Momwe Mungakhalire Othandizira Maganizo

Zamkati

• Ndi chiyani
• Funsani…
• … Ndi kumvetsera
• Tsimikizani
• Pewani chiweruzo
• Pitani upangiri
• Zoona zenizeni kuposa ungwiro
• Alimbikitseni
• Thandizani mayankho awo
• Perekani chikondi
• Pewani kuchepetsa
• Pangani manja abwino
• Konzani zochitika zosokoneza
• Onaninso mkati
• Mfundo yofunika

Thandizo limabwera m'njira zosiyanasiyana.

Mutha kupereka chithandizo kwa munthu amene ali ndi vuto lakuimirira kapena kuyenda, kapena thandizo la ndalama kwa wokondedwa pamalo ovuta.

Mitundu ina yothandizira ndiyofunikanso. Anthu m'moyo wanu monga abale anu, abwenzi, komanso ngakhale ogwira nawo ntchito limodzi, atha kukuthandizani kukulimbikitsani mwakulimbikitsani.

Ndi chiyani

Anthu amawonetsa kuthandizira ena powalimbikitsa, kuwalimbikitsa komanso kuwamvera chisoni. Izi zitha kuphatikizaponso zinthu monga mawu achifundo achisoni kapena manja achikondi.

Thandizo lamphamvu limatha kubwera kuchokera kumagwero ena, nawonso - magwero achipembedzo kapena auzimu, zochitika mdera lanu, kapena ziweto zanu. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kuthandizaku kumatha kukonza malingaliro a wina aliyense ndi thanzi labwino.

Anthu ena ali ndi luso lothandizira kutengeka mtima, koma luso ili silimabwera mwachibadwa kwa aliyense.

Mutha kukulitsa maluso awa, komabe, poyeserera pang'ono. Pitilizani kuwerenga kwa maupangiri 13 pakupereka chilimbikitso champhamvu kwa aliyense m'moyo wanu.

Funsani…

Mukafuna kupereka chilimbikitso chamunthu amene mumamukonda, kufunsa mafunso angapo ndi malo abwino kuyamba.

“Ndingakuthandizeni bwanji?” Nthawi zina amatha kugwira ntchito, koma nthawi zonse simakhala njira yabwino kwambiri.

Ngakhale zolinga zabwino zimayika mafunso ngati awa, nthawi zina amalephera kukhala ndi zomwe mukufuna.

Anthu samadziwa nthawi zonse zomwe akufuna kapena zosowa, makamaka pakati pamavuto. Chifukwa chake, funso ili likhoza kukhala lotakata kwambiri ndipo limasiya wina osadziwa momwe angayankhire.

M'malo mwake, yesani kufunsa mafunso ogwirizana ndi vuto kapena malingaliro amunthuyo, monga:

• “Ukuwoneka wokhumudwa lero. Kodi mungakonde kulankhula za nkhaniyi? ”
• “Ndikudziwa kuti abwana anu amakupatsani nthawi yovuta. Zakhala bwanji? "

Ngati mukudziwa kuti wina wakumanapo ndi mavuto ena ndipo sakudziwa momwe angayambitsire zokambirana, yesani kuyamba ndi mafunso wamba, monga, "Zakhala zikuchitika m'moyo wanu posachedwapa?"

Yesetsani kuti mafunso anu azikhala otseguka m'malo mongofunsa mafunso omwe angayankhidwe ndi "inde" kapena "ayi." Izi zimapereka kufotokozera ndipo zimathandizira kuti zokambirana ziziyenda bwino.

… Ndi kumvetsera

Sikokwanira kungofunsa mafunso. Kumvetsera mwachidwi, kapena mwachifundo, ndi gawo lina lofunikira popereka chilimbikitso chamalingaliro.

Pamene inu kwenikweni mverani winawake, mumamvetsera. Onetsani chidwi ndi mawu awo mwa:

• kuwonetsa kuyankhula kwa thupi lotseguka, monga kutembenuzira thupi lanu kwa iwo, kumasula nkhope yanu, kapena kusunga mikono ndi miyendo yanu yopanda
• kupewa zosokoneza, monga kusewera ndi foni yanu kapena kuganizira zinthu zina zomwe muyenera kuchita
• kugwedeza pamodzi ndi mawu awo kapena kupanga mapangano m'malo mongowasokoneza
• kufunsa kuti mumveke pamene simukumvetsa kanthu
• kufotokozera mwachidule zomwe adanena kuti akuwonetseni kuti mukudziwa bwino zomwe zachitikazo

Kugwiritsa ntchito luso lomvetsera kumawonetsa ena kuti mumasamala za zomwe akukumana nazo. Kwa munthu yemwe akuvutika, kudziwa kuti wina wamva zowawa zawo kungapangitse kusintha kwakukulu.

Tsimikizani

Ganizirani za nthawi yomaliza yomwe mudakumana ndi zovuta. Mwina mumafuna mutalankhula ndi wina za vutolo, koma mwina simunafune kuti iwo akukonzereni kapena kuti lithe.

Mwinamwake mumangofuna kufotokoza za kukhumudwa kwanu kapena kukhumudwitsidwa ndikupezerani kuvomerezedwa.

Thandizo silikufuna kuti mumvetsetse vuto kapena mupereke yankho. Nthawi zambiri, zimangowonjezera kutsimikizira.

Mukamatsimikizira wina, mumamulola kuti adziwe kuti mukuwona ndikumvetsetsa malingaliro ake.

Chithandizo chomwe anthu amafunafuna nthawi zambiri ndikuzindikira kuvutika kwawo. Chifukwa chake, wokondedwa wanu atakuwuzani zovuta zomwe akukumana nazo, sangasowe inu kuti mulowerere ndikuthandizani. Mutha kupereka chithandizo chabwino kwambiri posonyeza kukhudzidwa ndikupereka nawo chisamaliro.

Mawu ena ovomerezeka omwe mungagwiritse ntchito ndi awa:

• “Pepani kuti mukukumana ndi izi. Zikumveka zopweteka kwambiri. ”
• “Izi zikumveka zokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Ndikumvetsetsa chifukwa chake pano ukupanikizika kwambiri. "

Pewani chiweruzo

Palibe amene amakonda kumva kuweruzidwa. Wina yemwe akukumana ndi zovuta chifukwa cha zochita zawo atha kale kudziweruza kale.

Mosasamala kanthu, posaka chithandizo, anthu nthawi zambiri safuna kumva kudzudzula - ngakhale mutapereka chitsutso chomangika ndi zolinga zabwino.

Mukamapereka chithandizo, yesetsani kusunga malingaliro anu pazomwe amayenera kuchita kapena komwe adalakwitsa nokha.

Pewani kufunsa mafunso omwe angatanthauzire kuti akuimba mlandu kapena kuweruza, monga, "Ndiye nchiyani chidawakwiyitsa?"

Ngakhale simupereka chiweruzo chachindunji kapena kutsutsa, kamvekedwe kamatha kufotokoza zambiri, kotero mawu anu atha kugawana zomwe simunakonde kunena motsimikiza.

Samalani kuti mawu anu osavomerezeka asatuluke m'mawu anu poyang'ana kwambiri pamtima ngati chisoni ndi chifundo mukamalankhula.

Pitani upangiri

Mungaganize kuti mukuthandiza munthu wina pomuuza momwe angathetsere vuto. Koma, kawirikawiri, anthu safuna upangiri pokhapokha atawafunsa.

Ngakhale iwe mukudziwa muli ndi yankho lolondola, osapereka pokhapokha atafunsa mwachindunji monga, "Mukuganiza kuti ndichite chiyani?" kapena "Kodi mukudziwa chilichonse chomwe chingathandize?"

Ngati achoka "kutulutsa" ndikupita "kuyankhula vutoli," njira yabwinoko nthawi zambiri imaphatikizapo kufunsa mafunso owunikira kuwathandiza kupeza mayankho paokha.

Mwachitsanzo, mutha kunena monga:

• “Kodi unakhalapo ndi vuto ngati ili kale? Kodi chinathandiza n'chiyani? ”
• “Kodi ungaganizirepo zinthu zina ndi zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale bwino?”

Zoona zenizeni kuposa ungwiro

Mukafuna kuthandizira wina, musadandaule kwambiri ngati mukupereka chithandizo "choyenera".

Anthu awiri osiyana sangapereke chithandizo chimodzimodzi. Izi zili bwino, komabe, popeza pali njira zambiri zothandizira wina.

Njira yanu imatha kusiyanasiyana kutengera munthu yemwe mukufuna kumuthandiza.

M'malo mofunafuna zabwino zoti munene, pitani pazomwe zimamveka mwachilengedwe komanso zowona. Chowonetseratu chodetsa nkhawa chimatanthauza zambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu kuposa kuyankha kwamzitini kapena wopanda tanthauzo lenileni.

Alimbikitseni

Nthawi zamavuto athu, makamaka zomwe zimakhudzana ndi kukanidwa, zitha kugwetsa anthu pansi ndikuwapangitsa kukayikira iwowo komanso luso lawo.

Mukawona wina amene mumusamalira akuwoneka wotsika pang'ono, wovutirapo kuposa momwe amachitira, kapena podzikayikira, kuyamika kochokera pansi pamtima kapena awiri kungathandize kwambiri kuwongolera malingaliro awo.

Mukamapereka mayamiko, muyenera kukumbukira zinthu zingapo:

• Asungeni ofunikira pazomwe zikuchitika. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kukumbutsa mnzanu yemwe wakhumudwitsidwa ndikulakwitsa kuntchito za momwe amachitira bwino nthawi zonse.
• Sankhani ziyamikiro zomwe zikuwonetsa mphamvu zina pamayamikidwe opanda kanthu omwe angagwiritse ntchito kwa aliyense. M'malo mongonena kuti "Mumaganizira kwambiri," onetsani zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti aganizire ndikugawana kuyamika kwanu chifukwa cha luso.
• Osatuluka. Kuyamikidwa koyenera kumatha kupangitsa wina kumva bwino. Kuchita izi mopitirira muyeso kumatha kupangitsa anthu kukayikira zoyamikirazo, kapena ngakhale kusasangalala pang'ono (ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukuwatanthauzadi).

Thandizani mayankho awo

Pamene mnzanu wapamtima kapena wokondana naye akukhulupirira kuti apeza yankho ku vuto lawo, mutha kukhala ndi kukayikira za yankho limenelo.

Pokhapokha ngati njira yawo ikukhudzana ndi zoopsa kapena zoopsa, nthawi zambiri ndibwino kupereka chithandizo m'malo mowalozera zolakwika mu pulani yawo.

Mwina sangasankhe njira yomwe mungakonde, koma sizitanthauza kuti akulakwitsa. Ngakhale simukuwona yankho lawo likuyenda bwino, simungadziwe momwe zinthu zidzakhalire motsimikizika.

Pewani kuwauza zomwe mukuganiza kuti ayenera kuchita, chifukwa nthawi zina izi zimatha kusintha malingaliro aliwonse abwino kuchokera pakuthandizira komwe mwapereka kale.

Ngati atakufunsani zomwe mukuganiza, mungawapatse malangizo owathandiza omwe akukonzekera bwino. Ngakhale atakufunsani malingaliro anu owona, pewani kuwayankha mwankhanza kapena kuwatsutsa kapena kuwononga dongosolo lawo.

Perekani chikondi

Chikondi chakuthupi sichoyenera munthawi zonse, inde.

Kutengera ubale wanu ndi munthu yemwe mukufuna kumuthandiza, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona, ndi zina zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri ndikuphatikizana zimatha kukhala ndi mphamvu.

• Pambuyo pokambirana kovuta, kukumbatirana ndi munthu kumatha kumulimbitsa thupi komwe kumalimbitsa chilimbikitso chomwe mwangopereka.
• Kugwira dzanja la wokondedwa wawo pamene akudutsa munjira yowawa, kulandira nkhani zosasangalatsa, kapena kuthana ndi foni yosautsa kumawathandiza kuti akhale olimba.
• Kuchezera ndi wokondedwa wanu atakhala ndi tsiku loipa kumatha kutsindika mwamphamvu momwe mumamvera ndi kupereka chilimbikitso chakuchiritsa.

Pewani kuchepetsa

Anthu amakumana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana m'moyo. Zina mwa zovuta izi zimakhudza kwambiri kapena kutengera zambiri kuposa zina.

Sikuti wina aliyense anene momwe munthu ayenera kukhumudwitsidwa (kapena sayenera) kumva zavuto lililonse.

Kuyerekeza zovuta za wokondedwa ndi mavuto omwe anthu ena amakumana nawo nthawi zambiri zimachitika mosazindikira, ngati kuyesa kulimbikitsidwa.

Mutha kuwalimbikitsa ndi kunena zinthu monga, "Zitha kukhala zoyipa kwambiri," kapena "Mwina muli ndi ntchito." Izi zimakana zomwe akumana nazo ndipo nthawi zambiri zimatanthauza kuti sayenera kumva zoyipa poyambilira.

Kaya mukuganiza kuti nkhawa ya munthu ndi yaying'ono bwanji, pewani kuzinyalanyaza.

Zachidziwikire, mwina nkhani yomwe mnzanu wapamtima adalandira kuchokera kwa abwana ake sakanadandaula inu. Koma simungamvetsetse bwino zomwe akumana nazo kapena momwe amamvera mumtima mwake, chifukwa chake sikwanzeru kuchepetsa kumverera kwake.

Pangani manja abwino

Wokondedwa yemwe akuyesera kuthana ndi kusokonezeka kwa malingaliro atha kukhala ndi mphamvu zochepa zamaganizidwe pochita ndi udindo wawo wanthawi zonse.

Mukamvetsera ndikutsimikizira malingaliro awo, mutha kuwonetsanso chifundo pothandiza kuwachepetsera nkhawa zawo, ngati zingatheke.

Simuyenera kuchita chilichonse chachikulu kapena chosesa. M'malo mwake, zinthu zazing'ono nthawi zambiri zimakhudza kwambiri, makamaka ngati zochita zanu zikuwonetsa kuti mwamvadi ndikumvetsetsa mawu awo.

Yesani chimodzi mwazabwino izi:

• Chitani imodzi mwa ntchito zapakhomo za mnzanu, monga mbale kapena kutsuka.
• Nyamula nkhomaliro kapena chakudya chamnzako yemwe ali ndi tsiku lovuta.
• Bweretsani maluwa kapena chakumwa chomwe mumakonda kapena chotukuka kwa m'bale wanu yemwe akuthawa.
• Lonjezani kuyendetsa zochitika kwa bwenzi kapena kholo lomwe lapanikizika.

Konzani zochitika zosokoneza

Mavuto ena alibe yankho. Mutha kumvera zowawa za wokondedwa wanu ndikupereka phewa lanu (mwakuthupi ndi mwamaganizidwe) kuti muthandizidwe.

Koma pamene nthawi ndiyo njira yokhayo yothetsera vuto lawo, nonse mwina mungamve kuti mulibe chochita.

Muthabe kupereka chithandizo, komabe. Wina amene akukumana ndi zovuta akhoza kuvutika kuti aganizire zinthu zina.

Atha kufuna kudzidodometsa kupsinjika ndi kuda nkhawa koma osadziwa koyambira.

Komano inu, mwina muli ndi mtunda wokwanira kuchokera ku vutoli kuti mutha kupeza malingaliro angapo kuti muthane nawo mavuto awo.

Konzekerani kusangalala, ntchito yotsika yomwe mungasinthe tsiku lina ngati sakumvera. Nthawi zambiri simungalakwitse ndi china chake chomwe mukudziwa kuti amasangalala nacho, monga kuyenda m'njira yachilengedwe kapena ulendo wopita ku galu.

Ngati simungathe kutuluka, yesani luso, ntchito yapakhomo, kapena masewera m'malo mwake.

Onaninso mkati

Mukangothandiza wokondedwa wanu kuwona zovuta, osangosiya nkhaniyo kwathunthu.

Kubwereza mutuwu m'masiku ochepa kumawadziwitsa mavuto awo kukhala ofunika kwa inu ngakhale simukuchita nawo chilichonse.

Zosavuta, "Hei, ndimangofuna kuti ndiwone momwe mwakhalira tsiku lina. Ndikudziwa kuti zingatenge nthawi kuti muchepetse kutha kwa banja lawo, chifukwa chake ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti ndili pano ngati mukufuna kulankhulanso. ”

Mwina samafuna kulankhula za mavuto awo nthawi zonse - ndizabwinobwino. Simusowa kuti mubweretse tsiku lililonse, koma ndibwino kuti mufunse momwe zinthu zikuyendera ndikuwadziwitsa kuti mumasamala.

Ngati afunsira upangiri ndipo mutha kupeza yankho, mutha kuwauza kuti, "Mukudziwa, ndimaganiza zankhani yanu, ndipo ndidapeza china chomwe chingathandize. Kodi mungakonde kumva izi? ”

Mfundo yofunika

Thandizo lazamtima silowoneka. Simungathe kuziwona kapena kuzigwira m'manja ndipo mwina simungazindikire momwe zimakhudzira anthu nthawi yomweyo, makamaka ngati mukuvutika.

Koma ikhoza kukukumbutsani kuti ena amakukondani, amakuyamikirani, ndipo ali ndi msana wanu.

Mukamapereka chilimbikitso kwa ena, mukuwauza kuti sali okha. Popita nthawi, uthengawu ukhoza kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zabwino kwambiri pakumverera kwamaganizidwe kuposa zolimbikitsira kwakanthawi kapena mitundu yothandizira.

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