Momwe Mungapezere Kutha, Njira Yachi Buddha

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Kupwetekedwa mtima ndichopweteketsa mtima chomwe chimatha kusiya aliyense kuti azimvetsetsa zomwe zalakwika-ndipo nthawi zambiri kusaka mayankho kumeneku kumabweretsa tsamba la Facebook wakale kapena pansi pa botolo la pinot noir. Kufuna kumwa mowa kapena kufunafuna munthu amene wakulakwirani n’komveka, koma sikuthandiza kwenikweni. Ndiye, ndi njira iti yabwino yodziwira momwe mungathetsere chibwenzi?

Ndilo funso lomwe tidafunsa a Lodro Rinzler, mphunzitsi wosinkhasinkha wa Buddha ku New York City komanso wolemba buku latsopanoli Chikondi Chimapweteka, chiwongolero cha thumba la machiritso kuchokera ku kusweka mtima, cholimbikitsidwa mwa zina ndi zomwe zinamuchitikira pothana ndi chinkhoswe chosweka, imfa ya bwenzi lake lapamtima, ndi kuchotsedwa ntchito yake motsatizana mwamsanga. Polemba bukuli, adakhala m'modzi m'modzi ndi anthu ambiri ku New York omwe adamuwuza nkhani zawo zachikondi ndikukhumudwitsidwa, ndipo mayankhowo anali osiyanasiyana komanso ochokera pansi pamtima.

"Zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri kuwona saga yodzaza ndi zonse kuti kupwetekedwa mtima kumawoneka kosiyana kwambiri ndi munthu wina, ndipo ubale uliwonse uli ndi umodzi wake, koma zomwe zimakhalapo nthawi zambiri pamakhala kumverera komweko, kukwiya, kukhumudwa, Ndikumva ngati simudzakondanso, chilichonse chomwe chingakhale - kuti tonse timakumana ndi zinthu izi nthawi zosiyanasiyana, kaya ndikusweka mtima kapena ayi," akutero Rinzler.

Pogwiritsa ntchito mitu iyi, komanso kuphunzira kwake kwazaka 2,500 zanzeru zomwe ndi Chibuda, Rinzler amapereka malingaliro ndi upangiri woyesedwa kwakanthawi kuti athandizire kuchiritsa kusweka mtima. Lwola lwosena lwola lwosena muli nakwambulula mujimbu wamwaza, kaha mwatela kulondezeza jishimbi jine jize jili mujila yakukomwesa jishimbi jimwe jize jakuhona kukupuka mwosena.

1. Yesetsani Kudzisamalira

Mu Chikondi Chopwetekas, Rinzler akunena za ziphunzitso zachinsinsi zotchedwa Four Exhilarations, zomwe zinali zobisika m'nyumba za amonke mkati mwa Tibet kwazaka zambiri. Akuti ngati mutachita zonsezi zinayi mu tsiku limodzi mudzamva kukwezedwa ndikukhala ndi mphamvu zatsopano. Izi zimangochitika kuti machitidwewa amagwirizananso ndi upangiri wathanzi womwe mungapeze kuchokera kwa wophunzitsa zaumoyo, wophunzitsa, kapena wazamisala, ndipo ndi zinthu zomwe muyenera kunyalanyaza mukamayang'ana kutha kwa chibwenzi:

• Idyani bwino
• Gonani bwino
• Sinkhasinkhani
• Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi

Izi zitha kumveka ngati zosavuta, koma kupwetekedwa mtima kumakhala kopweteka; imagwedeza dongosolo ndipo thupi lanu limafuna kupumula, chakudya choyenera, ndi malo kuti muchiritse. Pali zambiri pamalingaliro awa kuposa kafukufuku wakale wowerengera akuwonetsa kuti kugona kwabwino, kusinkhasinkha, ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi zonse zimakhala ndi zotsatira zabwino pamalingaliro (nthawi zina zimagwira ntchito mphindi zochepa) ndipo zitha kuthandizanso kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zimakhalapo kwanthawi yayitali kukhumudwa.

Yesani njira zosiyanasiyana zodzisamalira. Monga momwe mungathere, sankhani zakudya zabwino (kapena osachepera, idyani china) ndikudzilola kugona mokwanira kuposa momwe mumafunira. Ngati mwatsopano pakusinkhasinkha, tsatirani malangizo mu # 2 pansipa kuti muyambe. Ngati ntchito imodzi imakhala yamphamvu kwambiri, monga kuthamanga, yesetsani kuchita izi muzochita zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku. Mwanjira imeneyi, mudzadziwa kuti osachepera gawo limodzi la tsikulo, mudzakhala mukudzisamalira mukamakhala osweka mtima, adalangiza a Rinzler.

2. Sinthani Nkhani Yomwe Mumadziuza Nokha

Pofuna kuchira ndikakana ndikupeza kutha, tiyenera kusiya nkhani zambiri zomwe timadziuza tokha za momwe adzatithandizire kapena momwe sitidzapezere chikondi. Rinzler akuti: "Mavuto athu ambiri amapitilizidwa ndi nkhani." "Tikavutika mumtima chifukwa chokhala pachibwenzi, nthawi zambiri sitimangonena kuti, 'Ndikumverera kotayika m'mimbamo mwanga ndipo ndimangomva kutopa.' Timati, 'Ndikudabwa zomwe akuchita pakadali pano, ndikudabwa ngati akuwona wina ...' Nkhanizo zimalimbikitsa kuvutika. "

Njira imodzi yothandiza kwambiri yolankhulirana ndi kusinkhasinkha. Kusinkhasinkha komwe Rinzler amaphunzitsa nthawi zambiri amatchedwa "kulingalira" chifukwa zimaphatikizapo kubweretsa malingaliro athunthu pachinthu chimodzi: mpweya. (Tili ndi Buku Lanu Loyambira Kusinkhasinkha.)

Kuti muyambe, amalimbikitsa kungoyesa kwa mphindi 10 patsiku. Khalani momasuka pa khushoni kapena pampando pamalo osasokoneza, ikani chowerengera kwa mphindi 10, ndikungokhala nokha. Kupuma mwachibadwa ndi kulabadira mpweya. Ngati maganizo anu akuyendayenda m’maganizo, ingovomerezani zimenezo, mwinamwake mwa kunena mwakachetechete “kuganiza,” ndiyeno bwererani ku mpweya ndi maganizo abwino. Izi zitha kuchitika nthawi yayitali pakadutsa mphindi 10 ndipo zili bwino. Pamapeto pa gawoli, tambasulani kwa kamphindi ndikulowa tsiku lanu ndi malingaliro ndi mtima wotseguka.

3. Mukamayesedwa Kuti Muthane ndi Ex Wanu, Chitani Izi M'malo mwake

Pakati pa ma meseji, Instagram, ndi malo ena ochezera a pa Intaneti, pali njira zopanda malire zolumikizirana ndi munthu amene wakukhumudwitsani. Koma si mmene mungathetsere chibwenzi. Nthawi zambiri tikamachita izi si chifukwa choti timafuna kuyeretsa, koma chifukwa timataya njira yocheza ndi munthu ameneyo ndipo tikufuna kufanana ndi zomwe tinali nazo kale, Rinzler alemba Chikondi Chimapweteka.

Mukakhala ndi chikhumbo cholankhulana ndi wakale wanu, imani kaye ndikuyang'ana chifukwa chomwe mukufuna kuti mufikire, amalangiza. Kodi ndi chifukwa chakuti muli ndi chinachake chatanthauzo chimene mukufuna kunena, kapena n’cholinga choti mupumule kwakanthaŵi?

Ngati zolinga zanu sizikumveka bwino kapena sizili bwino (ndipo khalani owona mtima nokha pano!), Rinzler akukulimbikitsani kuti muyese izi: Pumirani mozama. Ikani foni yanu pansi. Ikani dzanja lanu pamtima panu ndipo gwirizaninso ndi thupi lanu. Kusinkhasinkha ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi njira zabwino zochitira izi. Chofunikira ndikudziletsa kuti musachite chidwi ndi chidwi choti mufike pakapita nthawi. (Onaninso: Njira za 5 Zothana ndi Kutha Kwa 'Akhungu')

4. Siyani Kupweteka Kwanu

"Mmodzi mwa anthu anzeru kwambiri omwe ndikumudziwa, Sakyong Mipham Rinpoche, adaperekapo chithunzithunzi cha momwe tingachotsere zowawa zomwe takumana nazo," Rinzler akugawana m'buku lake. "'Chikondi chophatikizidwa ndi danga chimatchedwa kuti kusiya.'"

Ngati mukufuna kusiya ululu wanu, onjezerani chimodzi mwazinthuzi ndikuwona zomwe zikuchitika, atero Rinzler. "Anthu akakumana ndi zosweka mtima samaganiza kuti athana nazo, ndipo mwina sangakhale momwe amafunira chifukwa zingatenge nthawi yayitali kuti zinthu izi zichiritsidwe. Koma timasintha pakapita nthawi. zikusintha mosalekeza komanso zamadzimadzi kwambiri kuposa momwe tingaganizire. Mitima yathu imakhala yolimba kuti igwirizane ndi zowawa za moyo ndipo tonse timachira mwanjira ina. Ndikuganiza kuti ndiwo uthenga waukulu wa bukhuli: Kuti zivute zitani, mudzachira.

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