Kugonana Kwambiri Sikufanana ndi Chimwemwe Chochuluka, Likutero Phunziro Latsopano

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Ngakhale zitha kuwoneka zoonekeratu kuti kungotanganidwa nthawi zambiri ndi S.O yanu. sizikutanthauza kuti ubale wabwino kwambiri (ngati ukanakhala wophweka!), Kafukufuku wapeza kuti kugonana kochuluka kumafanana ndi chisangalalo chochuluka. Koma tsopano, chifukwa cha kafukufuku watsopano, pali chenjezo limodzi lalikulu: Mukamakhala achangu pafupipafupi amachita kukupangitsani kukhala osangalala, mudzakhala okondwa pambuyo pa kugonana kamodzi sesh pa sabata monga mukanakhala pambuyo anayi. (Tili mkatimo, onani Zolakwa 10 Zogonana Zomwe Zimakukwapulani M'thumba.)

Lofalitsidwa m'nyuzipepala Sayansi Yamaganizidwe Amunthu ndi Umunthu, phunziroli latengera kafukufuku wa mabanja opitilira 30,000 ku U.S. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, panalibe kusiyana pakati pa zomwe zapezedwa malinga ndi jenda, zaka, kapena kuti okwatiranawo adakwatirana kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji, adalongosola wofufuza wotsogolera komanso katswiri wa zamaganizo, Amy Muise, Ph.D, m'nyuzipepala. (Kotero amuna musatero mukufuna kugonana kuposa akazi? Malingaliro.)

Komabe, ulalowu umagwira ntchito kwa iwo okha omwe ali pachibwenzi. Chifukwa chiyani? Chabwino, kwa anthu osakwatira, kulumikizana pakati pa kugonana ndi chisangalalo kumadalira pazinthu zambiri, monga momwe zimakhalira pachibwenzi chomwe kugonana kumachitika (kodi ndinu abwenzi ndi maubwino? Kuyimirira usiku umodzi?) kugonana kunja kwa chibwenzi. Kwenikweni, monga munthu aliyense wosakwatiwa angakuuzeni: Ndizovuta, motero ndizosatheka kupanga lingaliro pankhani yokhudza kugonana komanso moyo wabwino.

Chonyamula? Inde, kugonana ndikofunikira kuti mukhalebe ndi ubale wapamtima ndi wokondedwa wanu, koma simukuyenera kuchita tsiku lililonse malinga ngati mukuchita ntchitoyo kamodzi pa sabata. Ndipo, zowona, kulankhulana kumakhala kofunika nthawi zonse, choncho ikani chizindikiro kwa munthu uyu musanapitirire: Zokambirana 7 Zomwe Muyenera Kukhala Nazo Kuti Mukhale ndi Moyo Wathanzi Wogonana.

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