Njira Yabwino Yoyankhira Omwe Akuyimbira Mphaka

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Kaya ndi ma hoot, misozi, malikhweru, kapena malingaliro ogonana, kuyimbira paka sikungakhale kukhumudwitsa pang'ono chabe. Zitha kukhala zosayenera, zowopsa, ngakhale kuwopseza. Ndipo mwatsoka, kuzunzidwa mumsewu ndichinthu chomwe 65% ya azimayi adakumana nacho, malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano kuchokera ku Stop Street Harassment yopanda phindu.

Posachedwa, mayi wazaka 28 wochokera ku Minneapolis dzina lake Lindsay adalemba mitu yotchulira amuna omwe amatcha amphaka mu projekiti yatsopano yotchedwa Cards Against Harassment. Patsamba lino, amapereka makadi omwe azimayi amatha kutsitsa, kusindikiza, ndikupereka kwa omwe akukuzunzani. Makhadiwa amafuna kusonyeza mmene mawu a woyimba mphaka amakhudzira akazi—pofotokoza kuti khalidweli n’losafunika, popanda kukangana kapena kukangana. Awiri mwa okondedwa athu:

Timathandizira ndi mtima wonse uthenga wake woti mafoni amphaka si "ovomerezeka." (Anyamata, pali njira zina zolankhulirana ndi akazi kuposa "Hey, wokongola!" kapena "Damn, mtsikana," mukudziwa.) Jarrett Arthur, katswiri wodzitetezera komanso mphunzitsi wa Krav Maga, akuvomereza kuti: "N'zosangalatsa kuti izi. Pulojekitiyi imapatsa amayi chilolezo choti ayimirire ndikulankhula motsutsana ndi kuzunzidwa m'misewu. "

Komabe, monga a Lindsay alembera patsamba lake, makhadiwo siali a aliyense kapena chilichonse. Tinapempha Arthur kuti afotokoze nthawi yomwe muyenera-komanso simuyenera kukumana ndi oyimbira amphaka.

1. Osatero:Mulankhule naye konse ngati muli pamalo akutali. Ngati muli pamalo otsekedwa, galimoto yapansi panthaka yotere kapena elevator, kapena nokha mumsewu, Arthur akunena kuti simuyenera kupereka khadi kapena kulankhula ndi woyimba mphaka kuti awononge vutolo.

2. Chitani: Lankhulani. Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa kuyankhula kwamphaka pakamwa ndikuswa malire. "Izi ndizochitika zomwe zimafunikira kuyankha kwakukulu," akutero Arthur. "Ngati malire akuthupi athyoledwa, muyenera kuthana nawo molimba mtima." Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumenyera nkhondo - kulimbitsa thupi kuyenera kukhala njira yomaliza, akutero Arthur. "Gwiritsani ntchito mawu omveka bwino, achidule, monga 'Imani. Osandigwira,' kapena 'Ndisiye ndekha,' kwinaku mukuyang'ana maso kuti mumve zomwe mukunena."

3. Osatero: Osazengereza kuyimbira akuluakulu. "Nthawi zambiri amayi safuna kuitana apolisi chifukwa safuna kuchita mopambanitsa, koma nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukumva kuti muli pachiwopsezo muyenera kumvera chibadwa chanu," akutero Arthur. Amanena kuti nthawi zambiri amamva kuchokera kwa omwe amazunzidwa kuti akumva kuti china chake chalakwika, koma samachita chilichonse.

4. Chitani: Pangani zochitika. "Yesetsani kusuntha malo okhala ndi anthu ngati wina akukutsatirani kapena akukuyesani, ndikudziwonetsani nokha mwa kufuula mawu ena kuti: 'Ndikufuna thandizo!' ‘Wowukira!’ ”Akutero Arthur. "Simungathe kupitirira pamwamba ngati mukumva kuti mukuopsezedwa. Mawu akuti 'Kutetezedwa bwino kuposa kupepesa' akugwira ntchito pazochitikazi."

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