Momwe Mungasungire Ubale Wanu Wapamtima

Zamkati

• Ubale 101
• Magawo aubwenzi
• Kufunika kwa maubwenzi
• Kukonza ubale
• Kunena tsanzikana
• Tengera kwina

Ubale 101

Ubale wapabanja umapanga ubale uliwonse womwe umakwaniritsa zosowa zingapo zakuthupi ndi zamaganizidwe kwa inu. Awa ndi anthu omwe mumakonda kwambiri m'moyo wanu.

Ngakhale maubwenzi achikondi ali pakati pa anthu, abale awo ndi abwenzi apamtima nawonso. Palinso chinthu china monga maubale achiwiri pakati pa anthu. Izi zikuphatikizapo omwe mumawadziwa, oyandikana nawo, ndi ena omwe mumacheza nawo pafupipafupi.

Mwachidule, mumakhala ndiubwenzi wapamtima ndi aliyense amene mumamudziwa.

Popeza kufunikira kwa maubale ndi thanzi lathu lamaganizidwe ndi thupi, ndikofunikira kuphunzira momwe tingakulitsire ndikusamalira.

Magawo aubwenzi

Maubwenzi samakula mwadzidzidzi. Katswiri wina wama psychology, George Levinger, adazindikira magawo asanu amgwirizano wapakati pa kafukufuku wina mu 1980. Adatcha chiphunzitsochi, chomwe chimaphatikizapo:

• kudziwana
• unjika
• kupitiriza
• kuwonongeka
• kutha (kuchotsa)

Ubwenzi wabwino pakati pa anthu umangodutsa magawo atatu oyamba. Chibwenzi chomwe chimatha kuthagana ndi bwenzi kapena wokondana nanu chimadutsa magawo onsewa.

Osati maubale onse omwe angapangitse kuti adutse gawo loyamba la chidziwitso, mwina. Chimodzi mwa kufunikira kwa lingaliro la Levinger ndikuwonetsa kuti ubale wapakati pa anthu umangokhala wamphamvu monga momwe amasiyana.

Kufunika kwa maubwenzi

Kuyanjana ndi anzanu ndikofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro. Ubale umathandizira kuthana ndi kusungulumwa komanso kumakupatsanso tanthauzo m'moyo.

Mwachitsanzo, kuyandikira komwe mumakhala ndi abale anu komanso anzanu ndi gawo lofunikira pakuthandizira kwanu. Maubwenzi munthawi zina za moyo wanu kunja kwa chibwenzi ndi banja atha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zabwino kwa inu, monga kucheza ndi anzanu kuti muchite nawo zomwe mumakonda kapena zosangalatsa zina.

Maubale onse pakati pawo amangidwa pakukhulupirika, kuthandizana, ndi kukhulupirirana. Maubwenzi apamtima amathanso kumangidwa pachikondi. Kulemekezana ndi kubwererana kwa mikhalidwe iyi ndikofunikira posungitsa maubale onse. Kupanda kutero, ubalewo umakhala mbali imodzi.

Kukonza ubale

Kusunga maubwenzi komanso maubale ena zimafuna ntchito. Choyamba ndi chofunikira kwambiri ndi kulumikizana. Izi zimafuna kukambirana pamaso-pamaso pamalingaliro anu. Ngakhale kutumizirana mameseji ndi kutumizirana mauthenga pa intaneti kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa nthawi zina, nthawi zambiri sikupereka zotsatira zomwezo.

Nthawi ina muubwenzi, pamabuka mkangano. Momwe mungachitire ndi izi zitsimikizira ngati kusamvana kumalimbitsa ubale kapena ayi. M'malo mongopewa kukangana, ndikofunikira kuti muzikambirana ndikumvera malingaliro awo.

Ngati chinachake chikukusowetsani mtendere kuntchito kapena kusukulu, lankhulani. Ngati mukukumana ndi mavuto ndi mnzanu, wachibale wanu, kapena mnzanu, onetsetsani kuwauza. Tikukhulupirira kuti abwezera ndi ulemu komanso kuwona mtima.

Kuwonjezera pa kuwona mtima ndi kulankhulana momasuka, nkofunikanso kuti:

• Khazikitsani malire.
• Khalani omvetsera mwachidwi.
• Sonyezani mnzanu ulemu nthawi zonse.
• Khalani ndi malingaliro abwino.
• Khalani omasuka kutsutsidwa komanso kupereka malingaliro anu osalola kuti zomwe mukumva zikulamulire.

Kunena tsanzikana

Osati maubale onse amakhala amoyo wonse. M'malo mwake, ena sangapitirirebe kucheza nawo. Ndipo zili bwino. Zimakhala zachilendo kuti maubwenzi ena amatha. Pali zinthu zomwe zimakhudza mayanjano anu onse.

Mukaganiza zakutha kwaubwenzi, mutha kuganiza zopatukana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma maubwenzi ena atha kutha, nawonso.

Mwachitsanzo, mukamaliza sukulu, mwina simungalumikizane ndi aphunzitsi anu onse ndi ophunzira anzanu. Zomwezi zimachitika mukamasiya ntchito ndikupita ku ina.

Ndizosatheka kusunga maubwenzi onse m'moyo wanu kwamuyaya. Izi ndizowona makamaka pachibwenzi chachiwiri.

Tengera kwina

Kuyanjana pakati pa anthu kumakhudza mbali zonse za moyo wathu, kuphatikiza kunyumba, ntchito, komanso zosangalatsa. Popanda maubwenzi olimba, ndizotheka kukhala osungulumwa komanso wopanda pake monga munthu. Mwinanso mungamve kuti mukusowa thandizo lachikhalidwe.

Lero, ndikosavuta kuposa kale kuphonya maubale pakati pa anthu chifukwa chaukadaulo womwe umalimbikitsa kulumikizana kwadijito. Anthu omwe amagwira ntchito kunyumba amalephera kulumikizana ndi anzawo ndi anzawo. Anzake ndi abale angasankhe kulemberana mameseji m'malo mongodyera limodzi kukacheza.

Pangani mfundo kuti muwone abale anu ndi anzanu pamasom'pamaso, kapena onani zochitika zanu kwanuko ndi zinthu zina zapaintaneti kuti muwone momwe mungachitire zinthu mogwirizana ndi anthu.

Pomaliza, simungathe kupanga ubale pakati pa anthu ngati mulibe ubale wabwino ndi inu nokha.

Tengani nthawi kuti mudzidziwe nokha ndikuwononga ndalama kuti mudzisamalire. Ngati pali zinthu zina zomwe zikukulepheretsani kucheza ndi ena, ganizirani zolankhula ndi othandizira kuti akuthandizeni ndikuwongolera.