Mkazi Yemwe Maganizo Ake Sadzazimitsa

Zamkati

• Ndi liti pamene mudazindikira kuti mudali ndi nkhawa?
• Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji mthupi?
• Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji m'maganizo?
• Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zanu?
• Kodi mumathetsa bwanji nkhawa yanu?
• Kodi moyo wanu ukanakhala bwanji ngati nkhawa yanu ikanatha?
• Kodi muli ndi zizolowezi kapena zizolowezi zina zokhudzana ndi nkhawa zomwe ndizosiyana ndi inu?
• Kodi ndi chinthu chiti chomwe mukufuna kuti anthu ena adziwe zakuda nkhawa?
• Kodi nkhawa zakhudza bwanji ubale wanu?

“Ndimadziuza kuti aliyense amandida ndipo ndine wopusa. Zimakhala zotopetsa kwambiri. ”

Povumbulutsa momwe nkhawa imakhudzira miyoyo ya anthu, tikukhulupirira kuti tifalitsa kumvera ena chisoni, malingaliro olimbana nawo, ndikukambirana momasuka zaumoyo wamaganizidwe. Uku ndikuwona kwamphamvu.

G, katswiri wazachikale waku Canada wazaka za m'ma 30, wakhala ndi nkhawa kuyambira ali wakhanda. Odwala omwe ali ndi matenda a nkhawa (GAD) komanso matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD), amavutika kuti athetse nkhawa zomwe zimangodzaza m'mutu mwake.

Kuopa kuti nkhawa yake ndi yayikulu kwambiri kwa ena kwakhudzanso ubale wake.

Nayi nkhani yake.

Ndi liti pamene mudazindikira kuti mudali ndi nkhawa?

Ndidadziwa kuti china chake sichili bwino ndikukula. Ndimalira kwambiri ndikungomva kuti ndathedwa nzeru. Nthawi zonse zinkadetsa nkhawa makolo anga. Amayi anga anandibweretsanso kwa dokotala wa ana ndili mwana.

Koma zonse zomwe adamuuza zinali kuti, "Mukufuna kuti ndichite chiyani? Ali ndi thanzi labwino. ”

Kusukulu yasekondale, nkhawa yanga idapitilira, ndipo ku yunivesite, idafika pachimake (ndikhulupirira). Pomaliza, ndinapezeka ndi GAD ndi OCD.

Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji mthupi?

Zizindikiro zanga zazikuluzikulu ndikusuta, kuphwanya m'mimba, komanso kumva chizungulire kapena kupepuka. Ndimadzidwalitsa mpaka kufika polephera kudya chakudya.

Nthawi zina, ndimamvanso kena m'chifuwa mwanga - {textend} chodabwitsa ichi "chokoka" kumverera. Komanso ndimalira kwambiri ndipo ndimavutika kuti ndigone.

Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji m'maganizo?

Zimangokhala ngati kwangotsala kanthawi kuti chinthu china choopsa chichitike komanso kuti zonse zakhala vuto langa. Sindingaleke kuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe sizikuthandiza, zomwe zimangowonjezera chilichonse.

Zili ngati ndikuwonjezera moto pamoto. Ndimadziuza ndekha kuti aliyense amandida ndipo ndine wopusa. Ndizotopetsa kwambiri.

Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zanu?

Moyo, kwenikweni. Chitha kukhala china chaching'ono - {textend} chochitika chaching'ono kwambiri - {textend} chomwe ndidzasamala, ndipo chidzasanduka chipale chofewa kukhala chimphona chachikulu.

Ndimawunikanso zonse. Ndimakhalanso ndi malingaliro a anthu ena. Ngati ndili ndi munthu yemwe ali wokhumudwa kapena wokhumudwa, zimandikhudza kwambiri. Zili ngati ubongo wanga nthawi zonse umafuna njira yosangalatsa komanso yodzipangira ndekha.

Kodi mumathetsa bwanji nkhawa yanu?

Ndachita zamankhwala, kumwa mankhwala, ndikuyesera maphunziro olingalira. Therapy, m'zaka zaposachedwa, yathandizira, ndikupeza wothandizira yemwe amamvetsetsa nkhawa kuposa buku lokhalo anali abwino.

Ndinatenganso maphunziro olingalira pafupifupi milungu isanu ndi itatu. Ndawonera makanema a Jon Kabat-Zinn ndipo ndili ndi mapulogalamu azisangalalo pafoni yanga.

Ndimatsegulira nkhawa zanga momwe ndingathere, ndipo ndimayesetsa kuzilandira. Ndimayesetsa kupeŵa zochitika kapena anthu omwe ndikudziwa kuti angandichititse kuti ndikhale ndi nkhawa.

Ndinayesera kumwa mafuta a CBD ndipo, ndinadabwa kuti amandithandiza. Ndimayesanso kuchepetsa kumwa kwa khofi kapena kumwa tiyi wa chamomile m'malo mwake. Ndinayamba kuluka, ndipo ndayamba kuchita nawo zaluso. Kunena zowona, masewera apakanema athandizanso kwambiri.

Kodi moyo wanu ukanakhala bwanji ngati nkhawa yanu ikanatha?

Sindikudziwa. Ndizachilendo kuganizira chifukwa, mwatsoka, lakhala gawo lalikulu la moyo wanga kwazaka zambiri.

Ndikumva ngati padzakhala cholemera chachikulu pachifuwa changa. Sindingachite mantha zamtsogolo, ndipo mwina nditha kudzipangitsa ndekha kupita kwina. Sipangakhale masiku owonongeka kapena miyezi yonseyi.

Ndizovuta ngakhale kuziganiza, chifukwa sindikudziwa ngati zingachitike.

Kodi muli ndi zizolowezi kapena zizolowezi zina zokhudzana ndi nkhawa zomwe ndizosiyana ndi inu?

Amauzidwa kuti ndimapepesa kuposa anthu wamba aku Canada, ndikuti ndimada nkhawa ndi anthu kwambiri kapena ndimapanikizika ndi zomwe palibe amene amazisamala.

Ndili ndi zaka 15, makolo anga adapita kukachezera abwenzi, ndipo atapanda kubwerako nthawi, ndidachita mantha ndikuwayimbira (zomwe zidasangalatsa abwenzi awo) chifukwa ndidatsimikiza kuti china chake chachitika kwa iwo.

Ngati anthu atuluka ndikupita kwakanthawi, ndikadandaula. Ndimayesetsa kubisa izi, chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti palibe amene akufuna kuthana ndi izi. Ndayang'ananso makina a apolisi ndi Twitter kuti ndiwonetsetse kuti palibe ngozi.

Kodi ndi chinthu chiti chomwe mukufuna kuti anthu ena adziwe zakuda nkhawa?

Kuda nkhawa kwambiri kumakhala "kuzimitsa". Ngati pakanakhala pali switch ya switch, ndikadakhala wokondwa.

Mutha kudziwa kuti, zambiri, zomwe mumadandaula nazo sizingachitike, koma ubongo wanu ukufuulabe kuti "Inde, koma bwanji ngati zitero - {textend} oh mulungu, zikuchitika kale." Izi zingakhale zovuta kuti anthu amvetse.

Nthawi zina, ndikakumbukira zinthu zomwe zidandidetsa nkhawa zimakhala zochititsa manyazi. Ndikudabwa kuti ndichifukwa chiyani zidanditanganitsa kwambiri komanso ngati ndidadzichititsa manyazi pamaso pa ena ndikakhala ndi nkhawa. Ndiwowopsa womwe ungakhale wovuta kufotokozera wina osamveka wamisala.

Gawo lina la inu likhoza kunena, "Inde, ndikuzindikira kuti nditha kumveka ngati wopusa," koma mantha awa - {textend} malingaliro ndi malingaliro awa - {textend} ndi olemera kwambiri, ndipo ndikuyesetsa kuwayang'anira. Koma zili ngati kuweta amphaka. Ine ndikukhumba anthu akanamvetsa izo.

Kodi nkhawa zakhudza bwanji ubale wanu?

Ndikuwopa kukakamiza wina nkhawa zanga. Ndikudziwa kuti nkhawa yanga ili yolemetsa kwa ine, chifukwa chake ndimadandaula kuti ndizovuta kwa wina.

Palibe amene amafuna kukhala cholemetsa kwa wina aliyense. Ndikumva ngati ndathetsa maubwenzi, pang'ono pang'ono, chifukwa sindinkafuna kukhala cholemetsa.

Jamie Friedlander ndi wolemba pawokha komanso mkonzi wokonda thanzi. Ntchito yake idawonekera mu The Cut, Chicago Tribune, Racked, Business Insider, ndi Success Magazine. Akakhala sakulemba, amapezeka kuti akuyenda, kumwa tiyi wobiriwira, kapena kusefukira kwa Etsy. Mutha kuwona zitsanzo zambiri za ntchito zake patsamba lake. Tsatirani iye pa Twitter.