Wothandizira Wazaka 26 Wotsatsa Yemwe Amavutika Kutuluka M'nyumba m'mawa uliwonse

Zamkati

• Ndi liti pamene mudazindikira kuti mudali ndi nkhawa?
• Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji mthupi?
• Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji m'maganizo?
• Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zanu?
• Kodi mumathetsa bwanji nkhawa yanu?
• Kodi moyo wanu ukanakhala bwanji ngati nkhawa yanu ikanatha?

"Nthawi zambiri ndimayamba kuthawa ndili ndi mantha m'malo mwa khofi."

Povumbulutsa momwe nkhawa imakhudzira miyoyo ya anthu, tikukhulupirira kuti tifalitsa kumvera ena chisoni, malingaliro olimbana nawo, ndikukambirana momasuka zaumoyo wamaganizidwe. Uku ndikuwona kwamphamvu.

C, wogwirizira pagulu komanso wothandizira kutsatsa ku Greensboro, North Carolina, adazindikira koyamba kuti ali ndi nkhawa pomwe malingaliro amsonkhano wapasukulu amutumiza kumapeto. Chiyambireni kulimbana ndi nkhawa yayikulu, yomwe imamulepheretsa kukhala moyo womwe akufuna.

Nayi nkhani yake.

Ndi liti pamene mudazindikira kuti mudali ndi nkhawa?

Ziri zovuta kunena nditazindikira kuti ndinali ndi nkhawa. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi nkhawa, ngakhale ngati khanda, malinga ndi amayi anga. Ndinakulira ndikudziwa kuti ndinali wokhudzidwa kwambiri kuposa anthu ambiri, koma lingaliro la nkhawa silinali lachilendo kwa ine mpaka nditakhala wazaka 11 kapena 12. Pakadali pano, ndimayesedwa modabwitsa, tsiku lonse amayi anga atadziwa za kudzivulaza kwanga.

Ndikuganiza kuti ndipamene ndidayamba kumva liwu loti "nkhawa," koma silidalumikizidwe mpaka patatha chaka chimodzi pomwe sindinapeze chowiringula cholumpha masewera apasukulu. Phokoso la kufuula kwa ana asukulu, nyimbo zaphokoso, magetsi owala bwino owala pang'ono, komanso ma bleachers omwe anali atadzaza zidandidabwitsa. Kunali chipwirikiti, ndipo ndimayenera kutuluka.

Ndinakwanitsa kuti ndibwerere kubafa kutsidya lina la nyumbayo pomwe ndinabisala m khola, ndikulira ndikumenyetsa mutu wanga kukhoma pofuna "kudzichotsa." Wina aliyense amawoneka kuti akusangalala ndi msonkhanowu, kapena amatha kukhala nawo osathawa mwamantha. Ndipamene ndidazindikira kuti ndinali ndi nkhawa, komabe sindimadziwa kuti ikhala nkhondo yamuyaya.

Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji mthupi?

Mwathupi, ndili ndi zizolowezi: kulimbana ndi kupuma (kutulutsa mpweya wambiri kapena kumva ngati ndikutsamwitsa), kugunda kwamtima mwachangu ndi kugundana, kupweteka pachifuwa, kuwona kwa mumphangayo, chizungulire, nseru, kunjenjemera, kutuluka thukuta, kupweteka kwa minofu, komanso kutopa kophatikizana ndi kulephera kugona.

Ndili ndi chizolowezi chokumba misomali yanga pakhungu langa kapena kuluma milomo yanga, nthawi zambiri mokwanira kukoka magazi. Ndimakhalanso ndikusanza pafupifupi nthawi iliyonse ndikayamba kumva kunyoza.

Kodi nkhawa yanu imawonekera bwanji m'maganizo?

Ndizovuta kuganiza momwe ndingafotokozere izi osamveka ngati ndikungobwezeretsanso DSM. Zimasiyanasiyana ndi mtundu wa nkhawa zomwe ndikukumana nazo.

Mwanjira yayikulu kwambiri, yomwe ndimangoganizira momwe ndingagwiritsire ntchito popeza ndimakhala masiku ambiri osafatsa ndikudandaula za china chake, mawonetseredwe am'maganizo ndi zinthu monga kusakhazikika, kusakhazikika, komanso malingaliro olingalira za ngati, ngati, kapena ngati ...

Ndikakhala ndi nkhawa zambiri, sindimatha kuyang'ana chilichonse kupatula nkhawa. Ndiyamba kuganizira kwambiri zochitika zowopsa kwambiri, ngakhale zingawoneke zopanda pake. Malingaliro anga amakhala onse kapena palibe. Palibe malo otuwa. Kuchita mantha kumandidya, ndipo pamapeto pake ndimakhala wotsimikiza kuti ndili pangozi ndikufa.

Pakufika poipa kwambiri, ndimangotseka ndipo malingaliro anga amasowa kanthu. Zili ngati ndikutuluka ndekha. Sindikudziwa kuti ndidzakhala nthawi yayitali bwanji. 'Ndikabwerera,' ndimakhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha nthawi yomwe ndatayika, ndikupitilizabe.

Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zanu?

Ndikugwirabe ntchito kuti ndizindikire zomwe zimayambitsa. Zikuwoneka ngati ndikazindikira kamodzi, atatu enanso. Choyambitsa changa chachikulu (kapena chokhumudwitsa kwambiri) ndikusiya nyumba yanga. Ndizovuta tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ufike kuntchito. Nthawi zambiri ndimayamba tsiku langa ndikuchita mantha m'malo mwa khofi.

Zina mwazomwe zimayambitsa zomwe ndazindikira ndi zinthu zambiri zokhudzana ndi chidwi (phokoso lalikulu, kununkhiza, kukhudza, magetsi owala, ndi zina zambiri), khamu lalikulu, kudikirira mizere, mayendedwe aboma, malo ogulitsira, masitepe oyenda, kudya kutsogolo ena, kupita kukagona, kusamba, ndipo ndani akudziwa ena ambiri. Palinso zinthu zina zopeka zomwe zimandipangitsa, monga kusatsata chizolowezi kapena mwambo, mawonekedwe anga, ndi zinthu zina zomwe sindingathe kuyikapo mawu.

Kodi mumathetsa bwanji nkhawa yanu?

Mankhwala ndimomwe ndimayang'anira. Ndinkapitako kumapeto kwa mlungu uliwonse mpaka miyezi iwiri yapitayo. Ndinkafuna kusinthana sabata iliyonse, koma sindinawonepo dokotala wanga kwa miyezi yosachepera iwiri. Ndine wofunitsitsa kwambiri kuti ndipemphe nthawi yopuma kapena chakudya chamasana. Ndimanyamula Silly Putty kuti alowe mmanja mwanga ndikundisokoneza, ndipo ndimayesetsa kutambasula minofu yanga. Izi zimapereka chithandizo chochepa.

Ndili ndi njira zochepa zoyendetsera thanzi, monga kumangokakamira, kupewa zinthu zomwe zingandipangitse kuda nkhawa, kudzipatula, kuponderezana, kudzipatula, komanso kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso. Koma sikuti ndikuthana ndi nkhawa, sichoncho?

Kodi moyo wanu ukanakhala bwanji ngati nkhawa yanu ikanatha?

Sindingathe kulingalira moyo wanga wopanda nkhawa.Wakhala gawo la ine mwina moyo wanga wonse, chifukwa chake zili ngati ndikulingalira momwe moyo wa mlendo ulili.

Ndimakonda kuganiza kuti moyo wanga udzakhala wosangalala. Ndikwanitsa kuchita zinthu wamba popanda kuziganizira. Sindingadzimve kuti ndine wolakwa chifukwa chopangitsa ena kukhala osasangalala kapena kuwabweza. Ndikuganiza kuti iyenera kukhala yaulere, yomwe ili yowopsa.

Jamie Friedlander ndi wolemba pawokha komanso mkonzi wokonda thanzi. Ntchito yake idawonekera mu The Cut, Chicago Tribune, Racked, Business Insider, ndi Success Magazine. Akakhala sakulemba, amapezeka kuti akuyenda, kumwa tiyi wobiriwira, kapena kusefukira kwa Etsy. Mutha kuwona zitsanzo zambiri za ntchito zake patsamba lake. Tsatirani iye pa Twitter.