Maphunziro 5 pa Moyo Wanga Wophunzira pa Kukwera Njinga Zamapiri

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Nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinapita kukakwera njinga zamapiri, ndimathera panjira zomwe zidapitilira luso langa. N’zosachita kufunsa kuti ndinathera nthaŵi yochuluka m’dothi kuposa panjinga. Nditafooka ndipo ndinagonjetsedwa, ndinapanga malingaliro amtendere kwa-ngakhale ndimakhala mumzinda wopanda mapiri kwambiri wa New York - mwanjira ina, amaphunzira kukwera njinga yamapiri.

Pamene zipsera ndi kudzikonda kwanga kudachira, ndinaganiza kuti ndifunikira thandizo la akatswiri, kotero ndidawuluka kudutsa dzikolo pakufuna kukana-kulephera kuphunzira momwe ndingadulire bwino pamsasa wa luso la Trek Dirt Series ku Santa Cruz, CA.

Trek Dirt Series ndi pulogalamu yophunzitsira yanjinga zamapiri ndipo imapereka misasa yamasiku awiri yaakazi enieni komanso ophatikizana nawo ku US ndi Canada. Makampu ndi otseguka kwa oyamba kumene, apakatikati, komanso okwera kwambiri - magawo onse aluso ndi okwera amapangidwira makamaka pamlingo wanu, ndipo cholinga chake ndikukulitsa maluso ofunikira kuti musangalale kwambiri panjinga yanu.

Makochi okangalika komanso odzipereka anandipatsa mokwanira maluso ofunikira kuthana ndi kukwera maukadaulo, zopinga zaukazitape, ndikusintha kwamphamvu. Koma chomwe chidandidabwitsa kwambiri? Zambiri ndimaphunzira za moyo munjira. Sindinaganizepo kuti zina mwazofunikira zakukwera njinga zamapiri zingatanthauzire mosavuta ku zovuta za njinga.

Ndinachoka ku msasa ndikudzidalira kwambiri panjinga yamapiri ndipo, chodabwitsa, ndi nzeru pang'ono, chifukwa cha maphunziro asanu awa a moyo omwe ndinatenga panjira. (Mukufuna chowiringula kuti mubwezere matako anu panjinga? Tili ndi Zifukwa 14 Zomwe Kukwera Njinga Kuli Koipa Kwambiri.)

1. Phunzirani Kuvina, Osati Kaimidwe

Chimodzi mwazinthu zoyambirira zomwe muphunzire pa njinga yamapiri ndi "kukonzekera". Kuyimirira pamiyendo yokhotakhota, mawondo anu ndi zigongono ndizopindika pang'ono, zala zakumapeto zikutsamira pazoyimitsa, ndipo maso akuyang'ana patsogolo. "Awa ndimasewera othamanga, omwe amakulolani kuyembekezera zomwe zikubwera ndikuzolowera mtunda, kuyendetsa njinga mozungulira pansi panu ndi thupi lanu panjinga," akufotokoza Candace Shadley, woyambitsa Dirt Series, director, ndi mphunzitsi. Pamalo olimba koma ofewa, thupi lanu limakhala ngati "kuyimitsidwa" pamtunda, "kuvina" pa njinga m'malo mokhala okhwima-pakuwongolera kwambiri.

Mukamakwera, sikuti nthawi zonse mumakhala pamzere (njinga zamapiri zimayankhulira njira yomwe mukufuna kuyenda) yomwe mukufuna, koma muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuyendamo ndikukhala okonzeka kutenga mzere watsopano. Chimodzimodzinso moyo. Ndipotu, malinga ndi kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Zolemba za Psychology Psychology, achinyamata omwe amatha kusintha kuzinthu zatsopano komanso zosintha anali ndi mwayi wofotokoza kukhutira ndi moyo komanso kukhala ndi tanthauzo komanso cholinga m'miyoyo yawo. Zinthu sizimayenda momwe mukufunira kapena kukonzekera, koma muyenera kusinthasintha. Njira ikafika pamiyala, ganizirani zofanizira kuti "mwakonzeka" kuti muthe kudutsa m'moyo.

2. Yang'anani Kumene Mukufuna Kupita

Kiyi yosankha mzere wabwino kwambiri? Kusanthula njira patsogolo. "Ndizosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita," akutero Lena Larsson, mphunzitsi wa Dirt Series komanso wokwera mapiri. "Ngakhale okwera odziwa zambiri amapezeka kuti nthawi zina amasiya kuyang'ana, kuzizira panthawiyi, komanso osayang'ana kutsogolo," akutero. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri potembenuka kapena kuyesa kupewa gawo lowopsa la njirayo. "Mwamwayi, ngati titalola matupi athu kuchita zomwe akufunadi, zomwe ndi kutsatira mutu wathu ndikutsata momwe timayang'anirako, ndiye kuti takhazikika bwino," akuwonjezera Shadley.

Zikafika pa moyo, palibe chifukwa choyang'ana komwe muli musatero ndikufuna kukhala, kaya ndi kulemera kwako, ntchito yako, kapena ubale wako. M'malo mwake, yang'anani komwe mukufuna kukafika ndikuyang'ana pamenepo, makamaka m'malingaliro. Kafukufuku wambiri wasonyeza kuti kuona zinthu m’maganizo kungabweretse chipambano, ndipo atafufuza ochita maseŵera 235 a ku Canada okonzekera Masewerawa anapeza kuti 99 peresenti ya iwo anali kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzithunzi, zomwe zingatanthauze kuyeseza m’maganizo mwawo chizolowezi kapena kudziyerekezera kuti mukuwoloka mzere womaliza. Kuyang'ana zolinga zanu ndikuwona kupambana kumakuthandizani kuzikwaniritsa mwachangu kuposa ngati mutataya nthawi kuyang'ana mmbuyo. (Onani Malangizo awa okwera 31 ochokera kwa Oyendetsa Akazi Oyenda.)

3. Musayese Kuchita Zonse Nthawi imodzi

Ku kampu, muphunzira zida zankhondo munthawi yochepa kwambiri. Ndikosavuta kulingalira zonse ndikutanganidwa ndi zambiri. Koma pa njinga yamapiri, kuganizira zinthu mopitirira muyeso kumatha kukhala kovulaza chifukwa, nthawi zambiri, mumakhala mulibe nthawi yokwanira yosinkhasinkha chilichonse-mukufuna kuti chikhale chachibadwa ndikungolola thupi lanu kuchitapo kanthu. "Lingalirani chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa inu tsopano ndikuyika mphamvu zanu mpaka zitachitika mwachibadwa. Kenako pitilizani kuzinthu zina, "alangiza Shadley.

M’moyo nanenso, n’zosavuta kutengeka ndi nkhani yaikulu. Koma monga momwe muyenera kuchitira luso limodzi pa njinga yanu, muyenera kuyesayesa kuchita chimodzi mwazinthu pamoyo wanu, makamaka munthawi zosintha kapena zovuta. Maphunziro-monga awa omwe adasindikizidwa mu Makhalidwe a Gulu ndi Njira Zosankha za Anthu-awonetsa kuti kuchita zinthu zambiri zochulukirapo kumakhala kopindulitsa kuposa kuyang'ana pa ntchito imodzi. Choncho m’malo motopa ndi kuchita chilichonse nthawi imodzi, fotokozani zimene zikufunika kuchitika, ganizirani chinthu chimodzi panthawi imodzi, ndipo chitani zinthu zing’onozing’ono kuti mukwaniritse cholinga chachikulucho. (M'malo mwake, sayansi yatsimikizira kuti Kuchulukitsa Kwambiri Kukhoza Kuwononga Kuthamanga ndi Kupirira Kwanu.)

4. Ganizirani Maganizo Osangalatsa

Mukakhala ndi tsiku lovuta panjinga, mukuchita mantha ndi njira inayake, kapena mwataya pang'ono, ndikosavuta kudzitsitsa nokha ndikulola kuti kusalabadira kulowemo, koma kukhala wotsimikiza ndichinsinsi chakuchita bwino. "Ganizirani zomwe mukufuna kuti zichitike, ganizirani momwe mukufuna zinthu zikuyendere, ndipo pali mwayi wambiri kuti muchite bwino," akutero Shadley. Palibe vuto kugwa. Aliyense amatero. Ndizabwino kudziwa zomwe muli komanso zomwe simungakwanitse. Ndi bwino kukwera njinga nthawi zina. "Gwiritsani ntchito luso lanu, ndi chidziwitso cha luso lanu, kudzikumbutsa zomwe mungathe kuchita," akulangiza Shadley. "Yerekezerani zomwe muli nazo patsogolo panu ndi zofanana ndi zomwe munazikwanitsa bwino m'mbuyomo. Dziwoneni nokha mukuchikwera bwino. Ndipo ngati simungathe, ingosiyani kwa nthawi ina." Palibe vuto.

Ndizosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita, koma kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kungakufikitseni panjinga ndipo m'moyo. Kupatula apo, ngakhale kuti nthawi zina simungathe kusintha zinthu, mutha kusintha malingaliro anu. Khalani ndi chiyembekezo ndikutulutsa malingaliro okayikira, kukhumudwa, mkwiyo, kugonja, kapena kulephera. Ngati mukumva kukhumudwa kukubwera, yesetsani kuchisintha kuti chikhale chabwino ndikuchita mobwerezabwereza. Kuchita zimenezi kungakukhudzeni kwenikweni mwakuthupi ndi m’maganizo.Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kuganiza bwino kungapangitse chitetezo chokwanira, kuchepetsa cholesterol, komanso kungakuthandizeni kukhala ndi moyo wautali. Chifukwa chake kuchokera pano kupita kunja, ma vibes abwino okha. (Yesani Ma Trick-Therapist Ovomerezeka Kuti Mukhale Osatha Ngati mukufuna zina zowonjezera.)

5. Tsegulani-Ndipamene Zosangalatsa Zimachitika

Monga mkazi, amayi anu ayenera kuti anakuuzani kuti mugone pamodzi pamene munali mwana. Zikafika pokwera njinga yamapiri? "Iwalani za izi, chifukwa muyenera kutsegula kuti zisangalatse ziyambe!" akuseka Larson. "Kutsegulira miyendo yanu kumakupatsani mwayi kuti njinga iziyenda pansi panu nonse kumbuyo ndi kutsogolo komanso kuchokera mbali ndi mbali," akutero. Ngati musunga maondo anu pamodzi, njinga yanu ilibe kopita, ndipo pamapeto pake mudzakhala osakhazikika.

M'moyo, ndikofunikira kukhala ndi malingaliro otseguka pazomwe zakhala zikuchitika ndikulowamo popanda malingaliro. Kaya ndi kulimbitsa thupi kwatsopano, ntchito yatsopano, kusamukira ku mzinda watsopano-zilizonse zomwe zingachitike - chilichonse chingakupatseni china chomwe simunakumanepo nacho, ndipo nacho, mwayi wophunzira china chatsopano. Mwa njira, miyendo yanu, kafukufuku wofalitsidwa mu Zolemba Zamagetsi Zogonana akuwonetsa kuti ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse amakhala ndi kudzidalira kwakukulu, amadziona ngati okonda kugonana, ndipo amakhala ndi zikhutiro zambiri zakugonana kuposa omwe sachita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Kotero inu mumapeza chithunzicho. (Ndani ankadziwa? Onani Zinthu 8 Zodabwitsa Zomwe Zimakhudza Moyo Wanu Wogonana.)

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