Zolingalira za 7 Zokhudza kuda nkhawa - ndi chifukwa chomwe sizigwira ntchito kwa aliyense

Zamkati

• 1. Zimachokera ku zoopsa
• 2. Mtendere ndi bata ndikukhazikika
• 3. Zoyambitsa ndizapadziko lonse lapansi
• 4. Zinthu zomwezo nthawi zonse zimakupangitsani kuyambitsa
• 5. Chithandizo chamankhwala chimatha
• 6. Oyamba okha ndiwo ali nawo
• 7. Zimakupangitsani kukhala ofooka

Palibe kulongosola kulikonse komwe kumafotokoza nkhawa.

Pankhani ya nkhawa, palibe kukula kwake komwe kumafotokozera momwe zimawonekera kapena kumverera. Komabe, monga momwe anthu amakonda kuchitira, anthu amatchula izi, osasankha mwanzeru zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala ndi nkhawa ndikuyika zochitikazo m'bokosi labwino.

Chabwino, ngati mwakumana ndi nkhawa, monga ndachitira, mukudziwa kuti palibe chilichonse chowoneka bwino kapena chodziwikiratu. Ulendo wanu ndi iwo uzioneka wosiyana palokha ndipo ukhoza kukhala wosiyana kwambiri poyerekeza ndi wa wina.

Pamene zokumana nazo zosiyana zomwe aliyense ali nazo ndi nkhawa zimavomerezedwa, kuthekera kwa aliyense wa ife kuthana ndi njira yomwe ingatithandize kwambiri kumakwaniritsidwa.

Ndiye, timachita bwanji izi? Pozindikira malingaliro olakwika omwe sakhudza aliyense ndikufotokozera chifukwa chake kusiyanaku kuli kofunika. Tiyeni tifike kwa izo.

1. Zimachokera ku zoopsa

Ngakhale nkhawa imatha kubwera kuchokera ku chochitika chosautsa moyo kwa anthu ambiri, sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Chinthu chachikulu, choyipa sichinayenera kuchitika kuti wina azilimbana ndi nkhawa.

"Kuda nkhawa kwanu kumatha chifukwa chokhala ndi zochuluka zochita, kusintha zochita, kapena ngakhale kuwonera nkhani," a Grace Suh, mlangizi wololeza zamisala, auza a Healthline.

“Zifukwa za izi mwina sizomwe zidakuchitikirani zakale. Ndichinthu chomwe inu ndi dokotala wanu wa zamaganizidwe mutha kuchipeza limodzi mukamalandira chithandizo kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake mwayambitsidwa. ”

Mwini, kugwira ntchito ndi wothandizira kunandilola kukumba mozama ndikuwulula zinthu zakale ndi zamasiku ano zomwe zimayatsa nkhawa zanga. Nthawi zina, chifukwa chake chimakhala chakuya m'mbiri yanu, ndipo nthawi zina, ndi zotsatira za pano. Kuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa kumatha kuthana ndi nkhawa yanu.

2. Mtendere ndi bata ndikukhazikika

Ngakhale kuchoka pa zonsezi nthawi zonse kumakhala bwino, ndimapeza kuti nkhawa yanga imatha ndikakhala pamalo abata, osafulumira. Kumalo amenewo, nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nthawi yambiri ndekha ndi malingaliro anga ndikumadzimva kuti sindimachita bwino, sindingathe kuchita zambiri pang'onopang'ono. Pamwamba pa izo, ndimatha kumva kuti ndili ndekha kapena ndakhazikika m'malo opanda phokoso, osatengeka pang'onopang'ono.

Komabe, m'mizinda, liwiro momwe zinthu zimayendera limamvana ndi momwe malingaliro anga nthawi zambiri amawonekera kusuntha.

Izi zimandipatsa kumverera kwa mayendedwe anga omwe akugwirizana ndi dziko lozungulira, kundipatsa mpumulo wokulirapo. Zotsatira zake, nkhawa yanga nthawi zambiri imatha ndikakhala m'mizinda kuposa nthawi yomwe ndimapita m'matawuni ang'onoang'ono kapena kumidzi.

3. Zoyambitsa ndizapadziko lonse lapansi

"Zochitika zanu zaposachedwa komanso zam'mbuyomu ndizapadera, malingaliro anu ndi apadera, ndichifukwa chake nkhawa yanu ndiyopadera. Pali malingaliro olakwika akuti nkhawa imachokera kuzinthu zomwe zimafala, zokumana nazo zenizeni, kapena mantha, monga mantha oopa kuyendetsa ndege kapena kuopa kutalika, ”akutero Suh. "Sizingatheke kufotokozera za kuda nkhawa, chifukwa zoyambitsa zimasiyana pamunthu wina."

Zoyambitsa zitha kukhala chilichonse kuyambira nyimbo kupita kwa winawake yemwe akukaniza mapulani nanu mpaka nkhani yapa TV. Kungoti china chake chimakupangitsani inu panokha, sizitanthauza kuti chimakhudzanso nkhawa za munthu wina komanso mosemphanitsa.

4. Zinthu zomwezo nthawi zonse zimakupangitsani kuyambitsa

Mukamalimbana ndi nkhawa yanu ndikuzindikira momwe zoyambitsa zina zimakukhudzirani, mutha kuzindikira kuti zomwe zimayambitsa zimasintha.

Mwachitsanzo, ndinkada nkhawa kwambiri nthawi iliyonse ndikakhala ndekha mu chikepe. Nthawi yomweyo ndidadzimva kuti ndakhazikika ndikutsimikiza kuti chikepe chimaima. Kenako, tsiku lina, ndidazindikira kuti ndakhala ndikulowa m'malo okwera kwakanthawi popanda kupsinjika uku. Komabe, pamene ndalowa magawo atsopano a moyo wanga ndikukhala ndi zokumana nazo zowonjezerapo, zinthu zina zomwe sizimandidetsa nkhawa, tsopano.

Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika kudzera pakuwonekera. Ichi ndi gawo lalikulu la ERP, kapena kuwonetsa komanso kupewa mayankho. Lingaliro ndilakuti, ngakhale kukumana ndi zoyambitsa kungakhale kovutitsa nkhawa kwakanthawi kochepa, malingaliro anu pang'onopang'ono amayamba kuzolowera zomwe zikukuyambitsani.

Ndinapitiliza kukwera mu zikepe mpaka tsiku lina choimbira chidatha. Alamu yomwe imakonda kumalira m'mutu mwanga pomaliza idamvetsetsa kuti imatha kukhala chete chifukwa sindinali pachiwopsezo.

Ubale wanga ndi nkhawa umasinthasintha pomwe ndikupitilizabe kukulira ndikukula. Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa, ndikayamba kukumana ndi zinthu popanda choyambitsa pomwe panali, ndikumverera kodabwitsa kwambiri.

5. Chithandizo chamankhwala chimatha

Ngakhale chithandizo ndi mankhwala ndizo njira zabwino kwambiri zothanirana ndi nkhawa, sizotsimikizika. Kwa anthu ena, chithandizo chithandizira, ena mankhwala, anthu ena onse, komanso kwa ena, zachisoni, nawonso sangatero.

“Palibe zochiritsira pompopompo kapenanso chithandizo chofananira kuchiza nkhawa. Ndi njira yopilira ndi kuleza mtima yomwe imafunikira kuzindikira ndi chisamaliro moyenera kuti ikwaniritse moyenera zomwe mwakumana nazo komanso malingaliro anu, "akutero Suh.

Chinsinsi ndicho kudziwa zomwe zikukuyenderani bwino. Mwini, kumwa mankhwala kumandithandiza kuti ndizitha kuthana ndi nkhawa, pomwe zina zimayambanso. Kupita kuchipatala kumathandizanso, koma sizomwe zimachitika nthawi zonse chifukwa cha inshuwaransi ndikusamuka. Kutenga nthawi kuti mufufuze njira iliyonse, komanso njira zothanirana ndi anzawo kumathandiza kuti mukhale bwino ndi nkhawa.

Zinthu zomwe zingathandize nkhawa kupatula chithandizo ndi mankhwala:

• Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi zonse.
• Yesetsani kupuma kwambiri.
• Lembani malingaliro anu.
• Sinthani zakudya zanu.
• Bwerezani mantra.
• Yesetsani kutambasula.
• Gwiritsani ntchito njira zokhazikika.

6. Oyamba okha ndiwo ali nawo

Kusukulu yasekondale, ndidapeza wopambana kwambiri wokonda kulankhula kwambiri mkalasi langa - ndipo ndinali ndi nkhawa zoyipa, zosadziwika nthawi yonse yomwe ndinali kusukulu.

Mfundo yanga ndikuti, palibe mtundu wina wa munthu amene ali ndi nkhawa. Ndiwochipatala, ndipo anthu amikhalidwe yonse ndi makulidwe amathana nawo. Inde, zitha kuwonetsa ngati munthu akukhala wogonjera komanso wodekha, koma ndiye pali anthu onga ine omwe nthawi zambiri amakhala akumveka padziko lapansi, pafupifupi ngati kuti ndizotheka kupanga phokoso lomwe limamira.

Chifukwa chake, nthawi yotsatira wina akamayankhula nanu za kuda nkhawa, musamuyankhe kuti, "Koma ndiwe wosasangalala!" kapena, "Zoonadi, inu?" M'malo mwake afunseni zomwe akufuna, ngakhale atangomva khutu.

7. Zimakupangitsani kukhala ofooka

Ngakhale pali masiku omwe nkhawa imatha kumva ngati ikukugwetsani pansi - ndikudziwa kuti ndakhala ndi gawo langa - sichinthu chofooka.

M'malo mwake, ndi chifukwa cha nkhawa yanga kuti ndatsata zinthu zambiri zomwe ndimafuna, ndikuwonjezerapo zina, ndikukonzekera zochitika zosawerengeka.

Pamwamba pa izo, pali lingaliro ili kuti kukhala ndi nkhawa poyamba kumatanthauza kuti munthu ndi wofooka. Kunena zowona, kuda nkhawa ndimavuto am'maganizo omwe anthu ena amakumana nawo ndipo ena satero, monga vuto lina lililonse la thupi.

Palibe chofooka pakuvomereza kuti ndichinthu chomwe uli nacho ndipo, ngati chilipo, chikuwonetsa kulimba kwambiri.

Kukumana ndi nkhawa kumakakamiza munthu kuti azitha kuzilankhula okha ndikupambana mayesero amkati. Kuti muchite izi kumafunikira kupeza mphamvu yakuya komanso yamphamvu yamkati yotembenukira mobwerezabwereza, kutali ndi kufooka komwe kumafikira.

Sarah Fielding ndi wolemba ku New York City. Zolemba zake zawonekera ku Bustle, Insider, Men's Health, HuffPost, Nylon, ndi OZY komwe amakwaniritsa chilungamo chaumoyo, thanzi lam'mutu, thanzi, maulendo, maubale, zosangalatsa, mafashoni, ndi chakudya.