Chifukwa Chomwe Thanzi Lanu Lamaganizidwe Asanabadwe Ndi Pambuyo Pobereka Lili Lofunika Kwambiri

Zamkati

• Matenda a Postpartum samasankha
• Matenda a Postpartum sali ofanana ndi matenda a postpartum psychosis
• Chitani thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe chimodzimodzi ndi thanzi lanu
• Funsani thandizo ndikuvomera mukalandira
• Simuli nokha
• Palibe vuto kuti musakhale bwino
• Kutenga

Amayi omwe ali ndi pakati kwanthawi yoyamba amatha nthawi yayitali ali ndi pakati kuti aphunzire kusamalira mwana wawo. Nanga bwanji za kuphunzira kusamalira okha?

Pali mawu atatu omwe ndikulakalaka wina akanandilankhulapo ndili ndi pakati: thanzi lamaganizidwe a amayi. Mawu atatu amenewo akanatha kupanga kusiyana kwakukulu m'moyo wanga nditakhala mayi.

Ndikulakalaka wina akanati, "Amayi anu amisala atha kudwala asanabadwe komanso atakhala ndi pakati. Izi ndizofala, ndipo zimachiritsidwa. " Palibe amene anandiuza zizindikilo zoti ndiyang'ane, zoopsa, kapena komwe ndingapeze thandizo la akatswiri.

Sindinakonzekere pomwe kudandaula pambuyo pobereka kunandigunda nkhope tsiku lotsatira nditabweretsa mwana wanga kunyumba kuchokera kuchipatala. Kuperewera kwamaphunziro komwe ndidalandira ndikakhala ndi pakati kwanditsogolera kufunafuna wobisalira kuti ndipeze thandizo lomwe ndimafunikira kuti ndikhale bwino.

Ndikadakhala ndikudziwa kuti kupsinjika kwa pambuyo pobereka kudali kotani, kumakhudza azimayi angati, komanso momwe angachitire, sindikanakhala ndi manyazi. Ndikadayamba mankhwala msanga. Ndipo sindikanatha kupezeka kwambiri ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna mchaka choyamba chimenecho.

Nazi zina zomwe ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa zaumoyo wamisala ndisanakhale ndi pakati.

Matenda a Postpartum samasankha

Ndili ndi pakati pa miyezi isanu ndi itatu, mnzanga wapamtima yemwe anali atangobereka kumene mwana adandifunsa kuti, "Jen, kodi ukudandaula za zinthu zilizonse zokhudzana ndi matendawa ukamabereka?" Nthawi yomweyo ndinayankha kuti, “Ayi sichoncho. Izi sizingandichitikire. ”

Ndinali wokondwa kukhala mayi, wokwatiwa ndi bwenzi labwino, wopambana m'moyo, ndipo ndinali ndi matani othandizira kale, chifukwa chake ndimaganiza kuti ndili bwino.

Ndinaphunzira mwachangu kwambiri kuti kupsinjika kwa pambuyo pobereka sikusamala za izi. Ndinali ndi chithandizo chonse padziko lapansi, komabe ndimadwalabe.

Matenda a Postpartum sali ofanana ndi matenda a postpartum psychosis

Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe sindimakhulupirira kuti kukhumudwa pambuyo pobereka kungachitike kwa ine chifukwa sindinkamvetsa kuti chinali chiyani.

Nthawi zonse ndimaganiza kuti kupsinjika kwa pambuyo pobereka kumatanthauza amayi omwe mumawona pa nkhani omwe amapweteka ana awo, ndipo nthawi zina, nawonso. Ambiri mwa amayi amenewo amakhala ndi matenda a postpartum, omwe ndi osiyana kwambiri. Psychosis ndimavuto ochepetsa nkhawa, omwe amakhudza 1 mpaka 2 mwa azimayi 1,000 omwe amabereka.

Chitani thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe chimodzimodzi ndi thanzi lanu

Mukalandira malungo ndi chifuwa chachikulu, mwina mumatha kukawona dokotala wanu osaganizira. Mungatsatire malangizo a dokotala wanu popanda funso. Komabe mayi watsopano akayamba kudwala, nthawi zambiri amachita manyazi ndipo amangokhala chete.

Matenda a Postpartum, monga nkhawa ya postpartum ndi nkhawa ya postpartum, ndi matenda enieni omwe amafunikira chithandizo chamankhwala.

Nthawi zambiri amafuna mankhwala monga matenda amthupi. Koma amayi ambiri amazindikira kuti ayenera kumwa mankhwala ngati kufooka komanso kulengeza kuti alephera kukhala mayi.

Ndimadzuka m'mawa uliwonse ndikumwa mankhwala awiri opatsirana mopanda manyazi. Kumenyera thanzi langa lamphamvu kumandipatsa mphamvu. Ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yosamalirira mwana wanga.

Funsani thandizo ndikuvomera mukalandira

Umayi suyenera kuchitidwa padera. Simuyenera kuyang'anizana nokha ndipo simuyenera kumva kuti ndinu olakwa kupempha zomwe mukufuna.

Ngati muli ndi vuto la postpartum, inu sangathe mukufuna kuti mukhale bwino. Ndinayamba kumva bwino mphindi yomwe ndapeza wothandizira yemwe amadziwika bwino pamavuto obereka pambuyo pobereka, koma ndimayenera kulankhula ndikupempha thandizo.

Komanso, phunzirani kuyankha inde. Ngati mnzanu akufuna kusamba ndikumugwedeza mwanayo kuti mugone, nenani inde. Ngati mlongo wanu akufuna kuti abwere kudzathandiza kuchapa ndi kutsuka mbale, muloleni iye. Ngati mnzanu akufuna kukhazikitsa sitima yodyera, nenani inde. Ndipo ngati makolo anu akufuna kulipira namwino wakhanda, postpartum doula, kapena maola ochepa osamalira ana, landirani mwayi wawo.

Simuli nokha

Zaka zisanu zapitazo, pamene ndinali kuthana ndi vuto la postpartum, ndimaganiza moona mtima kuti ndi ine ndekha. Sindinadziwe aliyense yemwe anali ndi vuto la postpartum. Sindinawonepo zikutchulidwa pazanema.

Wodwala wanga (OB) sanabwerepo. Ndimaganiza kuti ndikulephera kukhala mayi, zomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti zimabwera mwachibadwa kwa mayi wina aliyense padziko lapansi.

M'mutu mwanga, panali china chake cholakwika ndi ine. Sindinkafuna chilichonse chokhudzana ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna, sindinkafuna kukhala mayi, ndipo ndimatha kudzuka pabedi kapena kutuluka mnyumbamo kupatula nthawi yochiritsira sabata iliyonse.

Chowonadi ndichakuti amayi asanu ndi awiri mwa amayi asanu ndi awiri atsopano amakhudzidwa ndimatenda aubongo chaka chilichonse. Ndinazindikira kuti ndinali m'fuko la amayi masauzande ambiri omwe anali kuchita chimodzimodzi ndi ine. Izi zidapanga kusiyana kwakukulu pakusiya manyazi omwe ndidamva.

Palibe vuto kuti musakhale bwino

Umayi udzakuyesani m'njira zina zomwe palibe.

Mumaloledwa kumenya nkhondo. Mumaloledwa kugwa. Mumaloledwa kumva ngati kusiya. Mumaloledwa kuti musamve bwino, ndikuvomereza.

Osasunga magawo oyipa komanso osokonekera ndikumverera kwa umayi nokha chifukwa aliyense wa ife ali nawo. Samatipanga kukhala amayi oyipa.

Khalani odekha ndi inueni. Pezani anthu anu - omwe amasunga zenizeni, koma osaweruza. Ndiwo omwe adzakuthandizani ndikukulandirani zivute zitani.

Kutenga

The clichés ndi zoona. Muyenera kuteteza chigoba chanu cha oxygen musanateteze cha mwana wanu. Simungatsanulire kuchokera mu chikho chopanda kanthu. Ngati amayi atsika, sitima yonse imatsikira.

Zonsezi ndizolemba chabe za: Amayi anu am'mayi amakhudzanso thanzi lanu. Ndidaphunzira kusamalira thanzi langa m'maganizo, phunziro lomwe ndidakakamizidwa ndi matenda omwe sindimadziwa. Sitiyenera kukhala motere.

Tiyeni tigawane nkhani zathu ndikupitiliza kukulitsa kuzindikira. Kuika patsogolo thanzi lathu la amayi asanafike ndi pambuyo pake mwana ayenera kukhala wabwinobwino - osati zosiyana.

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