Ndinagonjetsa Khansa… Tsopano Ndingagonjetse Bwanji Moyo Wanga Wachikondi?

Zamkati

• Moyo pambuyo pa khansa siomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi
• Kudzipereka kosakhazikika

Timaphatikizapo zinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti ndizothandiza kwa owerenga athu. Ngati mutagula maulalo omwe ali patsamba lino, titha kupeza ndalama zochepa. Nayi njira yathu.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Kodi mudawonako kanema "Kumwamba pang'ono"? Mmenemo, khalidwe la Kate Hudson limapezeka ndi khansa ndipo amakondana ndi dokotala wake.

Umenewo unali moyo wanga pa nthawi ya chithandizo cha khansa. Kupatula kuti sindinamwalire ndipo sikunali kuphwanya kwa HIPAA, chifukwa adotolo omwe amafunsidwayo amangokhala ku ICU.

Unali chikondi poyamba "Dokotala, ndikufuna Dilaudid wowonjezera ndi mamiligalamu awiri a Ativan!" kupenya.

Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake, koma kuchita zibwenzi ndikamadutsa khansa sizinali zovuta kwenikweni kwa ine. Monga woimira mankhwala pakampani yayikulu yapadziko lonse lapansi, ndinali kuthera nthawi yanga yambiri kuchipatala. M'malo mwake, anzanga nthawi zambiri amandiseka chifukwa cha momwe ndimakondera madotolo, ndikunena kuti pamapeto pake ndidzakwatiwa ndi mmodzi.

Anthu omwe amagwira ntchito yazaumoyo amakhala achifundo kwambiri, chifukwa adaziwona zonse. Amakulemekezani ndipo amamvetsetsa zomwe mukukumana nazo. Zachidziwikire, amuna ena omwe ndidakumana nawo amabwera kunyumba kwanga kudzadya chakudya changa chonse ndikusiya chimbudzi. (Anali wotsimikiza kuti ayi kwa ine.) Koma ena amangokhalira kulankhula nane, kapena kuyenda ndi galu wanga, ngakhale nditagwira ntchito usiku. Pafupifupi kusintha kulikonse usiku.

Ameneyo anali dokotala wanga wa ICU. Anandipatsa malingaliro atsopano pa moyo. Ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndinamupatsanso mawonekedwe atsopano.

Tsoka ilo, moyo umayamba kuvuta, makamaka kwa odwala ndi madotolo, ndipo nthano sizinapite monga momwe zimakonzera. Koma ndidzakhala ndi malo apadera mumtima mwanga chifukwa cha omwe adathawa.

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndimafunsidwa kawirikawiri ndi chakuti, "Zimakhala bwanji kukhala ndi chibwenzi ukakhala ndi khansa?" Monga khansa ndi chithandizo, ndizosiyana ndi aliyense. Tonsefe timachitapo kanthu pama curveball a moyo munjira yathu. Ndipo monga ndanenera kale, kwa ine, zinali zosavuta.

Chomwe sichinali chophweka, chodabwitsa, chinali chibwenzi pambuyo poti chithandizo changa cha khansa chatha.

Moyo pambuyo pa khansa siomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi

Osandilakwitsa. Moyo pambuyo pa khansa ndi wabwino. Chifukwa chimodzi, ndili ndi moyo! Koma si utawaleza wonse ndi agulugufe. Pokhapokha mutakhala kale pachibwenzi nthawi ya chemo, simunakonzekere kulowa mdziko lapansi la zibwenzi mutalandira chithandizo. (Awa ndi malingaliro anga, ndipo mutha kukhala ndi anu. Ndikutsimikiza kuti sanali okonzeka.) Zatha chaka chimodzi ndi theka kuyambira gawo langa lomaliza la chemo, ndipo sindikudziwa ngati ndili wokonzeka kwathunthu.

Chifukwa mukudwala khansa, mumadzitaya nokha. Tsalani bwino, ndadzitaya ndekha! Sindine munthu m'modzi momwe ndidalili pomwe ndidalowa mchipatala. Sindikumuzindikira mtsikanayo.

Chaka choyamba cha mankhwalawa chimakhala chosakhazikika. Malingaliro anu pafupifupi atengeka kwathunthu ndikuti tsogolo silidziwika. Zonsezi zitatha, mukukulungabe mutu wanu kuti munakakamizidwa kuti mudzazindikire zaumwini wanu. Munatsala pang'ono kufa. Munapatsidwa chiphe. Mwataya chidziwitso chakuthupi chomwe mudali nacho kale, ndipo simutha kudzizindikira nokha pakalilore.

Mwinanso mukukumana ndi zovuta zambiri zam'maganizo ndi zathupi. Sikophweka kutaya tsitsi lako, nsidze, ndi nsidze, ndikuyenera kufotokozera wina izi. Kusatetezeka kwakukulu kumadza ndi izi.

Mudzadzidzimutsa, mukuganiza kuti mukubwereranso, mudzasungunuka.

Zonsezi zili bwino. Izi ndi zachilendo! Zikhala bwino. Zitenga nthawi, koma zikhala bwino. Koma ndizovuta kufotokoza izi kwa munthu yemwe sanadutsepopo. Ndizovuta kupeza ngakhale mphamvu. Sakanatha kuzipeza, sichoncho?

Kudzipereka kosakhazikika

Mukakhululukidwa, mupeza zomwe mukufuna kuti moyo wanu ukhale. Ndi nthawi yoti muziganiziranso za inu nokha ndikuphunzira kudzikondanso nokha - chifukwa ngati simudzikonda nokha, ndiye kuti wina angatani?

Muyenera kuphunzira kukhala ngwazi yanu, chifukwa palibe amene adzalowe ndikupulumutsani. Muyenera kuyimirira pa mapazi anu awiri. Muyenera kuphunzira Bwanji kuyimirira ndi mapazi ako kachiwiri.

Tsopano patha zaka ziwiri kuchokera pamene ndinalandira matenda anga a khansa. Ndili ndi masiku anga oyipa, ndizowona, koma kwakukulu, ndili bwino tsopano. Ndimangowona moyo mosiyana kwambiri ndi ambiri, zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kovuta kukhala pachibwenzi. Ndimalemekeza nthawi yanga, ndimawona moyo kukhala wamtengo wapatali, ndimadziona kuti ndine wofunika kwambiri.

Ndikudziwa kuti moyo ndi waufupi bwanji. Ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira kuti mudzuke mu ICU ndikuuzidwa kuti muli ndi khansa m'chiwalo chilichonse cha thupi lanu ndikuti mudzafa. Ndikudziwa momwe zimakhalira kuthera masiku anga ndakhazikika pamtengo wa chemotherapy kumenyera moyo wanu.

Ndidadwala, ndidazindikira kuti pachibwenzi chilichonse chomwe ndidakhalapo, ndakhazikika, ndipo ndidanong'oneza bondo kukhazikika kwambiri. Pambuyo pa khansa, sindingathe kukhazikika. Ndakhala pachibwenzi, koma palibe chovuta. Mnyamata womaliza yemwe ndinkacheza naye anali wabwino kwambiri. Koma kumapeto kwa tsiku, ndimaganiza izi nthawi zonse: Ndikadwala kapena kufa mawa, kodi uyu ndi amene ndikufuna kukhala naye? Kodi ndikadangokhala ndikupha nthawi?

Ndikufuna kuti munthu amene ndili naye andipangitse kuti ndikhale wamoyo. Ndikufuna kuwapangitsa kumva kuti ali moyo. Ngati ndiyang'ana wina ndipo sindikumva zamatsenga, kapena ndikukayika za iwo, sindikumva kufunika kopitiliza. Moyo ndiwoperewera kwambiri kuti ungathe kupeza chilichonse, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndichinthu chodabwitsa kuti khansa ikutiphunzitsa.

Kupatula apo, sindinatsala pang'ono kufa kuti ndikhale pachinthu chomwe sichili chilichonse kwa ine.

Ndine wokhulupirira mwamphamvu kuti chilengedwe nthawi zonse chimakhala ndi dongosolo kwa ife. Mwinanso chilengedwechi chakhala chikundisokoneza - ndikungoseka - koma zili bwino. Moyo umayenera kuti ukhale ndi moyo. Ndimasangalala ndi moyo, ndipo sindinathamangire kulumpha chilichonse choopsa.

China chake chomwe ife omwe tapulumuka khansa tili nacho padziko lonse lapansi ndikuti tonse timamvetsetsa kuti moyo ndi waufupi bwanji, ndikofunikira bwanji kukhala osangalala. Katswiri wanu wankhondo mu zida zonyezimira adzabwera, ndipo inenso ndidzatero. Osataya nthawi yanu kuda nkhawa kuti kaya "amasamala" kuti mwakhala ndi khansa kapena ayi. Zoipa zidzasamalira, zabwino sizidzaganiza kawiri.

Musathamangire, ndipo musakhazikike kwa knight yemwe zida zake zowala ndizopangidwa ndi tinfoil. Moyo ndi waufupi kwambiri kuti ungachitike.

Jessica Lynne DeCristofaro ndi gawo la 4B Hodgkin's lymphoma wopulumuka. Atamupeza, adapeza kuti palibe buku lenileni la anthu omwe ali ndi khansa. Chifukwa chake adaganiza zopanga imodzi. Pofotokoza zaulendo wake wa khansa pa blog yake, Lymphoma Barbie, adakulitsa zolemba zake kukhala buku, "Talk Cancer to Me: My Guide to Kicking Cancer's Booty." Kenako adapitiliza kampani yotchedwa Chemo Kits, yomwe imapatsa odwala khansa ndi opulumuka mankhwala a chic chemotherapy "pick-me-up" kuti awonjezere tsiku lawo. DeCristofaro, omaliza maphunziro a University of New Hampshire, amakhala ku Miami, Florida, komwe amagwira ntchito ngati woimira ogulitsa mankhwala.