Momwe Mungadzitetezere Muzinthu 5 Zomwe Zingakhale Zowopsa, Malinga ndi Akatswiri

Zamkati

• Mukuyenda Pamalo Amdima ndi/kapena Oyimitsidwa Ojambula Usiku
• Mukutsatiridwa, Mwina Pansi Kapena Mugalimoto Yanu
• Tsiku Lanu Ndilovuta Pushy
• Mukuzunzidwa Ndi Bwana Wanu kapena Wina Wapamwamba
• Mukutengeka kapena Kutsatiridwa Paulendo Wapagulu
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Kwa amalonda ambiri achikazi, kuyambitsa chinthu -- kuchuluka kwa miyezi (mwina zaka) ya magazi, thukuta, ndi misozi - ndi mphindi yosangalatsa. Koma kwa Quinn Fitzgerald ndi Sara Dickhaus de Zarraga, malingaliro amenewo anali osiyana kwambiri pamene katundu wawo, Flare, anapita kumsika.

"Ndizowopsa kuti izi ziyenera kukhalapo," akutero a Dickhaus de Zarraga. "Timadana kuti tili pano."

Flare, wopangidwa ndi awiriwa, onse ma Harvard Business School grads, mu 2016, ndi "chibangili" chanzeru (Buy It, $ 129, getflare.com) chopangidwa kuti chithandizire anthu kutuluka m'malo osatetezeka kapena osasangalatsa. Wovalayo amasindikiza batani lobisika mkatikati mwa chibangili, ndikuchenjeza mndandanda wa omwe adasankhidwa kale (kapena apolisi) akumalo awo. Chibangili chimatha kutumiziranso foni yabodza pafoni ya womenyerayo kuti akhale ndi chifukwa chomveka chotulukira ngati ali ndi vuto. (Zonsezi zitha kukhazikitsidwa mu pulogalamu yawo.)

Awiriwo, onse omwe amazunzidwa, akuti adapanga Flare chifukwa zida zambiri zodzitetezera panthawiyo zidapangidwa ndi amuna. "M'mbuyomu, zida zokhazokha zodzitetezera zinali mluzu kapena alamu kuti apange phokoso, kutsitsi tsabola, chida chovulaza mnzake, kapena kuyitanitsa thandizo," akufotokoza a Dickhaus de Zarraga. "Ndipo, kutengera mtundu wanu, kapena ngati ndinu munthu wamtundu, [zosankhazo] zingakupatseni mwayi Zambiri Ngozi."

M'mbiri yonse, onus wakhala pa woxn kuti kupewa kugwiriridwa - kaya izi zikutanthauza kusiya mowa (kapena maphwando kwathunthu), kupewa masitayelo omwe angawoneke ngati okopa (ngakhale Sarah Everard adavala thukuta atabedwa ku UK), ndikuchita chilichonse chofunikira kupewa chidwi chilichonse - m'malo mwake. kuposa kupanga masinthidwe okulirapo m'chitaganya kuti aletse machitidwe achiwawa a olakwawo. (Zokhudzana: Pambuyo pa Sarah Everard, Akazi Akupeza Malangizo Oti Akhale Otetezeka - Koma Ndi Amuna Amene Makhalidwe Awo Ayenera Kusintha)

Zoonadi, kunena kuti tikukhala m'dziko lamphamvu lomwe akazi safunikira kugula zibangili zozembera, kuphunzira masewera ankhondo openga, kapena kumangokhalira kudandaula za malo omwe amakhala 24/7 kuli ngati kunena kuti tikukhala m'gulu la anthu osankhana mitundu. . Pafupifupi 8 mwa amayi 10 aku US azaka zopitilira 18 adanenanso kuti adagwiriridwa mu kafukufuku wina wa 2018, pomwe kafukufuku waposachedwa wa azimayi aku U.K. adapeza kuti chiwerengerocho chikhoza kuyandikira 97 peresenti. (Ndipo ngakhale mungaganize kuti kukula kwakucheperaku sikukuwonetsa chithunzi chokwanira, kusanthula kamodzi kwa hashtag # 97perecent pa TikTok, komwe kumatchula mwachindunji zomwe apeza, kumapereka umboni wokwanira kuti womxn ndi kukumana ndi nkhanza zakugonana pamlingo wowopsa kwambiri.) Hell, ngakhale chilungamo kupezeka kuntchito monga Mkazi Wakuda atha kukhala chifukwa cha kudyerera. M'malo mwake, azimayi akuda akuti amachitiridwa zachipongwe kuntchito kuwirikiza katatu kuchuluka kwa azungu, malinga ndi lipoti la National Women Law Center, bungwe loona za ufulu wopanda malamulo.

Zowona kuti womxn amayenera kudzitchinjiriza kuzinthu zosasangalatsa (kapena zowopsa) - makamaka, ndi amuna - kuyamwa. Koma chowonadi nchakuti, monga momwe lipoti la World Health Organisation likuwululira, nkhanza zambiri zomwe zimachitikira amayi zimachitidwa ndi abambo. M'malo mwake, kafukufukuyu adanenanso kuti panalibe chidziwitso chokwanira chowonera nkhanza amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kuphatikiza apo, nkhanza zochitidwa ndi azimayi osagwirizana ndi amuna kapena akazi osagwirizana ndi amuna ndi akazi zidakwera mu 2020, pomwe 44 adaphedwa ku US - ndikupangitsa kuti ukhale chaka chowopsa kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse, malinga ndi Human Rights Campaign.

Izi zikunenedwa, ngakhale kuopa kuwukiridwa sikuyenera kukulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo, kutenga njira zingapo zodzitetezera ndikudziteteza nokha kungakuthandizeni kukhala omasuka.

Apa, akatswiri amapita momwe angagwirire zinthu zisanu zomwe zingakhale zowopsa zomwe mungadzipezemo, ndi momwe mungatulukire mwachangu.

Mukuyenda Pamalo Amdima ndi/kapena Oyimitsidwa Ojambula Usiku

M'malo omwe mukupita kapena kuchokerako, komwe mungapite (monga malo ogulitsira magalimoto ndi maere) ndi ena mwa malo omwe amakonzedweratu, malinga ndi a Beverly Baker, katswiri wazodzitchinjiriza komanso woyambitsa Asphalt Anthropology ku Los Angeles. "Malo awa amafunikira kulimbikira, chifukwa amapezeka pagulu mokwanira kuti wina angakufikireni, koma nthawi zambiri amakhala achinsinsi mokwanira kuti azilola kugwira ntchito popanda mboni kapena kusokonezedwa," akufotokoza a Baker.

Akalowa m'galaja kapena malo oimikapo magalimoto, Baker nthawi zonse amalangiza makasitomala ake kuti ayang'ane malowo. Kodi pali zipilala, masitepe, kapena magalimoto akuluakulu omwe munthu akhoza kubisala kumbuyo? Pewani madera amenewo, akulangizani, ndipo yesani kuyimitsa galimoto pafupi ndi khomo kapena potuluka.

“Komanso, mukafika, bwezani galimoto yanu pamalopo,” akulangiza motero. "Izi zikutanthauza kuti simukuyenera kuyenda mtunda wonse wagalimoto kuti mufike pakhomo la driver ndipo mutha kutuluka ndikuwonetsetsa malo omwe mumakhala."

Malangizo ena amasinthidwe ochokera kwa Baker? Ikani foni yanu pansi, yendani mwachangu komanso molimba mtima ndikuyang'ana mozama, ndipo manja anu ali omasuka (koma makiyi anu akhale pafupi kuti mutsegule mwachangu ndikudumphira mgalimoto yanu).

O, ndikulankhula za makiyi amenewo - muyenera kuwagwira ngati mpeni pakati pa zala zanu kuti muwukire aliyense amene akubwera, sichoncho? "Pali nthano yanthawi yayitali yoti kusunga makiyi anu pakati pa zala zanu ndi chida chabwino chodzitchinjiriza, koma izi sizowona!" Akutero Baker. "Makiyi azisunthika pazakuwononga komanso pachiwopsezo kukuvulazani kuposa chiwopsezo."

M'malo mwake, Baker amalimbikitsa kunyamula ndi kusunga zida zina zodzitetezera pafupi - ngakhale zimadalira kwambiri mulingo wanu woloza komanso zomwe zili zovomerezeka mdera lanu. Izi zitha kuphatikizirapo tsabola kapena mfuti yamtundu wina (Buy It, $24, amazon.com), mpeni, tochi yowala kwambiri (Buy It, $40, amazon.com) kusokoneza kwakanthawi wowukira, kapena ngakhale wolemera kwambiri. chinthu panjira yanu, monga kandulo yolemera, zinthu pa shelufu, kapena lumo. (Zogwirizana: Ogula Amati Izi Tsitsi La Pepper Lapulumutsa Moyo Wawo)

Mukutsatiridwa, Mwina Pansi Kapena Mugalimoto Yanu

Ngati pali china chowopsya koposa kulowa mu mdima, wamdima woimika galimoto m'galimoto usiku, ukuyenda kapena kuyendetsa galimoto muli nokha- - ndipo mwina mukutsatiridwa. (Zokhudzana: Choonadi Chaukali Chokhudza Kuteteza Akazi)

Gawo loyamba ngati mukuganiza kuti mukutsatiridwa ndikungotembenuka. "Galimoto [inayo] imayenera kuchita U-turn kapena kusiya galimoto yawo," akutero a Baker.

Ngati mungathe, Baker akulangizani kuti muyende kumalo otetezeka osati kungochoka pangozi. “Musatembenuke ndi kuyenda mumsewu wosiyidwa,” iye akutero. "Lowani mu shopu ngati mungathe."

Mfundo yomweyi imagwiranso ntchito ngati mukuganiza kuti galimoto ikukutsatirani mukuyendetsa. "Musapite kunyumba ngati mukutsatiridwa," akutero a Baker, powona kuti nthawi zonse muyenera kupita kumalo achitetezo komwe mungakachitire mbendera kuti akuthandizeni (taganizirani: malo ozimitsira moto, apolisi, shopu, kapena malo odyera).

Tsiku Lanu Ndilovuta Pushy

Ngakhale kuti zigawenga zimadumpha m'tchire kapena m'magalaja oyimitsa magalimoto ndizowopsa, zina (m'malo mwake, zambiri) zimachitika mwanjira zodziwika bwino: i.e. tsiku laukali la Tinder. (Yogwirizana: 6 Zoyeserera pa intaneti komanso zomwe simuyenera kuchita pa intaneti)

“Ngati zinthu sizikukuyenderani bwino, fufuzani woimira mlandu,” akulangiza motero Heather Hansen, katswiri wodziimira payekha, wopenda zamalamulo, ndi loya woweruza milandu. Hansen akunena kuti uyu akhoza kukhala aliyense pafupi, kaya ndi bartender kapena mnzanu, kuti mudziwe kuti muli pamavuto. Muyenera kufunsa woweruza milandu kuti adutse tsiku lanu (nenani, ngati mukuyenera kudzuka kubafa) ndikufunsani mafunso angapo: "Kodi aliyense akuchita bwanji?" kapena "mukumwa chiyani kuno?" akupereka lingaliro la Hansen.

“Ngati wolakwayo apitiriza, woimirirayo angangofunsa zimene nonse mukuchita,” akutero Hansen. "Izi zimakhala zogwira mtima kwambiri ngati woyimilirayo adziwonetsa kuti ndi mwamuna ndipo wolakwirayo amachitanso chimodzimodzi." Pamenepo, a Hansen akutsimikiza, (mwachiyembekezo) zosankha zanu zatseguka pankhani yosiya. Pomwe tsiku lanu limasokonezedwa, kodi mungayimireko woyendetsa bartender kapena wina wachitetezo kuti akuthandizireni ndikuthandizani kuti mutuluke? Ngakhale muyenera kuwunika momwe zinthu zilili (aliyense azichita mosiyana), yesani kupanga mapu a njira yotulukiramo munthu wina akangolowa.

Njira ina (mochenjera) kuchoka pamalo osasangalatsa ku bar kapena malo odyera: yitanitsa "kuwombera kwa angelo." Monga momwe kachilombo ka TikTok wochokera kwa wopanga @benjispears akufotokozera, kuwomberako kumakhala ndi code ya "Ndili m'mavuto; ndithandizeni." Ngakhale si mabungwe onse omwe ali ndi imodzi (ndipo ikhoza kutchedwa chinthu china pofuna kuteteza chinsinsi chake kwa olakwa), mudzawona chizindikiro choyikidwa mu bafa chochenjeza woxn kuti ndi njira. Kaya malo amene muli nawo, musazengereze basi mbendera munthu pansi pa njira, kapena mkati, bafa ngati simukudziwa.

Ngati kulibe aliyense pafupi, kapena mumakhala womangika kufunsa mozungulira, Hansen amalimbikitsa kuuza tsiku lanu lankhanza patsogolo kuti simumasuka. Ndipo, zachidziwikire, yesetsani kuti musakhudze chakudya kapena chakumwa chanu ngati sichinakuwonekeni, ngakhale kwakanthawi, monga wina akanatha kusokoneza. (Zogwirizana: Achichepere Awa Adalowetsa Mphasa Yomwe Ingathandize Kuwona Tsiku Lobwezera Mankhwala Osokoneza bongo)

Ndipo ngati zinthu zikukula, musawope kudzuka ndikuchokapo. "Pezani ulendo wobwerera kunyumba kuchokera kwa wina kapena sankhani ntchito yogawana nawo," akutero a Baker, podziwa kuti ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti mutsatiridwa, mutha kufunsa achitetezo kuti akuperekezeni komwe mukupita (kapena itanani apolisi kuti akuthandizeni).

Mukuzunzidwa Ndi Bwana Wanu kapena Wina Wapamwamba

Pankhani yolanda ma DM kuchokera kwa anzako ogwira nawo ntchito kapena mphindi yovuta ndi VP wapamwamba paulendo wopita kuntchito, Hansen akutsindika lamulo limodzi lofunika kwambiri (koma losavuta) lovutitsidwa kuntchito: "Chikalata chirichonse –– kuphatikiza nthawi zonse zokuvutitsani komanso momwe mumayankhira. Khalani ndi zonse zolembedwa ngati mungathe." (Akunena kuti, m'mayiko ena, n'kosaloleka kulemba zokambirana popanda chilolezo kuchokera kumagulu onse, choncho kumbukirani izi.)

Hansen akuwona kuti kupeza loya ndikofunikira, nawonso. "Lankhulani ndi wina wothandizira anthu ngati wolakwayo ndi bwana wanu, ndipo lankhulani ndi abwana anu ngati ali wina wothandiza anthu," akulangiza motero.

Koma muyenera kuchita chiyani pakadali pano kuti mudziteteze ndikufalitsa vutoli? Zimenezo n’zachinyengo,” akutero Hansen.” Kaya ndikulankhula ndi munthu amene akukuchitirani zachipongweyo kapena mnzanuyo, ndinganene kuti zimenezi zizikhala zoona komanso zolondola: ‘Ukachita izi, ndipo zimandipangitsa kumva choncho. zokumana nazo kwambiri, ngati mungathe kugwira ntchito kuti muyankhe m'malo mochitapo kanthu, mudzakhala loya wamphamvu kwambiri. "

Zachidziwikire, ngati nthawi iliyonse mukuwopa chitetezo chanu ndipo mukukhala pachiwopsezo, pitani molunjika kwa apolisi - kachiwiri, ndi umboni wokuvutitsani, ngati muli nawo.

Mukutengeka kapena Kutsatiridwa Paulendo Wapagulu

Zofanana ndi ngati mukutsatiridwa ndi galimoto kapena kuyenda, poyenda pagulu, muyenera kupita kumalo achitetezo m'malo mothawa ngozi, atero a Baker. Koma mpaka pamenepo, kungoyankha aliyense amene mukuganiza kuti akukumenyani mutha kuthandizira - ngakhale zingawonekere zowopsa. “Ndachita zimenezi ndi kuthamanga kwa mtima wanga,” akuvomereza motero Baker. "Koma nayi chinthu chake: Zowopseza sizifuna chandamale. Ambiri aiwo amasangalala kukuchititsani mantha. Flip script." Baker akuti kunena china chake motsatira "Mukufuna chiyani?" kapena, mwachidule, "Mukunditsatira chifukwa chiyani?" angathandize.

Ngati simumasuka kucheza ndi munthuyo, zili bwino, nanunso. Sinthani magalimoto apamtunda, tsika, ndikudikirira yotsatira. "Ndibwino kukhala wochedwa kuposa kukhala wopanda nkhawa," akutero Baker. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse yomwe mumamva kuti muli pachiwopsezo chachikulu, kuphatikiza chilichonse mwazomwe zili pamwambapa, musazengereze kuyimbira 9-1-1.

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