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Nkhani yabwino kwa inu ndi mkazi wanu wamapiko: Mudzapeza munthu yemweyo wokopa theka la nthawiyo. Malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano wofalitsidwa mu Biology Yamakono, zomwe anthu amapeza kuti ndi zokongola ndizapadera kwambiri kwa munthu ameneyo

Kuti mudziwe chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kukhala "mtundu" wake, ofufuza aku Wellesley College anali ndi anthu 35,000 omwe amatenga nawo mbali pazokongola. Ngakhale pali lingaliro lakuti nkhope zina zofananira bwino (monga Brad Pitt) zimakondweretsa padziko lonse lapansi, ofufuza adapeza kuti anthu osiyanasiyana amangokopeka ndi nkhope yomweyo 50 peresenti ya nthawiyo. (Chifukwa chiyani kukopa kuli kotsekereza? Chifukwa Nkhope Yokongola Ili Ngati Heroin, Phunziro Limati.)

Popeza anthu ambiri sanagwirizane pa omwe anali otentha kwambiri, ofufuza adadabwa ngati zomwe timakonda zimakhudzana ndi chilengedwe kapena kusamalira. Njira yokhayo yothanirana ndi kukondera kwa majini ndi chilengedwe? Mwa kuphunzira anthu omwe ali ndi chibadwa chofanana ndi mapasa owonekera chilengedwe. Koma ngakhale anthu omwe amafanana ndi momwe mungapezere amangopeza nkhope zomwezo zokongola 50 peresenti ya nthawiyo!

Ndiye nchiyani chomwe chikukhudza "mtundu" wathu? Ochita kafukufuku amaganiza kuti zonsezi zimadalira zomwe mwakumana nazo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ngakhale BFF wanu yemwe ali *pafupifupi munthu yemweyo* momwe mungalandilidwe ndi mikhalidwe yosiyana kwambiri: Palibe anthu awiri omwe ali ndi zochitika zofanana ndi zochitika.

Ochita kafukufuku akuganiza kuti pali mitundu iwiri ikuluikulu yokumana nayo yomwe imakhudza kukopa kwathu kwa wina: Kudziwa bwino komanso mayanjano abwino. Kafukufuku wakale wasonyeza kuti mukamayanjana kwambiri ndi munthu, mumawapeza osangalatsa. Mfundo yomweyi ndi yowona kwa nkhope zofananira, ndichifukwa chake nthawi zina wachinyamata wa bwenzi lanu amawoneka ngati wofanana ndi wakale wake. Ponena za mayanjano abwino, timakonda kupeza zinthu zokongola tikaziphatikiza ndi china chake chomwe timakonda. Izi zikhoza kufotokoza chifukwa chake mumapeza barista yemwe nthawi zonse amakupatsani espresso m'mawa kwambiri. (Kodi Mungasankhe Kutulutsa Ubwenzi Wokhazikika?)

Kodi tikuphunzira chiyani pamenepa? Khalani ndi mtundu wanu. Chokopa ndichabwino kwathunthu chifukwa chake pitani kwa munthuyo inu pezani zokopa ndikuiwala zakuti abwenzi anu angavomereze kapena ayi.

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