutengera "amuna" kapena "akazi". Ziyembekezerozi zimatha kuzika mizu kwakuti mwina sitingadziwe kuti ndi liti kapena momwe tingalimbikitsire.

Jenda limasinthika pakapita nthawi ndi chikhalidwe. Panali (osati kale kwambiri) nthawi yomwe zinali zosavomerezeka pakati pa amayi kuti azivala mathalauza. Ambiri aife timayang'ana m'mbuyo tsopano ndikudabwa momwe zidalili motere kwa nthawi yayitali.

Monga momwe tidapangira malo osinthira zovala (komwe kumafotokoza za jenda) kwa azimayi, tikuphunzira malo ambiri omwe amafunikira kuti apangidwe mchilankhulo kuti titsimikizire ndi kuwerengera zokumana nazo ndi malingaliro a anthu opatsirana pogonana.

Ganizirani matchulidwe anu ndikupewa kusokonekera

Ngakhale kukhala mawu ang'onoang'ono chonchi, matchulidwe amakhala ndi tanthauzo lambiri pakudziwika. Iye, iye, i — si nkhani ya galamala. (The Associated Press idasinthiratu kalembedwe kawo ka 2017, kulola kugwiritsa ntchito kwa iwo "iwo.") Timagwiritsa ntchito "iwo" nthawi zonse kutchula anthu amodzi - m'mawu oyambilira pamwambapa, tidagwiritsa ntchito kanayi.

Ngati mwakumana ndi wina watsopano ndipo sanafotokozere bwino matchulidwe omwe amagwiritsa ntchito, funsani. Tikamachita izi monga gulu, zimakhala zachilengedwe kwambiri, monga kufunsa "Uli bwanji?" Ndipo moona mtima, ikupulumutsirani zovuta zina pamzerewu. Zosavuta, “Hei Jay, umakonda kutchulidwa bwanji? Mumagwiritsa ntchito matchulidwe ati? ” Zidzakwanira.

Chifukwa chake, kaya ndi iye, iye, iwo, kapena china chilichonse: Wina akakudziwitsani matchulidwe awo, avomerezeni. Kugwiritsa ntchito matchulidwe olakwika (kapena kusokoneza) ndi chizindikiro choti simukukhulupirira kuti wina akudziwa kuti ali bwino kuposa inu. Ikhozanso kukhala mtundu wina wovutitsa mukamachita dala.

Osanena izi: "Ndi mayi wakale yemwe tsopano amadutsa Michael."

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: "Ameneyo ndi Michael. Amanena nkhani zodabwitsa! Uyenera kudzakumana naye nthawi ina. ”

Lemekezani kuti ndi ndani ndipo musapewe kuphedwa

Ndizomvetsa chisoni kuti sizachilendo kuti anthu osinthasintha amatchulidwabe ndi mayina awo omwe adapatsidwa (mosiyana ndi omwe adatsimikiziridwa). Izi zimatchedwa kupha, ndipo ndikuchitira mwano komwe kungapewedwe mosavuta pofunsa kuti, "Mumakonda kutchulidwako chiyani?"

Otumiza ambiri amaika nthawi yochuluka, zotengeka, ndi mphamvu mu dzina lomwe amagwiritsa ntchito ndipo liyenera kulemekezedwa. Kugwiritsa ntchito dzina lina lililonse kungakhale kovulaza ndipo kuyenera kupewedwa ngati zingatheke.

Chidule chonse cha mbiri ya jenda la munthu wa transgender ndi anatomy nthawi zambiri sizikhala zofunikira kwenikweni. Chifukwa chake, mukamayankhula kapena ndi munthu, samalani kuti musayike chidwi chanu pazambiri. Gwiritsitsani nkhani zomwe zikugwirizana ndi chifukwa chake munthuyo anabwera kudzakuonani.

Osanena izi: “Dr. Cyril Brown, wotchedwa Jessica Brown atabadwa, anapeza chinthu chofunikira kwambiri paulendo wochiritsa khansa. ”

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: "Chifukwa cha Dr. Cyril Brown, wasayansi wodabwitsa, tsopano titha kukhala njira imodzi yothanirana ndi khansa."

Khalani oyenera ndikubwezeretsanso chidwi chanu

Chidwi ndikumverera kovomerezeka, koma kuchitapo kanthu si ntchito yanu. Ndizopanda ulemu kwa anthu ambiri opitilira. Ngakhale mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chazomwe zimakhudzana ndi jenda, thupi, ndi mawonekedwe amunthu, mvetsetsani kuti mulibe ufulu wodziwa izi. Monga momwe mulibe ngongole yokhudza moyo wanu wakale, nawonso alibe ngongole yanunso.

Mukakumana ndi anthu ena ambiri, mwina simufunsa za momwe maliseche awo alili kapena mtundu wawo wamankhwala. Zidziwitso zaumoyo wanu ndizazokha, ndipo kusinthanitsa sikuchotsera ufulu wachinsinsi.

Ngati mukufuna kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe akumana nazo, fufuzani nokha pazosankha zosiyanasiyana zomwe anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi transgender, nonbinary kapena jenda osagwirizana. Koma musafunse munthu zaulendo wake pokhapokha atakupatsani chilolezo.

Osanena izi: "Kotero, kodi mudzakhala nako, mukudziwa, opaleshoni?”

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: “Hei, ukupanga chiyani sabata ino?”

Zindikirani za kuphatikiza amuna kapena akazi

Kukhala ophatikiza amuna ndi akazi ndikutsegulidwa ku zikhalidwe zonse za amuna ndi akazi pokambirana.

Mwachitsanzo, nkhani imatha kupezeka pa desiki yathu yomwe imati "akazi" pomwe amatanthauza "anthu omwe atha kutenga pakati." Kwa abambo opatsirana pogonana, kusamba ndi mimba kungakhale nkhani zenizeni zomwe amakumana nazo. Kulongosola gulu lonse la anthu ovulation ngati "akazi" sikupatula zomwe zimachitikira amuna ena opitilira muyeso (ndi amayi omwe amalimbana ndi kusabereka, koma iyi ndi nkhani ina).

Mawu monga "weniweni," "wamba," komanso "wabwinobwino" amathanso kupatula. Kuyerekeza azimayi opitilira pakati pa amayi omwe amatchedwa "enieni" kumawasiyanitsa ndi iwo ndikupitilizabe lingaliro lolakwika loti jenda ndi chilengedwe.

Kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo cholondola, chofotokozera m'malo mwa zidebe za jenda sikuti zimangophatikiza, ndizowonekera bwino.

Osanena izi: "Amayi ndi azimayi omwe amachita zachiwerewere adabwera nawo pamsonkhano waukulu."

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: "Amayi ambiri amabwera pamsonkhanowu manambala ambiri."

Ganizirani kawiri za mawu anu

Kumbukirani, mukunena za munthu wina. Munthu wina. Musanatsegule pakamwa panu, ganizirani kuti ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zingakhale zosafunikira, muchepetse umunthu wawo, kapena zomwe zingachitike chifukwa chakusowa kwanu.

Mwachitsanzo, ndikofunikira kuvomereza kuti munthuyu ndi - mudadziyerekeza - munthu. Kutchula mamembala am'deralo ngati "osintha" amakana umunthu wawo. Zili monga momwe simunganene kuti "ndi wakuda."

Ndi anthu, ndipo transgender ndi gawo chabe la izo. Mawu monga "transgender people" ndi "transgender community" ndioyenera kwambiri. Momwemonso, anthu ambiri osakonda amakonda mawu oti "transgendered," ngati kuti kusintha kwachitika kwa iwo.

M'malo mongobwera ndi njira zatsopano kapena zazifupi zofotokozera anthu opitilira, ingowatcha kuti trans trans. Mwanjira imeneyi, mumapewa kukhumudwa mwangozi.

Dziwani kuti ngakhale munthu m'modzi atadziwika ndi mawu kapena mawu osasangalatsa, sizitanthauza kuti aliyense amatero. Sizipanga kuti zikhale bwino kuti mugwiritse ntchito nthawi imeneyi kwa anthu ena onse omwe mumakumana nawo.

Ndipo nthawi zambiri, kukhala trans sikofunikira mukamayanjana ndi anthu. Zina zomwe mwina sizofunikira kufunsa ngati munthuyo ndi "pre-op" kapena "post-op" komanso kuti adayamba liti kusintha kalekale.

Simulankhula za matupi a anthu mukamawadziwitsa, choncho pitirizani ulemu womwewo kwa anthu opita patsogolo.

Osanena izi: "Tinakumana ndi transgender ku bala usiku watha."

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: "Tinakumana ndi wovina modabwitsa ku bar usiku watha."

Zolakwitsa ndi gawo lokhala munthu, koma kusintha ndi gawo labwino kwambiri lokhalanso munthu

Kuyenda m'dera latsopano kungakhale kovuta, timatha. Ndipo ngakhale malangizowa angakhale othandiza, alinso malangizo. Anthu ndi osiyanasiyana, ndipo kukula kwake sikungafanane ndi onse - makamaka zikafika podzitengera.

Monga anthu, tidzasokonezeka nthawi ina. Ngakhale zolinga zabwino sizingagwere moyenera.

Momwe munthu wina angawonekere kulemekezedwa atha kukhala osiyana ndi momwe wina amaonera ulemu. Ngati mukukwera, konzani zolakwika zanu mwaulemu ndikupita patsogolo. Gawo lofunikira ndikukumbukira kuyang'ana pa zomwe ena akumva - osati zako.

Zosayenera

1. Osapanga lingaliro la momwe wina angafunire kutchulidwa.
2. Musafunse za ziwalo zoberekera zomwe munthu ali nazo kapena adzakhala nazo, makamaka ngati chinthu chosankha momwe mungamutchulire munthuyo.
3. Osalongosola zokonda za munthu kutengera momwe zimakukhudzirani.
4. Osalongosola munthu ndi chizindikiritso cham'mbuyomu. Izi zimatchedwa kupha, ndipo ndi mawonekedwe osalemekeza anthu opitilira muyeso. Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungatumizire munthu wakale, afunseni.
5. Osatulutsa munthu. Ngati mungadziwe za dzina lakale la munthu kapena gawo la jenda, zisungeni nokha.
6. Musagwiritse ntchito ma shorthand slurs okhumudwitsa.

Osanena izi: “Pepani, koma zangovuta kuti ndikutchuleni Jimmy nditakudziwani kuti Justine kwa nthawi yayitali! Sindikudziwa ngati ndingakwanitse. "

Nenani izi m'malo mwake: “Pepani, Jimmy, kodi ukufuna kupita nafe kudzadya chakudya Lachisanu?”

Chitani

1. Funsani mwaulemu matchulidwe amunthu ndikudzipereka kuti muwagwiritse ntchito.
2. Tchulani munthu pongomudziwa.
3. Dzikonzeni nokha ngati mugwiritsa ntchito dzina lolakwika kapena matchulidwe.
4. Pewani mawu akuti "weniweni," "wokhazikika," ndi "wabwinobwino." Mnzako wa transgender si "wokongola ngati mkazi 'weniweni." Ndiwo mkazi wokongola, kutha kwa chiganizo.
5. Mvetsetsani kuti mudzalakwitsa. Khalani omasuka komanso olandila mayankho ochokera kwa anthu ena za momwe chilankhulo chanu chimawapangitsa kumva.
6. Kumbukirani kuti anthu onse ndiopambana kuposa amuna kapena akazi komanso mawonekedwe. Osamangoganizira kwambiri njira iliyonse.

Ngati mukuganiza kuti wina ndi trans, musafunse. Zilibe kanthu. Adzakuwuzani ngati zingakhale zofunikira komanso ngati ali omasuka kugawana nanu zambiri.

Ngati wina ali trans kapena wosachita nawo bayinare, kapena ngati simukutsimikiza, sizimapweteka kufunsa momwe muyenera kuwayankhira. Kufunsa kumawonetsa ulemu komanso kuti mukufuna kutsimikizira kuti ndi ndani.

Takulandilani ku "Momwe Mungakhalire Anthu," mndandanda wazomvera ena chisoni komanso momwe mungaikire anthu patsogolo. Kusiyana sikuyenera kukhala ndodo, ngakhale anthu atipangira chiyani. Bwerani mudzaphunzire za mphamvu ya mawu ndikukondwerera zokumana nazo za anthu, mosasamala zaka zawo, mtundu wawo, jenda, kapena mkhalidwe wawo. Tiyeni tikweze anzathu kudzera mu ulemu.