Nthawi Yomwe Muyenera Kukhala ndi "Nkhaniyi" ndi Ana Anu

Zamkati

• Zoona Zokhudza Nthawi
• Kodi Ndiziyembekezera Mafunso Ati?
• Momwe Mungakonzekerere Kukambirana
• Kumene Mungapeze Thandizo
• Mfundo Zofunika Kulankhulira
• Kodi Ndingatani Ngati Sindingayankhe Funso?
• Chotengera

Nthawi zina amatchedwa "mbalame ndi njuchi," "zogonana" zowopsya ndi ana anu zidzachitika nthawi ina.

Koma kodi nthawi yabwino kukhala nayo ndi iti? Ngakhale mutha kuyesedwa kuti muzichedwetsa nthawi yayitali momwe mungathere, kuyankhula ndi ana anu koyambirira ndipo nthawi zambiri ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yowonetsetsa kuti akusankha bwino za kutha msinkhu ndi kugonana akamakula.

Ndikofunika kuti mukhale okonzeka kuyankha mafunso a ana anu akamabwera, koma palibe chifukwa chokwanira chilichonse kukambirana kamodzi. Kukambiranako kudzasintha mwana wanu akamakula.

Zoona Zokhudza Nthawi

Dipatimenti ya Zaumoyo ndi Zantchito ku United States ikuwona kuti sikumachedwa kwambiri kuyamba kukambirana ndi ana anu izi.

Mwana wanu ali wakhanda, mutha kuzindikira kuti nthawi zambiri amakhudza ziwalo zawo zobisika. Khalidwe lotere ndi lachibadwa chidwi osati kugonana. Ngakhale zili choncho, mungafune kuthetsa vutoli kuti muwonetsetse kuti mwana wanu samachita pagulu. Mungafune kuwatumizira kwina, kapena kungovomereza kuti izi ndichachinsinsi ndipo siziyenera kuchitidwa pagulu. Osadzudzula kapena kulanga mwana wanu chifukwa cha izi. Izi zitha kuwapangitsa kukhala ndi chidwi chokhudzana ndi maliseche awo kapena manyazi poyankhula zakugonana. Onetsetsani kuti muphunzitse mwana wanu dzina loyenerera la ziwalo zawo zobisika, kuti athe kukuwuzani molondola ngati china chake chikuwapweteka kapena chikuwasokoneza.

Malinga ndi chipatala cha Mayo, ngati mwana wanu nthawi zambiri amadziseweretsa maliseche kapena kudzikhudza, zitha kuwonetsa vuto. Mwina sakulandila chidwi chokwanira. Itha kukhala chizindikiro chakuzunzidwa. Onetsetsani kuti muphunzitsa mwana wanu kuti palibe amene amaloledwa kukhudza maliseche awo popanda chilolezo.

Ngati mwana wanu sakakufunsani za kugonana kapena ziwalo za thupi lawo, musayembekezere. Onetsetsani kuti mwayambitsa zokambiranazo zikafika zaka khumi ndi zitatu. Nthawi yapakati paubwana ndi munthu wamkulu amatchedwa unyamata. Mwana wanu akukula msinkhu panthawiyi ndipo thupi lake likusintha kwambiri. Ndizosiyana kwa atsikana ndi anyamata.

• Atsikana: Kutha msinkhu kumayamba pakati pa zaka 9 ndi 13. Ngakhale kuti atsikana ambiri amatenga msinkhu wawo pakati pa zaka 12 ndi 13, amatha kuyamba ali ndi zaka 9. Ndikofunikira kuti makolo azikambirana ndi ana awo aakazi za msambo asanakwane msambo. Kuwona magazi kumatha kukhala kowopsa kwa msungwana.
• Anyamata: Kutha msinkhu kumayamba pakati pa zaka 10 ndi 13. Lankhulani ndi anyamata za kutulutsa kwawo koyamba pazaka izi, ngakhale akuwoneka kuti sakutha msinkhu.

Osadikira kuti mungokamba nkhani imodzi yayikulu. Kukhala ndi zokambirana zambiri zazakugonana kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuthana nako ndikupatsa mwana nthawi yoti aganizire mfundo iliyonse. Mwana wanu akhoza kuchita mantha kuti adzakuuzeni zakutha msinkhu. Nthawi zambiri imakhala nthawi yosokoneza komanso yotopetsa m'miyoyo yawo. Izi ndizabwinobwino.

Zimathandiza kuyambitsa zokambiranazo powakumbutsa nthawi zambiri kuti zomwe akukumana nazo si zachilendo ndipo ndi gawo la kukula. Auzeni kuti inunso mwadutsamo. Mwana wanu akazolowera kugawana zidziwitso zamtunduwu ndi malingaliro anu, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti nonse muzilankhulana pamene mwana wanu amadutsa gawo lawo launyamata komanso kupitirira apo.

Kodi Ndiziyembekezera Mafunso Ati?

Ndizosatheka kudziwa chilichonse chomwe mwana wanu angakhale akudzifunsa pazakugonana komanso maubale. Komabe, mutha kukonzekera mafunso ena omwe amafunsidwa kawirikawiri.

• Kodi ana amachokera kuti?
• Chifukwa chiyani ndili ndi mabere? Adzakula liti?
• Chifukwa chiyani muli ndi tsitsi kumusi kuja?
• Bwanji sindinatengere nthawi yanga? Chifukwa chiyani ndimakhala ndi nthawi? Chifukwa chiyani anyamata alibe msambo?
• Kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kukhala wogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
• Kodi kugonana m'kamwa kumatengedwa ngati kugonana?
• Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndili ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana?
• Kodi ndingakhale ndi pakati pongopusitsana?
• Mnzanga ali ndi pakati, atani?

Ena mwa mafunso awa angawoneke ovuta kapena ovuta kuyankha. Ingoyesani kuyankha funsoli mosapita m'mbali. Mwana wanu mwina amakhutira ndi zochepa chabe panthawi.

Momwe Mungakonzekerere Kukambirana

Muyenera kukonzekera ndikukhala okonzeka kuyankha mafunso omwe angabwere. Mafunso omwe mwana wanu amafunsa angakupatseni lingaliro labwino pazomwe amadziwa kale. Malangizo otsatirawa akhoza kukuthandizani kuti muyambe.

• Dziwani thunthu. Phunzirani mayina oyenera a gawo lililonse la thupi. Izi zimagwira ntchito pa ziwalo zoberekera za abambo ndi amai.
• Khalani owona mtima. Musaope kuvomereza kwa mwana wanu kuti mumachita manyazi kuyankhulanso. Chifundo choterechi chitha kuthandiza mwana wanu kumasuka ndikufunsa mafunso ambiri.
• Fotokozani. Nenani nkhani zokumana nazo zomwe mudakumana nazo mukukula.
• Maonekedwe adilesi. Bweretsani ziphuphu, kusintha kwa malingaliro, kukula kwakukula, komanso kusintha kwa mahomoni komanso momwe zinthuzi zimachitikira nthawi zosiyanasiyana kwa ana osiyanasiyana komanso momwe zimakhalira.
• Tsegulani makutu anu. Mverani mwachidwi ndikuyang'ana maso. Musafunse mafunso ochulukirapo ndikusunga ngati mungatero.
• Khalani abwino. Osanyoza, kudzudzula, kapena kunyoza malingaliro amwana wanu.
• Khalani aulemu. Sankhani malo abata, achinsinsi kuti mulankhule. Lemekezani zikhumbo zawo zongoyankhula ndi amayi kapena abambo pazinthu zina.
• Perekani zothandizira. Pangani mndandanda wamawebusayiti ndi mabuku omwe amapereka zambiri zokhudzana ndi kugonana zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizolondola.

Kumene Mungapeze Thandizo

Pali masamba angapo odalirika komanso odalirika omwe amapereka chidziwitso chokwanira pankhani yokhudza kugonana ndi chitukuko. Mutalankhula ndi mwana wanu ndikuwadziwitsa kuti mwabwera kudzayankha mafunso aliwonse omwe angakhale nawo, mutha kuwapatsa izi.

• Achinyamata Thanzi
• Kukhala Parenthood

Mfundo Zofunika Kulankhulira

Ana adzakhala ndi mafunso ndi nkhawa zosiyanasiyana zokhudzana ndi kugonana, kutha msinkhu, ndi matupi awo akusintha akamakalamba. Sanjani mayankho anu ku mafunso omwe akufunsani, koma onetsetsani kuti mwalemba zotsatirazi ngati kuli koyenera kutero panthawiyo.

• Mwana wanu ali wamng'ono ndipo ayamba kumvetsetsa kuti ali ndi "ziwalo zobisika," onetsetsani kuti mubwereza kuti palibe aliyense, ngakhale bwenzi kapena wachibale, amene ali ndi ufulu wokhudza malowa.
• Zambiri zokhudzana ndi mimba ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana (matenda opatsirana pogonana), monga gonorrhea, HIV / AIDS, ndi herpes, ngakhale mutaganiza kuti mwana wanu sakugonana panobe.
• Zambiri zamomwe mungadzitetezere ku matenda opatsirana pogonana komanso momwe mungapewere kutenga mimba.
• Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito chitetezo (monga makondomu) panthawi yogonana komanso komwe mungagule.
• Zomwe mungayembekezere potengera kusintha kwa thupi, monga tsitsi la kumaliseche ndi lamkati, kusintha mawu (anyamata), komanso kusintha kwa mawere (atsikana).
• Nthawi komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
• Zomwe mungayembekezere muubwenzi komanso zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana mukamacheza naye. Mutha kukhazikitsa malamulo okhudza nthawi yoyenera kuyamba chibwenzi. Onetsetsani kuti mwana wanu akhazikitsa ziyembekezo zenizeni pa chibwenzi chawo choyamba.
• Zomwe angachite ngati akukakamizidwa kuti agonane asanakonzekere.
• Kwa atsikana, zoyenera kuchita nthawi yoyamba akamasamba, kuphatikiza momwe angagwiritsire ntchito padi ndi tampon ndi zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera ponena za ululu.
• Kwa anyamata, zomwe angachite ngati akutulutsa umuna kapena "atatota".
• Koposa zonse, onetsetsani kuti palibe chomwe chimakusangalatsani kuposa chitetezo chawo.

Kodi Ndingatani Ngati Sindingayankhe Funso?

Ngati inu ndi mwana wanu mukuvutika kulankhulana, funsani dokotala wanu kuti akuwongolereni. Atha kulankhulana ndi mwana wanu mwachindunji, kapena angakutumizireni kwa mlangizi wabanja yemwe amakhazikika pamavuto amtunduwu. Mwana wanu atha kukhala wopanda nkhawa ndi ziphuphu zawo komanso kusintha kwina kumaonekedwe awo. Atengereni kukaonana ndi dermatologist, wometa tsitsi, kapena wamankhwala ngati ayamba kuda nkhawa kwambiri za momwe amawonekera.

Palinso mabuku ambiri abwino omwe amafotokoza za kugonana pamlingo woyenera msinkhu wa mwana wanu. Funsani sukulu ya mwana wanu zamaphunziro awo pamaphunziro azakugonana kuti mutha kudziyesa nokha ndikukhala okonzeka kuyankhulapo kunyumba.

Chotengera

Kumbukirani kuti sikuchedwa kwambiri kapena kuchedwa kuti muyambe zokambiranazi. Chifukwa chakuti mwana wanu sakufunsani kapena kubweretsa mwachindunji ndi inu sizikutanthauza kuti amadziwa mayankho kale. Nthawi zambiri satero. Kapenanso akhoza kukhala kuti akupeza chidziwitso cholakwika kuchokera kwa anzawo. Kungowadziwitsa kuti mulipo kuti muzilankhula nthawi iliyonse kungakhale kokwanira kuti ayambe kukambirana.

Pomaliza, yesetsani kuti musawapatse zambiri nthawi imodzi. Nkhaniyo ikangokhala m'maganizo mwawo ndipo amayamba kukhala omasuka kulankhula nanu za izi, atha kubweranso pambuyo pake ndi mafunso enanso.