Azimayi 7 Amagawana Upangiri Wabwino Wodzikonda womwe Adalandira kuchokera kwa Abambo Awo

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Zikafika pakupambana nkhondo zofananira ndi thupi, nthawi zambiri timaganizira za amayi omwe ali kutsogolo-zomwe zimakhala zomveka chifukwa amayi nthawi zambiri amalimbana ndi mavuto omwewo omwe mumakumana nawo. Koma pali munthu wina amene nthawi zambiri amakhala komweko, kukulimbikitsani kuti muchite zonse zomwe mungathe ndikukukondani momwe mulili: abambo anu.

Masiku ano, abambo - kaya obadwa nawo, oleredwa, okwatirana, kapena omwe amatenga udindo wa abambo - ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa ana awo aakazi kuposa kale lonse. Amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito ya mwana wawo wamkazi, ubale wawo, komanso zosankha pamoyo wawo, malinga ndi kafukufuku yemwe a Linda Nielsen, Ph.D., pulofesa wa psychology yophunzitsa ndi achinyamata ku Wake Forest University komanso wolemba Ubale wa Atate-Mwana wamkazi: Kafukufuku Wamakono & Nkhani. Chitsanzo chimodzi? Amayi masiku ano ali ndi mwayi wotsatira katatu wawo za abambo njira yantchito. Ndipo sizimayima ndi ntchito; Amayi omwe ali ndi abambo okhudzidwa nawonso samakhala ndi vuto la kudya, ndipo amatha kuchita bwino kusukulu, atero Dr. Nielsen.

Amuna ali ndi malingaliro osiyana-ndipo pomwe sitikugogoda upangiri wa Amayi, nthawi zina chilimbikitso champhamvu kwambiri, upangiri, kapena mawu oti tizitsatira akuchokera kwa abambo anu. Inde, nthawi zina amuna amalankhulana mosiyana, kotero kuti malangizo awo akhoza kubwera mosagwirizana, koma angakhalenso zomwe muyenera kumva. Kuti tipereke ulemu kwa Atate okalamba okondedwa, tinapempha akazi asanu ndi atatu kuti afotokoze malangizo amene anawathandiza kuphunzira kukonda matupi awo, kukulitsa maluso awo, ndi kungodziona kukhala odzikuza.

Onani kukongola pansi pa china chilichonse.

"Ndili wachinyamata ndimayesa kupanga zodzoladzola ndipo ndikukumbukirabe ndikutsika masitepe ndi zomwe abambo anga adachita. Adawoneka wodabwitsidwa nati, 'Ndiwe wokongola zivute zitani, koma bwanji ukuvala utoto wonsewo? ngati amayi ako-simusowa zodzoladzola kuti ukhale wokongola. ' Makolo anga onse adandipangitsa kukhala ndi chidaliro chamkati komanso chakunja, koma abambo anga ndiwodabwitsa pakuchita izi m'njira zenizeni. "-Meghan S., Houston

Onetsani maluso anu ndikupeza mayitanidwe anu m'moyo.

“Ndili ndi zaka 14, bambo anga ankandiyendetsa pagalimoto n’kundifunsa ngati ndinaganizirapo za zimene ndinkafuna kuchita nditakula. Ndinawauza kuti sindikudziwa. Kukhala namwino wabwino kutengera chikhalidwe changa wachifundo, kuzindikira komanso kuganiza mwachangu. Mawu ake okoma mtima adandithandizanso kudziona ndekha chimodzimodzi, ndipo ndidaganiza tsiku lomwelo kutsatira njirayo. Ndakhala namwino kwa zaka 26 tsopano- Ntchito yomwe ndimaikonda kwambiri ndipo ndiyedi chifukwa chake. "Amayi I., Arvada, CO

Gwiritsani ntchito china chake chowononga kuti mubwerere mwamphamvu kwambiri.

"Abambo anga nthawi zonse akhala akundithandizira kwambiri. Kukula adandipangitsa kumva ngati ndingathe kuchita chilichonse. Anandiphunzitsanso kutsatira zikhalidwe zanga ndi mtima wanga ndikutsatira miyezo yanga. Phunziroli lidathandiza pomwe ndidasudzula mwamuna wanga chaka chapitacho.Ndinadziwa kuti ndimachita zoyenera, koma ndinkachita mantha kukhala ndekha komanso mayi wopanda mayi. pano kwa ine, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndili ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuchita izi.-Tracy P., Lakeville, MN

Funsani ulemu ngati wothamanga ndipo ngati mkazi.

"Abambo anga sanali olankhula bwino koma nthawi zonse anali kutchera khutu ku zomwe ndimachita. Kusekondale, adawonetsa aliyense wamasewera anga a volleyball ndi zochitika zamasewera, ndipo ngati ndilephera kuchita kena kake, m'malo mwake Tinkatha maola ambiri ndikuyeserera luso langa la volleyball kutsogolo. Komanso akandipempha kuti ndivine paukwati ankati, 'Tsiku lina Mwamuna adzabwera. Ambiri a iwo adzatero. Amene amakukondani kwambiri adzavina mochedwa kwambiri ndipo adzakukokerani pafupi ndi kutchera khutu kwa inu. Ngati athamanga kwambiri, mumapita patsogolo."-Christie K., Shakopee, MN

Ikani zofunika zanu patsogolo.

"Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, tinkapita ku eyapoti komwe bambo anga anali ndi chizolowezi chouluka ndege. Ndimakumbukira momwe amanditengera ndikupita nawo limodzi ndikamacheza, ndikupita kokayenda. Iye Nthawi zonse ndinkanyadira kuti ndili naye limodzi. Nthawi zonse ndinkamva kulandiridwa ndikufunidwa pa zochitika zake, monga woyendetsa ndege woyenda komanso mnzake. malo m'moyo wanga pazosowa zanga."-Sarah T., Minneapolis

Yesetsani ndipo mukhutitsidwe nazo.

"Abambo anga amakhalabe olimbikitsidwa ngakhale atadutsa zaka 10 zapitazo. Anandiphunzitsa kuti ndizidziyesa ndikudziyesa ndekha chifukwa amandiyamikira komanso amandikonda zivute zitani. Anandiphunzitsa kuyesetsa momwe ndingathere, koma kuti ndikhale bwino ndi ayi kukhala bwino kwambiri. Anandiphunzitsa kuwona kuthekera kwanga kwenikweni ndikusataya mtima. Ndimamusowa kwambiri, koma ndimayamika kwambiri chifukwa cha chikondi chake. "-Marianne F., Martinsburg, WV

Khalani onyadira kuti ndinu ndani komanso zopambana zanu.

"Ndili ndi zaka zoyambirira za 20s ndidachoka msungwana wakumatawuni yaying'ono kupita kwa mayi wabizinesi wopambana, ndikugwira ntchito padziko lonse lapansi. Amayi anga samandilimbikitsa zomwe ndimachita. Adayamba kupikisana nane ndikudzudzula magwiridwe anga antchito. Zomwe adachita zidandipangitsa kuganiza kuti ndiyenera Pepani chifukwa chakuchita bwino. Ndinkafunabe ubale ndi banja langa ndipo ndinali ndi nkhawa kuti ndichita china chake cholakwika. - pazabwino zomwe ndidapanga. "-Theresa V., Reno, NV

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