Chifukwa Chimene Muyenera Kuyang'ana Amayi Anu Atsopano

Zachidziwikire, tumizani zabwino zanu pazanema. Koma ndi nthawi yoti tidye ndikuphunzira kuchitira makolo atsopano.

Pomwe ndidabereka mwana wangu wamkazi mu chirimwe cha 2013, ndidazunguliridwa ndi anthu komanso chikondi.

Anzake ambiri komanso abale ake amadikirira mchipinda chodikirira, kudya pizza yozizira ndikuwonera nkhani yamaola 24. Adalowa ndikutuluka mchipinda changa - {textend} kundipatsa chitonthozo, kucheza, ndipo (pomwe manesi adaloleza) amayenda kanthawi kochepa mu holo yozungulira - {textend} ndipo atabereka, adabwera pafupi ndi bedi langa, kudzandikumbatira ndipo ndigwire mwana wanga wamkazi akugona.

Koma pasanathe maola 48, zinthu zinasintha. Moyo wanga (mosakayikira) unasintha, ndipo mayitanidwewo adatha.

Malemba oti "mukumva bwanji" adayimitsidwa.

Poyamba, chete kunali bwino. Ndinali wotanganidwa kuyamwitsa, kugona, ndikuyesa kubaya mwana wanga wamakani. Ndipo ngati sindingathe kuyika ma tiyi pa khofi yanga, nditha bwanji kuyika masamba azinzanga? Moyo wanga unkakhala ndikuwonjezera maola 2 ... patsiku labwino.

Ndinagwira ntchito podziyendetsa ndekha.

Ndinalibe nthawi yochita china koma "kupulumuka."

Komabe, patadutsa milungu ingapo, chete zija zidakhala zowopsa. Sindinadziwe kuti ndine ndani - {textend} kapena tsiku lanji.

Ndidayenda mosalekeza pazanema. Ndinawonera TV mosalekeza, ndipo ndinayamba kuvutika maganizo kwambiri. Thupi langa lidakhala limodzi ndi bedi lathu lotsika mtengo, la IKEA.

I - {textend} kumene - {textend} ndikadatha kufikira. Ndikadatha kuyimbira amayi anga kapena kuyimbira apongozi anga (thandizo, upangiri, kapena kukumbatirana). Ndikadakhala nditatumizira anzanga kapena anzanga mameseji. Ndikanatha kuuza mwamuna wanga.

Koma sindinadziwe choti ndinene.

Ndinali mayi watsopano. Mayi # wodala. Awa amayenera kukhala masiku abwino kwambiri m'moyo wanga.

Komanso, palibe mnzanga aliyense amene anali ndi ana. Kudandaula kunkawoneka mopusa komanso kopanda tanthauzo. Iwo samakhoza kuzimvetsa izo. Kodi akanamvetsetsa bwanji? Osanenapo zambiri za malingaliro anga (ndi zochita) zimawoneka zopenga.

Ndidakhala maola ambiri ndikuyenda m'misewu ya Brooklyn, ndikuyang'ana amayi ena onse omwe amangowoneka kuti akuwapeza. Omwe adasewera (ndi kukonda) makanda awo obadwa kumene.

Ndikulakalaka ndikadadwala - {textend} osadwala koma wakufa mokwanira kuchipatala. Ndinkafuna kuthawa ... kuthawa. Ndinafunika kupuma. Ndipo sindinadziwe chomwe ndapukuta kwambiri, matako a mwana wanga wamkazi kapena maso anga. Ndipo ndingafotokoze bwanji izi? Kodi ndingafotokoze bwanji zomwe zimandivuta? Kudzipatula? Mantha?

Mwana wanga wamkazi adagona ndipo sindinakhale maso. Ndinkamuyang'ana akupuma, ndimamvetsera akupuma, komanso ndimada nkhawa. Kodi ndidamugwedeza mokwanira? Kodi anali atadya mokwanira? Kodi chifuwa chaching'ono chija chinali chowopsa? Ndiyitane adotolo? Kodi ichi chitha kukhala chizindikiritso choyambirira cha SIDS? Kodi zinali zotheka kutenga chimfine cha chilimwe?

Mwana wanga wamkazi adadzuka ndipo ndidapemphera kuti agone. Ndinkafunika kamphindi. Mphindi. Ndinalakalaka kutseka maso anga. Koma sindinatero. Kuzungulira koyipa uku kunatsuka ndikubwereza.

Ndipo nditapeza thandizo - {textend} nthawi ina pakati pa sabata la 12 ndi 16 la mwana wanga wamkazi ndidasokonekera ndikulola amuna anga ndi madotolo - - kukhala ndi munthu m'modzi m'moyo wanga zikadatha kusintha.

Sindikuganiza kuti winawake "akanandipulumutsa" kapena kunditchinjiriza ku tulo tofa nato kapena zoopsa za kupsinjika kwa pambuyo pobereka, koma ndikuganiza kuti chakudya chotentha chitha kukhala kuti chidandithandiza.

Zikanakhala bwino ngati wina - {textend} aliyense - {textend} angafunse za ine osati mwana wanga yekha.

Nayi malangizo anga kwa aliyense ndi aliyense:

• Lembani mameseji atsopanowo m'moyo wanu. Itanani amayi atsopano m'moyo wanu, ndipo chitani nawo pafupipafupi. Osadandaula kuti amudzutse. Amafuna kulumikizana ndi achikulire. Iye zosowa kukhudzana wamkulu.
• Mufunseni momwe mungathandizire, ndipo muuzeni kuti ndinu okondwa kuwonerera mwana wawo kwa mphindi 30, ola limodzi, kapena maola awiri kuti athe kugona kapena kusamba. Palibe ntchito yopusa kwambiri. Muuzeni kuti sakukuwonongerani nthawi yanu.
• Mukapita, musachite chimanjamanja. Bweretsani chakudya. Bweretsani khofi. Ndipo chitani izi osapempha. Manja ang'onoang'ono amapita Kutalika njira.
• Ngati simupitilira, mumutumizire kutumiza modabwitsa - {textend} kuchokera kwa Postmates, DoorDash, wopanda msoko, kapena Grubhub. Maluwa ndi okongola, koma caffeine ndi yolumikizira.
• Ndipo mukamayankhula naye, musamumvere chisoni - {textend} amamvera chisoni. Muuzeni zinthu monga "zikumveka ngati zambiri" kapena "zomwe ziyenera kukhala zowopsa / zokhumudwitsa / zovuta."

Chifukwa ngakhale muli ndi ana kapena ayi, ndikukulonjezani izi: Mutha kuthandiza mayi anu abwenzi ndipo akusowani. Kuposa momwe mungadziwire.

Kimberly Zapata ndi mayi, wolemba, komanso woimira zamatenda amisala. Ntchito yake yawonekera m'malo angapo, kuphatikiza Washington Post, HuffPost, Oprah, Vice, Parents, Health, ndi Scary Mommy - {textend} kungotchulapo ochepa. Mphuno zake zikaika m'manda (kapena buku labwino), Kimberly amatha nthawi yake yopumula akuthamanga Wamkulu Kuposa: Matenda, bungwe lopanda phindu lomwe cholinga chake ndikupatsa mphamvu ana ndi achikulire omwe ali ndi mavuto azaumoyo. Tsatirani Kimberly Facebook kapena Twitter.