Momwe 'Dry Drunk Syndrome' Imakhudzira Kubwezeretsa

Zamkati

• Zilankhulo
• Zizindikiro zake ndi ziti?
• Zizindikiro zakusintha
• Zizindikiro zamakhalidwe
• Kodi zimachitikira aliyense?
• Kodi nthawi zonse chimakhala chizindikiro chobwerera m'mbuyo?
• Momwe mungalimbane nawo
• Lumikizanani ndi ena
• Dziperekeni ku kudzisamalira
• Pangani njira zatsopano zothetsera mavuto
• Khalani achifundo
• Dziwani zifukwa zomwe mumamwa
• Funani thandizo kwa akatswiri
• Kuthandiza wokondedwa
• Muziwalimbikitsa
• Khalani oleza mtima
• Thandizani zizolowezi zabwino
• Pezani thandizo lanu
• Mfundo yofunika

Kuchira pakumwa vuto lakumwa kumatha kukhala njira yayitali, yolimba. Mukasankha kusiya kumwa, mukutenga gawo loyamba. Nthawi zambiri, kuledzera kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuposa kungosiya kumwa mowa.

Vuto lina lomwe lingakhalepo limaphatikizapo "matenda owuma owuma," mawu osasangalatsa omwe adachokera ku Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Limatanthauzira mikhalidwe ndi zizolowezi zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawonedwa ndikumwa mowa zomwe zimapezanso bwino.

Mwanjira ina, wina yemwe ali wanzeru akhoza "kumamwa mowa" kapena kuthana ndi mavuto omwewo omwe adawatsogolera kusiya kumwa mowa poyambirira.

Nthawi zambiri zimachitika ngati gawo limodzi lodziwika bwino lotchedwa post-pachimake achire matenda (PAWS).

Zilankhulo

Mawu oti "kuledzera" nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi tanthauzo loipa. Pakati pa AA, mwachitsanzo, nthawi zina amagwiritsidwa ntchito kutanthauza anthu omwe sali "kugwira ntchitoyo" kapena kuyesetsa mokwanira. Kuphatikizanso apo, kunena kuti munthu wina akuchira ngati "woledzera" wamtundu uliwonse sizothandiza.

"Sindigwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'kuledzera wouma,'" Cyndi Turner, LCSW, LSATP, MAC, akufotokoza. “Anthu omwe akumwa mowa mwauchidakwa akuvutika kale kwambiri. Sindikufuna kuwonjezera pamenepo pogwiritsa ntchito mawu onyoza. "

Mukamayankhula kapena za wina yemwe akuchira, pewani kugwiritsa ntchito mawuwa. M'malo mwake, itanani zizindikilo kapena zizolowezi zina.

Ngakhale mawu akuti "kuledzera wouma" ndiwotsutsana, mawonekedwe azizindikiro omwe amatchulidwa ndi omwe amakhala kuchira kwa anthu ambiri ndipo palibe chochititsa manyazi.

Zizindikiro zake ndi ziti?

Makhalidwe azomwezi zitha kugawana zofananira ndi malingaliro ndi machitidwe omwe mungakhale nawo mukamamwa.

Zizindikiro zitha kuwoneka ngati zikufanana ndi kuchotsedwa mochedwa, monga akatswiri ena anenera.

Zizindikiro zakusintha

Mutha kusintha zina ndi zina mumikhalidwe yanu, kuphatikiza:

• kupsa mtima, kukhumudwa, kapena kukwiya
• mzimu wotsika
• osapirira, osakhazikika, kapena ovuta kuyang'ana
• kuda nkhawa kapena kuda nkhawa zakuti ungathebe kudziletsa
• kuipidwa komwe kumadzichitira wekha, anthu omwe amatha kumwa, kapena anthu omwe akufuna kuti musiye kumwa
• malingaliro olakwika kapena opanda chiyembekezo zakulephera kwanu kumwa
• kusokoneza kapena kunyong'onyeka

Muthanso kuzindikira kuti zosintha zanu zimasintha mwachangu kapena pafupipafupi. Kufotokozera zakukhosi kwanu kumawoneka ngati kovuta kapena kosatheka, zomwe zingayambitse kukhumudwa kwina.

Zizindikiro zamakhalidwe

Makhalidwe ndi zochitika zina zomwe nthawi zambiri zimalumikizidwa ndi matendawa zitha kuphatikiza:

• mwamakani kapena mopupuluma
• kuvuta kugona
• chizolowezi chodziweruza, kudziimba mlandu, kapena kudzidzudzula nokha
• Kukhumudwitsidwa ndi chithandizo, chomwe chingakupangitseni kudumpha misonkhano kapena magawo aupangiri, kapena kuzisiya kwathunthu
• kumangolota kapena kulakalaka nthawi zambiri, nthawi zambiri ndimamwa mowa
• kusakhulupirika
• kugwiritsa ntchito machitidwe ena, monga TV kapena juga, kuthana ndi kudziletsa

Makhalidwe amenewa ndi nkhawa zanu zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu komanso kulumikizana kwanu ndi ena, makamaka ngati kumwa mowa kwasokoneza kale maubale anu.

Ngati mukukumana kale ndi kukhumudwa kapena zovuta zina zamaganizidwe, izi zimatha kukulitsa zovuta ndikupangitsani kuti muzimva kuwawa kwambiri. Izi nthawi zina zimatha kuyambiranso kumwa mowa, makamaka pakakhala njira zina zothanirana ndi mavuto.

Kodi zimachitikira aliyense?

Osati kwenikweni. Kuchira ndi njira yodziyimira payokha. Zitha kuwoneka zosiyana kwa aliyense.

Akatswiri ena amati anthu omwe amasiya mapulogalamuwa msanga kapena samathana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kumwa mowa ali ndi mwayi wambiri wopeza matendawa.

Komabe, palibe umboni wochuluka wotsimikizira izi.

Zinthu zina zovuta zimathandizanso, kuphatikiza zovuta zoyambitsa matenda amisala kapena kusowa chithandizo.

Kodi nthawi zonse chimakhala chizindikiro chobwerera m'mbuyo?

Anthu ena amaganiza kuti anthu omwe akuwonetsa zizindikiro za matendawa atsala pang'ono kubwereranso ndikumwa, koma sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse.

Turner, yemwe amadziwika bwino ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo ku Virginia, akufotokoza kuti ngakhale anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito "kubwereranso" pofotokoza kubwerera ku kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, amatanthauzanso kuti kubwerera m'mbuyo ndi njira yamaganizidwe, machitidwe, ndi malingaliro omwe angayambitse kugwiritsidwa ntchito.

"Popeza kuti kubwerera m'mbuyo ndi njira, itha kuzindikirika ndikumasuliridwa ntchito isanachitike," akutero.

Kutengera ndikutanthauzira uku, zizindikilo za "matenda owuma owuma" zimatha kuyambiranso, ngakhale munthuyo samamwa.

Kumbukirani kuti kubwereranso m'thupi ndichinthu chachilendo, chodziwika bwino kuchira.

Momwe mungalimbane nawo

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwina mukudwala matendawa, yesetsani kuti musamakhale ovuta nokha. Kwa anthu ambiri, ndi gawo limodzi chabe la njira yochira.

Komabe, pali zinthu zomwe mungachite kuti muchepetse zizindikirazi ndikuchepetsa zovuta pamoyo wanu.

Lumikizanani ndi ena

Sizovuta nthawi zonse kutsegula zakumwa mowa ndi kuchira, makamaka kwa anthu omwe alibe nazo, koma ndi gawo lofunikira panthawiyi.

Kulankhula ndi okondedwa anu za zomwe mukukumana nazo ndikugawana momwe mumamverera bwino kungawathandize kumvetsetsa mavuto anu. Izi zitha kukuthandizaninso kulumikizanso ndikuwapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kwa iwo kuti azimvera chisoni ndikuthandizani pamene malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu akuyambitsa malingaliro akumwa.

Zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri kulankhula ndi ena kuti achire. Gawo ili la kuchira ndilofala kwambiri, ngakhale anthu sakuzindikira motero kapena amalankhula zambiri.

Yesani kuyankhula ndi omwe amakuthandizani, omwe amakuthandizani kuyankha, kapena membala wagulu lothandizira anzawo. Mwayi wake ndikuti, anthu ochepa apitapo mumsewu womwewo.

Dziperekeni ku kudzisamalira

Kusamalira thanzi lanu kumatha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta zamtundu uliwonse mosavuta, kuphatikiza zakumwa.

Kuti mudzisamalire bwino, yesani kuchita izi:

• Muzichita masewera olimbitsa thupi tsiku lililonse.
• Idyani chakudya chopatsa thanzi komanso imwani madzi ambiri.
• Patulani nthawi yokwanira yogona mokwanira.
• Khalani ndi nthawi panja pomwe mungakwanitse.
• Pezani nthawi yocheza ndi abwenzi komanso abale.

Simuyenera kuchita zonsezi tsiku lililonse. M'malo mwake, yang'anani pakuchita zochepa kuti mumange zina mwazomwe mumachita.

Mwinamwake mumayamba mwa kungopita kukachita masewera olimbitsa thupi nthawi inayake masiku ambiri a sabata. Osadandaula kwambiri pochita kulimbitsa thupi kwakukulu; ingoyang'anani kuti mufike kumeneko.

Pangani njira zatsopano zothetsera mavuto

Kukhala ndi njira zothandiza kuthana ndi vuto lanu kumatha kukhala kosavuta kuthana ndi nkhawa komanso malingaliro okhudzana ndi kumwa.

Zinthu monga njira zokhazikitsira pansi zimatha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa kapena ovuta, pomwe kupuma kumatha kukupangitsani kukhala okwiya kapena okhumudwa.

Yoga kapena kusinkhasinkha kumatha kupindulitsanso koposa kusokonezedwa, nawonso.

Njira zothetsera mavuto sikuti zimaphatikizapo kuyesayesa zatsopano, komabe. Zitha kukhala zazing'ono monga kupatula nthawi yazokonda zanu, kuphatikizapo:

• kujambula, kujambula, kapena zoumbaumba
• kujambula
• masewera a solo kapena am'magulu
• ntchito zokonzanso nyumba
• dimba

Kumbukirani kuti zosangalatsa izi sizingakhale zosangalatsa kwenikweni kumayambiriro kwa kuchira. Ndi zachilendo kumva choncho poyamba. Ngati nthawi ikupita ndipo mukumvanso chimodzimodzi, nthawi zonse mutha kuyesa njira ina yothanirana kapena kuyesa zosangalatsa zatsopano.

Khalani achifundo

Kuchira kumatha kukhala kovuta kwambiri ndipo kumadzetsa chiyembekezo. Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mwachita zinthu mukumwa zomwe zimakupweteketsani inu kapena anthu omwe mumawakonda, mutha kukhalanso ndi zowawa ndikukhala ndi mawu owawa nokha.

Kumbukirani kuti kuledzera ndi matenda oopsa, ndipo mukuchita zonse zomwe mungathe. Yesetsani kukulitsa kudzidalira ndi kudzikonda, makamaka masiku omwe simukumva kwenikweni.

Osamverera? Yesani kuganizira zomwe munganene kwa mnzanu wapamtima pamalo anu.

Dziwani zifukwa zomwe mumamwa

“Chithandizo chiziyang'ana kumvetsetsa komanso kuchiza bwanji wina adayamba kumwa mowa, "akutero a Turner.

Kumbukirani, kuchotsa mowa ndi gawo limodzi lokhalo. Ndikofunikanso kufufuza zizolowezi ndi zifukwa zakumwa kwanu, moyenera ndi wothandizira woyenera.

“Mukathana ndi bwanji, kufunika kwa mowa kumathetsedwa nthawi zambiri, ”akutero a Turner.

Funani thandizo kwa akatswiri

Ndibwino kukhala ndi chithandizo chowonjezera panthawi yochira, kaya ndi pulogalamu ya magawo 12 kapena kukumana pafupipafupi ndi wothandizira yemwe amachita bwino upangiri wa zakumwa zoledzeretsa.

Chofunikira ndikupeza pulogalamu yobwezeretsa yomwe imagwirira ntchito inu ndipo khalani nacho. Ngati njira imodzi simukumva bwino, tengani kaye ndikulingalira ina.

Kuthandiza wokondedwa

Zonsezi zimakhala zokhumudwitsa ngati muli ndi wokondedwa amene akuchira. Mwinanso mungamve ngati akubwerera kumbuyo, osati kutsogolo. Koma kumbukirani kuti gawo ili ndi gawo labwinobwino la kuchira, ndipo silikhala kwamuyaya.

Pakadali pano, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti muwathandize.

Muziwalimbikitsa

Musachepetse mphamvu ya mawu ochepa olimbikitsa.

Mukachira, ndikosavuta kuyang'ana pazolakwika. Mwinanso adazembera ndikumwa pambuyo pa miyezi yambiri asadyere. Kapenanso amamva ngati akusowa zochitika pagulu.

Mutha kuwathandiza kuwona mbali yowala, ngakhale ndikuwayamika momwe afikira kapena kuvomereza akapanga chisankho chosiya zinthu zomwe zingakhale zokopa, ngati ofesi yosangalala.

Khalani oleza mtima

Anthu omwe amasiya kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa kapena chizolowezi chomwa mowa nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zovuta, zopweteka. Amatha kukhumudwa kapena kukwiya, kulimbana ndi chilakolako chawo chomwa mowa, kapena kufotokoza zambiri zoipa. Maganizo awo amatha kusintha mwadzidzidzi komanso pafupipafupi.

Ngakhale atakhala kuti akumvera okha, momwe akumvera zimakhudzanso zanu. Yesetsani kukumbukira kuti izi sizomwe zimachitika kuti asankhe.

Zachidziwikire, ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa (ndikukhazikitsa) malire omveka pazomwe zimakukhudzani, monga kupsa mtima kapena kusakhulupirika. Koma ndikofunikanso kukulitsa chipiriro pamene akuyesetsa kuti asinthe.

Thandizani zizolowezi zabwino

Kupeza nthawi yocheza ndi wokondedwa wanu, makamaka pazinthu zomwe nonse mumakonda, zingawathandize kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chiyembekezo chamoyo wonse. Zosangalatsa zingathandizenso kupanga zosokoneza pamalingaliro akumwa.

Ganizirani zochitira limodzi zinthu, monga kukwera mapiri, kudzipereka, kapena ngakhale kuphika.

Ngati simukusangalala kapena kutenga nawo mbali pazinthu zomwezo kapena zosangalatsa, mutha kuwalimbikitsa kuti ayang'ane zinthu zomwe amakonda kapena kupeza zokonda zatsopano.

Onetsani chithandizo pofunsa maluso atsopano omwe amaphunzira kapena zochitika zazikulu zomwe amakwaniritsa, monga kupanga chakudya chokongola kapena kutenga nawo gawo pa 5K.

Pezani thandizo lanu

Mungafune kutenga nawo mbali pachithandizo ndi wokondedwa wanu ngati zingatheke, komanso ndibwino kuti muziyankhula ndi wothandizira nokha. Izi zimachitika makamaka ngati machitidwe ena kapena zizindikiritso zakukhudzidwa zimakhudza moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku.

Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi matenda, koma izi sizimapereka zifukwa zankhanza. Ngati wokondedwa wanu amachita zinthu zowopsa kapena zankhanza, ndibwino kuti mukambirane ndi wothandizira ndikupanga dongosolo lodzitchinjiriza.

Kunja kwa chithandizo, musaiwale kudzisamalira komanso zosowa zanu. Onetsetsani kuti mukuika patsogolo chisamaliro chanu pakukonzanso.

Simungathe kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu ngati mwatopa ndikunyalanyaza zosowa zanu.

Mfundo yofunika

Kuchira ndi ulendo wovuta, wovuta. Kwa anthu ambiri, sikokwanira kungosiya kumwa. Muyeneranso kufufuza, mozama komanso moona mtima, machitidwe ndi machitidwe m'moyo wanu omwe amathandizira kuti muzimwa mowa.

Izi zitha kupanga ulendo wovuta, wopweteka, koma kutero kungakuthandizeni kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zingabwere ndikuwonjezera mwayi wopita komwe mukupita: kuchira bwino.

Crystal Raypole adagwirapo ntchito ngati wolemba komanso mkonzi wa GoodTherapy. Magawo ake achidwi akuphatikiza zilankhulo ndi mabuku aku Asia, kumasulira kwachijapani, kuphika, sayansi yachilengedwe, chiyembekezo chogonana, komanso thanzi lamaganizidwe. Makamaka, akudzipereka kuthandiza kuchepetsa manyazi pazokhudza matenda amisala.