Kodi Kukhala Ndi Moyo Wabwino Ndi Chiyani Kwenikweni?

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Mawu oti "kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chokhudzana ndi kugonana" atha kuwoneka kuti amatanthauza kumva kukhala omasuka ndikudzidalira pazomwe mukugonana komanso zomwe mumakonda, koma a Janielle Bryan, MPH, othandizira azaumoyo komanso aphunzitsi azakugonana, akuti ndi gawo limodzi chabe.

Inde, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wathanzi, wachikondi, wopanda manyazi ndi thupi lanu komanso kugonana kwanu (kuphatikizanso, ziwalo zanu zogonana) ndikukhala ndi nthawi yophunzira zomwe mumakonda. Koma "ndikaganiza za munthu yemwe ali ndi chiyembekezo chokhudzana ndi kugonana, sikuti ndimangoti ndizikumbatira zogonana," akutero Bryan. "Izi ndizabwino - ndiye sitepe yoyamba.Komanso, kodi simumayika manyazi anu pakugonana pa anthu ena? Chifukwa ndizofunikanso kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi maganizo ogonana. Si mmene umadzionera, komanso mmene umaonera ena ndiponso mmene amaonera kugonana kwawo.

Mwachidule, kukhala ndi malingaliro ogonana ndikukhala ndi malingaliro abwino pankhani yogonana, komanso kukhala omasuka ndi zomwe mumagonana komanso machitidwe ogonana a ena, malinga ndi International Society for Sexual Medicine.

Zonsezi ndizololeza aliyense kukhala wawo "wogonana" (ndi chilolezo, inde), kuti akhale ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndikukhala momasuka nawo, ndikuchita chilichonse chomwe angafune, ngakhale kukhala ndi abwenzi ochepa kapena osakhala nawo , akutero Bryan. Zimaphatikizaponso kuzindikira kuti chisangalalo chimawoneka chosiyana ndi aliyense, ndipo ngakhale ntchito yomwe imabweretsa chisangalalo kwa munthu m'modzi sikumveka yosangalatsa kwa inu, zili bwino, akuwonjezera. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungachitire Ngati Wokondedwa Wanu Sakukutsatani)

Poganizira zochuluka zamanyazi zakugonana zomwe anthu atsitsa kwa anthu ambiri, kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chogonana sikophweka momwe zimamvekera. Izi zati, ndizofunika; pali maubwino angapo omasuka kukambirana ndi kumva za kugonana ndi zosangalatsa, akutero Bryan. “Malo olimbikitsa kugonana amalola anthu kukhala ndi moyo weniweni,” akufotokoza motero. "Ngati titha kukambirana, nditha kudziwa zam'tsogolo kuti zomwe ndikufuna ndi zomwe mukufuna sizingagwirizane, kotero sindingataye nthawi yanga pochita ndi munthu yemwe sakugwirizana ... mumakonda kukonda kwanu komwe kumakupatsani mwayi woti mugwirizane ndi anthu omwe akufuna zomwe mukufuna kapena ofunitsitsa kufufuza nanu mwanjira imeneyi. " (Zokhudzana: Njira 10 Zokwezera Moyo Wanu Wogonana)

Ndiye, mungapeze bwanji lingaliro la momwe mumakhalira ogonana? Tengani mafunso awa kuti mudziwe ngati ndinu wokonda kugonana kapena muli ndi malo oti musinthe, kenako lembani malangizo kuchokera kwa Bryan momwe mungakhalire ogonana kwambiri.

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