Kodi Kugawa Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) N'kutani?

Zamkati

• Kodi kugawanika mu BPD ndi chiyani?
• Kodi kugawanika kumatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji?
• Nchiyani chingayambitse gawo logawanika?
• Zitsanzo zogawanika
• Chitsanzo 1
• Chitsanzo 2
• Kodi kugawanika kumakhudza bwanji maubwenzi?
• Njira yabwino iti yothana ndi kugawanika ngati muli ndi BPD?
• Kodi njira yabwino iti yothandizira munthu yemwe akukumana ndi mavuto?
• Mfundo yofunika

Makhalidwe athu amafotokozedwa ndi momwe timaganizira, momwe timamvera, komanso momwe timakhalira. Amapangidwanso ndi zomwe takumana nazo, chilengedwe, ndi machitidwe obadwa nawo. Makhalidwe athu ndi gawo lalikulu lazomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osiyana ndi anthu omwe timakhala nawo.

Mavuto aumunthu ndimatenda omwe amakupangitsani kuganiza, kumva, ndikuchita mosiyana ndi anthu ambiri. Akapanda kuchiritsidwa, amatha kuyambitsa mavuto kapena mavuto m'miyoyo ya anthu omwe ali nawo.

Vuto limodzi lodziwika bwino lotchedwa borderline personality disorder (BPD). Amadziwika ndi:

• zodzikongoletsa
• zovuta kuwongolera momwe akumvera komanso machitidwe
• maubwenzi osakhazikika

Khalidwe limodzi lofunika kwambiri lomwe ambiri amakhala ndi BPD amadziwika kuti "kugawanika kosagwirizana," kapena "kungogawanika."

Pitirizani kuwerenga kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza kugawanika kwa BPD ndi momwe mungathane nayo.

Kodi kugawanika mu BPD ndi chiyani?

Kugawa chinthu kumatanthauza kuchigawa. Omwe ali ndi BPD amakonda kudzizindikiritsa okha, anthu ena, komanso zochitika zakuda ndi zoyera. Mwanjira ina, amatha kuzindikira anthu, zinthu, zikhulupiriro, kapena zochitika mwadzidzidzi ngati zabwino kapena zoyipa zonse.

Atha kuchita izi ngakhale akudziwa kuti dziko lapansi ndi lovuta, ndipo zabwino ndi zoyipa zitha kukhalapo limodzi.

Omwe ali ndi BPD nthawi zambiri amafuna kutsimikizika kunja osaganizira momwe akumvera za iwo, ena, zinthu, zikhulupiriro, ndi mikhalidwe. Izi zitha kuwapangitsa kuti azitha kugawanika, chifukwa amayesetsa kudziteteza ku nkhawa zomwe zimadza chifukwa chakusiya, kusakhulupirika, ndi kusakhulupirika.

Kodi kugawanika kumatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji?

Anthu omwe ali ndi BPD nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi mantha akulu osiyidwa komanso kusakhazikika. Kuti athane ndi mantha awa, atha kugwiritsa ntchito njira yogawanika. Izi zikutanthauza kuti atha kusiyanitsa pakati pawo malingaliro abwino ndi oyipa okhudza:

• iwowo
• zinthu
• zikhulupiriro
• anthu ena
• zochitika

Kugawanika nthawi zambiri kumachitika modzidzimutsa komanso mwadzidzidzi. Munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD amatha kuwona dziko lapansi pamavuto ake. Koma nthawi zambiri amasintha malingaliro awo kuchoka pachabwino kupita choipa m'malo mobwerezabwereza.

Gawo logawanika limatha masiku, masabata, miyezi, kapenanso zaka zisanasinthe.

Nchiyani chingayambitse gawo logawanika?

Kugawikana kumayambitsidwa ndi chochitika chomwe chimapangitsa munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD kutenga malingaliro owopsa. Zochitika izi zitha kukhala zachilendo, monga kuyenda ulendo wamalonda kapena kukangana ndi wina.

Nthawi zambiri, zochitika zoyambitsa zimaphatikizira kupatukana pang'ono ndi munthu yemwe akumukonda komanso kumawopa kuti atayidwa.

Zitsanzo zogawanika

Mutha kuzindikira kugawanika nthawi zambiri kudzera mchilankhulo cha munthu amene ali ndi BPD. Nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu okhazikika pamikhalidwe yawo, ena, zinthu, zikhulupiriro, komanso zochitika, monga:

• “Konse” ndi “nthawi zonse”
• "Palibe" ndi "onse"
• “Zoipa” ndi “zabwino”

Nazi zitsanzo zingapo:

Chitsanzo 1

Mwakhala mukumva bwino za inu nokha, kawirikawiri. Mukuyenda pamsewu tsiku lina ndikupanga njira yolakwika yomwe imakusowetsani kwakanthawi. Mwadzidzidzi, malingaliro aliwonse abwino omwe muli nawo okhudza inu amatha, ndipo mumadziderera.

Mutha kudzinenera nokha kapena ena, monga "Ndine wopusa kwambiri, ndimasochera nthawi zonse" kapena "Ndine wopanda pake, sindingathe kuchita chilichonse molondola."

Inde, kusintha molakwika poyendetsa sikutanthauza kuti munthu ndi wopanda pake. Koma munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD amatha kugawaniza malingaliro ake kuti asapewe nkhawa za ena omwe amawawona ngati opanda ntchito ngati agwira ntchitoyo poyamba.

Chitsanzo 2

Muli ndi wowongolera yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri. Iwo akuthandizani mwaukadaulo komanso panokha, ndipo mumayamba kuwalingalira. Ayenera kukhala opanda cholakwa ngati akuchita bwino pamoyo wawo waluso komanso moyo wawo. Mukufuna kukhala ngati iwowo, ndipo mumawauza choncho.

Ndiye tsiku lina owongolera anu amakumana ndi zovuta m'banja lawo. Mukuwona izi ngati chizindikiro cha kufooka. Mwadzidzidzi, mumawona wophunzitsayo ngati chinyengo chonse komanso kulephera.

Simukufuna kuchita nawo chilichonse. Mumadzipatula nokha ndi ntchito yanu kwa iwo ndikufunafuna wowongolera watsopano kwina.

Kugawanika koteroko kumatha kusiya munthuyo akukhumudwa, kukwiya, komanso kusokonezeka ndikusintha kwadzidzidzi kwa malingaliro anu.

Kodi kugawanika kumakhudza bwanji maubwenzi?

Kuwaza ndi kuyesa osazindikira kuti muteteze nkhawa komanso kupewa nkhawa. Kugawanika nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa machitidwe owopsa - komanso nthawi zina owononga - komanso kusokonekera kwa ubale. Kugawanika nthawi zambiri kumasokoneza iwo omwe akuyesera kuthandiza anthu omwe ali ndi BPD.

Kuwaza ndi kuyesa osazindikira kuti muteteze nkhawa komanso kupewa nkhawa.

Omwe ali ndi BPD nthawi zambiri amati amakhala ndi ubale wolimba komanso wosakhazikika. Munthu yemwe ndi mnzake tsiku lina atha kuzindikira ngati mdani lotsatira. Makhalidwe ena aubwenzi a munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD ndi awa:

• zovuta kukhulupirira ena
• mopanda nzeru kuwopa zolinga za ena
• kudula mwachangu kuyankhulana ndi wina yemwe akuganiza kuti atha kumusiya
• Kusintha kwakanthawi kokhudza munthu, kuchokera paubwenzi wapamtima ndi chikondi (malingaliro) mpaka kusakonda kwambiri ndi mkwiyo (kutsika)
• kuyambitsa mwachangu ubale wapamtima komanso / kapena mwamalingaliro
  

Njira yabwino iti yothana ndi kugawanika ngati muli ndi BPD?

Kukhadzuka ndi njira yodzitchinjiriza yomwe imapangidwa ndi anthu omwe adakumana ndi zowawa zakubadwa, monga kuzunzidwa ndikusiya.

Chithandizo cha nthawi yayitali chimaphatikizapo kukonza njira zothanirana ndi mavuto zomwe zimakuthandizani kuwona zomwe zikuchitika m'moyo wanu. Kuchepetsa nkhawa kumathandizanso.

Ngati mukufuna thandizo kuthana ndi gawo logawanika pakadali pano, Nazi zomwe mungachite:

• Khazikitsani mpweya wanu. Kuchuluka kwa nkhawa nthawi zambiri kumatsagana ndi zigawo zomwe zidagawanika. Kutenga nthawi yayitali, kupumira pansi kumatha kukuthandizani kuti muchepetse komanso kuti nkhawa zanu zisapitirire.
• Yang'anani pa mphamvu zanu zonse. Kudziyambitsa nokha pazomwe zikuchitika mozungulira munthawi ingakhale njira yabwino yodzisokonezera ndikumverera kopitilira muyeso ndikuthandizani kuti muwone bwino zomwe zikuchitika pafupi nanu. Kodi mukumva chiyani, kulawa, kugwira, kumva, ndikuwona kwakanthawi?
• Fikirani. Ngati mukupeza kuti mukugawanika, ganizirani kufikira akatswiri azachipatala. Angathe kukutonthozani ndikuthandizani kuchepetsa kugawanika pamene zikuchitika.

Kodi njira yabwino iti yothandizira munthu yemwe akukumana ndi mavuto?

Sikovuta kuthandiza munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD yemwe amakumana ndi kugawanika. Mutha kumva chifukwa cha zizindikiro zawo. Ngati mukumva kuti mungathe kuthandiza, nazi malangizo:

• Phunzirani zambiri momwe mungathere za BPD. Ndikosavuta kukhumudwitsidwa ndimakhalidwe okweza-ndi-kutsika kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi BPD. Koma mukamadziwa zambiri za vutoli komanso momwe zingakhudzire machitidwe, m'pamenenso mumamvetsetsa zamakhalidwe a wokondedwa wanu.
• Dziwani zoyambitsa za wokondedwa wanu. Nthawi zambiri, zochitika zomwezo mobwerezabwereza zimayambitsa BPD. Kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa wokondedwa wanu, kuwachenjeza, ndikuwathandiza kupewa kapena kuthana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kungalepheretse kugawanika.
• Mvetsetsani malire anu. Ngati mukumva kuti simuli okonzeka kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu kuthana ndi magawo omwe amagawanika ndi BPD, khalani owona mtima. Auzeni nthawi yomwe ayenera kufunafuna chithandizo cha akatswiri. Umu ndi momwe mungapezere chithandizo cha bajeti iliyonse.

Mfundo yofunika

BPD ndimatenda amisala omwe amadziwika modetsa nkhawa momwe munthu amaganizira, momwe amamvera, ndimachitidwe ake. Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi BPD amadzipangira kwambiri za iwo eni, ena, zinthu, zikhulupiriro zawo, komanso zochitika munthawi ya magawo otchedwa kugawanika.

Zinthu zomwe zimakhudzana ndi nkhawa nthawi zambiri zimayambitsa magawo. Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta nthawi zina, kuthana ndi zizindikiro zogawanika ndizotheka.

Kupeza chithandizo cha akatswiri kumatha kukukonzekeretsani kuthana ndi BPD yanu komanso magawano apakati.