Buku Logwiritsa Ntchito: Tiyeni Tikambirane Zokhudza Kukana Kukhudzidwa

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• Kukana chiyani ??
• Sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala motere!

Nthawi yamafunso! Tiyerekeze kuti mwasunga chutzpah yokwanira kuti muchotse DM yomwe ili pachiwopsezo chomwe mwakhala mukuchotsa.

Wolandirayo amawona nthawi yomweyo. Mudzawona mayankho a lil 'ellipse akutuluka pomwe akuyimira yankho. Koma mwadzidzidzi…

Imasiya ndikuzizira.

Simunalandire yankho mumaola angapo. Muma:

• A. Moleza mtima kuyembekezera yankho lawo loganizira.
• B. Menyani ndi GIF yotsatila yokongola pambuyo pa tsiku kapena chilichonse (mwina adachita chinthu chomwecho pomwe amangoyankha DM m'mutu mwawo ndikuyiwala kuyankha).
• C. Dziwani kuti amakuda inu, akhala akudana nanu nthawi zonse - adzakudanani mpaka kufa kwa chilengedwe chonse - ndikuyamba njira yopweteka yopangira ma DM owotcha mlatho. Ubalewu watha, Sara !?

Lang'anani, ngati mwayankha "A" kapena "B," mukuwoneka kuti mukukonzekera bwino ndipo mutha kupitiliza kuwerenga ngati mukufuna, koma ingodziwa kuti ndine wansanje komanso wokwiya.

Ngati, komabe, ubongo wanu umakhala wowonjezera nkhawa ngati wanga ndipo mumakhala wosewera "C" mopyola muyeso, mwina mukukumana ndi chizindikiritso chodziwika bwino cha ADHD chotchedwa rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD).

Kukana chiyani ??

Onse oseketsa pambali, kukumana ndi izi kumakhala kovuta nthawi zina. Ndipo kuzisiya osazisamalira kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zoyipa pamoyo wa munthu.

Malinga ndi a RSD, tinganene mwachidule kuti "anthu amayembekezera mwachidwi, kuzindikira mosavuta, ndikuchitapo kanthu mwamphamvu kukanidwa."

Kwa ine, zili ngati mphamvu yopinduka: Palibe molehill yokhayokha yomwe sindingasinthe mwamatsenga kukhala phiri. Ndipo ngakhale phirilo limandida ndipo limangokhala labwino kwa ine chifukwa limandimvera chisoni!

Zimandiwonetsa kuti ndimakhala wokonda kuyeserera anthu ndikakhala wopanda nkhawa, kapena kalulu wodandaula wokonzeka kuchoka pachinthu chilichonse chomwe chimandiwopseza pomwe malire anga awopsezedwa konse. Izi ndi zizindikiro zomwe Dr. William Dodson adazifotokoza mwatsatanetsatane mu nkhani ya magazini ya ADDitude.

Mwanjira iliyonse, sizabwino kwa ine komanso anthu omwe akuyenera kuthana nane.

Katswiri wama psychology a Andrea Bonior, mu chidutswa cha 2019, akuwunikira kuti izi sizinawonekere ngati vuto lawokha (ndipo sizinalembedwe mu Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders, DSM-5) koma ndi " kuwundana kwa zizindikilo zomwe nthawi zambiri zimalumikizidwa ndi mikhalidwe ina "monga ADHD, neuroticism, komanso kudzidalira.

Kodi mumazindikira zomwe zili ndi RSD?

• lingaliro lakukanidwa limabweretsa pa 'puke akumva'
• kudzimva kuti ndiwe wofunika kumadalira zomwe anthu ena amaganiza za iwe
• mumadzipangira miyezo yomwe ili, uhhh, yotsetsereka
• mumangokhalira kulimbikira kuthana ndi zochitika munthawi yomwe mutha kukanidwa - kapena kuwathawa
• kuyesayesa kulephera kupezeka paliponse ndikumangika, kuthupi
• mumakalipa kwambiri mukawona kukanidwa kapena kusalemekezedwa

Mwina munganene kuti, "ayi, kukanidwa ndichinthu chomwe ine, kwa iwo sindisangalala nacho! Kodi ndili ndi izi? ” Mwina - mwina ayi!

Akatswiri ngati Bonior amasiyanitsa pakati pa RSD ndi zovuta zina, monga matenda amisala (SAD), ndi liti ndipo ndi ndani imodzi imayambitsidwa.

Wina yemwe ali ndi SAD nthawi zambiri amamva kusowa mtendere komanso kuda nkhawa kotereku mpaka kukanidwa ndi anthu omwe sawadziwa bwino. Munthu amene ali ndi RSD, komabe, amangochita mantha kukanidwa ndi munthu yemwe akumuyandikira, yemwe amayankha ayenera athe kulingalira, ndipo adzamva kutaya mtima kwakukulu-ndi kusungulumwa pambuyo chochitikacho chimachitika.

Ndizochepa za mantha osadziwika komanso manyazi odzaza manyazi ndithudi woyenera!

Zonse zomwe zanenedwa, izi ndizopanda tanthauzo ndipo mukufuna kuti mulankhule ndi akatswiri azachipatala kuti mufike kumapeto kwake.

Sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala motere!

Tiyerekeze kuti mumachita zomwezo ndikupanga ding-ding-ding! Ndi RSD! Kodi tikulimbikitsidwa kuti tichiritse chiyani?

• Therapy, wokondedwa. Kaya chithandizo chazidziwitso, chithandizo chamaganizidwe, kapena chidziwitso chilichonse chothandizirana ndi ma psychotherapeutic, tifunika kukuyankhulitsani zakumverera kwanu kukanidwa. Ndidziwitseni ngati inunso mukukumana ndi malingaliro olakwika akuti: "Ndinganene bwanji zakumva kwanga kukanidwa ndi asing'anga omwe amandichitira RSD iwo osandiweruza ?!"
• Mankhwala. Kwa ife omwe timakumana ndi zovuta zathupi, makamaka kwa ife omwe tili ndi zovuta zina zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha nkhawa, mankhwala akhoza kukhala oyenera. Kwa ine, ndimagwira bwino ntchito yomwe ikuphatikizapo Wellbutrin. Ndayesanso mankhwala ena mosamala ndikumveketsa komanso kulimbikira pomwe sanali kugwira ntchito. Muyenera kufufuza izi popanda chiweruzo kapena kusalidwa mwanjira iliyonse.
• Kupita kunja. Ndikudziwa izi zimayamwa: ganizirani za kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito pofalitsa nkhani. Atha kusintha kusintha kwa anzawo ndi okondedwa awo momwemonso, ndipo maubalewa amathanso kukhala okhumudwitsa anthu omwe ali ndi RSD.

Pomaliza, dziwani kuti ndinu nokha. Vomerezani pomwe mukudziwa kuti mukulakwitsa. Osapondereza malingaliro anu kuyesera kupulumutsa 'em kwa munthu yemwe sangakubwezereninso.

Fufutani Nambala YAKE YA FONI.

Tsopano, ndipita kukachita chilichonse chomwe sichili DMing Sara kuti ndikafunse chifukwa chomwe sanawonere "Dragula" waposachedwa. NDAKUONA UWAONA A DM, SARA, ASIYENSE KUONA "WIRE" KWA NTHAWI YACHISANU.

Reed Brice ndi wolemba komanso woseketsa ku Los Angeles. Brice ndi alum wa UC Irvine's Claire Trevor School of the Arts ndipo anali munthu woyamba kuchita transgender yemwe adaponyedwapo pamsonkhano waluso ndi The Second City. Popanda kuyankhula tiyi wamatenda amisala, Brice amatipatsanso gawo lathu lachikondi ndi zogonana, "U Up?"