Mafashoni ndi Autism Amandigwirizana Kwambiri - Apa ndichifukwa chake

Zamkati

• Mafashoni monga chidwi chapadera
• Zovala zachabechabe tsopano zimakhala ngati njira yolandirira komanso kudzisamalira
• Zomwe kale zinali njira zothanirana nazo zidadzisintha

Ndimakumbukira mbali zonse za autism kudzera zovala zanga zokongola.

Thanzi ndi thanzi zimakhudza aliyense wa ife mosiyanasiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani ya munthu m'modzi.

Imodzi mwa nthawi zoyambilira pomwe ndidavala zovala zokongola, zokometsera - {textend} wokhala ndi masokosi amizeremizere kutalika kwa mawondo ndi tutu wofiirira - {textend} Ndinapita kumsika ndi anzanga awiri apamtima.

Pamene timadutsa m'masitolo osiyanasiyana azodzikongoletsera ndi m'masitolo ogulitsa zovala, ogula ndi ogwira nawo ntchito adayamba kundiyang'ana. Nthawi zina amatha kutamanda zovala zanga, nthawi zina amandiseka ndikunyoza masitayelo anga.

Anzanga adadabwitsidwa, osagwiritsidwa ntchito kutchera khutu ngati ophunzira pasukulu yapakati, koma zidamveka bwino kwa ine. Sikunali koyamba kuti ndiyang'anitsidwe.

Anandipeza ndili ndi autism ndili mwana. Moyo wanga wonse, anthu adandiyang'ana, adanong'oneza za ine, ndikupanga ndemanga kwa ine (kapena makolo anga) pagulu chifukwa ndimagundika manja anga, ndikungoyendetsa mapazi anga, ndikulephera kuyenda ndikukwera masitepe, kapena kuwoneka wotayika kwathunthu pagulu la anthu.

Chifukwa chake nditavala maondo a utawaleza, sindinkafuna kuti akhale njira yolandirira kukhala amtundu uliwonse - {textend} koma nthawi yomwe ndidazindikira kuti anthu amandiyang'ana chifukwa cha momwe ndidavalira , ndi zomwe zidakhala.

Mafashoni monga chidwi chapadera

Mafashoni sanali ofunikira nthawi zonse kwa ine.

Ndinayamba kuvala zovala zokongola ndili ndi zaka 14 ngati njira yodutsamo masiku onse atha giredi eyiti ndakhala ndikuzunzidwa chifukwa chobwera pompano.

Koma zovala zowala, zosangalatsa zinandichititsa chidwi. Anthu ambiri autistic ali ndi chidwi chimodzi kapena zingapo, zomwe zimakhala zokonda kwambiri, pachilichonse.

Ndikamakonzekereratu zovala zanga za tsiku ndi tsiku ndikutolera masokosi azithunzithunzi zatsopano ndi zibangili zonyezimira, ndidali wosangalala. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti ana omwe ali ndi vuto la autism akamakambirana za zomwe amakonda, machitidwe awo, kulumikizana kwawo, komanso luso lawo pagulu komanso malingaliro zimawongolera.

Kugawana zokonda zanga ndi dziko lapansi povala tsiku lililonse kumandisangalatsabe.

Monga usiku womwe ndimagwira papulatifomu yopita kunyumba, mayi wina wachikulire anandiimitsa kuti andifunse ngati ndinali kusewera.

Kapenanso nthawi yomwe wina adafulumira chovala changa kwa mnzake wapafupi.

Kapenanso ngakhale kangapo komwe alendo adafunsa chithunzi changa chifukwa amakonda zomwe ndavala.

Zovala zachabechabe tsopano zimakhala ngati njira yolandirira komanso kudzisamalira

Zokambirana zaubwino wa Autistic nthawi zambiri zimakhala zokhudzana ndi chithandizo chamankhwala, monga chithandizo chantchito, kulimbitsa thupi, kuphunzitsa kuntchito, komanso malingaliro azikhalidwe.

Koma kwenikweni, zokambiranazi ziyenera kutenga njira yokwanira. Ndipo kwa ine, mafashoni ndi gawo la njirayi. Chifukwa chake ndikakoka zovala zosangalatsa ndikuzivala, ndi njira yodziyang'anira pawokha: Ndikusankha kuchita zomwe ndimakonda zomwe sizimangondibweretsera chisangalalo, koma kuvomereza.

Mafashoni amandithandizanso kuti ndisadzidwe kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, monga munthu wodziyimira pawokha, zinthu monga zochitika zamaluso zitha kukhala zopititsa patsogolo. Pali zolowetsa zambiri zowoneka bwino, kuchokera pamagetsi owala ndi zipinda zodzaza mpaka mipando yovuta.

Koma kuvala chovala chosavutikira - {textend} komanso pang'ono pang'ono - {textend} zimandithandiza kuti ndizitha kulingalira bwino ndikukhala olimba. Ngati ndikumva kuthedwa nzeru, ndimatha kuwona kavalidwe kanga panyanja ndi chibangili cha nsomba ndikudzikumbutsa zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimandibweretsa chisangalalo.

Pa chochitika chaposachedwa pomwe ndimakhala ndikufalitsa nkhani pagulu lapa Boston, ndidavala diresi yamizeremizere yakuda ndi yoyera, blazer wabuluu wokutidwa ndi maambulera, chikwama cha foni chozungulira, ndi nsapato zagolide zonyezimira ndikutuluka pakhomo. Usiku wonse zovala zanga ndi tsitsi lofiirira la ombre zimakopa kuyamikiridwa ndi anthu osachita phindu ndikupereka mamembala ozungulira.

Zinandikumbutsa kuti kupanga zisankho zomwe zimandipatsa mphamvu, ngakhale zazing'ono ngati tsitsi lokongola, ndi zida zamphamvu zodzidalira komanso kudziwonetsera.

Sindiyenera kusankha pakati pokhala ndekha ndi kuwonedwa ngati matenda anga okha. Ndikhoza kukhala onse awiri.

Zomwe kale zinali njira zothanirana nazo zidadzisintha

Ngakhale mafashoni adayamba ngati njira yothanirana ndi vutoli, pang'onopang'ono idasinthika kukhala njira yakudzidalira komanso kudziwonetsera. Anthu nthawi zambiri amakayikira mayankho amachitidwe anga, ndikufunsa ngati uwu ndiye uthenga womwe ndikufuna kutumiza padziko lapansi - {textend} makamaka akatswiri padziko lapansi - {textend} onena za ine.

Ndikumva ngati sindingachitire mwina koma kunena kuti inde.

Ndine autistic. Ndidzakhala wopambana nthawi zonse. Nthawi zonse ndimawona dziko lapansi ndikulankhula mosiyana pang'ono ndi anthu osakhala autistic pafupi nane, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti ndiyenera kuyimirira pakati polemba nkhani iyi kuti nditenge mphindi 10 ndikumavina, kapena kwakanthawi kutaya mwayi wolankhula pakamwa pomwe ubongo wanga watopa.

Ngati ndidzakhala wosiyana ndi zivute zitani, ndibwino kuti ndikhale wosiyana ndi ena m'njira yomwe imandisangalatsa.

Mwa kuvala diresi yokutidwa m'mabuku a utawaleza, ndikulimbikitsa lingaliro loti ndine wonyadira kukhala autistic - {textend} kuti sindikusowa kusintha omwe ndili kuti ndigwirizane ndi miyezo ya ena.

Alaina Leary ndi mkonzi, woyang'anira media, komanso wolemba waku Boston, Massachusetts. Pakadali pano ndiwothandizira mkonzi wa Equally Wed Magazine komanso mkonzi wazama TV ku bungwe lopanda phindu lomwe timafunikira.