Choseweretsa Chachiwerewere ichi sichimapangidwa ngati mbolo - Apa ndichifukwa chake ndichofunika kwambiri

Zamkati

• Munthawi yachisangalalo, zogonana ndizovuta
• Momwemonso, zopangidwa ndi Maude sizongokhala azimayi okha - ndizophatikiza amuna ndi akazi
• Pafupifupi kugonana konse kumagulitsidwa ngati chinsinsi cha mabanja owongoka okha

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Cholinga cha Maude sikungathetse mavuto anu okhudzana ndi kugonana, koma ndikuwonetsa momwe kugonana kungakhalire kosavuta. Koma njira yokhayo yopangira zovuta kuzilingalira ngati gawo la thanzi lanu la tsiku ndi tsiku.

Kodi kugonana kungakhale kosavuta? Monga mphunzitsi wa mbatata (komanso mkonzi wa zaumoyo), ndimaganizira za funsoli nthawi iliyonse yomwe zochitika zachiwerewere zosamalidwa bwino zimasewera - kapena ndimayenera kusunthira zinthu kuchipinda. Kodi ndi njira iti yabwino yolimbikira kuti agwiritse ntchito kondomu osapha vibe? Sakuwonetsa kuti pa TV.

Pamene "Grace ndi Frankie" wa Netflix adachita zachiwerewere, zidamveka zosintha, koma chifukwa cha malingaliro azamasewera. Ndimakumbukira ndikuyang'ana chofufumitsa chofiirira mu - moona - mantha. Kufufuza mwachangu kwa Google kwa 'vibrator' kumawonetsanso kuti chiwonetsero cha bulbous cha chiwonetserochi sichiri kutali kwambiri ndi zeitgeist wazoseweretsa zachiwerewere.

Ma Vibrator nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi phokoso lalitali kapena lofiirira lomwe limakuwa, "Musaiwale kundibisa!" Mtundu uwu wa "kugonana monga taboo" ndiwokhazikika kwambiri mwakuti ndimachita manyazi ndikamagonana pazenera.

Mnzanga yemwe ndimagwira naye ntchito adadziwitsa Maude, kampani yamakono yofunika kugonana, ndinali… wosokonezeka. Koma mosangalatsa choncho. Kodi nditha kukhala pazogulitsa zanga pabedi langa agogo anga asanakwere ku helo? Mapangidwe awo ndi mitundu yawo imagwirizana mosasunthika m'magazini yamoyo waku Sweden osakweza ma alarm - ndipo ndizofanana kwambiri pakuphatikizika kwa moyo wogonana omwe amapanga a Eva Goicochea ndi Dina Epstein akufuna.

Munthawi yachisangalalo, zogonana ndizovuta

“Tazindikira kuti ndizovuta [komanso zosokoneza] kuti anthu ambiri agule zinthuzi. Muyeneranso kugula makondomu ndi mafuta ogulitsira, kenako mumagula zoseweretsa zogonana, zomwe zikunenedwa molakwika kwa azimayi kuti 'maliseche anu siofunika,' ”Eva amandiuza kudzera pa kucheza naye pavidiyo ndi Dina .

Ngakhale kugonana ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu, zikhalidwe ndi zokambirana zimatilimbikitsa kuti njira yopita ku chiwerewere ikhale yovuta momwe tingathere. Mayiko 24 okha ndi omwe amafunikira maphunziro azakugonana, ndipo ndi 13 okha mwa iwo omwe amafuna kuti maphunzirowa akhale olondola azachipatala. Chifukwa chake mwina ndichifukwa chake 30 peresenti ya azimayi aku koleji sangathe kuzindikira clitoris, ngakhale ziwerengero zikuwonetsa kuti azimayi 36 pa 100 aliwonse amafunikira kukondoweza kumene kubwera. (Guardian idanenanso kuti ndi akazi 35% okha ku UK omwe angatchule moyenera kutengera kwa akazi, ndipo ngakhale amuna ochepera amatha kuchita izi molondola.)

Eva amazindikira momwe kusilira uku kwamukhudzira atakula. "Chachikulu kwambiri kwa ine chinali kuganiza kuti kugonana kumangokhudza zokondweretsa amuna, chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti ndizomwe timaphunzitsidwa. Zimamvanso kuti matupi athu achikazi ndi ovuta chifukwa sitimayankhula za iwo mochuluka. Chifukwa chake - mumangochita manyazi kukafufuza ngati mutu wankhani ndipo mumavomereza kuti amuna amafika pachimake pomwe akazi satero. "

Ndikawafunsa kuti ali ndi upangiri wotani kwa mwana wawoyu, akuti: “Ndimachita maliseche koyambirira, ndipo ndimadziuza kuti aliyense ayenera kukhala wotetezeka, womasuka, komanso wokhutira. Sizingokhala za munthu m'modzi yekha. "

Momwemonso, zopangidwa ndi Maude sizongokhala azimayi okha - ndizophatikiza amuna ndi akazi

“Mitundu yomwe yakhalapo m'zaka zaposachedwa inali yokhudza akazi. Tonsefe tili ndi zowawa zomwe timakumana nazo pogula izi. Nanga bwanji kunalibe mtundu wophatikiza amuna ndi akazi? "

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa 2014 wa FHM, mag magwiridwe amphongo omwe tsopano satha ntchito, 70% ya amuna adapeza kugula zoseweretsa zogonana ndizochititsa manyazi. “Tikudziwa kuti pali anthu ena omwe samadziwika kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi ndipo anthu onse amagonana. Tikuyesera kupanga zinthu zomwe zikugwirizana ndi zosowa za anthu - aliyense. "

Izi zikuwonetsedwa mu mawonekedwe a vibrator yawo, yomwe siyimidwe oyimilira kwambiri. Ndizosavomerezeka kwathunthu. "Maonekedwewo adapangidwira kuti mugwiritse ntchito kulikonse komwe mukufuna, ndipo simuyenera kukhala mayi kuti muwagwiritse ntchito. Sitikulangiza kuti aliyense aziyika mkati mwa [thupi lawo] kulikonse, koma lingaliro ndiloti mawonekedwe a ergonomic ndiwothandiza pachilichonse. Manja anu ngakhale, ndi abwino kwambiri. ” Dina amandiwonetsa chojambulira, chomwe ndi misozi yayitali ndipo chimakwanira bwino mdzanja lake, ngati thanthwe labwino kwambiri.

"Ma vibrator ambiri kunja kuno ali pakati pa 10 mpaka 20 mayendedwe osiyanasiyana," akutero, "Izi ndizosavuta. Chimodzi. Awiri. Atatu. ”

Koma Maude sanasinthe chilichonse chokhudza vibrator. Imasunga zinthu zabwino - monga kukhala yoyendetsa USB, yopanda madzi, ndikuyendetsa pamakina oyeserera ndikuyesedwa. Amayi omwe ali ndi ma vibrator awo amatha kuzindikira kung'ung'udza uku. "Kugwedeza kumeneku ndi kwamphamvu kwambiri, ndipo azimayi ambiri amakonda kugwedeza mwamphamvu, koma zoseweretsa kunja uko zomwe zimawonetsa kuti ali nazo ndizowopsa pang'ono," akutero Dina, ponena za ma vibrator otentha a pinki omwe makampani akhala akupopa msika.

Eva ndi Dina akuyembekeza kuti chiwonetserochi chipindulitsa. Koma, koposa pamenepo, akuyembekeza kuti malonda awo akhoza kuyamba kusintha. "Pali zambiri zoti zichitike kuchokera pamaphunziro ndi mfundo," Eva avomereza. "Koma kwa ife, tidazizindikira motere: Ngati mupanga njira ina yabwinoko - chinthu chomwe anthu amamva ngati chimaperekedwa ndi mawu osavuta, omwe" amayendetsa "kugonana monga chinthu cha tsiku ndi tsiku - [ndiye] titha kukhudza kusintha ndikuyamba zokambirana zomwe zingasinthe kwenikweni. ”

Zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi chikhalidwe cha kugonana zikusintha kale, mwachangu. Pakati pa #MeToo, azimayi ndi abambo akukambirana, akuwonetsa momwe manyazi, manyazi, komanso maphunziro osagonana adakwaniritsa zomwe amakonda ndikukhala ogonana. (Ndizosadabwitsa kuti sayansi imanena kuti kugonana kosayenera kumakhudzanso thanzi lanu.)

Pafupifupi kugonana konse kumagulitsidwa ngati chinsinsi cha mabanja owongoka okha

Kwa ine, monga munthu yemwe nthawi zonse amakhala akuganizira za lingaliro lachiwerewere ngati dera lamwamuna, njira yolandirira Maude ndiyosangalatsa chifukwa cha maphunziro ake mosazindikira.

Mafuta awiri a Maude, imodzi yopangidwa ndi aloe komanso silicone ina ($ 25), ali m'mabotolo opanda phulusa. (Momwe Eva ndi Dina amandiwonetsera chida chawo, zokumbukira zoyipa zimayambukiranso. Chomwe ndidakumana nacho ndi lube, botolo lofinya la pulasitiki linali loterera ndikuphimbidwa ndi fumbi pambuyo pake.) pafupi ndi kama wako.

Makondomu awo opanda fungo ($ 12 pa 10) ali mu paketi ya buttercup, kutanthauza kuti mukudziwa mbali iti njira yolondola (m'mphepete kunja!) mukatsegula - sindinadziwe kuti makondomu anali ndi njira yoyenera. Ndipo vibrator yofewa, ya silicone ($ 45)? Chabwino, mawonekedwewo samatsimikizira lingaliro loti ndikufuna mbolo kusangalala.

Eva ndi Dina amalangiza zoyendera m'malo mogula chilichonse. Kupatula apo, kutha kugula chilichonse nthawi imodzi ndichofunikira kwambiri pa Maude. Koma kodi kugula zinthu zogonana kumakhala kosavuta kumapangitsa kugonana kukhala kosavuta?

Pamapeto pake, zimadalira munthuyo. Kugonana ndimunthu payekha. Cholinga cha Maude sikungathetse vuto lanu ndi malonjezo olonjezedwa monga makampani ena. M'malo mwake, akukuwonetsani kuti kugonana ndi gawo la thanzi lanu la tsiku ndi tsiku, osati kuyima usiku umodzi.

"Funso lomwe tafunsa ambiri a ife ndi ili: 'Kodi mupanga malo oti anthu azikambirana wina ndi mnzake? Kodi padzakhala malo ophunzitsira ndi maphunziro? '”Eva amandiuza. “Tikukhulupirira kuti tifika kumeneko, kuti mtunduwu ukhala m'busa wachikhalidwe chimenecho. Sitikufuna kunena kuti muyenera kutimvera, chifukwa timakhulupirira ndi mtima wonse kuti kampani yopanga zinthu ikamapanga zinthu, nthawi zonse zimangokhala ngati zikuyesa kukugulitsani. Chifukwa chake sitikufuna kutenga mbali imeneyi. Tikungofuna kuti tikhale otsogolera omwe amapereka nsanjayi kuti anthu azikhala ndi zokambirana zomwe sizikutitsogolera nthawi zonse. "

Makampani onse, mumakampani aliwonse, akugulitsa moyo - opanga zoseweretsa zogonana samasulidwa ku izi. Koma moyo womwe makampani opanga zidole ambiri amapereka umapangitsa kuti anthu aziganiza zachiwerewere. Maude, kudzera mu unisex, kapangidwe kocheperako, akupereka zotsutsana. Mwa kapangidwe kake, popereka chojambulira chomwe sichikhala chachimuna kapena chofiirira, poika patsogolo ubale wamunthu m'malo mwa masewera omaliza - akuwononga misonkhano yomwe idapangitsanso zomwe anthu amakonda zogonana.

Kugonana sikuti kumangokhala kwamdima, nthawi yolimba kapena zokumana nazo. Ndi gawo laumoyo tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo njira yabwino yodziwira momwe kugonana kumagwirira ntchito pamoyo wanu ndikudziyikira nokha.

Maude ayambika pa Epulo 2, 2018 ndipo apereka makondomu, mitundu iwiri ya mafuta, zotetemera, ndi zida za "quickie". Zida zidzapezeka pa getmaude.com.