N 'chifukwa Chiyani Ndekha Kuti Ndikwaniritse Matendawa Ndekha?

Momwe ziyembekezo zimakhalira zomwe zingakuyimitseni inu ndi mnzanu kuti musabwere pamodzi.

Zojambula ndi Alexis Lira

Q: Kugonana ndi amuna anga ndi pang'ono ... chabwino, moona mtima, sindimamva kanthu. Ndikudziwa momwe ndingadzipangitsire kubwera, ndikungoti ndikufuna kuti ndikomane naye osatenga kwamuyaya kukafika kumeneko. Kodi tingachite bwanji izi?

Umenewu ndi uthenga wabwino zedi! Mukudziwa thupi lanu mokwanira kuti mudzibweretse ku chiwonongeko. Tsopano muyenera kungophunzitsa ndikuphunzitsa amuna anu momwe mumakhudzidwira.

Pankhani yodzikondweretsa, anthu amazolowera njira yokhudza kukhudza. Yakwana nthawi onetsani iye ndendende chomwe njira imeneyo ili. Pitilizani kupeza mlatho pakati pazomwe mumakonda ndi zochitika zanu zogonana. Yesetsani kutsanzira zomwe mumakonda mukamagonana, koma musaiwale kulumikizana ndi izi ndikusintha kwa SO yanu. Osachita manyazi. Lankhulani, perekani zambiri. Ayenera kudziwa zomwe zikukuchotsani.

Pamodzi ndi kuphunzitsa pamanja, yesetsani kugawana zopeka zanu. Nenani mokweza. Ndikudziwa kuti zitha kuwoneka ngati zochuluka zikuchitika, koma kutha kufotokoza nkhanizo, mawu, ndi zokhudzidwa zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi the njira yachangu kwambiri ya A mpaka B kuti musangalatse.

Zikumveka ngati inunso mutha kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chokhudza kubwera mwachangu. Izi zitha kukhala zowonjezera kupanikizika komanso kusokoneza kuthekera kwanu kupumula nthawi yogonana. Palibe chifukwa chofulumira, pokhapokha ngati mukufuna kukhala ndifulumira. Aliyense amabwera nthawi yake, ndipo zili bwino.

Zikafika pachimake, mumakhala ndi udindo wanu mpaka mutamuphunzitsa mnzanu zomwe zimakusangalatsani inu ndi thupi lanu. Ngati mukumva kuti mwamuna wanu akukukakamizani, lankhulani naye. Chifukwa mpaka mutawonetsa kapena kumuuza momwe, sangathandizire.

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Janet Brito ndi katswiri wokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi AASECT yemwenso ali ndi layisensi yama psychology and social work. Anamaliza kuyanjana kwawo ku University of Minnesota Medical School, imodzi mwamapulogalamu ochepa aku yunivesite padziko lapansi ophunzitsidwa zakugonana. Pakadali pano, ali ku Hawaii ndipo ndiye woyambitsa Center for Health and Reproductive Health. Brito watchulidwa m'malo ambiri ogulitsira, kuphatikiza The Huffington Post, Thrive, ndi Healthline. Fikirani kwa iye kudzera mwa iye tsamba la webusayiti kapena kupitirira Twitter.