Thandizo Logonana: Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa

Zamkati

• Kodi chithandizo chogonana chimagwira ntchito bwanji?
• Kodi ndikufuna chithandizo chogonana?
• Kodi ndingapeze bwanji wothandizira zachiwerewere?
• Zomwe muyenera kudziwa musanachitike
• Ngakhale
• Solo motsutsana ndi banja
• Zogulitsa
• Ndondomeko ya chithandizo
• Kuphunzira za inshuwaransi
• Mfundo yofunika

Kodi chithandizo chogonana ndi chiyani?

Chithandizo chogonana ndi mtundu wamankhwala olankhula omwe apangidwa kuti athandize anthu ndi mabanja kuthana ndi zamankhwala, zamaganizidwe, zaumwini, kapena zamunthu zomwe zimakhudza kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana.

Cholinga cha chithandizo chazakugonana ndikuthandiza anthu kuti asinthe zovuta zam'thupi komanso zam'maganizo kuti akhale ndiubwenzi wokhutira komanso moyo wosangalala wogonana.

Kulephera kugonana kumakhala kofala. M'malo mwake, 43% ya azimayi ndi 31 peresenti ya amuna amati amakumanapo ndi vuto lina logonana nthawi yonse ya moyo wawo. Zovuta izi zitha kuphatikiza:

• Kulephera kwa erectile
• otsika libido
• kusowa chidwi
• Kutulutsa msanga msanga
• chidaliro chochepa
• kusowa poyankha kukakamiza kugonana
• kulephera kufikira pamalungo
• libido yambiri
• Kulephera kudziletsa pazogonana
• malingaliro ogonana okhumudwitsa
• Zithunzithunzi zosagonana

Moyo wogonana wokwanira ndi wathanzi komanso wachilengedwe. Chibwenzi chakuthupi ndi cham'maganizo ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino. Zovuta zakugonana zikachitika, kukhala ndi moyo wokhutiritsa womwewo kumatha kukhala kovuta.

Chithandizo chogonana chitha kukuthandizani kuyambiranso zovuta zakugonana ndikuwonjezera kukhutitsidwa kwanu pakugonana.

Kodi chithandizo chogonana chimagwira ntchito bwanji?

Kugonana kuli ngati mtundu uliwonse wa psychotherapy. Mumachiza vutoli polankhula kudzera pazomwe mukukumana nazo, nkhawa zanu, komanso momwe mumamvera.

Pamodzi ndi othandizira anu, kenako gwiritsani ntchito njira zokuthandizani kukonza mayankho anu mtsogolo kuti mudzakhale ndi moyo wathanzi wogonana.

Pamaulendo anu oyamba, wothandizira wanu amalankhula nanu kapena nanu kapena nanu limodzi. Wothandizira alipo kuti akutsogolereni ndikuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto lomwe muli nalo:

• Sapezekapo kuti atenge mbali ya munthu m'modzi kapena kuthandiza kukopa aliyense.
• Komanso aliyense adzavala zovala zake. Wogonana samakhala akugonana ndi wina aliyense kapena kuwonetsa aliyense momwe angagonane.

Phunziro lirilonse, wothandizira anu apitilizabe kukulimbikitsani kuti muzisamalira bwino ndikuvomereza zovuta zanu zomwe zitha kubweretsa zovuta pakugonana. Mankhwala onse olankhulirana, kuphatikiza chithandizo chogonana, onse ndi othandizira komanso malo ophunzitsira.

Zimapangidwira kupereka chitonthozo ndi chilimbikitso pakusintha. Mutha kuchoka kuofesi ya othandizira anu ndi ntchito zomwe muyenera kuchita musanapatsidwe nthawi ina.

Ngati wothandizira wanu akukayikira kukanika komwe mukukumana nako chifukwa chokhudzana ndi kugonana, atha kukutumizirani kwa dokotala.

Wothandizira anu komanso adokotala amatha kufunsa za zizindikilo zanu ndikugwira ntchito kuti athandizire kupeza zovuta zilizonse zomwe zingayambitse zovuta zakugonana.

Kodi ndikufuna chithandizo chogonana?

Njira imodzi yodziwira ngati mukufunika kukaonana ndi odwala m'malo mwa njira ina yolankhulira ndikuwunika mbali ziti za moyo wanu zomwe zakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi momwe mukumvera pakadali pano.

Ngati moyo wanu komanso thanzi lanu limakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi vuto lanu logonana, ndibwino kuti muwone wogonana. Momwemonso, ngati kusowa pachibwenzi kapena kuvutika kulankhulana ndi mnzanu kumabweretsa nkhawa yanu yayikulu, wothandizira kugonana ndiye malo oyamba.

Kodi ndingapeze bwanji wothandizira zachiwerewere?

Katswiri wovomerezeka wogonana atha kukhala katswiri wazamisala, wama psychology, okwatirana komanso othandizira mabanja, kapena wogwira ntchito zantchito. Akatswiri azamisala awa amaphunzitsidwanso zambiri zakugonana kuti athe kuvomerezedwa ngati akatswiri azakugonana.

Yambitsani kusaka kwanu ndi American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors, and Therapists (AASECT). Bungwe ili limayang'anira kuyang'anira maphunziro azachipatala kwa akatswiri azaumoyo. Amayang'aniranso ziphaso za omwe amapereka chithandizo chamankhwala.

Ngati wina ali ndi chilolezo komanso chovomerezeka, mudzawapeza kudzera mu AASECT.

Muthanso kuchita ndi Google kapena Psychology Today kufunafuna othandizira mdera lanu kapena kuyimbira kuchipatala kwanuko kapena kuofesi yamaphunziro am'deralo. Ambiri mwa mabungwewa mosangalala amapereka chidziwitso kwa opatsirana pogonana mumaneti awo.

Muthanso kufunsa kampani yanu ya inshuwaransi. Atha kukupatsirani mndandanda wa mayina azachipatala odziwika. Mutha kuwerengera mndandanda mpaka mutapeza wothandizira kugonana yemwe mukufuna.

Ngati mungakonde kukuyankhulirani, kambiranani ndi omwe amakuthandizani pazachipatala, gynecologist, kapena urologist. Madokotala ambiri adakumana ndikulimbikitsa othandizira anzawo tsiku lililonse. Atha kukuwongolerani kwa wothandizira yemwe mawonekedwe ake amagwirizana kwambiri ndi anu.

Muthanso kulankhulana ndi anzanu. Kubweretsa zinsinsi kumatha kukhala kovuta kwa anthu ena, koma ngati muli omasuka kufunsa mnzanu, atha kulangiza dokotala yemwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mungakhulupirire.

Zomwe muyenera kudziwa musanachitike

Mukakhala okonzeka kuyamba kulandira chithandizo chogonana, kumbukirani zinthu zisanu izi mukamakonzekera kusankha omwe mungakumane nawo kuti akalandire chithandizo.

Ngakhale

Madokotala ndi apadera. Chithandizo chabwino chimadalira momwe mumalankhulirana ndi othandizira komanso momwe mumawakhulupirira komanso malangizo awo kukuthandizani pazovuta zanu.

Ngati simumva bwino ndi wothandizira zachiwerewere nthawi iliyonse, yang'anani wina.

Solo motsutsana ndi banja

Simuyenera kubweretsa wokondedwa wanu kuti mudzapite naye kuchipatala. Kwa anthu ena, chithandizo chogonana chokha chimakwanira kuthana ndi zovuta. Kwa ena, kukhala ndi anthu onse awiri panthawi yamankhwala kumatha kuthandiza kukhutira ndikukhala ndi mgwirizano wolimba.

Lankhulani ndi mnzanu za chisankho chanu kuti muyambe kulandira mankhwala. Ngati mukufuna kuti atenge nawo mbali, funsani.

Zogulitsa

Mukamasankha wothandizira zakugonana, ndikofunikira kukumbukira komwe ofesi ya othandiza ndi yosavuta kuti mufikire. Mutha kupita kumisonkhano nthawi yakudya kwanu, mutatha ntchito, kapena masiku osakhalitsa mukakhala ndi ola laulere.

Othandizira ena amaperekanso magawo azachuma, kuti mutha kukumana nawo pa intaneti kuchokera kunyumba kwanu.

Onetsetsani kuti ndizotheka kufikira ofesi ya dokotala wanu, kapena mungadzipezere zifukwa zopewera izi.

Ndondomeko ya chithandizo

Pomwe mudasankhidwa koyamba, othandizira anu atha kukambirana nanu zaumoyo wanu woyamba. Kwa anthu ambiri komanso maanja, magawo angapo amafunikira poyamba.

Komabe, mankhwala akayamba kusintha kwambiri ndipo wodwalayo akukhulupirira kuti mutha kuthana ndi zovuta zamtsogolo, mutha kumasulidwa ndi omwe amakuthandizani.

Kuphunzira za inshuwaransi

Osati inshuwaransi yamtundu uliwonse yomwe imafotokoza za psychotherapy. Zomwe zimaphimba zimatha kukhala ndi zofunika zapadera kapena munthu amachotsera.

Tsimikizani zambiri za inshuwaransi yanu ndi kampani yanu ya inshuwaransi musanapite kukakumana kwanu kuti mukakhale okonzekera ndalama.

Mfundo yofunika

Moyo wokhutiritsa wogonana ndikofunikira pamoyo wanu pazifukwa zambiri. Zinthu zakuthupi ndi zamaganizidwe a moyo wathanzi wogonana zimapindulitsa kwambiri, kuphatikiza kuthamanga kwa magazi, thanzi la mtima wabwino, komanso kuchepetsa nkhawa. Kugonana ndichinthu chachilengedwe komanso chosangalatsa pamoyo.

Komabe, kwa anthu ena, kugonana kumabweretsa nkhawa komanso nkhawa. Kulephera kugonana kumatha kubweretsa zovuta pamaubwenzi, kusadzidalira, ndi zovuta zina zambiri.

Mankhwala opatsirana pogonana ndi njira yothandizira pochotsa komanso kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zayamba. Izi zitha kukhala zakuthupi, monga kuchepa kwa magazi. Angakhalenso nkhawa zamaganizidwe, monga nkhawa, kupsinjika, komanso kudzidalira.

Kugonana kungathandize anthu ndi mabanja kupeza njira yolumikizirana momasuka, moona mtima kuti athe kuthana ndi zovuta zilizonse kapena zovuta zakukhala ndi moyo wathanzi wogonana.