Ndinayesa Upangiri Wabwino Kwambiri pa Kugonana kwa Reddit-ndipo Zinali Zabwino Modabwitsa

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• Kuchita Maliseche Pamodzi ndi Mnzanu
• Khalani mu Aftercare
• Kufotokozeranso Kugonana kwa Shower
• Nyamulani Chikwama Chokonda Kugonana
• Mukufuna Zambiri Zogonana?
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Igwani pansi pa dzenje la akalulu a Reddit ndipo mumadina kutali ndi chilichonse chomwe mungafune kudziwa za skincare, kugona, mimba, komanso (mungadabwe kuphunzira) kugonana!

Zachidziwikire, simungakhulupirire zonse zomwe mumawerenga pa intaneti komanso ulusi wogonana wa Reddit sakuyang'aniridwa molondola- "Palibe cholakwitsa ku Reddit, ndimakonda tsamba ili, koma itha kukhala malo oswana kwa anthu omwe amaganiza kuti amadziwa zonse, "akutero Lisa Finn, wophunzitsa zachiwerewere ku Babeland - koma sizitanthauza kuti tsamba lokonda kupembedzali silikhala ndi miyala yamtengo wapatali.

Chifukwa chake ndidayendetsa maupangiri angapo ogonana a Finn ndi Lateef Taylor, ophunzitsa zakugonana komanso olimbikitsa kugonana, ndipo ndikuvomerezedwa nawo, ndidayesanso ndekha.

Pitani pansi kuti muwerenge za maupangiri anayi abwino kwambiri ogonana omwe ndidapeza pa Reddit -ndipo zidachitika ndi chiyani (mnzanga ndi) nditaziyesa.

Kuchita Maliseche Pamodzi ndi Mnzanu

Wogwiritsa ntchito m'modzi wa Reddit adapita kumalo ochezera a pa intaneti kuti adziwe ngati anthu ena (kupatula iye ndi mkazi wake) amapeza matsenga amatsenga. M'masiku asanu okha, anthu opitilira 2,500 adatenga nawo gawo kuti amulole kuti azikondanso.

"Ndimawona kuti kugawana mwachidwi kwa china chake monga zosangalatsa zanga ndikodabwitsa," imalemba zolemba zoyambirira (OP). "Ndizabwino kwambiri ndipo ndikuziwona kuti ndizokondana kwambiri!" akuti wogwiritsa ntchito wina. Wothirira ndemanga wina yemwe akumva kuwawa kosatha amanenanso kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndi "godsend" akamapwetekedwa: "Ndimatha kukhala pansi patebulo langa ndikupumula mmanja mwamwamuna wanga ndikumva kuti ndimakondana kwambiri."

Nanga bwanji za kuseweretsa maliseche komwe kumapangitsa kuti akhale okondana monga Redditters amanenera? "Monga gulu, kuseweretsa maliseche ndichinthu chosavomerezeka. Ndi chinthu chomwe chimaganiziridwa kuti chimachitidwa mseri kapena ayi," akutero a Finn. Kugawana izi ndi mnzako kumatha kukhala pachiwopsezo kwa ena, "ndipo kukhala pachiwopsezo chogawana kungayambitse ubale wapamtima," akutero.

"Ndimaphunziro abwino kwambiri," akuwonjezera Taylor. "Mumawonera ndikuphunzira momwe mnzanuyo amakondera kukhudzidwa." Mwinamwake nthawi zonse mumasuntha zala zanu mbali ndi mbali pamene akudzikhudza okha pogwiritsa ntchito mabwalo, kapena mwina mumagwiritsa ntchito vibrator pomwepo, pomwe amakonda kuziyika pambali, atero a Taylor. Mutha kugwiritsa ntchito izi kuti musangalatse mnzanu pamzerewu. (Zogwirizana: 13 Malangizo Othandiza Kugonana)

NDINAKHALA wotsimikiza kwambiri kuti ndiyese kuyesa, ndidatulutsa chimodzi mwazomwe ndimazikonda kwambiri, ndipo mnzanga adatulutsa lube. Kenako, tinamunyamula Bryson Tiller ndipo tinayamba kudzikhudza tokha. Ndipo fam, ndikuloleni ndikuuzeni: Ndizokondana komanso UHT monga momwe ogwiritsa ntchito a Reddit angafunire kuti mukhulupirire. Makamaka mukakumana ndi maso…

Khalani mu Aftercare

Ngati kuwonetsa kwanu ku BDSM kuli kochepaMakumi asanu Mithunzi ya Imvi, mutha kuganiza kuti kusewera mphamvu kumangokhudza zopweteka, zikwapu, zikwapu, kapena maunyolo. Koma pali chinthu china chomwe simuchiwona; "aftercare" ndi chinthu (udindo) Othandizira a BDSM amachita pambuyo pogonana kapena zochitika ndipo, malinga ndi ena ogwiritsa ntchito Reddit, ndizomwe aliyense (kinky kapena ayi) ayenera kuchita. (Zokhudzana: Buku Loyamba la BDSM).

Kodi aftercare ndi chiyani kwenikweni? Wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit akufotokoza za chisamaliro cham'mbuyo monga, "kukhala okoma komanso okoma mtima komanso kupezeka wina ndi mnzake mutagonana. Chifukwa chake, kutsanulira, kukhumbana, kuyankhula modekha, kufunsa ngati ali bwino kapena ngati akufuna china chake. Nthawi zina nonse mutha kugona pang'ono gwiranani manja kapena kugwirana chanza. Nthawi zina, kulunganani m'mabulangete kapena kusisitana pansi polankhula."

Finn akuti ndizolondola pang'ono, ndikuwonjeza kuti pambuyo pa chisamaliro ndikuwonetsetsa kuti inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mumakhala otetezeka, olemekezedwa, osamalidwa, komanso omasuka. "Ngakhale kuli kofunikira pazithunzi zolemetsa kapena zowopsa za BDSM, itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito pambuyo pa kugonana kwa vanila (komabe mumamveketsa izi)," akutero, kuvomereza kuti pambuyo pake ndi onse.

Mwakutero, kumangocheza nthawi yogonana, kugwiranagwirana mwachikondi, ndikuwunika pambuyo pa kugonana. "Ndi nthawi yabwino kukambirana zomwe mumakonda, zomwe simunakonde, zomwe mukufuna kudzayesanso kenako, zomwe mumamva bwino, kapena momwe zimakupangitsani kuti mumve bwino," akutero a Finn.

Monga wantchito wodzivomereza yekha, zitha kukhala zovuta kuti ndipeze nthawi yogonana, osatinso okakamira pambuyo pa kugonana. Nditha kuyimilira kuti ndiphatikize pambuyo pokhudzana ndi nthawi yanga yogonana - makamaka poganizira chilankhulo changa cha boo ndi mawu otsimikiza komanso kukhudza. (Simukudziwa chilankhulo chachikondi cha wokondedwa wanu? Umu ndi momwe mungalankhulire za izi-ndi zokambirana zina za moyo wogonana wathanzi.)

Lamlungu lina titasewera ndi zinthu zatsopano zosangalatsa, ine ndi mnzanga tidaganiza zoyeserera pambuyo podzipereka. Tinathera maola ambiri tikuyamikirana, kusakaniza, ndi kukondana. Monga mungaganizire, zinali zachikondi ngati zoyipa ndipo zidatitsegulira chitseko kuti tikambirane ~ zathu ~. Komanso, ndidalandira kutikita minofu, komwe kunali kolumikizana.

Kufotokozeranso Kugonana kwa Shower

Chigwirizano pakati pa a Redditors ndikuti kugonana kosamba ndi, chabwino, koopsa, ndipo kumasiyidwa bwino kumafilimu. "0/10 angavomereze, ndikukhala m'galimoto yocheperako kapena kugona pabedi," inalemba Reddit. "Ndikuwopa moyo wanga ndika [kugonana] ndisamba," alemba ina.

Ngakhale malingaliro akuwoneka ngati achilengedwe onse okhudzana ndi kugonana kosamba, pali ulusi wonse wamalingaliro pakukhalitsa bwino. (Zogwirizana: Upangiri Wapamwamba Wogonana Wogonana Wodabwitsa)

Poganizira kuti ine ndi mnzanga timasamba limodzi nthawi zambiri koma osachita nawo hanky-panky tili komweko, tinaganiza zoyesera limodzi: Sinthani sewerolo lolowera mkati ndi chiwonetsero.

"Kugonana kosasamba, ngakhale kumveka kotentha, kumatha kukhala kotopetsa komanso koopsa, makamaka ngati kulowerera kumachitika," akutero a Finn. Ndipo chifukwa madzi amatsuka mafuta achilengedwe amthupi, kulowa mkati kumakhala kovuta, akutero.

Koma "kuchotsa maliseche ndi kumatako patebulo si njira yanzeru yodzitetezera," akutero Taylor. "Zimathandizanso kuti mufufuze za kugonana m'kamwa, kusewera kwa vibrator, kutikita minofu, kugwiranagwirana osalowetsa m'manja, kutikita minofu, ndi machitidwe ena ogonana omwe mwina mumatha kunyalanyaza." (Zogwirizana: Malo Abwino Kwambiri Komanso Otetezeka Ogonana Ogonana).

Nthawi yoyamba yomwe tinayesa kusamba "zogonana," tidabweretsa Wartenberg pinwheel (ICYDK, ndiye choseweretsa chomverera). Zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri, tinayesanso izo tsiku lomwelo, komanso adabweretsa vibrator yopanda madzi. Chigamulo chomaliza? Kugonana kwa shawa kosalowa ndi kotentha kwambiri kuposa kugonana kosamba nthawi zonse.

Nyamulani Chikwama Chokonda Kugonana

Kodi mudakhalapo ndi nkhawa pofunsa kuthamangitsidwa wamba pasadakhale ngati mukhala usiku? Ogwiritsa ntchito a Reddit ali ndi yankho: Pangani chikwama chochepa cha ukhondo ndi zinthu zogonana zomwe mungafune usiku umodzi kapena kunyanyala kwanu. (Zogwirizana: Mafunso Omwe Mungafunse Wina Asanagonane Naye).

Mu ulusi wa virus, ogwiritsa ntchito a Reddit opitilira 2,300 adatenga ndemanga kuti agawane zomwe zasungidwa m'matumba awo ogonana. Ngakhale kuti ena amangosunga zinthu zaukhondo monga kusamba kumaso, kununkhira, ndi burashi, ena amaphatikizapo mathalauza owonjezera, lube, ndi zoseweretsa zogonana—pambuyo pake Finn ndi Taylor akuganiza kuti ndi bwino.

"Nthawi iliyonse yomwe ungachite zogonana ndi munthu wina, umafuna kukhala ndi zinthu zogonana zotetezeka, zoseweretsa zogonana, ndi mafuta omwe angakupangitse kukhala womasuka komanso wosangalala," atero a Taylor, ndikuwonjezera kuti izi ndizofunikira kwambiri ngati ziwengo zilizonse zomwe zimapezeka m'makeke kapena makondomu. "Kukonzekereratu motere kumachotsa mafunso ambiri komanso kusatsimikizika, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale omasuka ndikusangalala ndi zomwe mwakumana nazo," akutero a Taylor.

Ngakhale ambiri mwa ogwiritsa ntchito Reddit amasunga matumba awo ogonana m'magalimoto awo, Finn amanena kuti makondomu ndi mafuta amatha kuwonongeka chifukwa cha kutentha kwakukulu. "Mabotolo apulasitiki omwe mafuta ambiri amasungidwa amayamba kuphulika chifukwa cha kutentha, momwemonso lalabala m'makondomu," akutero. Choncho ngati mukukhala malo otentha, onetsetsani kuti mwasinthana kondomuyo ndi ina ikatentha kwambiri. (Zogwirizana: 8 Zolakwitsa Zowopsa Zomwe Mungapangire)

Ngakhale ine ndi mnzanga tili ndi nkhawa zokwanira kuti sindikhala ndi nkhawa kufunsa ma q aliwonse, ndimakonda lingaliro lokhala ndi zinthu zanga zosangalatsa ndi ine-ndipo pambuyo pa usiku watha, tinene kuti ndine wokondwa kuti ndidatero.

Mukufuna Zambiri Zogonana?

Ngati mukufuna kudziwa zomwe maupangiri ena ogonana akuyandama mozungulira Reddit, ndikupangira kuti mudutse ulusiwu, womwe uli pafupi ndi malangizo a 2,000 amomwe mungasangalatse mnzanu. Ingokumbukirani, "zomwe zimagwirira ntchito munthu m'modzi sizingagwire ntchito kwa inu (ndi mnzanu)," akutero a Finn. "Ndipo ngati sichoncho, sizikutanthauza kuti thupi lanu lathyoka!"

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