Lindsey & Tiger: Chifukwa Chotani Akazi Olimba Amacheza Ndi Amuna Ofooka

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Mungaganize kuti olakwitsa 27 amafanana ndi mbendera zofiira 27 zowoneka ngati ndege zampikisano Lindsey Vonn mwaukadaulo pa slalom-kuti akhale patali, kutali ndi Tiger Woods. M'malo mwake, Vonn wazaka 28 wasankha kunyalanyaza mfundo zochititsa manyazi komanso zosokoneza kwambiri, kuphatikiza zomwe zimafanana ndi mkazi wakale wa 37 wazaka zakubadwa, Elin Nordegren.

Osanena kuti palibe mwayi wachiwiri kapena chiwombolo chonse, koma pakati pa nkhaniyi ndi woimba Rihanna abwereranso ndi rapper Chris Brown, yemwe adamumenya moyipa mu 2009, sitingachitire mwina koma kudabwa: akazi kunyengedwa ndi amuna achinyengo?

"Chifukwa chomwe azimayi amakonda kukhala ndi ma narcissist okongola, monga Tiger Woods ndi Chris Brown a mdziko lapansi, ndi chifukwa chakuti amawapeza masiku angapo abwino," akutero a Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., LA katswiri wazamisala yemwe ali ndi chilolezo komanso wolemba buku latsopanoli Ndiwe Chifukwa Chake Umadya. "Chifukwa chakuti amunawa nthawi zambiri amakhala ochita bwino kwambiri, amatha kukuchitirani bwino, ndipo ndi momwe mumakhalira mwadzidzidzi kuti mukhale ndi munthu wachiwerewere."

Akakhala kuti amamulodza, azimayi omwewo nthawi zambiri amalakwitsa molakwika monga nkhanza, kunyozana mawu, komanso kusakhulupirika. "Ndi nyambo yakale ndikusintha," akutero Durvasula. "Anyamatawa akamayatsa, amakhala, koma akachoka, iwalani."

Othandizira a Mdyerekezi atha kunena kuti Woods ndi Vonn ndi awiri abwino. Fufuzani wolemba Chris Jones ngakhale adalemba pa tweet kuti ndi "machesi opangidwa mu slogan kumwamba." (Woods amavomerezedwa ndi Nike, yemwe mawu ake akuti "Ingochitani," pamene Vonn ali ndi Under Armour, yomwe imagwiritsa ntchito "I will.") Mwina chomwe chimagwira ntchito kwa othamanga otchukawa ndi chakuti akhoza kudulidwa kuchokera kunyezimira komweko. , chovala champikisano chodzikonda.

"Ochita maseŵera ambiri apamwamba amayenera kukhala onyoza kuti ayese kutsutsa zomwe ambiri amaona kuti n'zotheka," akutero Durvasula. "Nthawi zambiri, ochita zachiwerewere amakhala othandizana wina ndi mnzake chifukwa akusewera masewera omwewo, kotero palibe amene amamva kuti akusowa." Zikafika kwa ma celebs, makamaka, kulengeza kulikonse ndikodziwika bwino, kotero ndizopambana maphwando onse awiri, akuwonjezera. M'malo mwake, ngati banja lamphamvu, kukhala limodzi kumangowonjezera chinthu chawo chabwino (mwina chomwe chidakopa Kim Kardashian kupita ku Kanye West), zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubalewo ukhale wosangalatsa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake akatswiri amakanema amacheza ndi akatswiri ena amakanema.

Chifukwa ndikosavuta kugwa chifukwa cha kugwedezeka - pafupifupi tonsefe timachita nthawi ina - apa pali zizindikiro zitatu zomwe Durvasula akuwonetsa kuti azisamala kuti apewe kukopedwa ndi wotayika:

1. Iwe Wakhazikika M'dziko Lake

Muli miyezi ingapo ndipo sanakumanepo ndi anzanu, koma mumawona abwenzi ake nthawi zonse. Mukuwoneka kuti mumadya nthawi zonse kumalo odyera omwe amakonda. Ndipo mukayamba kukamba za tsiku lovuta kuntchito, sakuwoneka kuti ali ndi chinkhoswe. "Samalani zinthu izi chifukwa zikuwonetsa kusakhudzidwa ndi inu komanso kusalumikizana," akutero a Durvasula. "Anthu ambiri amalakwitsa kuti amangofuna kuti mukhale mbali ya dziko lake, koma izi zidzakhala zovuta pakapita nthawi."

Kumukonda kapena Kumusiya? "Lumikizanani mwachangu, osasandutsa macheza, kuti mungafune kuti adziwe anzanu ndikuyesa zakudya zomwe mumakonda mdera lanu," akutero. "Ngati kulera sikumamupangitsa kuti asinthe pang'ono, ndiye kudzuka kwanu."

2. Mukufuna Kumusintha

Zongopeka za azimayi ambiri ndikuti "Ndikufuna kumupulumutsa" komanso "Ndikhala mwana wake wamkazi," akutero Durvasula. "Amawona m'mutu mwawo kuti atha kuthandiza amunawa kuti asinthe kukhala abwinoko, koma kodi mukufunitsitsadi kukhala ndi munthu amene akufunika kupulumutsidwa?"

Kumukonda kapena Kumusiya? "Ganizirani za chithandizo ngati ubalewu ukutanthauza zambiri kwa inu, koma apo ayi, chotsani gehena," akulangiza. "Anthu amatha kusintha mpaka pamlingo wina koma osati momwe mungaganizire."

3. Mumamva Ngati Pakhomopo

Ndi chinthu chimodzi ngati wachedwa kuphwando la chakudya chamadzulo chifukwa adatsekeka m'misewu, koma ndi chinanso ngati amachedwa kwambiri kapena akuwonongerani zolinga zanu popanda kukupatsani mutu. Chomwe chimapangitsa kuti zinthu ziipireipire ndikuti simungamuchitire izi-mumawonetsa zochitika zake zonse, nthawi zonse pa nthawi yake.

Kumukonda kapena Kumusiya? Ngati mumakonda zaubwenziwu, muyenera kunena kuti, 'Sindikumva kuti mumachedwa nthawi zonse,' "akutero a Durvasula. Sichiyenera kukhala chiphokoso; ndikumuuza kuti ndizopweteka.Osadikirira kuti zinthu zidzikonze.

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