Momwe Mungakhalire Oleza Mtima (Ndipo Chifukwa Chake Kofunika)

Zamkati

• Onetsani kukhumudwa kwanu
• Sinkhasinkhani
• Kusinkhasinkha 101
• Muzigona mokwanira
• Yendani mwanzeru
• Chedweraniko pang'ono
• Yesetsani kuyamikira
• Kodi ndizofunikadi?
• Mfundo yofunika

Kumbukirani momwe aphunzitsi anu a kindergarten amakukumbutsirani nthawi zonse kuti mudikire nthawi yanu pabwalo lamasewera? Mutha kukhala kuti mudapindulitsanso maso anu nthawiyo, koma chifukwa chake, kudekha mtima kumapita kutali.

Kukhala wokhoza kudekha modekha pokumana ndi mavuto ndi gawo limodzi chabe la madzi oundana zikafika pabwino la kuleza mtima. Zitha kuthandizanso kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa komanso muchepetse kupsinjika.

Gawo labwino kwambiri? Mosiyana ndi zomwe ambiri amakhulupirira, kuleza mtima si chinthu chabwino chomwe anthu ena amangobadwa nacho. Kwenikweni ndi luso lomwe mungagwire tsiku ndi tsiku. Umu ndi momwe.

Onetsani kukhumudwa kwanu

Nenani kuti mwakhala mukuyembekezera mnzanu kuti adzawoneke pamsonkhano womwe simunafune kupita nawo koyamba.

Kulira chifukwa chakuchedwa kwawo sikuwapangitsa kuti aziwoneka mwamatsenga. Mutha kutenga nthawiyo kuti muziyang'ana zolemba zanu kapena kuyankha maimelo angapo pafoni yanu.

Mwa kukonzanso zomwe munabwerera m'mbuyo ngati kupambana kwanu, mutha kuyendetsa mtima wanu ndikuchita izi.

Sinkhasinkhani

Kusinkhasinkha kumaphatikizapo kuphunzitsa malingaliro anu kuti muziyang'ana ndikuwongolera malingaliro anu kutali ndi zosasangalatsa za tsiku ndi tsiku. Ikhozanso kukuthandizani kuti muchepetse kupsinjika, kuchepetsa nkhawa, komanso kukulimbikitsani kukhala ndi nkhawa - zonse zomwe zimakuthandizani kukhala odekha.

Kafukufuku wina wa 2017 adapeza kuti kusinkhasinkha mwamaganizidwe kumatha kuthana ndi nkhawa zomwe zimachitika mukakhala kuti mukudikirira china chake.

Komanso, mutha kusinkhasinkha kulikonse.

Kusinkhasinkha 101

Pambuyo patsiku lokhumudwitsa, tengani mphindi zochepa kuti mukhale pansi pomwe muli ndikutsatira izi:

1. Tsekani maso anu ndikuyang'ana momwe thupi lanu limamverera pampando wanu.
2. Dziloleni kuti mupume mwachilengedwe, osamala mpweya uliwonse ndikutulutsa mpweya.
3. Yesetsani kuika chidwi chanu pa mpweya wanu kwa mphindi ziwiri kapena zitatu.
4. Kusokonezedwa ndi malingaliro anu? Osalimbana nawo. Ingowawonerani ndikuwalola kuti adutse popanda kuweruza.

Nayi mitundu ina ya mankhwala omwe angathandize.

Muzigona mokwanira

Kusagona mokwanira kumatha kupangitsa kuti ukhale wokwiya kapena wokulirapo. Ngati simukugona mokwanira, mwina mutha kumangokhalira kugwira nawo ntchito kapena kudula woyenda pang'onopang'ono pamseu.

Sankhani kugona kwabwino ndi:

• kuchepetsa kudya kwa caffeine, makamaka masana ndi madzulo
• kuyika zida zamagetsi kutali mphindi 30 musanagone
• kuyesera kumamatira ku ndandanda yanthawi zonse yakugona, ngakhale kumapeto kwa sabata
• kupewa chakudya chambiri kapena kumwa toni wamadzimadzi osachepera maola 2 musanagone

Yendani mwanzeru

Kukhala phee podikirira kuli ndi njira yina yopangitsira kuti muzimva kukhala owonjezeka komanso osapirira.

Nthawi yotsatira mukadzipeza mukuyembekezera nthawi yokumana kapena mnzanu yemwe sanachedwe, yesani kupeza mayendedwe. Kutengera malo ozungulira, izi zitha kuphatikizira kutambasula kwathunthu kapena kungoyimirira ndikukwera ndi kutsika kuzala zanu.

Kusuntha kulikonse komwe mungasankhe, cholinga ndikukhazikitsa malingaliro anu munthawi ino.

Chedweraniko pang'ono

M'dziko lodzala ndi kukhutitsidwa pompopompo, ndikosavuta kukhala ndi chizolowezi choyembekezera kuti zonse zichitike mwachangu. Mukamatsitsimutsa makalata anu obwereza, mwachitsanzo, mumasowa zomwe zili patsogolo panu.

Ngati kuthamanga kwakhala kosakhazikika, yesani malangizo awa ochepetsera zinthu pansi:

• Osadumpha pakama m'mawa. Dziloleni nokha mphindi 5 mpaka 10 kuti mugone ndi malingaliro anu (palibe kupukusa foni!).
• Chotsani nthawi ndi nthawi kutalikirana ndi foni yanu, kaya ndi paulendo wanu kapena mukafika kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito.
• Ndipatseni nthawi. Yendani, kusewera ndi chiweto chanu, kapena kungokhala pansi ndikuyang'ana pazenera.

Yesetsani kuyamikira

Ndikosavuta kugwidwa ndikuweruza zochita za anthu ena: mayi amene amatenga nthawi yayitali pamzere wonyamula sukulu, kapena wopeza ndalama yemwe amangotenga zakudya zanu ngati alibe chilichonse koma nthawi.

M'malo mochita izi, yesetsani kuyang'ana pazinthu zomwe mumayamikira. Mwinanso zimatenga kanthawi pamalipiro kuti muzindikire kuti mumatha kudzidyetsa nokha kapena banja lanu kapena kuyimitsa kaye kuti muyamikire ulendo wanu womwe ukubwera mukalandira chidziwitso chakuchedwetsa ndege.

Zachidziwikire, kuyamika sikungasinthe mkhalidwe wanu, koma kukuthandizani kuti mukhale odekha ndikuyang'ana kwambiri chithunzi chachikulu.

Kodi ndizofunikadi?

Inde. Kupirira kuleza mtima sikungokulepheretsani kuti muzitha kuzizirira ndikudikirira nthawi yanu. Ilinso ndi maubwino ambiri azaumoyo.

Kafukufuku wa 2007 adapeza kuti anthu opirira amatha kuthana ndi zovuta ndikupeza kupsinjika pang'ono.

Koposa zonse, kukulitsa kuleza mtima ndikuthana ndi mavuto okhumudwitsa komanso zovuta zimangopangitsa moyo kukhala wosavuta.

Mfundo yofunika

Kuleza mtima kumakuthandizani kudutsa pamavuto ndikupanga zisankho zabwino osakhumudwa kapena kuda nkhawa. Ngati mukung'ung'udza nokha panthawi yamavuto apamtunda kapena mizere yoyenda pang'onopang'ono, kukulitsa luso lanu lokuyembekezera kungathandize kwambiri kuti moyo ukhale wosangalatsa.

Kumbukirani kuti ndichinthu pang'onopang'ono chomwe sichingachitike mwadzidzidzi. Khalani okoma mtima kwa inu pakadali pano, ndipo khalani ndi nthawi yoganizira za pano.

Cindy Lamothe ndi mtolankhani wodziyimira pawokha wokhala ku Guatemala. Nthawi zambiri amalemba za mphambano pakati pa thanzi, ukhondo, ndi sayansi yamakhalidwe amunthu. Adalembedwera The Atlantic, New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, Quartz, The Washington Post, ndi ena ambiri. Pezani iye pa cindylamothe.com.