Sindinachite Mantha Pokhala Ndi Banja. Ndinkawopa Kutaya Mmodzi

Zamkati

• Kukumana ndi mantha ngakhale atayika
• Kuyesera kutenga pakati ndimayendedwe othamanga
• Kuphunzira kukhala mwamantha ndi chisangalalo - nthawi yomweyo

Pambuyo povutika ndi zotayika zochuluka, sindinali wotsimikiza kuti ndinali wokonzeka kukhala mayi. Kenako ndinataya mwana. Nazi zomwe ndaphunzira.

Nthawi yoyamba yomwe tinakhala ndi pakati zinali zodabwitsa. Tida basi "Ndinakoka wopenyayo," milungu ingapo m'mbuyomo ndipo tinali patchuthi chathu nditangoyamba kumene kukhala ndi zizindikilo. Ndinawalonjera ndi chisakanizo chokana komanso kusakhulupirira. Zachidziwikire, ndinkachita nseru komanso chizungulire, koma ndimaganiza kuti ndiyotsalira.

Pamene kusamba kwanga kudachedwa masiku awiri ndipo mabere anga adayamba kupweteka, timadziwa. Tinalibe pakhomo pathupi kuchokera kuulendo wathu tisanayese mayeso akale okhudzana ndi pakati.

Mzere wachiwiri sunali wosiyana poyamba, koma amuna anga adayamba google. "Mwachiwonekere, mzere ndi mzere!" adatsimikizira kuwala. Tinathamangira ku Walgreens ndipo mayeso ena atatu pambuyo pake zinali zowonekeratu - tinali ndi pakati!

Kukumana ndi mantha ngakhale atayika

Sindinafune ana kwa moyo wanga wonse. Moona mtima, sindinadziwe kuti ndizotheka mpaka nditakumana ndi mwamuna wanga. Ndinadziuza ndekha kuti ndichifukwa ndinali wodziyimira pawokha. Ndinaseka kuti chinali chifukwa sindinkakonda ana. Ndinanamizira kuti ntchito yanga ndi galu wanga ndizokwanira.

Zomwe sindimaloleza kuvomereza ndikuti ndimachita mantha. Mukudziwa, ndinali nditatayika kwambiri pamoyo wanga wonse, kuyambira amayi anga ndi mchimwene wanga mpaka anzanga ochepa komanso abale ena apamtima. Osadandaula ndi mitundu ya zotayika zomwe tikhoza kukumana nazo pafupipafupi, monga kusunthira nthawi zonse kapena kukhala moyo womwe umasinthasintha.

Mwamuna wanga anali wotsimikiza kuti amafuna ana, ndipo ndinali wotsimikiza kuti ndimafuna kukhala naye, zimandikakamiza kuthana ndi mantha anga. Potero, ndinazindikira kuti sikuti sindikufuna banja. Ndinkaopa kuwataya.

Chifukwa chake, pomwe mizere iwiri idawonekera, sichinali chisangalalo chenicheni chomwe ndimamva. Zinali zoopsa. Mwadzidzidzi ndinkafuna mwanayu kuposa china chilichonse m'moyo wanga wonse, ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti ndinali ndi choti nditayike.

Pasanapite nthawi yayitali atayesedwa kuti tili ndi mantha, mwatsoka mantha athu adakwaniritsidwa, ndipo tidapita padera.

Kuyesera kutenga pakati ndimayendedwe othamanga

Ankakulimbikitsani kuti mudikire nthawi zitatu musanayesenso. Tsopano ndikudzifunsa ngati izi sizikukhudzana kwenikweni ndi kuchira kwa thupi komanso zambiri ndimaganizo a munthu, koma ndimangomva kuti kuyesa nthawi yomweyo kulidi lingaliro labwino. Kuti thupi limakhala lachonde pambuyo potaika.

Inde, zochitika zonse ndizosiyana, ndipo muyenera kufunsa adotolo kuti akusankhireni nthawi yoyenera, koma ndinali wokonzeka. Ndipo ndidadziwa zomwe ndikufuna tsopano. Nthawi iyi ikadakhala yosiyana kwambiri. Ndikanachita zonse bwino. Sindinasiye chilichonse mwangozi.

Ndinayamba kuwerenga mabuku ndikufufuza. Ndidawerenga "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" yolembedwa ndi Toni Wechsler kuyambira koyambirira mpaka kumapeto kwamasiku ochepa. Ndinagula thermometer ndipo ndinayamba kukondana kwambiri ndi khomo lachiberekero komanso madzimadzi. Zinkawoneka ngati zowongolera pomwe ndinali nditangomwalira kumene. Sindinamvetsetse kuti kutaya mphamvu ndikuyamba kukhala mayi.

Zinatitengera nthawi imodzi kuti tigwire diso la ng'ombe. Nditasiya kulira nditatha kuwonera kanema wamnyamata ndi galu wake, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tidangoyang'ana pang'ono. Ndidafuna kudikirira kuti ndiyese nthawi ino. Kuti muchepetse sabata lathunthu, kungotsimikiza.

Ndinapitiliza kutentha wanga m'mawa uliwonse. Kutentha kwanu kumakwera nthawi yovundikira, ndipo ngati kumakhala kotsika m'malo mocheperako pang'onopang'ono munthawi yanu yodziwika bwino ya luteal (masiku mutatha kutumphuka mpaka nthawi yanu), ndi chisonyezo champhamvu choti mutha kukhala ndi pakati. Anga anali okwera kwambiri, koma analinso ndi ma dipi ochepa.

M'mawa uliwonse panali kuzungulirazungulira. Ngati kutentha kunali kwakukulu, ndinkasangalala; ikamiza, ndinachita mantha. Mmawa wina udalowerera pansi pamunsi pomwe ndidatsimikiza kuti ndikuyambiranso. Ndekha ndi misozi, ndinathamangira kubafa ndikuyesa.

Zotsatira zidandidabwitsa.

Mizere iwiri yosiyana. Kodi izi zingakhale?

Ndinaitana wothandizira zaumoyo wanga mwamantha. Ofesiyi idatsekedwa. Ndinaimbira foni amuna anga kuntchito. "Ndikuganiza kuti ndikupita padera" sinali njira yomwe ndimafunira kutsogolera kulengeza zakumimba.

Wanga OB-GYN adafuna kugwira ntchito yamagazi, ndipo ine tonse koma ndidathamangira kuchipatala. M'masiku otsatira otsatira a 5 tidatsata milingo yanga ya hCG. Tsiku lililonse ndimadikirira mayankho anga, ndikutsimikiza kuti idzakhala nkhani yoyipa, koma manambalawo sanali kungowirikiza, anali akuchuluka. Zinachitikadi. Tinali ndi pakati!

O mulungu wanga, tinali ndi pakati.

Ndipo monga chimwemwe chidadzuka, momwemonso mantha. Chogudubuza chija chimazimiranso.

Kuphunzira kukhala mwamantha ndi chisangalalo - nthawi yomweyo

Nditamva kugunda kwamtima kwa mwanayo, ndinali mchipinda chadzidzidzi ku New York City. Ndinamva kuwawa kwambiri ndipo ndimaganiza kuti ndimapita padera. Mwanayo anali wathanzi.

Tidazindikira kuti ndi mwana wamwamuna, tidadumpha ndi chisangalalo.

Ndikakhala ndi tsiku lopanda zisonyezo m'miyezi itatu yoyambirira, ndimalira ndikuopa kuti ndikumutaya.

Nditamva kuti akumenya koyamba, zidandichotsa mpweya ndipo tidamupatsa dzina.

Mimba yanga itatenga pafupifupi miyezi 7 kuti iwonetse, ndinali wotsimikiza kuti anali pangozi.

Tsopano pamene ndikuwonetsa, ndipo akukankha ngati woponya mphotho, ndikubwerera mwadzidzidzi ndikusangalala.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadakuwuzani kuti mantha mwamatsenga adatha pathupi lachiwirili. Koma sindikutsimikiza kuti titha kukonda osawopa kutayika. M'malo mwake, ndikuphunzira kuti kukhala kholo ndikufunika kuphunzira kukhala ndi chimwemwe komanso mantha nthawi imodzi.

Ndikumvetsetsa kuti chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri ndicho, timawopa kuti chidzachotsedwa. Ndipo nchiyani chomwe chingakhale chamtengo wapatali, kuposa moyo womwe tikulenga mkati mwathu?

Sarah Ezrin ndi wolimbikitsa, wolemba, mphunzitsi wa yoga, komanso mphunzitsi wa yoga. Ku San Francisco, komwe amakhala ndi amuna awo ndi galu wawo, Sarah akusintha dziko lapansi, ndikuphunzitsa kukonda munthu mmodzi nthawi imodzi. Kuti mumve zambiri za Sarah chonde pitani patsamba lake, www.sarahezrinyoga.com.