Chifukwa Chake Tiyenera Kusiya Kuitana Anthu "Superwomxn"

Zamkati

• Vuto ndi "Superwomxn"
• Mmene Mungasinthire Nkhaniyo
• Itanirani Ntchito Momwe Iliri: Ntchito
• Pangani Ntchito Yosaoneka
• Pitani Patsogolo ndikupempha Thandizo
• Pezani Zambiri za "Me Time" Moments
• Funsani Mafunso M'malo Poganizira
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Amagwiritsidwa ntchito pamitu.

Amagwiritsidwa ntchito pokambirana tsiku ndi tsiku (mnzako/mnzako/mlongo wako yemwe amangowoneka kuti * mwanjira ina* achita zonse ndi zina zambiri).

Amagwiritsidwa ntchito pofotokoza kuti amayi omwe amakhala ovuta kuwayendetsa nthawi zambiri amathamangitsa. ("Supermom" ili ngakhale mu dikishonale ya Merriam-Webster.)

Monga mayi wanthawi zonse, wantchito wanthawi zonse, ndakhala ndi anthu ambiri amanditcha "superwoman" kapena "supermom" mchaka ndi theka kuyambira pomwe ndidakhala ndi mwana wanga wamkazi. Ndipo sindimadziwa kuti ndinene chiyani poyankha.

Ndiwo mawu omwe amawoneka kuti alibe vuto. Koma akatswiri amati zitha kukhala zovuta m'maganizo a womxn, kulimbikitsa malingaliro osatheka omwe, abwino, osatheka, komanso owononga. (BTW, nazi zomwe "x" amatanthauza m'mawu onga "womxn.")

Apa, zomwe mawu oti "superwomxn" ndi "supermom" amatanthauza kwenikweni, tanthauzo lomwe angakhale nalo pa thanzi lamisala, komanso njira zomwe aliyense angagwiritsire ntchito kusintha nkhaniyo (kenako, amachepetsa katundu kwa anthu omwe akumva kuti akufuna kuti "kuchita zonse").

Vuto ndi "Superwomxn"

"Mawu oti 'superwomxn" nthawi zambiri amaperekedwa ngati chiyamikiro, "atero a Allison Daminger, a Ph.D. Wosankhidwa ku Yunivesite ya Harvard yemwe amafufuza momwe kusakhazikika kwachuma kumakhudzira mabanja. "Zikusonyeza kuti simungathe kuposa anthu momwe mungathere. Koma ndi 'kuyamikira' kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana komwe simukudziwa momwe mungayankhire; ndi yachilendo."

Kupatula apo, nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi kusenza katundu wolemetsa yemwe "samawoneka kuti akukhudzani momwe timayembekezera kuti anthu wamba angakhudzidwe," akufotokoza.

Ndipo ndi kuti chinthu chabwino?

Kumbali imodzi, ngati wina agwiritsa ntchito mawuwa pofotokoza inu, mutha kunyadira. "Zimakhala bwino kuzindikira - ndipo ndikuganiza kuti anthu akamatcha wina 'superwomxn" kapena "supermom," amatanthauza zabwino, "akutero a Daminger.

Koma itha kukhalanso pamlandu. "Kwa anthu ambiri, zokumana nazo zamkati sizingakhale zabwino," akutero. Werengani: Mwina simungamve ngati muli nazo zonse pamodzi - ndipo izi zitha kubweretsa kusamvana pakati panu mverani zinthu zikuchitika komanso momwe ena akuwonera. Chifukwa chake wina akakutchulani superwomxn, mutha kuganiza, "dikirani ine ayenera Ndili nazo zambiri pamodzi; Ndiyenera kuchita zonsezi, "zomwe zingayambitse kukakamizidwa kuti ndichite zochulukirapo.

Mukamayamikiridwa chifukwa chamakhalidwe ena, zimakhala zochititsa manyazi kapena zachilendo kenako kupempha thandizo, sichoncho? Kotero, m'malo mwake, mumangotenga zomwe zimatchedwa kuyamikira ndikupitiriza kuchita zomwe mukuchita (zomwe zimamveka kale), komanso kumverera ngati mukuyenera kuchita zambiri kuti mukwaniritse khalidwe la "superwomxn". Ndipo "kuchita zonse" popanda manja owonjezera? Zimenezi zingachititse kuti mukhale osungulumwa, akufotokoza motero Daminger.

Kuphatikiza apo, pamene mumangolandira "kutamandidwa" uku mopepuka - m'malo mokana kapena kupempha chithandizo - mungamve ngati mukuyenera kupitiriza kuchita izi. Ndipo pamapeto pake, kukhala "superwomxn" kumakhala chinthu chofunikira (werengani: osasankha) gawo lanu, atero a Daminger. "Ndipo tikudziwa kuchokera ku psychology kuti anthu amafuna kuchita zinthu zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe amadziwira - ngakhale zitakhala kuti ndi zomwe ena adakupatsani," akutero.

Kwa amayi, mawuwa atha kubwera ndi kukakamizidwa kosatchulika kuti akhale ndiubereki wambiri, womwe makamaka mayi akawonedwa (mwa iwo okha ndi / kapena ena) ngati yekhayo amene ali 100% wodzipereka kusamalira mwana wawo, nthawi zina patsogolo pa zosowa zawo, akuwonjezera Lucia Ciciolla, Ph.D., wothandizira pulofesa pa Oklahoma State University yemwe amaphunzira za umoyo wa amayi oyembekezera. "Ngati womxn atha kusonkhanitsa chochitika chokongola kapena kukonza ndandanda yosatheka - yomwe ingakhale yovutitsa kwambiri komanso yovutitsa maganizo kapena thupi - amalipidwa pozindikira kuti akuchita zomwe zikuyembekezeka. "

Nthawi zambiri, nkhani ya superwomxn imayika chithunzi chachikulu: kuti kuyesa kufunafuna kulinganiza - ndikulephera kutero - ndi nkhani yapayekha, osati vuto lalikulu, lachitukuko lokhazikika pachikhalidwe chamakono.

Ndipo izi zitha kutopetsa, manyazi, komanso thanzi lam'mutu, monga kukhumudwa - zonse chifukwa chosakwaniritsa zomwe iwowo kapena anthu amayembekezera, akufotokoza Ciciolla. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungathanirane ndi Kupsa Mtima kwa Amayi - Chifukwa Mukuyeneradi Kuwotcha)

"Womxn akudziimba mlandu chifukwa cholephera kukwaniritsa malire - pomwe, kwenikweni, ndi njira yolimbana nawo - siyankho," akutero a Daminger. "Ndikumva kwambiri kuti iyi ndi nkhani yokhazikika komanso kuti tifunika kusintha kwakukulu pazachikhalidwe cha anthu."

Mmene Mungasinthire Nkhaniyo

Zachidziwikire, ngati mukumva kuti mukugwira ntchito mwakhama kapena ngati muli ndi mndandanda wazinthu "zoposa zaumunthu", kuyembekezera kusintha kwachikhalidwe chachikulu sikuthandizira kuthana ndi nkhawayo pakadali pano. Zingakhale zotani? Ma tweaks ang'onoang'ono omwe mungapange muzochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku komanso zokambirana.

Itanirani Ntchito Momwe Iliri: Ntchito

Kafukufuku wa Daminger amafufuza ntchito zonse zakuthupi (ntchito monga kuphika kapena kuyeretsa) ndi "malingaliro" (mwachitsanzo kukumbukira kuti chiphaso chololeza chikuyenera kapena kuzindikira cholembera pagalimoto chikutha posachedwa).

"Makhalidwe ambiri omwe womxn amalembedwa kuti 'superwomxn' nthawi zambiri amakhala okhudzana ndi chidziwitso chomwe nthawi zambiri sichimayikidwa pa balance sheet," akutero. "Zinthu izi ndizovuta - zimakhala ndi ndalama ngati nthawi kapena mphamvu kwa munthu amene akuzichita - koma ntchito ina imadziwika mosavuta kuposa ina." Ganizirani: kukhala nthawi zonse wokumbukira kunyamula chikwama cha thewera kapena kuti wachoka pamapepala. Simungalankhule za izo koma mumaganizira za izo ndipo ndizotopetsanso.

Kuonetsetsa kuti ntchito zonse zamaganizo zomwe mukuchita zikufika pa balance sheet? Yambani pofotokoza mwatsatanetsatane zomwe mukuchita (ngakhale simukuchita), akutero. "Nthawi zina pamakhala lingaliro lakuti chikondi ndi kugwira ntchito sizigwirizana," akutero a Daminger. (Mwachitsanzo: Ngati mungayitanitse kuti muzisunga zonse zomwe zikufunika kuti mudzaze paulendo wa tsiku limodzi "ntchito," ndiye kuti izi zikutanthauza kuti simukuchita chifukwa mumakonda banja lanu.)

Koma zowona zake ndizakuti Kuzindikiritsa ntchito zonse zomwe zikuyenda m'mutu mwanu ndizofunika. "Kuyang'ana ntchito yokhayo, kuitcha kuti ikugwira ntchito, ndi kuzindikira mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya ntchito m'maganizo, m'maganizo, ndi m'thupi kumapangitsa kuti munthu amene ali 'woposa umunthu' asamangoganizira za zomwe zikuchitika," akutero Daminger. . Mwachidule: Zimakuthandizani - ndi ena - kuwona (ndi kufalitsa) zolemetsa. (Zokhudzana: Njira 6 Zomwe Ndikuphunzira Kuthana ndi Kupsinjika Maganizo Monga Mayi Watsopano)

Pangani Ntchito Yosaoneka

Ntchito ya katundu wamaganizidwe siyowoneka koma pali * njira zopangitsa kuti ziwoneke. M'malo mongonena mokweza kuti mwaphika chakudya chamadzulo, lembani masitepe omwe amayenera kuchitika kuti izi zichitike (mumayenera kupanga mndandanda wa zakudya, fufuzani zomwe zasungidwa, pitani. ku golosale, tengani tebulo, yeretsani mbale, mndandanda umapitirira). "Iyi ikhoza kukhala njira yopangira ntchitozo kuwonekera," akutero. Kulongosola masitepe onse - am'maganizo ndi mwakuthupi - omwe akukhudzidwa ndi ntchito mokweza atha kuthandiza ena kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika pantchito yomwe mukuchitayo ndikupereka gawo lawo ku zosawoneka zake. Izi zitha kuthandiza wina (mwachitsanzo mnzake) kuzindikira katundu wanu mosavuta koma zingakuthandizeninso kumvetsetsa kuti inu ndi kuchita zambiri - ndipo pamapeto pake kukuthandizani kugawa ena.

Pamene mukuyesera kugawanso ntchito m'nyumba mwanu? Osamangoganizira za ntchito yowoneka, komanso ntchito zonse zakumbuyo. M'malo mongonena kuti bwenzi lawo liyenera kukhala nawo "kuphika chakudya" onetsani kuti ali ndi udindo "pachakudya" kwambiri - ndipo izi zikuphatikiza chilichonse chomwe chimabwera ndi chakudya. "Kupereka umwini pa malo m'malo mwa ntchito inayake kungakhale njira yothandiza yofanana," akutero Daminger. Gawani ntchito zanu zonse zapakhomo kapena ntchito zomwe ziyenera kumalizidwa motere, kuti mudziwe yemwe ali ndi udindo pazimenezi.

Pitani Patsogolo ndikupempha Thandizo

Kuuzidwa kuti ndinu superwomxn ndikumva ngati china chilichonse koma? Daminger akuti: "Kukhala owona mtima pankhani yolimbana ndi nkhondoyi ndi njira imodzi yomwe tonse tingasinthire pamodzi.

"Sinthani kuti anthu 'abwino' amafunsira thandizo," akutero Ciciolla. "Kukhala ndi maubale ndi madera omwe amagawana chiyembekezo chomwe tikufunika kuthandizana athandizira kulimbikitsa thanzi lamalingaliro." Kupatula apo, maubale ndi kulumikizana ndizofunikira kuti tikhale ndi moyo wathanzi - kuti atithandizire, kutilimbikitsa, ndikutsimikizika kuti sitili tokha, akutero. (Zokhudzana: Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Kuthandizira Thanzi Lanu Lamaganizidwe Anu Asanayambe ndi Pakati pa Pakati)

Kupempha thandizo - ngakhale zazing'ono, makamaka musanazifune - kumagwiranso ntchito pang'onopang'ono kuti musinthe nkhaniyo pazomwe zimachitika komanso zomwe sizili munthu m'modzi nthawi imodzi. Zimatengera kusatetezeka ndikufunika kopempha thandizo ndi kulumikizana ndi ena, atero Ciciolla.

Wina akamakutcha kuti "superwomxn" ndipo mumamva ngati kuti mwapachikika ndi ulusi, yambani kukambirana za izi ponena zinthu monga, "Kunena zowona, kuyang'anira zinthu zosiyanasiyana nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta nthawi zina." Kapena, ngati mungathe, fufuzani mbali za moyo wanu zomwe mungapindule kwambiri ndi chithandizo china chowonjezera - kaya ndi kuyeretsa kapena kusamalira ana - ndipo khalani otsimikiza za kufunsa zomwe mukufuna.

Pezani Zambiri za "Me Time" Moments

Kaya ndi kalasi ya yoga ya mphindi 20 kapena kuyenda kosavuta mozungulira oyandikana nawo, kutenga nthawi kuti mudzipezenso ndikuwona momwe mukumvera kungakuthandizeni kupanga zisankho zanzeru mtsogolo, atero a Ciciolla. Ndipo izi, nawonso, zimakulimbikitsani kuti muyankhe m'malo mochitapo kanthu. Pambuyo pake, mutha kukhala pamutu woyenera kuti, muthe kukhala ndi zokambirana zabwino ndi mnzanu kapena chipinda chogawana ntchito zofananira m'malo molimbikitsa kuphulika chifukwa muli pamapazi anu omaliza.

Kuphatikiza apo, kuwonetsetsa kuti mumapeza nthawi yodzisamalira ndi njira imodzi yothanirana ndi malingaliro opita, kukumbukira aliyense - inunso mwaphatikizira - nthawi yanu ndi yochuluka (ngati sichoncho!) Yofunika kwambiri monga nthawi ya chilichonse ndi wina aliyense. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungapezere Nthawi Yodzisamalira Mukakhala mulibe)

Funsani Mafunso M'malo Poganizira

Mwambiri, iyi ndi mfundo yabwino: Khulupirirani kuti, monga wowonera kunja, mutha kuwona kachigawo kakang'ono ka zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wa munthu, akutero Daminger. "Ngakhale mutha kutengeka ndi zomwe anzanu kapena makolo anzanu akuchita, kufunsa zomwe amafunikira mwina ndikothandiza kuposa kungowauza kuti akuchita ntchito yabwino."

Sindikudziwa kuti ndiyambira pati? Yesani mafunso osavuta monga, "muli bwanji?" ndi "ndingatani kuti ndithandize?" kapena "muli bwino?" Kupatsa anthu mpata woti agawane zomwe akumana nazo zenizeni kumatha kuchiritsa mwa iko kokha - ndipo pamapeto pake kumathandiza kuchepetsa katundu wa wina. (Zogwirizana: Zomwe Munganene kwa Munthu Yemwe Ali Wokhumudwa, Malinga Ndi Akatswiri A Zaumoyo)

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