Kuyankhula Kwazokha: Zomwe Zili ndi Momwe Mungachitire

Zamkati

• Dziwani: Itanani kuti ndi chiyani
• Dziwani
• Tchulani wotsutsa
• Adilesi: Imani panjira yake
• Ikani moyenera
• Kambiranani
• Ganizirani 'mwina'
• Pewani: Sungani kuti isabwererenso
• Khalani bwenzi lanu lapamtima
• Khalani wamkulu 'munthu'

Ndiye kodi kudzilankhulira koyipa kumakhala kotani? Kwenikweni, mumalankhula zonyansa nokha. Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kulingalira njira zomwe tikufunika kukonza. Koma pali kusiyana pakati podziwonetsera nokha ndi zoyankhula zoyipa. Kudzilankhulira kolakwika sikumangirira, ndipo sikutilimbikitsa kuti tisinthe: "Sindingachite chilichonse molondola" motsutsana ndi "Ndikufunika kupeza njira zogwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanga bwino."

Ndipo nthawi zina zimatha kuyamba zazing'ono, monga kutola zinthu zazing'ono zomwe sitimakonda za ife eni. Koma ngati sitikudziwa momwe tingachitire kuzindikira,adilesi, kapena pewanikudzilankhulira koyipa, kumatha kukhala nkhawa ndipo, nthawi zambiri, kumadzida.

Umu ndi momwe mungachepetse voliyumu pawotsutsa wanu wamkati ndikukwera kudzikonda kuphunzitsa mwezi uno.

Dziwani: Itanani kuti ndi chiyani

Dziwani

Tili ndi malingaliro ambiri othamanga m'malingaliro athu mphindi iliyonse. Ndipo malingaliro athu ambiri amachitika popanda ife kuvomereza kwathunthu tisanapite ku china.

Ngati simukutsimikiza kapena mukufuna zina zowatsimikizira kuti mumalimbana ndi kudzilankhula nokha, yesetsani kulemba zinthu zoyipa zomwe mumadzinenera tsiku lonse momwe zimachitikira. Zitha kuwoneka ngati zopitilira muyeso, koma kuti tithetse kudzilankhulira koyipa, tiyenera kudziwa kuti zikuchitikadi.

Tchulani wotsutsa

Akatswiri ena amisala amalimbikitsa kutchula wokutsutsani. Kupatsa liwu losokoneza lamkati lija dzina loseketsa kungatithandizire kuwona momwe lilili. Zimatilepheretsa kuti tidziyang'ane tokha ngati vuto. Ndipo zimapangitsa kuti vuto lenileni limveke bwino: Timapitilizabe kukhulupirira zomwe mawu akunena.

Chifukwa chake nthawi yotsatira kudzilankhulira koyipa kukayamba, osangodzinyalanyaza ngati lingaliro linanso lamavuto. Itanani Felicia, The Perfectionist, Negative Nancy (kapena dzina lililonse lomwe mungasankhe) kuti ndi chiyani. Ndipo, koposa zonse, siyani kumvera!

Adilesi: Imani panjira yake

Ikani moyenera

Zolankhula zathu zokha zimachokera pakutsika komwe timaloleza malingaliro athu. Kukhumudwa ndi mawu anu poyankhulana kumasandulika kukhala: "Ndine wopusa, sindidzapeza ntchito." Koma kuona moyenera malingaliro olakwikawa kungatithandizire kudziwa chomwe chalakwika. Nthawi zambiri vutoli limathetsedwa, timangofunika kuti tiwunike ndikuwongolera pang'onopang'ono.

Kambiranani

Nthawi zina, kuyankhula ndi mnzathu kungatithandize kuthana ndi mayankhulidwe olakwika pakadali pano. Nthawi ina mukadzachita manyazi kapena china chake sichinayende momwe mumafunira, itanani munthu. Manyazi ndi kudziimba mlandu zimakula mseri. Osakhala nokha ndi malingaliro anu.

Ganizirani 'mwina'

Nthawi zina, chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe tingachite tikamaganiza molakwika ndikudzikakamiza kuti tizinene tokha zabwino komanso zabwino.

M'malo mwake, yambani kunena zinthu zosalowerera ndale zomwe zikuwonetsa yankho. M'malo moganiza, "Ndine wolephera," sankhani kunena, "Sindinachite bwino pantchitoyi. Ndikudziwa zoyenera kuchita mosiyanasiyana nthawi ina. ” Sitiyenera kudzinamiza tokha. Koma titha kuchita zinthu moyenera, popanda chidani.

Pewani: Sungani kuti isabwererenso

Khalani bwenzi lanu lapamtima

Sitinganene kuti bwenzi lathu lapamtima ndi lotayika, lolephera, kapena chitsiru. Ndiye ndichifukwa chiyani timawona ngati zili bwino kunena tokha motere? Njira imodzi yomenyera wotsutsa mkati mwathu ndiyo kukhala bwenzi lathu lapamtima ndikusankha kuyang'ana kwambiri pazabwino zathu.

Tiyenera kukondwerera zopambana zazing'ono, zinthu zabwino zomwe timachita, ndi zolinga zomwe timakwaniritsa. Ndipo koposa zonse, tiyenera kutero kumbukiraniiwo kuti nthawi ina Negative Nancy ayese kutidzudzula, tili ndi umboni chifukwa chake walakwitsa.

Khalani wamkulu 'munthu'

Tikamaganiza kuti sitingakwanitse kuchita zinthu zina, timakhala ndi mwayi wolankhula zoipa zokhudza anzathu. Chowonadi nchakuti, sitingathe kuchita chilichonse molondola, ndipo palibe chinthu changati munthu wangwiro. Koma katswiri wamaganizidwe a Christa Smith ananena mosabisa kuti: "Tikakhala ndi cholinga chathu chokha komanso miyoyo yathu yomwe ndi yayikulu kuposa kukhala abwino, timakhala akulu kuposa wotsutsa."

Kaya cholinga chomwe timasankha ndikukhala mwamtendere kapena kungokhala ntchito, pamene tikutanthauzanso zomwe "zabwino" zimakhala ndi zotsatira "zabwino" zimawoneka ngati timapangitsa kuti tipeze chisangalalo ndikukhutira kunja kwa ungwiro.

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