Kukhala Munthu Wosamala Kwambiri Ndi Mkhalidwe Wa Sayansi. Nazi Zomwe Zimamvekera.

Zamkati

• 1. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza ubwana wanga
• Zinthu zitatu anthu a HSP akufuna kuti mudziwe
  
• 2. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza ubale wanga
• 3. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza moyo wanga waku koleji
• Momwe mungakhalire bwino mdziko lapansi ngati HSP
  

Momwe ndimakhalira bwino mdziko lapansi ngati (wofunika kwambiri).

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Pa moyo wanga wonse, ndakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi magetsi owala, zonunkhira zolimba, zovala zoyabwa, komanso phokoso lalikulu. Nthawi zina, zimawoneka kuti nditha kutulutsa malingaliro amunthu wina, ndikunyamula chisoni chawo, mkwiyo, kapena kusungulumwa asananene kalikonse.

Kuphatikiza apo, zokumana nazo zomverera, monga kumvera nyimbo, nthawi zina zimandidzidzimutsa ndikumverera. Wokonda nyimbo, ndimatha kuimba nyimbo ndimakutu, nthawi zambiri ndimangoganiza kuti ndi cholemba chiti chotsatira kutengera momwe nyimbo zimamvera.

Popeza ndalimbikira kuchita zomwe zandizungulira, ndimavutika kugwira ntchito zambiri ndipo ndimatha kupsinjika ndikakhala kuti zochuluka zikuchitika nthawi imodzi.

Koma ndili mwana, m'malo mondiwona ngati waluso kapena wapadera, machitidwe anga adatchedwa kuti ovuta. Anzanga akusukulu ankanditchula kuti “Rain Man,” pomwe aphunzitsi ankandinena kuti sindimamvetsera mukalasi.

Wolembedwa ngati bakha wosamvetseka, palibe amene ananena kuti mwina ndinali "munthu wosamala kwambiri," kapena HSP - munthu wamanjenje amisempha yemwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zanzeru zam'malo awo.

HSP si vuto kapena vuto, koma mkhalidwe wa umunthu womwe umadziwikanso kuti sensory-processing sensitivity (SPS). Ndinadabwa, sindine bakha wosamvetseka konse. Dr. Elaine Aron akuti 15 mpaka 20 peresenti ya anthu ndi HSPs.

Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo, zokumana nazo zanga monga HSP zidakhudza kwambiri maubwenzi anga, maubale okondana, ndipo zidanditsogolera kukhala katswiri wamaganizidwe. Nazi momwe kukhala HSP zilili.

1. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza ubwana wanga

Tsiku langa loyamba sukulu ya mkaka, mphunzitsiyo anawerenga malamulo a m'kalasimo kuti: “Ikani chikwama chanu m'bafa lanu m'mawa uliwonse. Lemekezani anzanu a kusukulu. Palibe miseche. ”

Atawerenga mndandandawo, adati: "Ndipo pamapeto pake, lamulo lofunika kwambiri: Ngati muli ndi mafunso, kwezani dzanja."

Ngakhale ndimayitanidwa, ndidafunsa mafunso ochepa. Ndisanakweze dzanja langa, ndinkaphunzira nkhope ya mphunzitsiyo, kuyesa kudziwa ngati watopa, wakwiya, kapena wakwiya. Akakweza nsidze, ndimaganiza kuti wakhumudwa. Ngati amalankhula mwachangu kwambiri, ndimaganiza kuti waleza mtima.

Ndisanayambe kufunsa funso lililonse, ndimafunsa kuti, "Kodi zili bwino ndikamafunsa funso?" Poyamba, aphunzitsi anga adakumana ndi nkhanza zanga ndikumvera chisoni, "Inde, zili bwino," adatero.

Koma posakhalitsa, chifundo chake chidasanduka chokwiyitsa, ndipo adakuwa, "Ndakuwuzani kuti simukuyenera kufunsa chilolezo. Simunamvetsere tsiku loyamba la kalasi? "

Pochita manyazi chifukwa chosachita bwino, adanena kuti ndine "wosamvetsera bwino" ndipo anandiuza kuti "ndisiye kukonzanso kwambiri."

Kumunda, ndinkalimbana kuti ndipeze anzanga. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndekha chifukwa ndimakhulupirira kuti aliyense amandikwiyira.

Kunyoza anzanga komanso mawu okhadzula ochokera kwa aphunzitsi zinandipangitsa kuti ndibwerere. Zotsatira zake, ndinali ndi abwenzi ochepa ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimamva ngati sindine. "Chokani panjira, ndipo palibe amene angakusokonezeni," idakhala mantra yanga.

Zinthu zitatu anthu a HSP akufuna kuti mudziwe

• Timamva zinthu mozama koma titha kubisa malingaliro athu kwa ena, chifukwa taphunzira kubwerera.
• Titha kuwoneka osakhala bwino pagulu, monga misonkhano yakuntchito kapena maphwando chifukwa pali zolimbikitsa kwambiri, monga phokoso lalikulu. Izi sizitanthauza kuti sitiyamikira ubale.
• Poyambitsa maubwenzi atsopano, monga maubwenzi kapena maubwenzi apamtima, titha kufunafuna kulimbikitsidwa chifukwa timakhala okhudzidwa ndi zizindikiritso zilizonse zomwe tikudziwa kuti tikukana.

2. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza ubale wanga

Nthawi zonse anzanga akakopeka ndi winawake, amandifunsa kuti ndiwapatse malangizo.

"Mukuganiza kuti-ndi-akuti akufuna kuti ndiyimbire ndipo akusewera zolimba kuti apeze?" Mnzake adafunsa. “Sindikukhulupirira kusewera mwakhama kuti ndipeze. Khalani nokha, ”ndinayankha. Ngakhale abwenzi anga amaganiza kuti ndimasanthula kwambiri zochitika zilizonse, adayamba kuzindikira kuzindikira kwanga.

Komabe, nthawi zonse kupereka upangiri wamaganizidwe ndikusangalatsa ena kunakhala njira yovuta kusiya. Poopa kuzindikiridwa, ndidadzilowetsa munkhani za anthu ena, ndikugwiritsa ntchito chikhalidwe changa chovuta kuti nditha kumvera chisoni komanso kutonthoza.

Pomwe anzanga akusukulu komanso abwenzi amandithamangira kuti andithandize, samadziwa chilichonse chokhudza ine, ndipo ndimadzimva kuti sindikuwoneka.

Pomwe chaka changa chomaliza kusekondale chimayamba, ndinali ndi chibwenzi changa choyamba. Ndinamuyendetsa mtedza.

Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikuphunzira za machitidwe ake ndikumamuuza kuti tiyenera kutero ntchito pa ubale wathu. Ndidanenanso kuti titenge mayeso a Myers-Briggs kuti tiwone ngati tikugwirizana kapena ayi.

"Ndikuganiza kuti mwaphulika ndipo ine ndayamba!" Ndidalengeza. Sanasangalale ndi malingaliro anga ndipo adathetsa ine.

3. Kukhala HSP kunakhudza moyo wanga waku koleji

“Anthu osamala kwambiri nthawi zambiri amakhudzidwa ndi phokoso lalikulu. Angafunike kupumula atakhala ndi zokopa zambiri. Anthu okhudzidwa kwambiri amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi momwe ena akumvera, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhulupirira kuti atha kukopa chidwi cha wina. ”

Mu 1997, mkati mwa kalasi ya psychology, pulofesa wanga waku koleji adalongosola za umunthu zomwe sindinamvepo kale, munthu womvera kwambiri.

Momwe adalemba mndandanda wama HSP, ndimamva ngati akuwerenga malingaliro anga.

Malinga ndi pulofesa wanga, Dr. Elaine Aron, katswiri wa zamaganizidwe, ndiye adayambitsa dzina loti HSP mu 1996. Kudzera mu kafukufuku wake, Aron adalemba buku, "The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Wive When the World Overgambms You." M'bukuli, akufotokoza za umunthu wa ma HSP komanso momwe angakhalire bwino mdziko lapansi ngati munthu wovuta.

Pulofesa wanga ananena kuti ma HSP nthawi zambiri amakhala osavuta komanso osavuta. Sanachedwe kunena kuti Aron samawona ma HSP ngati okhala ndi zofooka pamunthu kapena matenda, koma zina mwazomwe zimayambira chifukwa chokhala ndi dongosolo lomvera.

Nkhani imeneyi inasintha moyo wanga.

Ndinachita chidwi ndi momwe chidwi chathu chimakhudzira umunthu wathu komanso momwe timagwirira ntchito ndi ena, ndidapita kukamaliza sukulu ndikukhala katswiri wazamisala.

Momwe mungakhalire bwino mdziko lapansi ngati HSP

• Phunzirani momwe mungazindikire momwe mukumvera. Kumbukirani kuti kupsinjika mtima, monga kuda nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ndikumva kupsinjika kudzakhala kwakanthawi.
• Pewani kupsinjika pakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi, kugona bwino, ndikudziwitsa anzanu odalirika kapena othandizira pazovuta zanu.
• Lolani anzanu, ogwira nawo ntchito, komanso abale anu adziwe kuti mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndimalo okweza. Ndipo adziwitseni momwe mungapiririre muzochitika izi, "Ndimachita mantha ndi magetsi owala, ndikatuluka panja kwa mphindi zochepa, musadandaule."
• Yambani kuchita zomwe mumadzimvera chisoni, kuwongolera kukoma mtima ndikuthokoza nokha m'malo mongodzidzudzula.

Marwa Azab, pulofesa wama psychology ndi chitukuko cha anthu ku California State University ku Long Beach, akunena mu nkhani ya TED pa HSP kuti machitidwe ovuta kwambiri adatsimikiziridwa ndi maphunziro angapo asayansi.

Ngakhale kuti kafukufuku wambiri amafunika kuzungulira HSP, njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimadziwonetsera mwa anthu, komanso momwe tingapiririre kukhala omvera uber, zakhala zothandiza kwa ine kungodziwa kuti khalidweli lilipo komanso kuti sindili ndekha.

Tsopano, ndimavomereza chidwi changa monga mphatso ndipo ndimadzisamalira popewa maphwando aphokoso, makanema owopsa, komanso nkhani zosasangalatsa.

Ndaphunziranso kuti ndisatengere zinthu ndekha ndipo nditha kuzindikira zofunikira zololera china kupita.

Juli Fraga ndi katswiri wazamisala wokhala ku San Francisco, California. Anamaliza maphunziro a PsyD ku University of Northern Colorado ndikupita ku chiyanjano ku UC Berkeley. Wokonda zaumoyo wa amayi, amayandikira magawo ake onse mwachikondi, moona mtima, komanso mwachifundo. Onani zomwe akuchita Twitter.