Makhalidwe a Youittle Child Syndrome

Zamkati

• Kodi Achichepere Achinyamata Ndi Chiyani?
• Makhalidwe Olakwika a Youulin Child Syndrome
• Kodi Ntchito Yobadwa Ndi Yofunika Kwambiri?
• Zikhulupiriro Zabodza Zokhudza Kubadwa
• Njira Zothetsera Achichepere Achichepere Matenda
• Chotengera

Pafupifupi zaka 90 zapitazo, katswiri wamaganizidwe adati njira yobadwa nayo imakhudza momwe mwana amakhalira. Lingalirolo lidagwira pachikhalidwe chofala. Lero, mwana akamawonetsa kuti wasokonezedwa, mumangomva ena akunena kuti, "Ndiye mwana wabanja lathu."

Kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kukhala womaliza m'ndondomeko yakubadwa, ndipo vuto laling'ono kwambiri la ana ndi chiyani? Nayi malingaliro ena okhudzana ndi matenda aana achichepere kwambiri komanso chifukwa chake kukhala womaliza kumatha kuyika mwana patsogolo.

Kodi Achichepere Achinyamata Ndi Chiyani?

Mu 1927, katswiri wama psychology Alfred Adler adalemba koyamba za dongosolo lobadwa ndi zomwe zidalosera zamakhalidwe. Kwa zaka zambiri zapitazi, malingaliro ndi matanthauzidwe angapo akhala akuperekedwa patsogolo. Koma kwakukulu, ana omaliza amafotokozedwa kuti:

• ochezeka kwambiri
• wotsimikiza
• kulenga
• Kuthetsa mavuto
• amatha kupangitsa ena kuti awachitire zinthu

Osewera ndi ochita masewera ambiri ndi abale achichepere kwambiri m'mabanja awo. Izi zimathandizira lingaliro lakuti kukhala womaliza kumalimbikitsa ana kukhala osangalatsa komanso oseketsa. Angachite izi kuti athe kutchuka pagulu la mabanja.

Makhalidwe Olakwika a Youulin Child Syndrome

Ana aang'ono kwambiri amafotokozedwanso kuti ndi owonongedwa, ofunitsitsa kuchita zoopsa zosafunikira, komanso opanda nzeru kuposa abale awo akulu. Akatswiri azamaganizidwe akuti makolo amasunga ana aang'ono kwambiri. Angathenso kufunsa abale ndi alongo achikulire kuti amenye nkhondo za abale ndi alongo ang'onoang'ono, kusiya ana achichepere sangathe kudzisamalira mokwanira.

Ofufuza anenanso kuti ana aang'ono kwambiri nthawi zina amakhulupirira kuti ndi osagonjetseka chifukwa palibe amene amawalola kulephera. Zotsatira zake, ana achichepere amakhulupirira kuti sawopa kuchita zinthu zowopsa. Mwina sangaone zotsatirapo monga ana omwe adabadwa iwo asanabadwe.

Kodi Ntchito Yobadwa Ndi Yofunika Kwambiri?

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe Adler ankakhulupirira chinali chakuti dongosolo la kubadwa siliyenera kungoganizira za amene anabadwa woyamba komanso amene anabadwadi komaliza.

Nthawi zambiri, momwe anthu amamvera ndi dongosolo lawo pamzere wa abale ndizofunikira monganso kubadwa kwawo. Izi zimadziwikanso kuti dongosolo lawo lobadwa mwamaganizidwe. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwana woyamba kubadwa ali ndi matenda osachiritsika kapena olumala, abale ake angatenge gawo lomwe nthawi zonse limakhala la mwanayo.

Momwemonso, ngati gulu limodzi la abale m'banja labadwa zaka zingapo gulu lachiwiri lachibale, magulu onse awiri atha kukhala ndi mwana yemwe amakhala ndi mwana woyamba kapena womaliza. Mabanja ophatikizika amapezanso kuti abale ena opeza amamva ngati akusunga dongosolo lawo lobadwira, komanso amayamba kumva kuti ali ndi dongosolo latsopano m'banjamo.

Zikhulupiriro Zabodza Zokhudza Kubadwa

Pambuyo pakuphunzira kwazaka zambiri, ofufuza ayamba kuganiza kuti dongosolo la kubadwa, ngakhale kuti ndi losangalatsa, mwina silikhala lothandiza monga momwe amaganizira poyamba. Kafukufuku watsopano akutsutsa lingaliro loti kubadwa ndiko komwe kumapangitsa anthu kuchita zinthu m'njira zina. M'malo mwake, nkhani monga jenda, kutenga nawo mbali kwa makolo, komanso malingaliro olakwika atha kutenga gawo lalikulu.

Njira Zothetsera Achichepere Achichepere Matenda

Kodi mwana wanu ali ndi ziyeso zonse zomwe zimayambitsa matenda aang'ono kwambiri, kuphatikiza zoyipa? Mwinamwake ayi, makamaka ngati mumamvetsera zomwe mumayembekezera kwa ana anu. Onetsetsani kuti malingaliro anu okhudzana ndi kubadwa ndi mabanja ndi otani, komanso momwe malingaliro amenewo amakhudzira zisankho zanu m'banja. Mwachitsanzo:

1. Lolani ana azicheza limodzi momasuka kuti apange njira yawo yochitira zinthu zina. Akasiyidwa kuti athetse okha, abale ndi alongo sangachite chilichonse potengera momwe amabadwira ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi maluso osiyanasiyana omwe angapereke.
2. Apatseni ana anu onse maudindo ndi ntchito zapabanja. Izi zikuyenera kukhala zofunikira pakukula. Ngakhale ana ang'onoang'ono amatha kuchotsa zoseweretsa zingapo ndikuthandizira kuyeretsa.
3. Musaganize kuti ana aang'ono sangathe kuwononga zinthu. Ngati mwana wamng'ono kwambiri wavulaza, chitani naye moyenera m'malo mongonyalanyaza zochitikazo. Ana aang'ono kwambiri amafunika kuphunzira kumvera ena chisoni, komanso akuyenera kuphunzira kuti pali zovuta pazomwe zimakhumudwitsa ena.
4. Osamupangitsa mwana womaliza kumenyera banja chidwi. Ana amapanga njira zina zowononga kuti apeze chidwi pomwe samva kuti wina aliyense akuwasamalira. Wophunzira wanu wachitatu atha kukambirana za tsiku la sukulu mwakuya kwambiri, koma woyang'anira sukulu wanu ayenera kupeza nthawi yolankhula popanda kumenyera nkhondo.
5. Kafukufuku angapo wofufuza ngati njira yakubadwa imakhudzira luntha apeza kuti pali mwayi kwa ana oyamba kubadwa. Koma nthawi zambiri imakhala mfundo imodzi kapena ziwiri, osati zokwanira kusiyanitsa Einstein ndi Forrest Gump. Yesetsani kusunga zomwe mwana wanu wamwamuna wachichepere wazichita mpaka muyeso yokhazikitsidwa ndi mwana wanu wamkulu.

Chotengera

Matenda aana aang'ono kwambiri akhoza kukhala nthano. Koma ngakhale zitakhala zenizeni, sizoyipa zonse. Mwana wamng'ono kwambiri amakhala ndi omusamalira omwe amadziwa zambiri, abale ake omwe amawayanjana, komanso chitetezo cha nyumba yomwe ili ndi zinthu zomwe mwana amafunikira.

Ana aang'ono kwambiri amatha kuwona abale awo okulirapo akuyesa malire, amalakwitsa, ndikuyesanso zatsopano poyamba. Ana aang'ono kwambiri akhoza kukhala pakhomo kwa chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri ndi osamalira omwe sachita mantha ndi mwana wakhanda.

Ana aang'ono kwambiri amatha kukhala opanga komanso ochezeka. Awa ndi maluso omwe akuchulukirachulukira pachuma pomwe ntchito yothandizirana ndiyofunika. Pamapeto pake, matenda aana achichepere sayenera kufotokozedwa ndi zoyipa zake. Itha kukhala malo abwino mtsogolo mwa mwana wanu. Ndipo pamene mukuganizira za momwe "mungaletsere" mwana wanu kukhala ndi zikhalidwe zoyipa za matenda aana achichepere, kumbukirani kuti dongosolo lobadwa ndi lingaliro chabe. Si tanthauzo la moyo.