Chifukwa Chake Ndi Nthawi Yothetsa Nthano ya Amayi Angwiro

Palibe chinthu chonga ungwiro mwa umayi. Palibe mayi wangwiro monga palibe mwana wangwiro kapena mwamuna wangwiro kapena banja langwiro kapena ukwati wangwiro.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Gulu lathu ladzaza ndi mauthenga, owonekera komanso obisika, omwe amachititsa amayi kuti azikhala osakwanira - {textend} ngakhale titagwira ntchito molimbika motani. Izi ndizowona makamaka masiku ano a digito momwe timakhala tikukhala ndi zithunzi zomwe zimabweretsa "ungwiro" m'mbali zonse za moyo - {textend} kunyumba, ntchito, thupi.

Ndine woyenera kuchititsa zina mwazithunzizo. Monga blogger wanthawi zonse komanso wopanga zinthu, ndine gawo la m'badwo womwe umapanga zithunzi zosangalatsa zomwe zimangowonetsa zokongola za miyoyo yathu. Komabe ndidzakhala woyamba kuvomereza kuti ngakhale malo ochezera a pa TV samakhala abodza nthawi zonse, ndichokwanira wopindika. Ndipo kupsinjika kwakukulu komwe kumapangitsa kukhala "mayi wangwiro" kumawononga thanzi lathu komanso chisangalalo chathu.

Palibe chinthu chonga ungwiro mwa umayi. Palibe mayi wangwiro monga palibe mwana wangwiro kapena mwamuna wangwiro kapena banja langwiro kapena ukwati wangwiro. Tikazindikira msanga ndikulandira chowonadi chofunikira ichi, timadzimasula ku zoyembekeza zosatheka zomwe zingawononge chimwemwe chathu ndikutichotsera kudzidalira.

Nditangokhala mayi zaka 13 zapitazo, ndinayesetsa kukhala mayi wangwiro yemwe ndidawawona pa TV ndikukula mzaka za m'ma 80 ndi 90. Ndinkafuna kukhala mayi wokongola, wachisomo, woleza mtima yemwe amachita zonse bwino komanso osataya ukazi wake.

Ndinawona umayi wabwino ngati chinthu chomwe mungakwanitse pogwira ntchito molimbika, monga ngati kupita kukoleji yabwino kapena kulembedwa ntchito yolembera maloto.

Koma kunena zoona, kukhala mayi sikunali kofanana ndi mmene ndinkaganizira ndili kamtsikana.

Zaka ziwiri ndili mayi ndidadzimva wokhumudwa, wosungulumwa, wosungulumwa komanso wosadziphatika kwa ine komanso ena. Ndinali ndi ana ochepera zaka ziwiri ndipo sindinkagona kwa maola oposa awiri kapena atatu usiku m'miyezi.

Mwana wanga wamkazi woyamba adayamba kuwonetsa zizindikilo zakuchedwa kukula (pambuyo pake adapezeka kuti ali ndi vuto lachibadwa) ndipo mwana wanga wamkazi wakhanda amandifunikira usana ndi usiku.

Ndidachita mantha kupempha thandizo chifukwa mopusa ndidaganiza kuti kupempha thandizo kumatanthauza kuti ndine mayi woyipa komanso wosakwanira. Ndidayesera kukhala chilichonse kwa aliyense ndikubisala kuseri kwa chigoba cha mayi wangwiro yemwe ali nazo zonse pamodzi. M'kupita kwa nthawi ndinagunda pansi ndipo anandipeza ndi matenda a postpartum.

Pakadali pano, ndidakakamizidwa kuyambiranso ndikuphunzira tanthauzo la umayi. Ndinayeneranso kudzitchula kuti ndine mayi - {textend} osati kutengera zomwe ena anena, koma kutengera zomwe zili zabwino kwa ine ndi ana anga.

Ndinali ndi mwayi wopeza chithandizo chamankhwala mwachangu ndipo pamapeto pake ndinathetsa vuto lofookali mothandizidwa ndi mankhwala opondereza nkhawa, kuthandizira mabanja, komanso kudzisamalira. Zinatenga miyezi yambiri yothandizira kulankhula, kuwerenga, kufufuza, kulemba nkhani, kusinkhasinkha, ndi kusinkhasinkha kuti potsirizira pake kuzindikira kuti lingaliro la mayi wangwiro linali nthano. Ndinafunika kusiya malingaliro owonongekazi ngati ndikufuna kukhala mayi yemwe amakwaniritsidwadi ndikukhalira ndi ana anga.

Kulekerera ungwiro kumatha kutenga nthawi yayitali kwa ena kuposa ena. Zimatengera umunthu wathu, banja lathu, komanso kufunitsitsa kwathu kusintha. Chimodzi chomwe chimatsimikizika, komabe, ndichakuti mukasiya ungwiro, mumayamba kuyamika chisokonezo ndi chisokonezo cha umayi. Maso anu amatsegulira kukongola konse komwe kumakhalapo chifukwa cha kupanda ungwiro ndipo mumayamba ulendo watsopano wokhala kholo mosamala.

Kukhala kholo loganizira ndikosavuta kuposa momwe timaganizira. Zimangotanthauza kuti tikudziwa bwino zomwe tikuchita munthawiyo. Timakhala okhutira kwathunthu komanso kuzindikira bwino za mphindi za tsiku ndi tsiku m'malo mongodzisokoneza ndi ntchito yotsatira kapena udindo. Izi zimatithandiza kuyamikira ndikusangalala ndi umayi monga kusewera masewera, kuwonera kanema, kapena kuphika limodzi ngati banja m'malo moyeretsa kapena kukonza chakudya choyenera cha Pinterest.

Kukhala kholo loganizira kumatanthauza kuti sitigwiritsanso ntchito nthawi yathu kudandaula ndi zomwe sizinachitike koma m'malo mwake timangoyang'ana pa zomwe tingadzichitire tokha ndi okondedwa athu munthawiyo, kulikonse komwe kungakhale.

Monga makolo, ndizofunika kwambiri kukhazikitsa zoyembekeza ndi zolinga kwa ife eni komanso ana athu. Kukumbukira chisokonezo ndi chisokonezo cha moyo kumapindulitsa banja lathu lonse powaphunzitsa momwe timalandirira tokha ndi okondedwa athu ndi mtima wonse. Timakhala achikondi, achifundo, olola, komanso okhululuka. Ndikofunika kuyankha mlandu pazomwe timachita tsiku ndi tsiku, koma tiyenera kukumbukira kukumbukira mbali zonse za amayi, kuphatikiza oyipa ndi oyipa.

Angela ndiye mlengi komanso wolemba blog yotchuka ya Mommy Diary. Ali ndi MA ndi BA mu Chingerezi ndi zojambulajambula komanso zaka zopitilira 15 zophunzitsa ndi kulemba. Atadzipeza yekha ngati mayi wokhala yekha komanso wovutika maganizo wa ana awiri, adafunafuna kulumikizana ndi amayi ena ndikusintha kukhala mabulogu. Kuyambira pamenepo, blog yake yasandulika komwe amakhala komwe amakhala komwe amalimbikitsa ndikukopa makolo padziko lonse lapansi ndi nkhani zake komanso zaluso zake. Amathandizira pafupipafupi masiku ano, Makolo, ndi The Huffington Post, ndipo adayanjana ndi ana ambiri, mabanja, komanso mitundu yamoyo. Amakhala ku Southern California ndi amuna awo, ana atatu, ndipo akugwira ntchito pabuku lake loyamba.