Ndendende Chifukwa Chake Kugonana Kumahotelo Ndikodabwitsa Kwambiri - ndi Momwe Mungapindulire Ndiko

Zamkati

• 1. Chimakupatsani "Chidebe"
• 2. Zimakutengerani Kutali ndi Zomwe Mumachita
• 3. Zatsopano Ndi Zachigololo ndi Zosangalatsa
• Momwe Mungapangire Kugonana Kumahotelo Kukhala Kodabwitsa Kwambiri
• Momwe Mungasankhire Hotelo Yaikulu Yothawira Kugonana
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Ngati mwakhala mu hotelo ndi mnzanu, mwina mukudziwa kuti kugonana ku hotelo kumangomva pang'ono ... zosangalatsa. Koma, ndichifukwa chiyani zili motere? N'chifukwa chiyani mahotela amamva ngati achigololo?

Pali mphamvu zopulumukira zomwe sizikuthandizani kuti muzisangalala komanso zimakulumikizani mosavuta kwa anzanu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kugonana ku hotelo kumakhala kokhutiritsa kwambiri - kuphatikiza, momwe mungapangire kukhala bwinoko.

1. Chimakupatsani "Chidebe"

Kodi ndichifukwa chiyani kugonana ku hotelo kuli kovuta kwambiri? Koyamba, ndichotengera chenicheni chazomwe mumachita zogonana. Ndiloleni ndifotokoze.

Nthawi zonse ndikayamba kuphunzitsa kapena kuphunzitsa kapena kuphunzitsa, ndimayika chidebecho: kuyankhula za nthawi yochuluka bwanji pagawo, zolinga zake, ndi zina. Chipinda chanu cha hotelo ndi chidebe chenicheni cha chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Mukufuna kubweretsa zoseweretsa zanu zatsopano zogonana ndikupatula ola limodzi kuti mufufuze? Zabwino! Nthawi zambiri simukhala ndi mwayi woyika chikwangwani "musasokoneze" ndikukhala ndi seweroli mumoyo "weniweni". Chidebe ichi ndi malire enieni komanso ophiphiritsira kuti asunge zinthu zina. Ana anu, maimelo a ntchito yanu, ntchito zapakhomo, ndi malingaliro okhudza maubwenzi ena ndi zododometsa zomwe zingakulepheretseni kupezekapo. Ndipo mukakhala nawo, mumagonana bwino. Ndipo pa cholembapo ...

2. Zimakutengerani Kutali ndi Zomwe Mumachita

Ngati simungaleke kuganizira za ngongole zonse zomwe muyenera kulipira kapena ntchito yonse yomwe mukuyenera kuchita, mwina ndizovuta kulowa mu malo oti mukufuna kuyatsidwa, osangokhala kusewera ndi anzanu .

Koma patchuthi ku hotelo? Zili ngati nkhawa zonsezo zimasungunuka ndipo mulipo pano komanso pano. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungadziphunzitse Kudziseweretsa maliseche Mwanzeru - ndi Chifukwa Chake Muyenera Kudziseweretsa maliseche)

Chimodzi mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe anthu ambiri amadzionera ngati ogona ku hotelo ndichifukwa choti mwasiyana ndi udindo wamba - motero mumapanikizika - moyo watsiku ndi tsiku umabweretsa. Ganizirani izi: nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kumva kuti mwatsegulidwa mukamagwira ntchito tsiku lonse, kuphika chakudya, kugwira ntchito, komanso mwina kusamalira ana Nthawi zambiri, moyo watsiku ndi tsiku sikuti umalira achigololo.

Ndipo chinthucho ndikuti, kupsinjika ndi mtundu wa mdani wa moyo wanu wogonana; Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti mahomoni opsinjika, monga cortisol, amalumikizidwa ndi kutayika kwa libido, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musavutike kupumula.

Kukhala mu hotelo ndi wokondedwa wanu kutali ndi nkhawa za tsiku ndi tsiku kumatha kumasuka komanso kusangalatsa. Kenako, onjezerani mfundo yakuti mukakhala mu hotelo, nthawi zambiri mumakhala patchuthi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatanthawuza kuti mumakakamizika kuvala zovala zanu zokongola kwambiri, kupita kumalo odyera abwino, kumwa kwambiri (madzi). ndipo mowa) nthawi zambiri tsiku lonse, ndi zina zonse zimapanga nthawi yabwino kwambiri.

3. Zatsopano Ndi Zachigololo ndi Zosangalatsa

Anthu amakonda chizolowezi. Lingaliro lodziwa zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera, nthawi yoyembekezera, ndikukhala ndi dongosolo kuzinthu. Koma kudziperekanso kumayamikiridwanso, chisangalalo chosakanikirana - ndikulingalira bwino. Pankhani yakugonana, makamaka, malo atsopano koma abwino atha kugwira ntchito kuti apange chisangalalo china. Chifukwa muli pamalo atsopano, mungamve ngati mukufufuza - ngakhale kufufuza kumangotanthauza kugonana kawirikawiri kuposa momwe mumachitira kawirikawiri. Mukayesa zinthu zatsopano, ubongo wanu ukhoza kupanga njira zatsopano za neural, mndandanda wa mitsempha yolumikizana yomwe mphamvu zamagetsi zimayenda m'thupi (makamaka misewu yaubongo muubongo wathu). Mukamachita izi, mumadzitsegula pakufuna zokumana nazo zosiyanasiyana. Ndipo mukamachita zinthu zatsopanozi, ubongo wanu umatulutsa mankhwala ena owonjezera monga dopamine, neurotransmitter yomwe imakhudzidwa ndichisangalalo, chidwi, kuphunzira, komanso kukumbukira.

Bedi latsopano, bedi latsopano, shawa yatsopano, khonde latsopano - zatsopano zimamveka zokongola, komanso kukhala ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano ndi mnzanu kumawonekeranso kukhala kosangalatsa. Ndipo ngati mukudziganizira nokha "Sindimakonda zinthu zatsopano," mungathe kuzindikira kufunika kosintha chizolowezi. Muyenera nthawi ndi nthawi kukhala m'malo atsopano kwa inu nokha ndi maubwenzi anu (onse ogonana osati ayi!). Mukayesa zinthu zatsopano, mutha kupindula m'njira zosiyanasiyana, monga kudzidziwa bwino, kupanga njira za neural zothetsera mantha, ndikulimbikitsa chidwi. (Zokhudzana: Momwe Mungakhalire Opanga Zambiri - Kuphatikizanso, Zonse Zomwe Zili Paubongo Wanu)

Kuthawa mwadala kumeneku kumawonjezera chisangalalo pang'ono pa maubwenzi anu - amakukumbutsani kuti muzikhala bwino, nthawi imodzi-m'modzi pamodzi, splurge pang'ono ngati mungathe, ndikungosangalala ndi kukhala wina ndi mnzake. Nthawi zina m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, chowonadi chomvetsa chisoni ndichakuti, ndizovuta kusiya chilichonse chomwe chikuchitika kuti muvomereze izi ndikuwona mnzanuyo ngati wachikondi komanso wogonana.

Momwe Mungapangire Kugonana Kumahotelo Kukhala Kodabwitsa Kwambiri

Choyamba, mukamalankhula za zipinda zaku hotelo, ngati inu kapena mnzanu muli wamanjenje chifukwa cha ukhondo wogonana pamalo ena, ikani thaulo! Kapena, yendani ndi FuxPad (Buy It, $ 185, fuxpads.com) kapena Liberator Fascinator Throw (Buy It, $ 120, amazon.com) limodzi nanu zongogonana (zimamveka zopenga, koma ndizofunika).

Ndipo ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi phokoso, yesani makina omvera (Buy It, $28, amazon.com). (Ndimayenda ndi imodzi ndikuigwiritsa ntchito ndikawonanso makasitomala.)

Ngati mukukhala pafupi ndi chipinda chapamwamba mu hotelo yayitali kwambiri, ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kugonana mutayang'ana pazenera. Sindikungolankhula kulowa kwa nyini mwina - mutha kugwiritsa ntchito zoseweretsa, kuchita pakamwa - mumatchulapo! Kuwona malingaliro a kulikonse komwe mumakhala mukugonana ndizabwino kwambiri ndipo kungakuthandizeni kuti mukhalebe opezeka. Ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi kuwonekera kosayenera (boma lililonse lili ndi malamulo osiyanasiyana; fufuzani lanu pano), valani mikanjo yakuhoteloyo.

Dzifunseni kuti, "ndi chiyani chomwe chingamveke mosiyana ndi kunyumba?" Izi zitha kuthandiza kuti mukhale ndi luso. Mwachitsanzo, ngati inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi ana, nthawi zambiri mumatha kugonana mchipinda chanu, pabedi panu. Chifukwa chake, mutha kuyesa kugonana kwapampando, kugonana pansi, kugonana m'khonde, kugonana pakhoma, kugonana kwa shawa, kugonana kwapampando, kugonana pampando - zilizonse zomwe zimakopa, zatsopano, ndi zosiyana.

Momwe Mungasankhire Hotelo Yaikulu Yothawira Kugonana

Mukasankha hotelo kuti mudzakumane, ganizirani za mtundu wa vibe womwe mukuyang'ana. Ngakhale mutaganiza kuti "inde" kuti muzimangirira pabwino ndi malaya otakasuka ndi mikanjo yoyenda bwino, mufunikirabe kuganizira ngati mukufuna kusewera vibe (onani Roxbury Motel ku Catskills ku New York), malo otentha (talingalirani W Hotel ku Punta de Mita ku Mexico), mawonekedwe osangalatsa komanso achikondi (ganizirani: Montage ku Deer Valley, Utah).

Kuyendera malo akale omwe adasandulika kukhala malo abwino othawirako monga Hutton Brickyards kungathandize kupanga malo omwe mukufuna kukhala apamtima komanso okondana ndi mnzanu. Pali china chake chokhudza kumizidwa pamutu (pankhani ya njerwa za Hutton, mufakitole wamakina a njerwa) zomwe zingapangitse kumverera kopeka kukhala kwamphamvu kwambiri. Kusamala mwatsatanetsatane pamalo monga Hutton Brickyards kumapangitsa kuti musamaganizire zambiri. Izi zimalola kuti ubongo wanu kumasuka ndikutseguka kuzinthu zina - zinthu zosangalatsa. (Zokhudzana: Malo Abwino Kwambiri Otchulira Achikwati ku U.S.)

Yang'anani kuzipinda, ndipo onetsetsani kuti zili pamalo omwe mumamverera kuti muli omasuka komanso opanda thanzi. Mwachitsanzo, ku Hotel Dylan ku Woodstock, New York, ali ndi malo ogona usiku omwe amathira pansi pamphepete mwa kama, ndikupangitsa kuti musawone zomwe zili pogona panu mukakhala pabedi. Tiyeni tikhale owona mtima: Malo anu ogona usiku nthawi zambiri amakhala odzaza ndi zopanda pake, kuphatikiza foni yanu nthawi zambiri imakhala pansi pamenepo ikulipiritsa ikafika nthawi yogona. Popeza magudumu ausiku satha, zimamveka ngati "zosawoneka m'maganizo", zomwe zimakuthandizani kuti mukhalepo nthawi iliyonse yakugonana komweko.

Yang'ananinso zipinda zosambira - zitha kukhala malo abwino ochitirapo kugonana kunja kwa bedi kapena (kwenikweni) kuwonetseratu kotentha. Ganizirani za Hotel Delamar ku Connecticut, komwe kumakhala mvula yambiri yokwanira awiri kuphatikiza mphika wonyowa. Tulukani ndikukulunga mu umodzi mwinjiro wawo wovomerezeka - koma kuti mutengeko.

Zomwe ndimalimbikitsa kwa makasitomala anga (ndikuyesera kudziphunzitsa ndekha) ndikutenga kothawira kotala ndi mnzanu - pazifukwa zonse pamwambapa. Kugonana ku hotelo kumakupatsani mwayi komanso zinsinsi kuti muthe kuchita zinthu zomwe simungamve bwino kunyumba, komanso kusakhala ndi mwayi wochitira kunyumba. Chifukwa chake, tsatirani izi makanda! (Ndipo musaiwale kubweretsa mafuta anu!)

Rachel Wright, MA, LM.FT, (iye) ndiamisala ovomerezeka, ophunzitsa zogonana komanso katswiri wazamaubwenzi ku New York City. Ndi wokamba nkhani waluso, wotsogolera gulu, komanso wolemba. Adagwira ntchito ndi anthu masauzande padziko lonse lapansi kuwathandiza kuti angofuula zochepa komanso kuwombera kwambiri.

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