Malangizo 10 Othandizira Kuthana ndi Umunthu wa Narcissistic

Zamkati

• 1. Awoneni momwe alili
• 2. Dulani malodza ndi kusiya kuyang'ana pa iwo
• 3. Lankhulani nokha
• 4. Khazikitsani malire omveka
• 5. Ayembekezereni kuti abwerere m'mbuyo
• 6. Kumbukirani kuti simulakwitsa
• 7. Pezani njira yothandizira
• 8. Limbikirani kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu, osati malonjezo
• 9. Dziwani kuti munthu wokonda zachiwerewere angafunikire thandizo la akatswiri
• 10. Zindikirani pamene mukufuna thandizo
• Nthawi yosunthira patsogolo

Timakonda kugwiritsa ntchito liwu loti narcissist pofotokoza za munthu yemwe amangodzikonda komanso waufupi. Koma ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti vuto la umunthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo (NPD) ndimavuto ovomerezeka am'maganizo omwe amafuna kuti adziwe matenda aukatswiri.

Komabe, anthu amatha kuwonetsa zikhalidwe zina popanda kukhala ndi NPD. Izi zingaphatikizepo:

• kudzikweza
• kufuna kutamandidwa nthawi zonse
• kudyera masuku pamutu ena
• osazindikira kapena kusamala zosowa za ena

Kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri, anthu omwe ali ndi NPD kapena zizolowezi zamanyazi nthawi zambiri amakhala omvera pakutsutsidwa, ngakhale amadzidalira.

Nayi njira zina zothandizirana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD kapena zizolowezi za narcissistic - kuphatikiza maupangiri ozindikiritsa nthawi yakwana.

1. Awoneni momwe alili

Akafuna kutero, iwo omwe ali ndi umunthu wankhanza ndiabwino kutsegulira chithumwa. Mutha kudzipeza mutakopeka ndi malingaliro komanso malonjezo awo. Izi zitha kuwathandizanso kutchuka makamaka pantchito.

Koma musanatengeredwe, penyani momwe amachitira ndi anthu omwe sali "pa siteji". Mukawagwira akunama, kuwanyengerera, kapena kunyoza ena, palibe chifukwa chokhulupirira kuti sangakuchitireni zomwezo.

Ngakhale munthu wina wokonda zachiwerewere anganene chiyani, zosowa zanu ndi zosowa zanu mwina ndizosafunika kwa iwo. Ndipo ngati mungayesere kutulutsa nkhaniyi, mutha kukumana ndi otsutsa.

Gawo loyambirira lothana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi umunthu wamankhwala ndikungovomereza kuti awa ndiomwe ali - palibe zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti musinthe.

2. Dulani malodza ndi kusiya kuyang'ana pa iwo

Pakakhala umunthu wamankhwala ozungulira mumsewu, chidwi chimawoneka kuti chimakopa njira yawo. Izi ndizopanga - kaya ndi zoyipa kapena zabwino, omwe ali ndi umunthu wogwira ntchito molimbika amayesetsa kuti azidziwika.

Mutha kudzipeza posachedwa mukugula njira iyi, ndikunyalanyaza zosowa zanu kuti zikwaniritse.

Ngati mukuyembekezera kupumula pamakhalidwe awo ofuna chidwi, mwina sangabwere. Ngakhale mutasintha moyo wanu kuti ukwaniritse zosowa zawo, sizikhala zokwanira.

Ngati mukuyenera kuthana ndi umunthu wamankhwala osokoneza bongo, musalole kuti alowerere kudzikonda kwanu kapena kufotokozera dziko lanu. Inunso ndinu ofunika. Nthawi zonse muzidzikumbutsa zomwe mumachita bwino, zokhumba zanu, komanso zolinga zanu.

Tengani ndalama ndikuwononga "nthawi yanga". Dzisamalireni nokha ndikukumbukira kuti si ntchito yanu kukonza.

3. Lankhulani nokha

Pali nthawi zina pamene kunyalanyaza china kapena kungochokapo ndi yankho loyenera - sankhani nkhondo zanu, sichoncho?

Koma zambiri zimatengera ubalewo. Mwachitsanzo, kuchita ndi abwana, kholo, kapena okwatirana kungafune njira zosiyanasiyana poyerekeza ndi wogwira nawo ntchito, m'bale wako, kapena mwana.

Anthu ena okhala ndi zikhalidwe zoseketsa amakonda kusangalatsa ena. Ngati ndi choncho, yesetsani kuti musamawoneke kapena kuwonetsa kukwiya, chifukwa kungowalimbikitsa kuti apitilize.

Ngati ndi munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye pafupi m'moyo wanu, ndiye kuti muli ndi ngongole yolankhula nanu. Yesetsani kuchita izi modekha, modekha.

Muyenera kuwauza momwe mawu ndi machitidwe awo amakhudzira moyo wanu. Khalani achindunji komanso osasinthasintha pazomwe sizilandiridwa komanso momwe mukuyembekezera kukuchitirani. Koma dzikonzekeretseni kuti mwina sangamvetse - kapena kusamalira.

4. Khazikitsani malire omveka

Munthu wamakhalidwe onyansa nthawi zambiri amakhala wokhazikika.

Amatha kuganiza kuti ali ndi ufulu wopita komwe angafune, kufufuzira pazinthu zanu, kapena kukuwuzani momwe muyenera kumvera. Mwina amakupatsani upangiri osakufunsani ndipo amatenga mbiri pazinthu zomwe mwachita. Kapena amakukakamizani kuti mulankhule zachinsinsi pagulu.

Amathanso kukhala opanda chidwi ndi danga lawo, choncho amakonda kuwoloka malire ambiri. Nthawi zambiri, samawawona. Ndicho chifukwa chake muyenera kufotokoza momveka bwino za malire omwe ndi ofunika kwa inu.

Chifukwa chiyani zotsatirazo zingakhale zofunika kwa iwo? Chifukwa winawake wamakhalidwe oyipa amakonda kuyamba kumvetsera zinthu zikayamba kuwakhudza.

Onetsetsani kuti sizowopseza chabe. Kambiranani za zotulukapo pokhapokha mutakhala okonzeka kuzichita monga tanenera. Apo ayi, sadzakukhulupirirani nthawi ina.

Mwachitsanzo

Nenani kuti muli ndi mnzake wogwira naye ntchito yemwe amakonda kuyimitsa galimoto yawo yayikulu m'njira yomwe imakupangitsani kuti musabwerere m'mbuyo. Yambani powafunsa mwamphamvu kuti atsimikizire kuti akukusiyirani malo okwanira. Kenako, fotokozani zotsatira zake chifukwa chosatsatira zofuna zanu.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati simungathe kubwerera bwinobwino, mudzakokedwa ndi galimoto yawo. Chofunikira ndikutsatira ndikuyimbira kampaniyo kuti ikubwerenso nthawi ina ikadzachitika.

5. Ayembekezereni kuti abwerere m'mbuyo

Ngati mungayime ndi munthu wamisala, mutha kuyembekezera kuti ayankha.

Mukangoyankhula ndikukhazikitsa malire, atha kubweranso ndi zofuna zawo. Angayesenso kukupusitsani kuti muzidziona kuti ndinu olakwa kapena mukukhulupirira kuti inuyo ndinu munthu wonyanyira komanso wolamulira. Amatha kupanga sewero lachifundo.

Khalani okonzeka kuyimirira. Mukabwerera mmbuyo, sangakutengereni mtsogolo nthawi ina.

6. Kumbukirani kuti simulakwitsa

Munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la umunthu wake samatha kuvomereza cholakwika kapena kutenga udindo wokukhumudwitsani. M'malo mwake, amakonda kuwonetsa zolakwika zawo kwa inu kapena kwa wina aliyense.

Mutha kuyesedwa kuti musunge mtendere povomera kulakwa, koma simuyenera kudzipeputsa kuti mudzipulumutse.

Mukudziwa chowonadi. Musalole kuti aliyense akuchotsereni izi.

7. Pezani njira yothandizira

Ngati simungapewe munthuyo, yesetsani kukulitsa ubale wanu wathanzi ndi magulu othandizira anthu. Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yochulukirapo muubwenzi wosavomerezeka ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi umunthu wamankhanza kumatha kukupatsani nkhawa.

Limbikitsani maubwenzi akale ndikuyesera kukulitsa anzanu. Khalani pamodzi ndi banja nthawi zambiri. Ngati gulu lanu ndi locheperako kuposa momwe mungakonde, yesani kutenga kalasi kuti mufufuze zosangalatsa zina zatsopano. Khalani achangu m'dera lanu kapena mudzipereke zachifundo kwanuko. Chitani china chake chomwe chimakupatsani mwayi wokumana ndi anthu ambiri omwe mumamasuka nawo.

Kodi ubale wabwino ndi chiyani?

Kukhala nthawi yayitali ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi umunthu wovuta kumatha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kukumbukira momwe ubale wabwino umamvekera.

Nazi zizindikiro zingapo zofunika kuziyang'ana:

• anthu onse amamvetsera ndikupanga zoyesayesa kuti amvetsetsane
• anthu onsewa amavomereza zolakwa zawo ndipo amatenga nawo mbali
• anthu onse amamva kuti akhoza kumasuka ndikukhala enieni pamaso pa anzawo

8. Limbikirani kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu, osati malonjezo

Anthu omwe ali ndimakhalidwe abwino amakonda kupanga malonjezo. Amalonjeza kuchita zomwe mukufuna osati kuchita zomwe mumadana nazo. Amalonjeza kuti nthawi zonse azichita bwino.

Ndipo amathanso kukhala owona mtima za malonjezo awa. Koma osalakwitsa izi: Lonjezoli ndi njira yothetsera munthu amene ali ndi khalidwe lodzikongoletsa.

Akapeza zomwe akufuna, chilimbikitso chimatha. Simungadalire kuti zochita zawo zikugwirizana ndi mawu awo.

Funsani zomwe mukufuna ndikuyimirira. Tsimikizani kuti mungokwaniritsa zopempha zawo akatha kukwaniritsa zanu.

Osaperekera mfundoyi. Kusagwirizana kumathandizira kuyendetsa kunyumba.

9. Dziwani kuti munthu wokonda zachiwerewere angafunikire thandizo la akatswiri

Anthu omwe ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri samawona vuto - osadzionera okha. Zotsatira zake, sizokayikitsa kuti adzapitiliza upangiri waluso.

Koma anthu omwe ali ndi NPD nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zovuta zina, monga kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kapena matenda ena amisala kapena mavuto amunthu. Kukhala ndi vuto lina ndi komwe kumalimbikitsa munthu kufunafuna chithandizo.

Mungawauze kuti afikire thandizo la akatswiri, koma simungawapangitse kutero. Ndiwoudindo wawo, osati wanu.

Ndipo kumbukirani, ngakhale NPD ili ndi thanzi lamisala, siyimapereka zifukwa zoyipa kapena zoyipa.

10. Zindikirani pamene mukufuna thandizo

Kuchita pafupipafupi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto lodzikongoletsa kumatha kukuwonongerani thanzi lanu.

Ngati muli ndi zizindikilo za nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kapena matenda osadziwika, pitani kaye kuchipatala. Mukayesedwa, mutha kupempha kuti mutumizidwe ku mautumiki ena, monga othandizira ndi magulu othandizira.

Fikirani kwa abale ndi abwenzi ndikuyitanitsa makina anu othandizira. Palibe chifukwa chopita wekha.

Nthawi yosunthira patsogolo

Anthu ena omwe ali ndi chizolowezi chodzitchinjiriza amathanso kutukwana kapena kutukwana.

Nazi zina mwazizindikiro za ubale wozunza:

• kuyitana mayina, kutukwana
• kuteteza, kuchititsa manyazi pagulu
• kufuula, kuopseza
• nsanje, milandu

Zizindikiro zina zomwe muyenera kuyang'anira mwa munthu winayo ndi izi:

• kukuimba mlandu pa chilichonse chomwe chasokonekera
• kuyang'anira mayendedwe anu kapena kuyesa kudzipatula
• kukuuzani momwe mukumvera kapena momwe mukumvera
• kukuwonetsani zolakwa zawo pa inu
• kukana zinthu zomwe zikuwonekeratu kwa inu kapena kuyesa kukuwuzani
• mopeputsa malingaliro anu ndi zosowa zanu

Koma ndi nthawi yanji yoponya chopukutira thukuta? Chibwenzi chilichonse chimakhala ndi zotsika, sichoncho?

Ngakhale izi ndi zoona, ndibwino kusiya chibwenzicho ngati:

• mukuchitiridwa nkhanza kapena kutukwana
• mumadzimva kuti mukugwiriridwa ntchito
• mwazunzidwa kapena mukuwopsezedwa
• mumamva kukhala osungulumwa
• munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD kapena wamankhwala amaonetsa zizindikilo za matenda amisala kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, koma sangapeze thandizo
• thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe kapena thupi lakhudzidwa

pezani thandizo

Ngati mukuwopa munthu winayo, mutha kupita ku National Domestic Abuse Hotline ku 800-799-7233, yomwe imapatsa mwayi wa 24/7 opereka chithandizo ndi malo ogona ku United States.

Pamene mukugwirizana ndi chisankho chanu chosiya chibwenzicho, zingakhale zothandiza kuyankhula ndi gulu.

Izi zithandizo zamaganizidwe zimatha kukuthandizani kupeza othandizira oyenera:

• American Psychiatric Association: Pezani Wama Psychiatrist
• American Psychological Association: Wolemba zamaganizidwe Wopezeka
• Veterans Affairs: Aphungu Ovomerezeka a VA

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