Kodi Muyenera Kudikira Pambuyo Patchuthi Kuti Mumalize ndi S.O.?

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Nkhaniyi idasindikizidwa koyamba pa Disembala 17, 2014.

Kutha kumayamwa, ziribe kanthu nthawi yanji. Nthawi yatchuthiyi, komabe, ili ndi njira yake yamatsenga yopangira chigamba chovuta kumverera kukhala chosapiririka.Dzudzuleni magetsi owala bwino komanso ma mistletoe komanso osangalala, ogwirana manja-chifukwa chake, ngati simunagulitsidwe kwathunthu ku SO yanu, zitha kukhala zokopa mwadzidzidzi kuti muchepetse ubale ndikutha chaka chokha.

Ngati mukuda nkhawa kuti mukuwoneka wankhanza kapena kuvulaza munthu wina, musatero, akutero Sofi Papamarko wa Friend of a Friend Matchmaking ku Toronto. “N’zachidziŵikire kuti n’kopanda chifundo kutaya munthu pa tsiku la Khirisimasi kapena usiku wa Chaka Chatsopano,” iye akutero. "Zomwezo zimachitika patsiku la Valentine, tsiku lawo lobadwa, kapena tsiku lomwe adayikapo paka wawo." Komabe, akufotokoza, "ndichopanda pake komanso nkhanza pang'ono kukhala ndi munthu wina kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe muyenera kuchitira chifukwa cha tchuthi chomwe chikubwera." Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mungakhale mukukhala limodzi, "kutha nthawi ya tchuthi isanakhale chinthu chabwino - ikupatsani nthawi yosiya malo omwe mumagawana nawo mabanja anu ndikulolani kuti muwone masitepe otsatira."

Ngati simukudziwa ngati ili nthawi yoti muthe kutha, chitani zomwe mukanachita nthawi ina iliyonse pachaka: Lankhulani za nkhawa zanu ndi wokondedwa wanu. Zowonadi, zokambirana zapadziko lonse lapansi zitha kukhala zosasangalatsa, koma ndizoyenera chifukwa cha kumveka bwino (kwa nonse a inu). “Ngati mukuona ngati chibwenzi chanu chafika pachimake kapena chikufunika chisamaliro chanu, kambiranani momasuka za zimenezo,” akulangiza motero Marni Battista, mphunzitsi wa zibwenzi wochokera ku Dating With Dignity. "Palibe chifukwa chokhalira pachibwenzi chomwe sichili choyenera kwa inu. Koma, ngati zikuwoneka kuti ndizofunikira, ikani nthawi ndi mphamvu mu nthawi yake ya tchuthi kapena ayi."

Nanga bwanji maanja omwe akudziwa kuti sakusangalala, komabe amakakamirabe mpaka chaka chatsopano? Zingakhale kuti ubale wopanda pake ukuwoneka wosangalatsa kuposa kuthana ndi tchuthi payekha. "Ndizosavuta konse kukhala msuweni yekhayo pa tchuthi chodzaza ndi amuna, akazi, anzawo, ndi makanda-kwezani dzanja lanu ngati muli ndi zaka za m'ma 30 ndikukhala pagome la ana!" Papamarko akuwonjezera. Zaka zingapo zapitazo, Leann, 30, anali "pachibwenzi chokongola miyezi isanu ndi iwiri" ndi chibwenzi chake, Jeff. "Tchuthi chisanafike, ndinali kukayikira ubalewo ndipo ndinali ndi phazi limodzi pakhomo," akukumbukira. Komabe, anasankha kukhalabe ndi bwenzi lake losadziŵika bwino koposa m’malo molimba mtima pa Khrisimasi ina yoziziritsa yekha. “Ndisanakumane naye, ndinali wosakwatiwa kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo ndinakumbukira mmene ndinaliri ndekhandekha,” akufotokoza motero. "Chifukwa chake, ndidatsiriza kudikirira Jeff mpaka misala ya tchuthi itatha. Ndikuganiza kuti ndimangomva ngati ndikufuna wina kuti andithandize kupyola."

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