Kalata yochokera kwa Mkonzi: Trimester Yovuta Kwambiri Kuposa Onse

Zamkati

• Zomwe ndikukhumba ndikadadziwa pamenepo
• Kusabereka chinali chinthu chathu
• Izi ndizo ayi ife
• Kukhala chete sikuli golide kwambiri
• Chiyembekezo sichimasulidwa

Zomwe ndikukhumba ndikadadziwa pamenepo

Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa ndisanayese kutenga mimba.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa kuti zizindikiritso za mimba sizimawoneka nthawi yomweyo mukangoyamba kuyesa. Ndizomvetsa manyazi kangati pomwe ndimaganiza kuti ndili ndi pakati popanda chifukwa.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa kuti chifukwa choti ine ndi amuna anga tidadya bwino kwambiri ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi, sizimakupatsani njira yosavuta yopita kumimba. Ndife timadzimadzimadzimadzimadzimadzimadzadzudzadzidzidzidzidzidzidzidzidzidzimudziko todzichitira limodzi-timaganiza kuti tili pachiwonekere.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa kuti kupalasa njinga miyendo mlengalenga kwa mphindi 20 titagonana sikungowonjezera mwayi wanga. Hei, mwina uko kunali kokachita masewera olimbitsa thupi mosachepera?

Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa kuti kutenga pakati kumatha kukhala gawo lovuta kwambiri paulendo wakulera. Ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa kuti banja limodzi mwa 8 limavutika kutenga pakati. Ndikulakalaka winawake atandichenjeza kuti kusabereka ndichinthu, ndipo mwina kutero wathu chinthu.

Kusabereka chinali chinthu chathu

Pa 14 February, 2016, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinazindikira kuti tinali pakati pa mabanja 1 mwa mabanja 8 alionse. Tidakhala tikuyesera kwa miyezi 9. Ngati mudakhalako moyo wanu potengera kukonzekera nthawi yogonana, kutenga kutentha kwa thupi lanu, ndikuwonera timitengo tating'onoting'ono kuti mutulukire pa mayeso olephera oyembekezera atayesedwa mimba, miyezi 9 ndi muyaya.

Ndinadwala pakumva, "Ndipatseni chaka - ndizomwe zingatenge nthawi yayitali!" chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti chibadwa changa chinali chanzeru kuposa malangizo aliwonse. Ndinadziwa kuti china chake sichinali bwino.

Pa Tsiku la Valentine, tinalandira uthenga kuti tili ndi mavuto osabereka. Mitima yathu idayima. Dongosolo lathu la moyo - lomwe tidakhomerera bwino mpaka pano - lidagwa.

Zomwe timafuna kuchita ndikuti mutu wa "kukhala ndi mwana" ukhale m'buku lathu. Sitinadziwe kuti zatsala pang'ono kukhala buku lawo, chifukwa kusabereka inali nkhondo yayitali yomwe sitinali okonzeka kumenya nkhondo.

Izi ndizo ayi ife

Nthawi yoyamba yomwe mumamva mawu oti kusabereka, simungathe kungoganiza, ayi, ayi, osati ife. Izi sizingatheke. Pali kukana, koma ndiye kuwawa kovomereza zenizeni kukugundani kwambiri ndikutenga mpweya wanu. Mwezi uliwonse womwe umadutsa osakwaniritsidwa maloto anu ndi cholemetsa china chowonjezedwa m'mapewa anu. Ndipo kulemera kwake kodikirira sikungapirire.

Sitinakonzekere kuti kusabereka kudzakhala ntchito yachiwiri yanthawi zonse. Tinayenera kulimbana ndi madokotala mazana ambiri, maopaleshoni, zopweteketsa mtima, ndikuwombera pambuyo powomberedwa ndikuyembekeza kuti mahomoni owonjezera a IVF, kunenepa, kutopa kwakuthupi ndi kwamaganizidwe kuchokera ku zonsezi kungadzetse khanda tsiku limodzi.

Tinali osungulumwa, osungulumwa, komanso manyazi chifukwa chiyani zimawoneka ngati ena onse omwe akutizungulira akutenga mimba mosavuta? Kodi ndife banja lokha padziko lapansi zomwe zidakumana ndi izi?

Zabwino ndi zoipa zake: Sitinali ife tokha. Pali mudzi kunja uko, ndipo onse ali m'bwatolo lomwelo, koma tikuyenera kukhulupirira kuti tiyenera kukhala chete chifukwa si nkhani yovuta, komanso yosangalatsa.

Kukhala chete sikuli golide kwambiri

Ulendowu ndi wovuta mokwanira, chifukwa chake kukhala chete sikuyenera kukhala gawo lamasewera. Ngati mukuvutika kuti mukhale ndi pakati, Healthline Parenthood ikudziwa kuti mufunika thandizo lina kuti musamve nokha. Cholinga chathu ndikusintha zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kusabereka kotero kuti anthu amve mphamvu yakugawana nkhani yawo, osachita manyazi.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake tidapanga The Real First Trymester chifukwa, kwa ena a ife, kuyesa kutenga mimba ndi trimester yovuta kwambiri kuposa onse.

Nkhanizi zimatanthawuza kuti zikulumikizane ndi inu, kuti zikuthandizireni, komanso kuti zikuthandizeni kumva kuti ndinu gawo lamudzi. Mumva upangiri ndi chilimbikitso kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe adakhalapo mu kalatayi kwa wachichepere, momwe kusabereka sikuyenera kukhalanso chinsinsi, komanso nkhani ya mayi yemwe kuzungulira kwake kudathetsedwa tsiku lomwe amayenera kutero yambani chifukwa cha COVID-19. Mudzalandira chithandizo chazinthu ngati mukudabwa kuti IVF ikuphatikizapo chiyani, mutatha kuyesa IUI nthawi yayitali bwanji, ndi mtundu wanji wa yoga womwe ungakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ndi chonde.

Ulendo wosabereka ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kuyambira paulendo wapayekha, chifukwa chake tikukhulupirira kuti nkhanizi zikulimbikitsani kuti mugawane nkhani yanu, kaya ndi pa Instagram kapena kuti mukadye chakudya chamadzulo ndi anzanu ogwira nawo ntchito. Tsegulani mtima wanu kuti chilichonse chomwe mungagawane, ngakhale chitakhala chimodzi chaching'ono, chitha kuthandiza wina, ndipo chimathandizanso kupeza mudzi wanu.

Chiyembekezo sichimasulidwa

Ulendo wanga wosabereka udandiphunzitsa zambiri za omwe tili ngati banja, momwe ndimakhalira, komanso omwe tili makolo tsopano. Pomwe ndimakhala apa ndikulemba izi, ndikumamvetsera mphika wanga wazaka pafupifupi ziwiri wazomwe ndimapanga, ndimaganiza za zinthu zonse zomwe ndikulakalaka ndikadadziwa nthawiyo. Ngati mukukumana ndi zofananira, awa ndi maphunziro omwe mudzatenge nawo panjira.

Mphamvu zanu zidzakudabwitsani. Pali 1 m'modzi mwa anthu 8 omwe amadutsamo chifukwa ndikukhulupirira kuti zimatengera munthu wapadera kapena maanja olimba kuti athe kudzuka m'mawa uliwonse ndikukumana ndi kusabereka m'maso.

Ulendowu ndi wautali. Ladzazidwa ndi kupweteka mtima. Koma ngati mungayang'ane mphothoyo, ndipo mtima wanu utatseguka pazambiri zotheka kubweretsa mwana padziko lino lapansi komanso banja lanu, mutha kusiya pang'ono gawo lanu.

Monga banja, kulimbana kwathu kudangotipangitsa kuyandikana. Zinatipanga ife kukhala makolo olimba chifukwa ngakhale pali masiku okhala ndi mwana wolimba, sitimatenga ngakhale m'modzi mopepuka. Komanso, tikamadutsa ku gehena osabereka, tidakhala zaka zitatu tikuyenda kukawona dziko lapansi, kuwona anzathu, ndikukhala ndi banja lathu. Ndidzakhala wokondwa kwamuyaya chifukwa cha nthawi yowonjezerayi yomwe tinali nayo - tonsefe.

Lero ndi nthawi yapadera yolimbana ndi kusabereka. Mtima wanga umapweteka chifukwa cha omwe chithandizo chamankhwala chidachotsedwa kwamuyaya chifukwa cha coronavirus. Koma pali china chake chomwe ndidapeza kuti chikuyenda bwino pamaakaunti onse osabereka a Instagram omwe ndimatsatira, ndikuti: Chiyembekezo sichimasulidwa.

Ndipo izi zimapita kwa aliyense amene akufuna mwana tsopano. Ngakhale pakhoza kukhala kuchedwa kuti maloto anu akwaniritsidwe, musataye chiyembekezo. Nthawi iliyonse yomwe timalandira uthenga woyipa kuchokera kwa adotolo - omwe nthawi zambiri anali - gawo langa limagwedezeka, ndipo zinali zovuta kupitilirabe, koma tinatero, chifukwa sitinataye chiyembekezo. Ngati izi zikuwoneka kuti ndizosavuta kuzinena kuposa kuzichita pakadali pano, tikumvetsetsa. Tikukhulupirira kuti Healthline Parenthood itha kukhala mudzi wanu pompano ndikukukumbutsani kuti chiyembekezo sichimasulidwe.

Jamie Webber
Mkonzi Wolemba, Parenthood