Kudzipatula Kunakupangitsani Kuti Muzilakalaka Kusintha Kwakukulu Kwa Moyo, Koma Kodi Muyenera Kutsatira?

Zamkati

• Primed for Action
• Yerengani
• Sewerani Judge ndi Jury
• Osagwa chifukwa cha "Arrival Fallacy"
• Ganizilani za Nthawi Yaitali
• Pomaliza, Ganizirani Mtengo Wosagwira Ntchito
• Onaninso za

Mwayi wake, pakali pano mukuganiza momwe zingakhalire zabwino kulowa munyumba yayikulu yokhala ndi kumbuyo kwabwino. Kapena kulota za kusiya ntchito yanu kuti mukwaniritse zina. Kapena kuganiza kuti ubale wanu ukhoza kukonzanso. Chifukwa ngati pali chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimapangitsa anthu kufuna kusuntha, kusuntha kulikonse, kukuchitika. Ndipo mnyamata, anthu ambiri amamatira.

Kwa chaka ndi theka zapitazi, masiku anu atha kukhala otanganidwa osagwira ntchito, kuphika, kuyeretsa, komanso kusamalira ana anu kapena ziweto zanu. Kusintha koyamba kumayamba kumva ngati chinthu chokha chomwe chingapulumutse kukhala wathanzi. Izi ndizomveka, atero a Jacqueline K. Gollan, Ph.D., pulofesa wa zamisala komanso zamakhalidwe pa Feinberg School of Medicine ku Northwestern University, yemwe amaphunzira kupanga zisankho. "Kusintha kumabweretsa zachilendo m'miyoyo yathu ndipo kumatha kuthetsa kutopa," akutero.

Anthu ambiri adasintha masinthidwe a seismic. Pafupifupi anthu 9 miliyoni adasamukira ku 2020, malinga ndi National Association of Realtors. Makumi asanu ndi awiri mphambu awiri mwa anthu ogwira ntchito akuganiza zosintha ntchito, ndipo 44% ali ndi malingaliro oti achite, malinga ndi zaposachedwa Kampani Yachangu-Harris kafukufuku. Maubwenzi akuyamba ndi kutha. Anthu akuyang'ana chikondi (ntchito ya Dating.com yawonjezeka ndi 88% kuyambira mliriwu utayamba), akukonzekera kukwatirana (miyala yamtengo wapatali mdziko lonse ikunena kuti malonda a mphete akuchulukirachulukira), ndikuitcha kuti yatha (67% ya Ogwiritsa ntchito Dating.com ati adakumana ndi kutha chaka chatha).

Iyi yakhaladi nthawi yowerengera, akutero Melody Wilding, pulofesa wamakhalidwe aumunthu, mphunzitsi wamkulu, komanso wolemba buku latsopanoli. Dzikhulupirireni Nokha (Buy It, $34, amazon.com), yemwe amanena kuti 80 peresenti ya makasitomala ake akusintha m'miyoyo yawo. “Mliriwu wapangitsa anthu ambiri kudzifunsa kuti, ‘Kodi ndikuchita zimene ndimafuna kuti ndizichita ndiponso kuwononga nthawi yanga m’njira yoti zikwaniritse?’ akutero. "Choyamba, tili ndi nthawi yochuluka yosinkhasinkha tikakhala kwathu. Kuposa apo, kukula kwa mkhalidwewu kwawonetsa momwe moyo ulili wosalimba ndikuti nthawi yathu ndi yochepa. Izi zatipatsa chidwi ndikutipanga fufuzani tanthauzo lina. "

Primed for Action

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti sikusintha konse panthawiyi kunapangidwa mwa kusankha. COVID-19 ndiye adasokoneza kwambiri. Anthu adataya ntchito komanso okondedwa. Mavuto azachuma anakakamiza ena kusamuka. Amayi mamiliyoni ambiri adasiya ntchito kuti azisamalira ana awo panthawi yotseka. Koma kwa iwo omwe anali ndi mwayi woyesera modzifunira china chosiyana, chikhumbo chofuna kutero chinali chachikulu.

Pali chifukwa chenicheni cha izi, akatswiri amati: Kukhala malo amodzi sikumunthu wathu. "Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti anthu amakhala ndi tsankho kuchitapo kanthu, ngakhale zitakhala kuti sizowakomera," akutero a Gollan. "Timakonda kuganizira zomwe tingachite kuti moyo wathu ukhale wabwino." Kusamuka kumakhala kwabwino kuposa kuchita chilichonse, akuti, ngakhale kusachitapo kanthu nthawi zina ndikobwino.

Vuto la COVID lidachitanso ngati poyambira mayendedwe omwe anthu amaganizira kale. "Pali magawo osintha," akutero a Wilding. "Choyamba ndi kulingalira zisanachitike - pomwe simukufuna kuzichita. Kenako pakubwera kulingalira, pomwe mukuyamba kulingalira mozama za kusinthaku. Ndikukhulupirira kuti mliriwu ndiwomwe udasinthitsa anthu kuyambira koyambirira kuja komwe anali okonzeka ndikudzipereka kuchitapo kanthu. " (Zokhudzana: Momwe Kupatula Kokha Kungakhudzire Moyo Wanu Wam'maganizo - Kuti Ukhale Abwino)

Izo zikhoza kukhala zabwino - ndi zoipa. Zikachitika pazifukwa zoyenera, kusintha kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala achimwemwe komanso athanzi. Zimakuyikani pamalo abwino komanso "zimatsimikizira zomwe mungathe," akutero Wilding. Chinyengo ndikuzindikira zomwe zikuyenda zomwe zingapindule ndi zomwe mungabwerere. "Timakonda kuganiza kuti kusintha kudzapangitsa kuti zinthu zikhale bwino ndikuthana ndi mavuto athu," akutero a Wilding. "Koma sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse." Nazi njira zodziwira nthawi yolumpha.

Yerengani

Kuti mudziwe ngati kusintha kuli koyenera, yambani ndi kulongosola ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kusinthako ndiyeno chitani chimodzimodzi posapanga, akutero Gollan. "Ngati mukuganiza zosintha ntchito, lamulo losavuta posankha ngati nthawi ili yoyenera ndi pomwe masiku oyipa amapitilira abwino," akutero a Wilding.

Chizindikiro china: Ngati mwayesetsa kukonza vutoli - mwina mwalankhula ndi manejala wanu kapena mwadzipereka kuti mukhale ndi maudindo atsopano owonjezera luso lanu - koma simunafike kulikonse. "Ngati simukukulanso mu gawo lanu ndipo mulibe mwayi weniweni wochitira zimenezo, ndi nthawi yabwino yosinthira," akutero Wilding.

Sewerani Judge ndi Jury

Izi ndizothandiza makamaka posankha zazikulu. Tiyerekeze kuti mukuganiza zodzudzula nokha ndikupita kudera lotentha, dzuŵa. Musanachite chinthu chovuta kwambiri, "pitani ndi chigamulo kukhoti," akutero Gollan. Pezani zambiri momwe mungathere za kusamuka - mtengo wa nyumba kumalo atsopano, mwayi wa ntchito kumeneko, mitundu ya mipata yomwe mungakhale nayo kukumana ndi anthu ndikupanga mabwenzi atsopano - ndikuwunikanso mbali zonse za equation, ngati kuti ndiwe woweruza, pomwe ukuyesera kuti uziyimbire mlandu. Izi zikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chithunzi chonse ndikuthandizani kuwona momwe zinthu ziliri mbali zonse, akutero. (Mufuna kupitilira njira yomweyo ngati mutasankha kulowa nawo gulu la #VanLife.)

Osagwa chifukwa cha "Arrival Fallacy"

Kusintha zinthu sikungasinthe moyo wanu mwamatsenga. "Anthu amaganiza kuti akangofika pachinthu chatsopano [chomwe akatswiri amatcha kufika kwachinyengo], adzakhala osangalala chifukwa cha izi. Koma ndizokhumba," akutero a Wilding. "Mwina mukuyesetsa kupewa mavuto omwe mudzakumanenso nawo nthawi ina." M'malo mwake, yesetsani kukulitsa maluso omwe mukufunikira kuti muthane ndi vutoli, akutero. "Onetsetsani kuti mukuthamangira mwayi m'malo mothawa vuto," akutero. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungasinthire Moyo Wanu Kukhala Bwino - Popanda Kutuluka Pazomwezo)

Ganizilani za Nthawi Yaitali

Zedi, galimoto yatsopanoyo ikumveka bwino lero. Koma nanga bwanji miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kuchokera pano, pomwe zolipira ndi inshuwaransi zikuwonjezeka? Kapenanso simutha kuyendetsa mozungulira momwe mumaganizira. Musanapange kusintha, dzifunseni kuti: "Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zichitike posachedwa? Kodi ndine wokonzeka kutero?" anatero Gollan.(Zokhudzana: Njira ziwiri Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Ngati Mukufuna Kusintha Kwambiri Moyo Wanu)

Pomaliza, Ganizirani Mtengo Wosagwira Ntchito

Kusapanga kusintha kumakhalanso pachiwopsezo, akutero a Wilding. Mutha kuganiza: Ndayika kale nthawi yochuluka pantchito iyi kapena ubalewu, kotero sindingathe kusintha zinthu tsopano.

"Koma mtengo wokhala m'malo ukhoza kukhala chisangalalo chanu ndi moyo wanu. Ndipo ndizo mtengo womwe ndi wokwera kwambiri, "akutero. "Ganizirani kwenikweni zomwe kusamuka kungatanthauze kwa inu."

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