Zimatenga Mudzi (Wowona)

Zamkati

• Lowani mudzi weniweni
• Postpartum mu mliri
• Zida zenizeni za amayi atsopano
• Kuyamwitsa zothandizira

Kutha kulumikiza pa intaneti kwandipatsa mudzi womwe sindinakhalepo nawo.

Nditakhala ndi pakati ndi mwana wathu wamwamuna, ndimakhala wokakamizidwa kwambiri kuti ndikhale ndi "mudzi". Kupatula apo, buku lililonse la mimba lomwe ndimawerenga, pulogalamu iliyonse ndi tsamba lawebusayiti lomwe ndimayendera, ngakhale abwenzi komanso abale omwe anali ndi ana kale, zimandikumbutsa mobwerezabwereza kuti kukhala ndi mwana "kumatengera mudzi."

Lingalirolo linandisangalatsadi. Ndikanakonda kukhala ndi agogo ndi azakhali pafupi kuti azindisamalira pambuyo pobereka, ndikufika kunyumba kwathu atanyamula zakudya zophikidwa kunyumba komanso zaka zanzeru.

Tsopano poti mwana wanga wamwamuna wabadwa, zingakhale zabwino kukhala ndi mlongo wanga pafupi kuti azisamalira ana kuti ine ndi mwamuna wanga tizitha tsiku loyenera (chifukwa, tivomerezane, tsiku usiku mulibe funso mukakhala ndi mwana wakhanda).

Ndingapereke chilichonse kuti ndikhale pafupi ndi abwenzi anga kuti azitha kuyandikira khofi (chabwino, vinyo) kuti athe kufotokoza za zovuta za amayi pamene timawona ana athu akusewera limodzi pansi.

Mudzi wodziwika bwino sunangokhala wosangalatsa, ndikofunikira. Anthu ndi nyama zocheza. Tifunikira wina ndi mnzake kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.

Tsoka ilo, masiku ano ndikuchepa kwambiri kukhala m'malo omwe banja lanu komanso anzanu amakhala. Ngakhale kuti ndine womaliza m'banja la ana asanu, sindinakhale m'mudzimo momwemo kuposa mchimwene m'modzi kwazaka zopitilira khumi.

Banja langa lafalikira ku United States ndi Canada. Banja la amuna anga limakhalanso m'dziko lonselo. Ndikudziwa makolo ena ambiri omwe ali m'bwatomo lomwelo. Ngakhale kukhala ndi mudzi kumamveka bwino, sizotheka kwa ambiri a ife.

Kukhala kutali ndi achibale anu kumatanthauza makolo ambiri obadwa kumene amadzimva kukhala osungulumwa komanso osungulumwa panthawi yomwe amafunikira thandizo. Pomwe kukhumudwa pambuyo pobereka kumaganiziridwa kuti kumachitika chifukwa cha zinthu zingapo kuphatikiza mahomoni ndi biology, zidawonetsa kuti kudzipatula kumathanso kuyambitsa.

Izi ndizokhudza makamaka munthawi ya COVID-19 ndikusunthika kwakuthupi, pomwe sitingakhale ndi achibale athu komanso anzathu. Mwamwayi, pali mtundu watsopano wam'mudzi womwe ukuwoneka - umodzi womwe sitifunikira kukhala pafupi mwathupi kuti talumikizidwe.

Lowani mudzi weniweni

Tithokoze ukadaulo wamakono (makamaka nsanja zamisonkhano monga Zoom) timatha kulumikizana ndi abale, abwenzi, komanso nthandizo yayikulu m'njira zomwe sitinachitepo kale. Inemwini, m'njira zambiri, ndimamva kuthandizidwa.

Asanalamulire padziko lonse lapansi, misonkhano yamabanja yomwe aliyense amatha kupita imachitika kamodzi pachaka, kawiri, ngati titakhala ndi mwayi. Kukhala motalikirana kwambiri, tidayenera kuphonya masiku obadwa ndi achibale athu, christenings ndi bat mitzvahs.

Kuyambira kutsekedwa, palibe m'modzi wa abale athu yemwe wasowa chikondwerero chimodzi. Takhala ndi maphwando okumbukira tsiku lobadwa pa WhatsApp ndipo takhala tikukumana pamodzi patchuthi chomwe sitimachita monga Pasika.

Kulumikizana pafupifupi kwandithandizanso kuti ndizitha kuwona anzanga pafupipafupi. Zimatenga miyezi kuti akhazikitse mgwirizano ndi zibwenzi zanga. Tsopano tili ndi FaceTime ndikakhala ndi mafunso amayi atsopano, omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala! Popeza tonse tili kunyumba ndipo sitikusowa kupeza chisamaliro cha ana, kukonza ndandanda za nthawi yosangalala sikunakhalepo kosavuta chonchi.

Mwana wanga akupanga abwenzi atsopano, nawonso. Timapita ku gulu la amayi ndi ine mlungu uliwonse, lomwe limapita pa intaneti pambuyo poletsa malo okhala. Kumeneko, amakawona makanda ena ndikuphunzira nyimbo ndi machitidwe otukuka.

Inenso, ndapanga maubwenzi atsopano ndi amayi ochokera mgululi ndipo nthawi zonse zimakhala zosangalatsa "kuthamangira" pakati pawo ndi makanda awo mosiyanasiyana, monga yoga ya banja komanso kalasi ya barre.

Ma playdate a FaceTime ndiosavuta makamaka chifukwa amatha kukhala afupikitsa mphindi 5 ndipo mutha kudumphadumpha mwana wanu akasungunuka.

Postpartum mu mliri

Poyamba, ndidakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri ndi nthawi yoletsa kukhala kunyumba. Zinkawoneka zodabwitsa kuti ine ndi mwana wanga timangotuluka pambuyo poti timabereka pambuyo poti tibwerere kwathu.

Koma ndinazindikira mwachangu mwayi wapadera womwe tili nawo tsopano. Popanda cholepheretsa kuyandikira, ndimakhala ndi mwayi wopezeka ndi omwe sindinakadakhala nawo. Zilibe kanthu kuti wina kapena china chakhazikitsidwa.

Ndagwiritsa ntchito izi ndikugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wodziwika bwino wazamimba wokhala mumzinda wina, ndikukumana ndi othandizira anga, ndikuchita zokambirana ndi katswiri wazakumwa kumpoto, ndipo, pamene tayandikira nthawi yophunzirira kugona, akatswiri padziko lonse lapansi (kwenikweni) amapezeka kwa ife.

Ndinkayembekezera kuti ndidziwitse mwana wanga wamwamuna ku mzinda wathu, koma kukhala ndi mudzi weniweni kwandilola kuti ndimudziwitse dziko lapansi.

Ngakhale palibe chomwe chingalowe m'malo mwamphamvu yakukhudza kwa anthu kapena kulumikizana kwamoyo, kutha kubwera limodzi pa intaneti kwatilola kulumikizana m'njira zomwe sitinaganizirepo. Chiyembekezo changa ndi chakuti tonsefe tizikhala olumikizidwa pokhapokha olekanitsidwa atachotsedwa, ngakhale atadutsa pazenera.

Zida zenizeni za amayi atsopano

Mutha kupanga mudzi wanu weniweni wothandizira. Nawu mndandanda wa malingaliro amomwe mungayambire.

Kuyamwitsa zothandizira

• La Leche League. LLL mwina ndiye chithandizo chodziwika bwino kwambiri komanso chakale kwambiri kwa makolo akuyamwitsa. LLL ili ndi machaputala padziko lonse lapansi, imafunsira kwaulere pafoni, komanso imalumikiza makolo kudzera pagulu lawo lothandizira pa Facebook.
• Lactation Ulalo. Wopangidwa ndi International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, yemwenso ndi RN komanso mayi wa ana awiri, tsambali likufuna kupatsa mphamvu makolo oyamwitsa ndi makanema omwe amafunidwa, makanema apa vidiyo, ndi mauthenga a pa intaneti. Amaperekanso maphunziro a imelo aulere a masiku 6 ndi zofunikira zoyamwitsa.
• Mkaka. Tsambali limapereka makalasi osiyanasiyana apakompyuta pamalipiro ang'onoang'ono, kuyambira pakupopa pantchito mpaka kukulimbikitsani.

• Sarah Ezrin ndi wolimbikitsa, wolemba, mphunzitsi wa yoga, komanso mphunzitsi wa yoga. Ku San Francisco, komwe amakhala ndi amuna awo ndi galu wawo, Sarah akusintha dziko lapansi, ndikuphunzitsa kudzikonda kwa munthu m'modzi nthawi imodzi. Kuti mumve zambiri za Sarah chonde pitani patsamba lake, www.sarahezrinyoga.com.