Amuna 10 Amatiuza Zomwe Amafuna Amuna Ena Amadziwa Zokhudza Thanzi Lamaganizidwe

Zamkati

• 1. Sosaite imauza amuna kuti sizovomerezeka kukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri.
• 2. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe abambo safunira chithandizo, ngakhale atakhala atafunikira thandizo.
• 3. Nthawi zina, ngakhale mutadziwa kuti mukufuna thandizo, zingakhale zovuta kudziwa komwe mungayambire.
• 4. Ndipo ngakhale kupeza wothandizira kuli kovuta ndipo kumatha kuyesedwa pang'ono, pamapeto pake ndikofunika.
• 5. Kuphatikiza apo, "kupeza chithandizo" kumatha kukhala m'njira zosiyanasiyana.
• 6. Anthu nthawi zambiri amakhala omasuka pambuyo podziwitsa anzawo zomwe akukumana nazo.
• 7. Nkhani zaumoyo ndizofala kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire, koma polankhula, amuna ena akuyesetsa kuti adziwitse ena.
• 8. Nkhani zamaganizidwe zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa ngati simunakumaneko nazo.
• 9. Zowona kuti otchuka amawoneka kuti amakhala omasuka kulankhula zaumoyo wawo ndizolimbikitsanso, nthawi zina ngakhale kuyika nthabwala zosonyeza momwe kukhala ndi matenda amisala kumakhalira.
• 10. Nthabwala zonse pambali, akatswiri pankhaniyi amakhala ndi chiyembekezo.

Chikhalidwe chathu sichimapereka mpata kwa amuna kuti afotokoze kulimbana kwawo. Amunawa akuyesera kusintha izi.

Kwa aliyense amene ali ndi mavuto azaumoyo, kuyankhula za izi ndi aliyense - osatinso katswiri wazamisala - kumawoneka kowopsa komanso kovuta. Ngakhale zoopsa.

Kwa abambo makamaka, omwe adauzidwa miyoyo yawo yonse kuti "akhale amuna" ndikuti "mukhale olimba," kupeza zithandizo zamaganizidwe kumatha kuwoneka ngati kosemphana ndi ziyembekezo zachikhalidwe.

Koma pazaka zingapo zapitazi, pakhala pali zachitukuko komanso chidwi chokhudzana ndi thanzi lam'mutu wamwamuna, makamaka chifukwa cha omwe akuwunika pazankhani omwe akhala akunena za zokumana nazo zawo.

Ndikofunika kwambiri kuyankhula ndikulimbana ndi kusalana. Nazi zomwe akatswiri azaumoyo, otchuka, komanso amuna omwe ali ndi mavuto amisala amafuna kuti ena adziwe, kuphatikiza momwe zimakhalira ndi matenda amisala, momwe mungapemphere thandizo, komanso zomwe akuganiza kuti tsogolo la thanzi lam'mutu la amuna woneka ngati.

1. Sosaite imauza amuna kuti sizovomerezeka kukhala ndi malingaliro ambiri.

Dr. David Plans, CEO wa BioBeats, yemwe wagwirapo ntchito zambiri, anati: "Amuna amaphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali aang'ono, kaya potengera chikhalidwe chawo kapena mwa kulera ana, kukhala olimba mtima, osalira, komanso fufuzani m'dera lino. “Timaphunzitsa asitikali ndi ankhondo odziwa zambiri, kenako timayembekezera kuti atha kukhala anzeru pamtima kuti athe kumasuka akafuna thandizo. Choyipa chachikulu, timayembekezera * konse * kufuna thandizo. Tiyenera kubweretsa kusatetezeka, monga gawo lamphamvu lamphamvu zamaganizidwe, mu chimango chachimuna. ”

Kwenikweni, akatswiri amati, mauthenga omwe amuna amalandira ali ana komanso kudzera pakukula amawapangitsa kuti asadziwitse aliyense kuti akusowa thandizo. Ngakhale ndikuthokoza, izi zikuyamba kusintha.

2. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe abambo safunira chithandizo, ngakhale atakhala atafunikira thandizo.

"Kungakhale kovuta kwambiri kuvomereza kuti ukuvutika ngati mwamuna," Alex MacLellan, wothandizira komanso wothandizira nkhawa, akuuza Healthline. "Ndizomveka, mukudziwa kuti aliyense amagwa pansi, amakhala ndi vuto nthawi ndi nthawi, kapena zimawavuta kupirira, koma nthawi zambiri zimawoneka ngati inu nokha amene mukuwoneka kuti simukuthana nawo. Mumagona usiku muli nokha, mumadzifunsa chifukwa chake simungakhale olamulira momwe muyenera kukhalira ndikuyesayesa kuti wina asawone momwe mukukhalira. ”

3. Nthawi zina, ngakhale mutadziwa kuti mukufuna thandizo, zingakhale zovuta kudziwa komwe mungayambire.

"Ndakhala ndikukumana ndi amuna ambiri omwe safuna kupempha thandizo chifukwa amaopa kuoneka ofooka kapena opusa," atero a Timothy Wenger, akatswiri azamisala amuna komanso blogger ku The Man Effect.

“Ichi ndichinthu chomwe ndikugwira ntchito molimbika kuti ndisinthe. Ndikufuna amuna adziwe kuti zovuta zawo zamkati ndizolondola monga kulimbana kulikonse, ndipo izi sizimapangitsa kuti akhale ochepera amuna. Zomwe ndikupeza, komabe, amuna ambiri sadziwa kupempha thandizo. "

4. Ndipo ngakhale kupeza wothandizira kuli kovuta ndipo kumatha kuyesedwa pang'ono, pamapeto pake ndikofunika.

"Monga mwana yekhayo komanso mwana waupangiri walayisensi, mungaganize kuti kupeza chithandizo chamankhwala ndikosavuta," akutero a A. Burks, wolemba "The 4 STEPS: A Practical Guide to Breaking the Addictive Cycle."

“Komabe, zinali zosiyana kwambiri! Ndinaganiza kuti, ‘Kodi wodwalayo andiuza chiyani zomwe sindikudziwa kale?’ Nditalimbikitsidwa ndi anzanga awiri apamtima, ndidaganiza zopanga nthawi yanga yoyamba kusankhidwa. Tsoka ilo, sing'anga ameneyu sanali woyenera - asanatsimikizire msanga m'malingaliro mwanga kuti ndimadziwa zonse. Komabe, ndinali ndikulimbanabe ndi vuto losokoneza bongo. Mwamwayi, wondiphunzitsa uja anandiuza kuti ndipite kukaonana ndi dokotala wina. Ulendo wanga woyamba wopita kwa asing'anga uja unasintha moyo wanga ndipo pamapeto pake unandithandiza kupanga 4 STEPS. ”

5. Kuphatikiza apo, "kupeza chithandizo" kumatha kukhala m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

"Ndibwino kukumbukira kuti 'kupempha thandizo' si ntchito yovuta nthawi zonse, yovuta," akutero a Matt Mahalo, wolemba komanso wokamba nkhani yemwe adalimbana ndi zovuta zake zamaganizidwe.

"Nthawi zina, china chake chosavuta monga maola ochepa omwe akuwononga nkhani zokuthandizani kuchira pa YouTube chitha kukhala chokwanira kuti muyambe kuyenda panjira yochira. Nthawi zina zimangotenga ulendo wosavuta wopita ku laibulale. Mwachitsanzo, chinthu changa choyamba kupita patsogolo chidachitika ndikuwerenga 'Luso la Chimwemwe.' ”

6. Anthu nthawi zambiri amakhala omasuka pambuyo podziwitsa anzawo zomwe akukumana nazo.

Izi zikuphatikizanso woyimba Zayn Malik, yemwe adalengeza posachedwa zomwe adakumana nazo ndi nkhawa komanso vuto lakudya.

"Ndine wokondwa kuti ndidachotsa pachifuwa panga, monga aliyense ali pamene mumamva ngati mukubisira wina kanthu. Muyenera kulankhula za izi ndikumveka bwino, "adauza Us Weekly poyankhulana.

7. Nkhani zaumoyo ndizofala kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire, koma polankhula, amuna ena akuyesetsa kuti adziwitse ena.

"Ndikukuwuzani, mwina ndidakhalapo ndi theka la khumi ndi awiri azovuta zomwe ndidakumana nazo. Ndipo wa 2014, sindinkafuna kukhala ndi moyo, "a Michael Phelps adauza TODAY.

Poganizira kuti m'modzi mwa achikulire asanu aku US amakhala ndi thanzi lam'magazi chaka chilichonse, ndikofunikira kuti nkhanizi zizolowere - ndipo ndichifukwa chake Phelps adapanga chidziwitso chouza ena zomwe adakumana nazo.

"Mukudziwa, kwa ine, ndimangokhala ndi chilichonse chomwe mungakhale nacho kwa zaka 15-20 ndipo sindinalankhulepo. Ndipo sindikudziwa chifukwa chake tsiku lina ndinaganiza zongotsegula. Koma kuyambira tsiku lomwelo, zakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi moyo komanso zosavuta kusangalala ndi moyo ndipo ndichinthu chothokoza kwambiri, "adatero Phelps.

8. Nkhani zamaganizidwe zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa ngati simunakumaneko nazo.

M'nyimbo yake "Mwazi Wanga," woimba nyimbo wa pop Shawn Mendes akukumana ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ndi nkhawa, akuyimba, "Ndithandizeni, zili ngati khoma likubisalira. Nthawi zina ndimamva ngati ndasiya."

Polankhula ndi Beats 1 za nyimboyi, adati, "Zinali ngati zomwe zidandigunda chaka chatha. Izi zisanachitike, ndikukula, ndinali mwana wodekha, wolimba kwambiri. ”

Ananenanso kuti zingakhale zovuta kumvetsetsa zomwe anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa akukumana nazo mpaka mutakumana nazo nokha. "Ndinkadziwa anthu omwe anali ndi nkhawa ndipo ndimavutika kuti ndimvetse, koma zikakugundani, mumakhala ngati," Oo Mulungu wanga, ichi ndi chiyani? Izi ndizopenga, ’” adatero.

9. Zowona kuti otchuka amawoneka kuti amakhala omasuka kulankhula zaumoyo wawo ndizolimbikitsanso, nthawi zina ngakhale kuyika nthabwala zosonyeza momwe kukhala ndi matenda amisala kumakhalira.

Mu 2017, Pete Davidson wa Saturday Night Live adalongosola zomwe adakumana nazo ndi kukhumudwa kwakanthawi komanso matenda ake aposachedwa a m'malire.

“Matenda okhumudwa amakhudza anthu opitilira 16 miliyoni mdziko muno ndipo palibe mankhwala ochiritsira, koma kwa aliyense amene ali ndi vutoli, pali mankhwala omwe angathandize. Choyamba, ngati mukuganiza kuti mwapanikizika, pitani kuchipatala ndikulankhula nawo zamankhwala. Komanso khalani athanzi. Kudya moyenera komanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu, ”adalimbikitsa Davidson.

Anapitiliza ndikumwetulira kuti: "Pomaliza, ngati muli m'gulu la zisudzo zausiku, zitha kuthandiza ngati, mukudziwa, achita zina zambiri zosewerera."

10. Nthabwala zonse pambali, akatswiri pankhaniyi amakhala ndi chiyembekezo.

"Amuna ambiri (makamaka omwe ali pagulu) amalankhula za zovuta zawo komanso zokumana nazo ndi zovuta zamatenda amisala, amuna ena amatha kuwona kuti nkhondoyi ndi yeniyeni ndipo simuli nokha," atero a Adam Gonzalez, PhD, katswiri wazamisala wazachipatala ndi woyambitsa woyang'anira wa Mind-Body Clinical Research Center ku Stony Brook Medicine.

"Titha kupitilizabe kufalitsa uthenga ndikuwonetsa kuti zitha kukhala zovuta kuthana ndi kupsinjika ndi zofuna zathu za tsiku ndi tsiku," akutero.

"Chofunika kwambiri, tiyenera kupitiliza kufalitsa uthenga wopatsa chiyembekezo," akutero a Gonzalez. "Pali mankhwala othandiza omwe angathandize kuchepetsa nkhawa, nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso mavuto ena amisala."

Julia ndi mkonzi wakale wamagazini amene anasintha kukhala wolemba zaumoyo komanso “wophunzitsa maphunziro.” Ku Amsterdam, amapalasa njinga tsiku lililonse ndipo amayenda kuzungulira dziko lapansi kufunafuna thukuta lolimba komanso mtengo wabwino wazamasamba.