Momwe Maganizo Oda Ndi Oyera Amakukhudzirani (ndi Zomwe Mungachite Kuti Muzisinthe)

Zamkati

• Zomwe zimamveka
• Kodi malingaliro akuda ndi oyera amakupweteketsani bwanji?
• Zitha kuwononga ubale wanu
• Zitha kukulepheretsani kuphunzira
• Ikhoza kuchepetsa ntchito yanu
• Ikhoza kusokoneza kadyedwe kabwino
• Kodi kuganiza zakuda ndi zoyera ndi chizindikiro cha zikhalidwe zina?
• Chisokonezo (NPD)
• Matenda a m'malire (BPD)
• Matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD)
• Kuda nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa
• Kusankhana mitundu komanso kukonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha
• Nchiyani chimayambitsa kulingalira kwakuda ndi koyera?
• Kodi mungasinthe bwanji malingaliro akuda ndi oyera?
• Mfundo yofunika

Maganizo akuda ndi azungu amakonda kuganiza mopambanitsa: Ndine wopambana kwambiri, kapena Ndine wolephera kwathunthu. Chibwenzi changa ndi angel, kapena Iye ndi mdierekezi mu thupi.

Njira yolingalirayi, yomwe American Psychological Association imatinso kuganiza kopepuka kapena kosakanikirana, kumawerengedwa ngati kusokonekera kwanzeru chifukwa kumatilepheretsa kuti tiwone dziko lapansi momwe limakhalira: zovuta, zosokoneza, komanso zodzaza ndi mithunzi yonse pakati.

Maganizo azinthu zonse kapena zopanda pake samalola kuti tipeze malo apakati. Ndipo tivomerezane: Pali chifukwa chomwe anthu ambiri samakhalira ku Everest kapena ku Mariana Trench. Ndizovuta kupezetsa moyo mopitilira muyeso.

Ambiri aife timaganiza mozama nthawi ndi nthawi. M'malo mwake, akatswiri ena amaganiza kuti ndondomekoyi iyenera kuti idachokera pakupulumuka kwa anthu - nkhondo yathu kapena kuyankha kwathu pandege.

Koma ngati kuganiza zakuda ndi zoyera kumakhala chizolowezi, zitha:

• kuvulaza thanzi lanu
• onetsani ntchito yanu
• zimasokoneza maubale anu

(Chidziwitso: Pali zokambirana pagulu lazakugonana komanso thanzi lamisala Ponena za OSAKHALA za malingaliro opitilira muyeso kapena opukutidwa malinga ndi 'malingaliro akuda ndi oyera' monga momwe angatanthauziridwe ngati mtundu ndi mtundu. Nthawi zambiri, akatswiri amatchula izi monyanyira kapena polarizations.)

Apa, tikambirana:

• momwe mungazindikire malingaliro opukutidwa
• zomwe atha kukuwuzani zaumoyo wanu
• zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino

Zomwe zimamveka

Mawu ena akhoza kukuchenjezani kuti malingaliro anu akukwaniritsidwa.

• nthawi zonse
• ayi
• zosatheka
• tsoka
• wokwiya
• wawonongedwa
• changwiro

Inde, mawu awa sali oyipa mwa iwo okha. Komabe, ngati muwona kuti akupitilizabe kubwera m'malingaliro anu ndi zokambirana zanu, zitha kukhala chizindikiro kuti mwatengera mawonekedwe akuda ndi oyera pachinthu china.

Kodi malingaliro akuda ndi oyera amakupweteketsani bwanji?

Zitha kuwononga ubale wanu

Ubale umachitika pakati pa anthu, kaya akuwonana ngati abale, abwenzi, oyandikana nawo, ogwira nawo ntchito, kapena china chilichonse.

Ndipo chifukwa chakuti anthu amakhala ndi zotsika (kuzinena mosasunthika), kuphatikiza zovuta komanso zosagwirizana, mikangano imabuka.

Ngati tingayandikire mikangano yabwinobwino ndi malingaliro amisala, titha kupeza zolakwika zokhudzana ndi anthu ena, ndipo tiphonya mwayi wokambirana ndikukambirana.

Choyipa chachikulu, kuganiza kwakuda ndi koyera kumatha kupangitsa munthu kupanga zisankho popanda kulingalira zakukhudzidwa kwa chisankhocho pa iye ndi ena omwe akukhudzidwa.

Zitsanzo zingaphatikizepo:

• mwadzidzidzi akusuntha anthu kuchokera pagulu la "munthu wabwino" kupita pagawo la "munthu woyipa"
• kusiya ntchito kapena kuwathamangitsa anthu
• kuthetsa chibwenzi
• kupewa kupewa kuthetsa mavuto

Kulingalira mozama nthawi zambiri kumasintha pakati pakupanga malingaliro ena ndikuwapatsa ulemu ena. Kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu yemwe amaganiza mopitilira muyeso kumatha kukhala kovuta chifukwa chakubvutikanso kwanthawi yayitali kwamalingaliro.

Zitha kukulepheretsani kuphunzira

Sindichita bwino masamu. Aphunzitsi ambiri a masamu amamva izi mobwerezabwereza mchaka cha sukulu.

Ndizopangidwa ndi a kupambana kapena kulephera malingaliro, omwe ndi kutuluka kwachilengedwe kwa njira yoyika yomwe imafotokoza kulephera (zambiri za 0-59) monga zatha theka kukula kwake.

Maphunziro ena amakhalanso ndi bayinare yosavuta yoyezera kuphunzira: kudutsa kapena kulephera. Chimodzi kapena chimzake.

Ndizosavuta kwambiri kuganiza mozama zazomwe mwakwaniritsa maphunziro anu.

Malingaliro okula, omwe akukhala otchuka kwambiri, amalimbikitsa ophunzira kuti azindikire kupita patsogolo kopitilira muyeso - kuti adziwonere okha akusunthira pafupi kuti athe kuchita zomwe adafuna kuchita.

Ikhoza kuchepetsa ntchito yanu

Kulingalira mozama kumapangitsa kumamatira kumagulu osasinthika: Ntchito yanga. Ntchito yawo. Udindo wanga. Udindo wawo.

M'magawo ambiri ogwirira ntchito limodzi momwe maudindo amasinthana, amakula, ndikukonzanso, kukhala ndi malire okhwima kumatha kukusungani inu ndi bungwe kukwaniritsa zolinga.

Ndidasanthula magwiridwe antchito a studio yachi Dutch.

Inapeza kuti kusamveka bwino pamaudindo ndi maudindo a anthu kumakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino pantchito yolenga, ngakhale mikangano ina idabuka pomwe anthu amakulitsa gawo la ntchito yawo.

Maganizo akuda ndi oyera amathanso kuchepetsa momwe mumaganizira zamtsogolo mwantchito yanu.

Munthawi yamavuto azachuma mu 2008, anthu ambiri adataya ntchito zomwe anali atagwira kwa nthawi yayitali.

Magulu onse anachepetsa kapena anasiya kulemba anthu ntchito. Vutoli lidakakamiza anthu kuti aziyang'ana mozama maluso awo, m'malo momangika mwamphamvu ku lingaliro lolimba lazomwe angachite.

Kuganizira za ntchito yanu yokhazikika komanso yofotokozedwa pang'ono kungakupangitseni kuphonya mwayi womwe mungapeze wopindulitsa, kwenikweni komanso mophiphiritsa.

Ikhoza kusokoneza kadyedwe kabwino

Kafukufuku wambiri apeza kulumikizana pakati pamavuto akudya ndi kuganiza mozama.

Maganizo akuda ndi oyera atha kupangitsa anthu kuchita izi:

• yang'anani zakudya zina zabwino kapena zoipa
• amayang'ana matupi awo ali angwiro kapena opanduka
• idyani muzakudya zoziziritsa kukhosi, zozungulira kapena zopanda kanthu

Ofufuza apezanso kuti kulingalira mozama kumatha kupangitsa anthu kupanga zoletsa zolimba, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kukhalabe ndi ubale wabwino ndi chakudya.

Kodi kuganiza zakuda ndi zoyera ndi chizindikiro cha zikhalidwe zina?

Maganizo ena akuda ndi oyera ndi abwinobwino, koma malingaliro opitilira muyeso amalumikizidwa ndi zinthu zingapo.

Chisokonezo (NPD)

NPD ndichikhalidwe chomwe chimayambitsa:

• kudzikokomeza kodziona kuti ndiwe wofunika
• kusowa kwakukulu kwa chidwi
• kusowa chifundo kwa ena

Kulingalira kwakuda ndi koyera ndi chimodzi mwazizindikiro za vutoli.

apeza kuti chizolowezi chamalingaliro opondereza chimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kwa anthu omwe ali ndi NPD kupeza thandizo lomwe angafune chifukwa atha kupeputsa ndi kutaya othandizira mwachangu.

Matenda a m'malire (BPD)

National Institutes of Mental Health imafotokoza kuti BPD ndi matenda amisala omwe amachititsa anthu "kukhala ndi mkwiyo, kukhumudwa, komanso kuda nkhawa."

Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD:

• Nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mavuto owongolera zikhumbo
• nthawi zambiri amakumana ndi malingaliro akuda ndi oyera
• atha kulimbana ndi ubale pakati pawo

M'malo mwake, apeza kuti chizolowezi choganiza motsutsana ndi polar ndicho pamtima pamavuto omwe anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD amakhala nawo m'mayanjano awo.

Matenda osokoneza bongo (OCD)

Ena amaganiza kuti anthu omwe ali ndi OCD nthawi zambiri amaganiza popanda chilichonse chifukwa kutha kuyika china chake pagulu kungawapatse mphamvu zowongolera zochitika zawo.

Kulingalira mozama kumapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala okhazikika, ndipo izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kupeza chithandizo.

Ngati munthu wabwerera m'mbuyo, zingakhale zosavuta kuziwona ngati kulephera kwathunthu kwa mankhwala m'malo moziwona ngati kanthawi kochepa pakukula.

Kuda nkhawa ndi kukhumudwa

Anthu omwe ali pachiwopsezo cha nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa atha kukhala ndi chizolowezi cholingalira mozama.

Kafukufuku wa 2018 yemwe adasanthula malankhulidwe achilengedwe a anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa adapeza kugwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo cha "mtheradi" pakati pawo kuposa magulu owongolera.

Kuganiza zopanda pake kapena chilichonse kungatipangitsenso kupukuta, zomwe zitha kukulitsa nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa.

Ndizofunikanso kudziwa kuti wapeza kulumikizana pakati pamaganizidwe akuda ndi oyera komanso malingaliro olakwika.

apeza kuganiza kwakuda ndi koyera kulipo pomwe anthu ali ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa.

Kusankhana mitundu komanso kukonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha

Zakhala zikuganiziridwa kuti malingaliro opitilira muyeso atha kukhala muzu wamagawano athu ena opitilira muyeso.

Tsankho, kusankhana mitundu, komanso kudana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha nthawi zambiri zimakhazikika m'magulu "m'magulu" ndi "kunja" m'magulu.

Malingaliro awa amaphatikizira kuwonetsa mikhalidwe yolakwika makamaka pagulu la "kunja".

Zolakwika zomwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pofotokozera mamembala am'magulu omwe amakhulupirira kuti ndiosiyana ndi anzawo.

Nchiyani chimayambitsa kulingalira kwakuda ndi koyera?

Ngakhale mavuto amunthu komanso matenda amisala nthawi zina amakhala obadwa nawo, palibe kafukufuku wokwanira wonena motsimikiza kuti kuganiza kwakuda ndi koyera komwe kumachokera.

Zili choncho, komabe, zimalumikizidwa ndiubwana kapena zoopsa za akulu.

Ochita kafukufuku amaganiza kuti tikakumana ndi zoopsa, titha kukhala ndi malingaliro olimba ngati njira yothanirana nayo kapena kuyesa kudziteteza ku mavuto amtsogolo.

Kodi mungasinthe bwanji malingaliro akuda ndi oyera?

Kulingalira kwakuda ndi koyera kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala kovuta kwa inu panokha komanso mwaukadaulo, ndipo kwalumikizidwa ndi mikhalidwe yathanzi yomwe imachiritsidwa.

Pazifukwa izi, ndikofunikira kulankhula ndi katswiri wama psychotherapist kapena akatswiri azaumoyo mukawona kuti kuganiza mopambanitsa kumakhudza thanzi lanu, ubale wanu, kapena malingaliro anu.

Mungafune kugwira ntchito ndi munthu yemwe adaphunzitsidwa, chifukwa zatsimikizika kuti ndizothandiza kuthana ndi malingaliro amisala.

Mungapezenso kukhala kothandiza kuyesa zina mwanjira izi:

• Yesetsani kusiyanitsa zomwe mumachita ndi omwe muli. Tikafanizira momwe timagwirira ntchito pamtengo umodzi pamtengo wathu wonse, tikhala pachiwopsezo cha malingaliro akuda ndi oyera.
• Yesani kulemba mindandanda. Ngati kuganiza zakuda ndi zoyera mwatseka zotsatira ziwiri zokha kapena zotheka, monga masewera olimbitsa thupi, lembani zosankha zina zambiri momwe mungaganizire. Ngati mukuvutika kuyamba, yesani kupeza njira zitatu poyamba.
• Gwiritsani ntchito zikumbutso zenizeni. Mukaona kuti mwafa ziwalo ndi malingaliro akuda ndi oyera, nenani kapena lembani mawu ochepa, monga Pali njira zingapo zomwe ndingathetsere vutoli, Ndipanga chisankho chabwino ndikatenga nthawi kuti ndidziwe zambiri, ndi Tonsefe tikhoza kukhala olondola pang'ono.
• Dziwani zomwe anthu ena amaganiza. Maganizo akuda ndi oyera amatha kukulepheretsani kuwona zinthu kuchokera kwa wina. Mukasemphana ndi wina, modekha funsani mafunso omveketsa kuti mumvetsetse malingaliro awo.

Mfundo yofunika

Maganizo akuda ndi azungu amakonda kuganiza mopambanitsa. Ngakhale zimakhala zachilendo nthawi ndi nthawi, kukulitsa chizolowezi cholingalira mozama kumatha kusokoneza thanzi lanu, ubale wanu, ndi ntchito yanu.

Zimakhudzana ndi nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso zovuta zingapo zaumunthu, chifukwa chake ngati mungadzipezere nokha pakulingalira zakuda ndi zoyera, ndikofunikira kukambirana ndi wothandizira.

Wothandizira akhoza kukuthandizani kuti muphunzire njira zina zosinthira malingaliro awa pang'onopang'ono ndikukhala moyo wathanzi komanso wokhutiritsa.