Kuvomereza Kuti Mukufa Kungakhale Chinthu Chomasula Kwambiri Chomwe Mumachita

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• Pafupifupi anthu 50 amapezeka pamsonkhanowu ku San Francisco mwezi uliwonse. Ndipo lero linali tsiku langa kuti ndikakhale nawo.
• Kenako Ned woyambitsa adafika pa siteji
• Kodi YG2D idayamba bwanji?
• Kodi dzinali linabwera bwanji?
• Zinthu zidayamba kukhala zovuta kwambiri pamene…
• Kodi YG2D imagwira ntchito bwanji?
• Kodi anthu amatani mukawauza za mwambowu?
• Kodi pali nzeru kupewera zokambirana zakufa?
• Kodi mungayanjanitse bwanji kusamvana uku? Zikafika kwa ife ndi abwenzi apamtima, timawopa imfa, komabe titha kupita kusewera masewera kapena kuwonera kanema komwe anthu ambiri amafa?
• Kodi wina angayambire bwanji kusintha chibwenzi chawo mpaka imfa?
• Tikamalankhula zazinthu zambiri, zidzachitika kwa ife, ena amatero
• Zolinga zilizonse zokulira mpaka mizinda ina?

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Pafupifupi anthu 50 amapezeka pamsonkhanowu ku San Francisco mwezi uliwonse. Ndipo lero linali tsiku langa kuti ndikakhale nawo.

"Chani chitani umavala mpaka kufa? ” Ndinadzifunsa ndekha pamene ndinali kukonzekera kupita kuntchito yogulitsidwa ku San Francisco yotchedwa You Are Going to Die, akaYG2D.

Nditangomva za mwambowu, ndidakopeka ndi achibale ndipo ndidanyansidwa mwadzidzidzi. M'kupita kwanthawi chidwi changa chidapambana ndipo, imelo yolengeza za chochitika chotsatira itafika mu bokosi langa, ndidagula tikiti.

Ndidavala zakuda ndikukhala kutsogolo - mpando wokhayo wotsalira.

Kenako Ned woyambitsa adafika pa siteji

Mwana wamwamuna wamkulu ndimomwe ndimamukondera. Munthu wamtima wonse. Adalira, kuseka, kutilimbikitsa, ndikutikhazika mtima pansi mphindi zochepa.

Ndinapezeka ndikufuula ndi omvera, "Ndikufa!" Kuopa mawu oti "kufa" kunachoka mchipindacho, kumaganiziridwa kuti kwatha kwa maola atatu otsatira.

Mzimayi kuchokera kwa omvera adagawana chikhumbo chake chofuna kudzipha komanso momwe amayendera Bridge Bridge nthawi zambiri. Wina adagawana zakufera kwa abambo ake odwala kudzera pazolemba pa Facebook zomwe adapeza. Winawake adagawana nawo nyimbo yokhudza mlongo wake, yemwe anali asanamvepo zaka zambiri.

Ngakhale sindinakonzekere kugawana nawo, ndimamva kuti ndikulimbikitsidwanso kuti ndipite pa siteji ndikukalankhula za kutayika. Ndinawerenga ndakatulo yonena za nkhondo zanga ndikukhumudwa. Pofika kumapeto kwa usiku, mantha oyandikira kufa ndi imfa adachoka mchipindacho ndi pachifuwa panga.

Ndinadzuka m'mawa wotsatira ndikumva kulemera paphewa panga. Kodi zinali zophweka chonchi? Kodi kuyankhula zaimfa kuli poyera tikiti yathu yotimasula ku zomwe timaopa kwambiri?

Ndinafikira Ned nthawi yomweyo tsiku lotsatira. Ndinkafuna kudziwa zambiri.

Koma koposa zonse, ndikufuna kuti uthenga wake ufikire anthu ambiri momwe angathere. Kulimba mtima kwake komanso chiopsezo chimafalikira. Tonse titha kugwiritsa ntchito zina - ndi zokambirana ziwiri kapena ziwiri zakufa.

Mafunso awa adasinthidwa mwachidule, kutalika, komanso kuwunikira.

Kodi YG2D idayamba bwanji?

Ndidapemphedwa ndi SFSU [San Francisco State University] Graduate Literature Association kuti ndichite mwambowu womwe umalumikiza ophunzira komanso gulu. Mu Meyi wa 2009, ndimatsogolera mic yoyamba yoyamba. Ndipo uko kunali kuyamba kwa chiwonetserochi.

Koma YG2D imabadwa kuchokera munkhani yayitali, yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Zinayamba ndi amayi anga komanso vuto lawo lachinsinsi ndi khansa. Anapezeka kuti ali ndi khansa ya m'mawere ndili ndi zaka 13 ndipo adalimbana ndi khansa kangapo kwa zaka 13 pambuyo pake. Ndikudwala uku komanso kufa komwe kumachitika chifukwa chabanja lathu, ndidafikiridwa kumwalira msanga.

Koma, chifukwa chazinsinsi za amayi anga pafupi ndi matenda awo, imfanso sinali kuyankhulana komwe ndidapeza.

Munthawi imeneyi, ndimapita kukalangiza anthu ambiri achisoni ndipo ndinali mgulu lothandizira chaka chonse kwa anthu omwe kholo lawo latayika.

Kodi dzinali linabwera bwanji?

Mnzanga wina yemwe anali kuthandiza ndi zochitikazo adafunsa chifukwa chomwe ndimachitira. Ndikukumbukira kungoyankha, “Chifukwa… iwe udzafa.”

Nchifukwa chiyani mukubisa mawu anu kapena nyimbo kwinakwake, chifukwa zonse zidzatha? Musadzitengere nokha mozama. Khalani pano ndikupereka zochuluka za inu momwe mungathere momwe mungathere. Mukufa.

Zinthu zidayamba kukhala zovuta kwambiri pamene…

Kanemayo adasinthidwa pomwe adasamukira ku Viracocha, malo okhala ngati bokosi pansi pomwe pamwala wowala wa San Francisco. Ndipamene mayi a mkazi wanga amwalira, ndipo sizinatsutsike zomwe ndimafunikira kuchokera kuwonetsero:

Malo oti ndikhale pachiwopsezo ndipo ndimagawana nawo zinthu zomwe zili pafupi kwambiri ndi mtima wanga, zinthu zomwe zimandifotokozera, kaya ndikumwalira kwa amayi anga ndi apongozi anga, kapena kulimbana kwatsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndipeze kudzoza ndi tanthauzo potsegula mpaka kufa kwanga. Ndipo anthu ambiri amafunikira izi - chifukwa chake timakhala pagulu pochita limodzi.

Kodi YG2D imagwira ntchito bwanji?

Mukufa: Ndakatulo, Prose & Chilichonse Chimachitika chimachitika Lachinayi loyamba ndi lachitatu la mwezi uliwonse ku The Lost Church ku San Francisco.

Timapereka malo otetezeka kuti tizilowerera muzokambirana zakufa, kukambirana komwe mwina nthawi zambiri sitikhala nako m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku. Ndi malo omwe anthu amakhala otseguka, osatetezeka, ndikukhala ndi zopweteketsa mtima za wina ndi mnzake.

Madzulo aliwonse amathandizidwa ndi a Scott Ferreter kapena a Chelsea Coleman, oyimba omwe amakhala nawo pamalopo. Opezekapo ndiolandilidwa kuti alembe pamalopo kuti agawane kwa mphindi zisanu.

Itha kukhala nyimbo, kuvina, ndakatulo, nkhani, sewero, chilichonse chomwe angafune, kwenikweni. Mukadutsa malire a mphindi zisanu, ndibwera pa siteji ndikukumbatirani.

Kodi anthu amatani mukawauza za mwambowu?

Chidwi chachikulu, mwina? Chidwi? Nthawi zina anthu amazizwa. Ndipo makamaka, nthawi zina ndimaganiza kuti ndiye muyeso wabwino kwambiri wa Kupita Kumfa - pamene anthu sakhala omasuka! Zinanditengera kanthawi kuti ndifotokozere molimba mtima za mwambowu momasuka.

Imfa ndichinsinsi, monga funso lopanda mayankho, ndipo kuvomereza ichi ndi chinthu chopatulika. Kugawana nawo pamodzi kumapangitsa kukhala kwamatsenga.

Pamene aliyense anena kuti "Ndifa" limodzi, monga gulu, akukokera chophimbacho palimodzi.

Kodi pali nzeru kupewera zokambirana zakufa?

Imfa nthawi zina imatha kumva kuti siinaperekedwe. Ndipo ngati sichinafotokozedwe chakakamira. Kuthekera kwakuti isinthe ndikusintha ndikukhala chokulirapo ndikuchepa. Ngati pali nzeru zakusalankhula zakufa, mwina chibadwa chathu kuti tizisamalire mosamala, tizisunge pafupi ndi mitima yathu, moganiza, komanso ndi cholinga chachikulu.

Kodi mungayanjanitse bwanji kusamvana uku? Zikafika kwa ife ndi abwenzi apamtima, timawopa imfa, komabe titha kupita kusewera masewera kapena kuwonera kanema komwe anthu ambiri amafa?

Pamene imfa sichinthu chatsiku ndi tsiku komwe mumakhala (monga m'dziko lomwe muli nkhondo), ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri imasungidwa. Ichotsedwa pa fosholo mofulumira.

Pali dongosolo lomwe limakhazikitsidwa kuti lizisamalira zinthu mwachangu.

Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinali m'chipinda chachipatala ndi amayi anga. Sakanandilola kuti ndikhale ndi thupi lake kwa mphindi zoposa 30, mwina zocheperako, kenako kunyumba yamaliro kwa mphindi zisanu zokha, mwina.

Tsopano ndikumva pakadali pano pakufunika kuti tikhale ndi nthawi ndi malo omvera chisoni kwathunthu.

Kodi wina angayambire bwanji kusintha chibwenzi chawo mpaka imfa?

Ndikuganiza kuti ndikuwerenga buku la "Ndani Amafa?" ndi chiyambi chabwino. Zolemba za "The Griefwalker" zitha kukhalanso zotsutsana ndi zotseguka. Njira zina:

1. Pangani mpata wolankhula ndi ena kapena kumvetsera ena akakhala ndi chisoni. Sindikuganiza kuti pali china chosintha m'moyo kuposa kumvera ndikukhala otseguka. Ngati wina wapafupi ndi inu wataya wina, pitani kumeneko mukakhale komweko.

2. Dziwani bwino zomwe mukumvera chisoni. Zitha kukhala kumbuyo komwe, kuyambira unyamata wanu, makolo anu, ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ndipo sanataye mokwanira.

3. Pangani malo ndi kutseguka mu kutayika ndi chisoni. Angela Hennessy adagawana nawo manifesto ake achisoni pachiwonetsero chathu nthawi ya OpenIDEO's Re: Imagine End-of-Life sabata.

Iye anati, “Mverani chisoni tsiku lililonse. Muzikhala ndi nthawi yolira maliro tsiku lililonse. Pangani chisoni ndi zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku. Pamene mukuchita chilichonse chomwe mukuchita, nenani zomwe mukumva mwachisoni ndipo fotokozani mwachindunji. ”

4. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zambiri sizinthu zomwe mumakumana nazo tsiku lililonse, monga zovuta ndi ntchito yanu, mwachitsanzo. Zambiri zondichitikira pamoyo wanga zomwe zimatulutsa kukongola kwakukulu zidabadwa chifukwa cha zoopsa ndi kuzunzika. Ndi chinthu chomwe chiri chakale mkati mwanu, pansi pa zinthu zonse za tsiku ndi tsiku, zomwe mukufuna kuti mufikeko. Ndi zomwe zimabwera kwa inu mukamwalira.

Imfa imapereka mchitidwewu, womwe umatha. Mukakhala mu chowonadi ichi, chimasintha momwe mumakhalira ndi moyo. Imfa imatulutsa zigawo zonse ndikukuwonetsani zinthu momveka bwino.

Tikamalankhula zazinthu zambiri, zidzachitika kwa ife, ena amatero

Monga, ngati ndinganene kuti, "Ndifa," ndiye kuti ndalengezadi imfa yanga tsiku lotsatira? Inde, ndikhulupilira kuti mumapanga zenizeni nthawi zonse. […] Ndikusintha kwamalingaliro.

Zolinga zilizonse zokulira mpaka mizinda ina?

Inde. Ndikuganiza kuti kukulitsa gulu lapaintaneti kudzera pa podcast chaka chino kungapangitse kuti alendo azitha kuyendera. Ndiyo imodzi mwanjira zotsatirazi. Izi ziyamba ndikuwonetsa zowonetsa pafupipafupi. Komanso mu ntchito.

Ngati muli ku Bay Area, pitani ku BIG YG2D yotsatira ku Great American Music Hall pa Ogasiti 11. Dinani apa kuti mudziwe zambiri za mwambowu kapena pitani ku www.yg2d.com.

Jessica akulemba za chikondi, moyo, ndi zomwe timaopa kukambirana. Adasindikizidwa mu Time, The Huffington Post, Forbes, ndi zina zambiri, ndipo pakadali pano akugwira ntchito m'buku lake loyamba, "Mwana wa Mwezi." Mutha kuwerenga ntchito yake Pano, mufunseni chilichonse Twitter, kapena mumuphe Instagram.