Zomwe Wopezerera Weniweni Amauza Ana Ake

Zamkati

• Chifukwa opezerera anzawo
• Momwe ndimalankhulira ndi ana anga za kupezerera anzawo

Sindikunyadira zomwe ndidachita, koma ndikuyesera kuphunzira kuchokera pazolakwitsa zanga kuti zinthu zikhale bwino kwa ana anga.

Ndatsala pang'ono kuwulula mafupa akulu olimba m'chipinda changa: Sindinangodutsa gawo lokhumudwitsa ndili mwana - ndadutsanso gawo lazopezerera. Kupezerera kwanga kunapitilira "ana kukhala ana" ndikukhala okwana @ #! Kwa miyoyo yosauka, yopanda chiyembekezo popanda chifukwa chomveka.

Anthu omwe ndimawatenga nthawi zambiri amakhala amwayi omwe anali pafupi kwambiri ndi ine - abale kapena abwenzi abwino. Iwo akadali m'moyo wanga lero, kaya mokakamizidwa kapena chozizwitsa china chaching'ono. Nthawi zina amayang'ana kumbuyo ndikuseka osakhulupirira, chifukwa pambuyo pake ndinakhala (ndipo mpaka lero) ndili mfumukazi yosangalatsa komanso yosagwirizana.

Koma sindimaseka '. Ndimanyadira. Ndidakali wamantha kwathunthu, kunena zowona.

Ndimaganizira za nthawi yomwe ndimayitanitsa bwenzi laubwana patsogolo pa gulu chifukwa chovala chovala chimodzimodzi tsiku ndi tsiku. Ndimakumbukira ndikuwonetsa chizindikiro chakubadwa kwa wina kuti amudziwe yekha za izi. Ndimakumbukira ndikumuuza nkhani zowopsya kwa oyandikana nawo achichepere kuti awawopsyeze kuti asagone.

Choyipa chachikulu chinali pamene ndimafalitsa mphekesera zoti bwenzi limamusamba kwa aliyense kusukulu. Ndine m'modzi yekhayo amene adaziwona zikuchitika, ndipo sizinkafunika kupitirira apo.

Chomwe chimandipangitsa kukhala wonyozeka kwambiri ndikuti ndimachita mantha kwambiri nthawi zina, choncho sindimagwidwa kawirikawiri. Mayi anga akamva nkhanizi, amakhalanso ndi nkhawa monga momwe ndiriri pano chifukwa sanazindikire kuti zikuchitika. Monga mayi inenso, gawo limenelo limandidabwitsa kwambiri.

Ndiye bwanji ndachita? Ndileke bwanji? Ndipo ndingawathandize bwanji ana anga kuti asamachite nkhanza - kapena kuzunzidwa - akamakula? Awa ndi mafunso omwe ndimaganizira pafupipafupi, ndipo ndabwera kuti ndiwayankhe kuchokera pamalingaliro a wankhanza.

Chifukwa opezerera anzawo

Chifukwa chiyani? Kusatetezeka, chifukwa chimodzi. Kuyimbira mnzake kuti avale zomwezo tsiku ndi tsiku… chabwino, bwanawe. Izi zimachokera kwa msungwana yemwe adavala ubweya wake wachiwombankhanga waku America mpaka zigongono zidatha ndikudutsa gawo lolemera lopanda kusamba kuti asunge "ma curls" omwe anali zingwe zopota za tsitsi lomwe adakodwa ndi gel osapempha kusamba. Sindinali mphoto.

Koma mopanda kudzidalira, linali gawo limodzi loyesa madzi ovuta kwambiri ndipo gawo limodzi ndikukhulupirira kuti umu ndi momwe atsikana azaka zanga amathandizirana. Mwa izi, ndinadzimva wolungamitsidwa chifukwa panali anthu kunja uko omwe akuchita zoyipa kwambiri.

Mtsikana anali atakhala mtsogoleri wa gulu lathu chifukwa ena amamuopa. Mantha = mphamvu. Si momwe zonsezi zidagwirira ntchito? Ndipo kodi atsikana achikulire oyandikana nawo sanalembedwe "OTHANDIZA" mu choko cha mseu za ine kunja kwa nyumba yanga? Sindinali kutenga kuti kutali. Koma pano tili, ndipo patatha zaka 25, ndikumvabe chisoni chifukwa cha zinthu zopanda nzeru zomwe ndidachita.

Izi zimanditengera nthawi komanso chifukwa chomwe ndidayimira: kuphatikiza kukhwima ndi chidziwitso. Osadabwitsa aliyense, ndinakhumudwa pamene atsikana achikulire omwe ndimaganiza kuti ndi anzanga amandisiya. Ndipo anthu adasiya kufuna kucheza ndi mtsogoleri wathu wamagulu opanda mantha patapita nthawi - kuphatikizapo ine.

Ndinadziwonera ndekha kuti ayi, sizinali choncho "momwe atsikana azaka zanga amathandizirana." Osati ngati akufuna kuwakhalabe abwenzi, mulimonsemo. Kukhala usinkhu wazaka khumi ndi zitatu zinali zovuta mokwanira… ife atsikana timayenera kukhala ndi misana ya wina ndi mnzake.

Izi zikutisiya ndi funso lomaliza: Kodi ndingatani kuti ana anga asazunzidwe - kapena kuzunzidwa - akamakula?

Momwe ndimalankhulira ndi ana anga za kupezerera anzawo

Ah, tsopano gawo ili ndi lolimba. Ndimayesetsa kutsogolera moona mtima. Wamng'ono kwambiri kulibe, koma wamkulu wanga ndi wamkulu mokwanira kuti amvetsetse. Kuphatikiza apo, ali ndi kalembedwe kale, chifukwa cha zomwe zikuchitika kumsasa wachilimwe. Ziribe kanthu nthawi kapena chifukwa chake zimachitika, zimachitika, ndipo ndi ntchito yanga kumukonzekera. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timakhala ndi zokambirana pabanja momasuka.

Ndimamuuza kuti sindinali wabwino nthawi zonse ( * chifuwa cha chifuwa * ndikumanyalanyaza chaka) ndikuti adzakumana ndi ana omwe nthawi zina amapweteketsa ena kuti adzimve bwino. Ndimawauza kuti ndizosavuta kugula pamakhalidwe ena ngati mukuganiza kuti zimakupangitsani kukhala ozizira kapena zimapangitsa magulu ena kukhala ngati inu.

Koma zomwe tili nazo ndimomwe timachitirana wina ndi mnzake, ndipo inu mumakhala ndi zochita zanu nthawi zonse. Ndi inu nokha amene mungakhazikitse mawu pazomwe mungachite ndi zomwe simudzachita. Pazomwe mungalole komanso zomwe simukuvomereza.

Sindikufunikira kukuwuzani kuti malingaliro olimbana ndi kupezerera anzawo ndi amoyo - ndipo ndichoncho. Palinso zochitika zowopsa kwambiri munkhani zomwe anthu amatsimikizira ena kuti ndi opanda pake ndipo sayenera kukhala ndi moyo. Sindingaganize zopangitsa kapena kukhala ndi zoopsazi, kuchokera kumbali ya aliyense.

Ndipo tiyeni tikhale owona. Sitingalole kuti ifike pamlingo umenewo kuti ife tizilankhula za ife ndi kusonkhana nawo. Chifukwa kupezerera sikumangochitika pabwalo lamasewera kapena maholo a sukulu yasekondale kwinakwake. Zimachitika kuntchito. Pakati pa magulu abwenzi. M'mabanja. Pa intaneti. Kulikonse. Ndipo mosasamala kanthu za gulu la abwenzi, zaka, jenda, mtundu, chipembedzo, kapena china chilichonse chosiyana, tili mgulu limodzi.

Ndife anthu ndi makolo omwe akuchita zonse zomwe tingathe, ndipo sitikufuna ana athu mbali zonse ziwiri zavutitsidwe. Tikamazindikira zambiri - ndikuchepa komwe tonse pamodzi tikufuna - tidzakhala bwino.

Kate Brierley ndi wolemba wamkulu, freelancer, komanso mayi wokhala ku Henry ndi Ollie. Wopambana mphotho ya mkonzi wa Rhode Island Press Association, adalandira digiri ya bachelor mu utolankhani komanso mbuye mu library ndi maphunziro aukadaulo ku University of Rhode Island. Amakonda ziweto zopulumutsa, masiku apanyanja, komanso zolemba pamanja.